When I was at S.Y.Bajaj I wanted to get admission in another college and this was not easy and I felt angry.
In the morning, the cat of my landlady had vomited on the floor, near the staircase I take to go to the bathroom.
Close friends talking badly of other friends.
I was making very strong statements about infidelity in couples. Then I discovered that one of my best friends, who had just been through a very sad case of mutual infidelity, was listening.
It was Saturday, my duties were over for a few hours and I could at last be with the people I wanted to see.
I fell off a bike in the presence of a lot of people.
In 1960, I was going to a school which was near my village and I met a lion on the way, which disappeared suddenly.
I am a school teacher. One of the classes does not obey me at all, keeps on talking, does no work. One afternoon, everything went wrong, and I got exceedingly angry.
I feel sadness when I only imagine that I could lose a close person. Some time ago I lost a man whom aI greatly respected.
My friend got married and went abroad, this made me feel sad and lonely.
Seeing for the first time pictures about the so called "treatment" of Jewish people in Nazi-Germany during World War II.
I feel disgusted with the bootlickers, with helpless people.
When I learned that my parents were going abroad and leaving me alone for a few years.
One day I had sunned my favourite shirt and was putting it back in the wardrobe when my younger brother snatched it from me and wore it. He had not had a bath and was very dirty. I scolded him but he answered back and locked himself up in a room. I was very angry so I starteed kicking on the door and abusing him loudly and freely.
When I came back from work one day, the friends of my son told me that he had not come back from school and that he was lost.
I entered the hostel this year. My mother was ill and could not move and needed people to look after her. Every week I left home to go back to school, I felt guilty.
I was angry when somebody stole my half petticoat.
As I could not be home before midnight I called home at 11.30 and asked them to leave the door open so that I could get in. I actually woke up the whole family by calling them so late. My mother could not go back to sleep, besides she had a conference  the next day and really needed to sleep.
This was when I found out that a cousin of mine had taken away my trousers without my consent.
I forgot about a close relatives's birthday.
I realized that a fellow member had grown spiritually. I was the leader of a spiritual group and had prayed for him. He did not want to burn the incense but his mother forced him to do it. Finally his mother told him that he could discontinue if he got good results at school.
My girlfriend and I slept in a lonely hut (we had drunk alcool). Suddenly some soil fell on us, then some water. Although we tried hard, we could not find out the cause.
When I asked my classmate to teach me to do my homework, he asked me to study by myself first but I did not do it. When he asked me if I had studied, I felt very ashamed.
Once late at night (around midnight) a person asked me to give him a lift. He suddenly tried to attack me but I could escape. After this he followed me for a little while.
I had a dream in which I was an African elephant.
I walked in on a teenage patient of mine (I work in a hospital) as he was going through my office drawers and he had removed money from my purse.
When I forgot the lines of the play during an orientation camp.
When I was in Eindhoven on an Exhibition of Hernan Nitsche, who made paintings with real blood. There were also photographs about the killing of cows.
Two years back someone invited me to be the tutor of her grand-daughter. The grand-daughter asked me some questions in mathematics so I taught her. However she did not listen to me and this made me feel unhappy. The second year it was the same. When I entered university the girl's parents suggested that I be employed as their daghters tutor. They told me that at university there was no homework and I would have a lot of time so they made a time-table for me which required me to be the tutor five days a week. They did not respect me and anyway I had another child to teach.
Seeing maltreated, dead animals.
When someone took my writing materials yet I was to write Examinations in a few minutes.
When the Americans set their nucleaar missiles in Europe.
I was on a concert-tour and therefor seperated from my boy-friend. But I needed warmth which was given by a male member of the orchestra. My feelings towards him were not very deep, but his feelings were. I felt guilty when he said "I am not a radiator".
Heard about someone telling lies about me to my best friend.
Seeing a pornographic film when looking for a place to live.
Hear my name on the list attending the English lectures.
I really became sad when mother passed away while I was very young.
When a friend of mine told me that he was going to commit suicide.
Having failed to help with the 5th of March arrangements (Women's Day), although I had previously promised to take part in the work.
When my husband suddenly came to see me at my new job and brought some flowers and cake with him.
Upon reading a story on a serial killer by the name of Henry Lee Lucas who has been given the distinction of killing more people that any other man. I began to wonder if I should take more care for my safety.
One of these people who sell meat in town used a knife to stab his friend and later carried on using the same knife to cut meat.
A "higher status" colleague of mine despised my attitude and organization of work.
I had a girlfriend in the same class I was. I did not do well in my Exams, but she did satisfactorily well and was taken into another class leaving me behind.
I felt shame when I had to talk with a person that I hadn't seen for many years. Shame that he wouldn't recognize me or that I wouldn't know what to say.
When some housemen told me a young girl like you should not be allowed to lecture to consultants, I was too shy to argue against them.
I had fixed a meeting with my classmates and I missed it as I was tired. Besides everyone at the meeting was a stranger to me and I did not want to make friends with them. Whatever the reasons - I felt guilty.
My girlfriend was away visiting another city and I brought another girl home. Next morning when I started getting sober I felt quite ashamed of myself.
When I dropped a bottle in the state liquor store and everyboby started laughing.
I went to the cinema with my friends, without telling my mother about it as I had been to the cinema the day before also. When she asked me where I had been, I lied.
When I got accepted to CAL.
A child beaten up by his mother.
When a friend of mine was trying to make a fool out of me.
When my pet dog,who was to us a family member, died. He had been vomitting for the past three days and we had not found the time to call a vet, finally when the vet came it was already too late.
Walking alone in the dark in a strange street.
When they phoned me from Great-Britain to tell me that I could go there, if I wished, in Summer.
It was the time I went home for my holidays only to find that my sister had passed away. The news had been hidden from me, so that I could take my exams.
When a "friend" woke me up in the middle of a blessful sleep by knocking on the door. Then he started calling me names and saying that he had heard that I had been talking behind his back, this was a lie and the guy was drunk to the core.
When I dream of anything terrifying I used to have fear for the rest of the day that the dream might come true e.g., being beaten (or eaten ?) by a snake.
Someone told me I was chosen for the English lectures because I am good looking.
Borrowing a car, and then having a minor accident (breaking a headlight).
I was looking after a child and she fell down because I was not paying her much attention. One side of her face got bruised.
A man spat on the wall of a house.
One day I was the leader of the weekly meeting of the Church fellowship. That day I had been preparing for the exams and did not estimate the time to travel to the church right and I was twenty minutes late. As I had not prepared well I led the meeting badly. I was ashamed of myself.
When I made the same mistake that I had accused someone else of, and this was obvious to a third pereson.
I played chess with my 12-year-old brother. I made a stupid mistake - and he won!
When the dean of UNZA asked me to vacate a big flat I was occupying and take up a smaller one as I was becoming a full time student at UNZA.
It was when I was selected to go to a Secondary school to start form I.
I had to leave Den Helder and all friends and acquaintences, after having spend two weeks there with my friends.
When my father was saved from a severe work accident.
A person I know who tells lies and so pretending to be better than she is.
I spent all weekend with a friend instead of studying for my exams.
When I succeded in establishing a contact with a girl (who is now my girlfriend).
My got my mathematics test's marks and could not believe that it was true. In the past I would have at least 80% marks. Was I getting weaker at studies ? This made me feel that I should not expect too much from going to the university.
A condition in which I was disgusted followed when I lost money on my way home from the college.
I promised my friends that I would take care of something, but I kept forgetting about it. When they asked me about it, I promised to do it immediately. However, I got started only after a couple of months. I felt that I had betrayed my friends.
After my father's death.
I found out that someone that I knew had someone else taking tests for her.
When I left all my friends at school (break up) knowing we would probably all go our separate ways, and none see one another for a long time.
Failed in a piblic argument.
I made a joke about the rat of a boy. I compared his rat with a sausage. I told the boy he had a delicious sausage.
In the underground's escalator, a youngish bum asked me for money. Although I did not give him anything, the fellow told me that I was really good-looking. A man who was in front of me also turned to look at me.
At boarding school someone put a lot of tiny thorns on my bed. When I complained everybody began teasing me and laughing at my inability to find out my enemies. I lost my temper.
I had an argument with my mother because I criticized the rules she imposes at home, which are too rigid and arbitrary for me.
When I learnt that I had been accepted at the medical school.
In ward 2A there was a patient suffering from Syphilitic Paraplegia and had pressure sores. The wounds had offensive smell that only a few people .... the place.
One saturday night I did some meaningless work and went to bed very late. Next morning I had was very sleepy so I continued sleeping even though I had work to do and I missed the Sunday service.
When I pass an exam.
Before the declaration of the S.S.C results.
Anatomy lesson and told we have to do it at night sometimes.
When I had beaten my auntie.
While tramping on a narrow path two of us were confronted by a woman with two snarling dogs, demanding we get off the property - via a flooded river !
Before Christmas I got to know a girl but our relationshop could not consolidate before the holiday. Therefore it was a big surprise to get a carefully hand-made present from her. - Our relationship grew closer.
When I was in Bombay one of my good friends was getting married and he had not informed me about it, this made me sad.
When I went home by train from Sicilia, I was molested by a man.
My mother was ill and asked me to prpare our lunch. I went to do it, and while I was working, she stayed behind me telling what I had, or not to do. I asked her to stop meddling, and to go to bed. When I went to ask for help to my sister, my mother said that I was proud, that I asked for help only when I wanted and that I wasn't able to cook by myself.
Saw my class leader acting like a God when he chose people to go to your English lectures.
When I had a Latin examination in school.
At the railway station, while waiting for the last train at night I noticed that a drunk young man was appraching me in a purposeful mannner.
Someone told me a story of Amnesty International: a boy was killed and his head was put in the litter of his girlfriend. It looked as if she was pregnant, then she died. It is disgusting, I can hardly write it down.
Being rude to somebody who was impolite to me.
I felt very sad when I was in Form three to notice that my friend Barley Jumbe, had lost very expensive new sports short trousers.
When I was 8 years old my tonsils had to be operated on. This is not a complicated operation, but just before it started I was very afraid so that I will never forget it.
I found a human "treasure" that I desired and got immediately. I didn't think about anything. When I touched him I imploded but I am whole.
A person I trusted a lot gave me many false explanations to justify a wrong action.
Saw a classmate knocked down by a motorcycle.
Walking home at night after university - part of the way, there are ano lights and I am walking down a thoroughfare with the thouth of no one hearing me if I have to scream.
I was walking with another person when a "gang" separted us and pushed me in to a house, hit me in the stomach and the face, then they left - leaving me bleeding.
A sunny Autumn day, after a long rainy period.
When my father told me that I should help my mother more often, because she was so busy. And I realized that he was right.
While travelling in a bus, there were three people sitting behind me (two men and a woman). They were drunk and the conversation was unbelievable (about fucking, fellatio, etc...). They tried to get others to take part in the conversation. I loathed it and felt like crying.
When I discovered that the people I trusted most were talking behind my back.
When they gave away my dog to other people without my knowledge.
Before the certificate examination I was very poor in Biology (the worst result in my class). Ever since F.5 it had been getting poorer and poorer. I had tried my best and had spent most of my time studying this subject. Finally my results were so bad that I thought that it was just not fair.
When I realized that I loved someone of the opposite sex.
I received a grade above average on a midterm (chemistry) and I expected onevery below average.
When I passed my MSCE Exams and was selected to go to college.
The man who threw me out of the flat disgusted me.
Insulted by teacher.
The saddest I've ever been was when my lover was killed, hitch-hiking to work.
I was driving and a deer suddenly appeared in front of the car when there was a lot of traffic behind me.
When I went to a sauna with my father for the first time (I was 16). When I entered the sauna naked, I felt ashamed for a short time.
My older brother who gives me unwanted advices about problems in my relationship with my girlfriend.
I feel guilty when when I realize that I consider material things more important than caring for my relatives. I feel very self-centered.
When I got to know the details if the famine in East Africa.
I read in the newspaper about a 21 yr. old woman who was found naked and dead along a roadside. It turned out she had had two relatives 14 and 19 who were kidnapped, raped and killed earlier.
I met a friend I had not seen for a long time on the street.
Remembering (at the time I did not feel guilt) in recent yrs. how angry I would get when I was babysitting my new brother and he would not stop crying. I did not do anything harmful or shocking. But I feel guilty for treating him the way I did especially since I adore him now. That's why I spoil him now.
One night, while I was sleeping, I woke up suddenly with the sensation that there was someone in my room.
When my mother left for Kenya.
When I entered the dissecting room for the first time. I think I felt disgusted mainly because of the bad smell of formaline.
When I heard that I had passed the second year exams.
Some boys boasting about their ability to tell dirty jokes.
I feel disgusted at not having got aa "A" in yesterday's practicals of G220.
Recently I happened to remain alone for a long time.
I tried after months to begin talking to my boyfriend again. He ignored me. I felt I had lowered my pride and became his "doormat".
I just opened the bathroom without knocking not knowing that someone was bathing inside, it happened to be my father.
When I come home late at night.
My mother called me because she had read through the enveloppe a letter addressed to me. She denied having read it intentionally and said "the words just popped out through the enveloppe as the sun was shining on it". Hah Hah.
Exchange of points of view with my sister on a family matter.
I got to know about the death of a close friend.
When my brother went out with my new shirt that I adored, and returned it dirty with grease.
I went to a fair where a guy who was drunk kept bothering me and in the end I got really angry.
When I shoplifted a pair of earrings from Coles and my Mum caught me with them in my bag.
When I met my girlfriend - I had not counted on that.
When I woke up one morning and went to the kitchen I discovered that our dog had diarrhoea. There were small "piles" all over the floor and the smell was choking.
One day when I was a little boy, my friends asked me to play with them outside and to catch some boys. However our parents did not know that we were out and when I got home it was very late and I feared being scolded by my parents.
Coming to this lecture and listen to you talking about feelings, I am so happy that foreigners have the same feelings as Chinese.
Accidentally dropped a friends camera flash, so that it was broken.
When I realized that my closest friend had said bad things about me when I was not around and had betrayed me by making friends with my boyfriend's other girl.
When I beat up a first year student at my secondary school in my capacity as the deputy head boy. He had woken up late in the morning for manual work.
During a discussion I reacted very aggressively and so I made it impossible to continue discussing.
When dropping a carton of boiling soup onto a co-worker's leg - causing great pain, and for me, severe embarassment at my own ineptitude, and shame that another person suffered as a result.
A patient, to whom I had given a powerful medicine, shouted at me in front of many people. I realized that he did so because he was very ill.
I was in the house at night and I heard a hyena crying outside. It cried for almost an hour and I feared it might break the window and enter inside the house.
When programmes on violence or pornography are shown on T.V.
Talking to a very good friend who had just had a very bad experience which was changing his whole way of looking at life etc.
I told someone that I still had a relationship with a boy although it was finished already 3 months before. That person seriously discussed several things relating that issue. Then I felt very miserable because I had told lies.
My cousin asked me to be a bridesmaid for her. This made really happy because I was adopted into the family and her asking me made me realise that she saw me as a cousin and not just another person. There were other cousins she could have asked but she asked me.
When I received a letter telling me that my mother was very ill.
After a courtship of three months I made an end to it. The boy was very sad about this.
Since I moved into the dorms and I've been spending most of my free time with my boyfriend. I hardly see my old high school friends. I had several bad incidents with my 2 past best friends.
I can't remember ever feeling shame.
When I needed another job and tought that a good and known person (my employer) could help me. He simply said that he couldn't help me.
When I overslept for the second time on the day I had an examination.
When a friend of mine got drunk and started to blame and scorn my other friends and me.
When I was ditched by my girlfriend.
When a very close friend with whom I have a very intimate and bodily relationship (he had a girlfriend) started to avoid me and didn't want to talk to me any more.
China winning the Asian Olympic games (TV).
Watching an alcoholic woman who was approaching everyone at the wharf for cigarettes - a prostitute in Auckland (elderly).
Discussion with my mother about the way to educate my children. I felt anger against my mother.
When my sister had the opportunity to do some modelling work. And I was quite jealous - later on the photographer decided not to take her photograph, and she was very upset - I felt guilty as a result, almost as if I had caused her to lose her opportunity, by not being genuinely happy for her in the first place.
The man I am going around with gave me a very special present.
When I had drunk too much and nearly got an alcohol poisoning.
Scoring a goal in football match.
When I was left alone at home one night by my brother.
When I found out my roommate had been talking behind my back about very personal things.
At the age of 12 (or so) I stole from a Ranger's fruit tree an apple. (And eventually was compelled to confess - Dostoersky would like this).
One day my mother forced me to eat more and I refused, the next day she served me more rice and mutton pieces than usual. When I saw this I got very angry and scolded her, and refused to eat. Later I felt guilty and asked her to excuse me.
When I got the feeling that I had to do all the housekeeping while my boyfriend didn't do anything. This happened in a period of exams when I had to study very hard.
I was really hoping that I would pass the examination, but I failed and so I felt very sad.
A friend of mine had said something about not liking to come to my place just before coming to my place.  In the meanwhile I got to learn about this from another friend of mine and when she arrived at my place I really treated her badly. I was later ashamed of the way I had treated someone when the person was at my place.
I was at home alone, and heard noises on the roof, and doorknobs, and drawers.
I lied to my mother in the sixth form she said she would ring to find out and I had to tell her I had lied.
Being insulted on a bus.
I wrote a letter to my boyfriend but he couldn't answer it in time so as a defence mechanism I just found that I felt so sad about it and couldn't talk to anyone.
Being threatened by another person.
My sweetheart left me, or rather we decided to break it off by mutual consent. The consequences were - unrestrained weeping, feelings of loneliness, hopelessness and disconsolation. I felt that I should find a friend, to talk to joyfully and to forget.
People not cueing in the college dining room.
I reproached my mother's cooking and criticised her personality, and she felt hurt and depressed.
When I had an argument with a friend.
Looking for the toilet in a dark place.
Having moved into a flat within the last week I felt some disgust that a bathroom tap had been left to drip with a faulty fawcet.
When a boy I hated most in our classroom took my T Jersey from my desk and put it on.
Calling lecturers nicknames when talking to housemen (They told ne you are even younger than they are so you should not be giving public lectures).
Being aggressive against members of my family.
When my boyfriend sat up half the night playing computer games with a friend.
I was in love with a girl but had to separate from her because of different commitments concerning life and career. I loved her as a person but could not agree with the life the future would demand. Parting from her was very sad.
The fact that I hadn't been informed about something and I had the greatest trust in this person.
My boy-friend came home late one night without having told me about it before.
Anger at doctors for their treatment of me after giving birth. They left part of placenta behind and I bled heavily for twelve weeks - due to this, I felt weak and emotional, and they said I needed psychiatric treatment and give me no support.
Someone I do not like kept talking to me.
Fear overwhelmed me when right against the car I was in I saw another one, as if out of control of the driver.
When my team lost a championship.
I was supposed to be studying for my math midterm a few days ago, however, I fooled around with my roommate, and didn't start studying until 12:00 am. I was disgusted with myself.
I had a girlfriend who lived several kilometers away from my home. One day she wrote me that she'd visit me. On her way she had a car accident and was badly injured. I was very sorry to see her lying in a bed in the hospital.
When mum had beaten my young sister just because she had received a letter from a boyfriend.
The repression of rioting and non-rioting "Blacks" in South Africa by the police of that "Democracy".
It was a week before the higher level results were announced. I had tried and failed many times and this was the last time that I was taking the exam. I knew that if i failed again I woulld have to enter the society. I imagined things during this period - I dreamt that I had entered university and it was a nice experience. When I thought about the future, an unexplainable fear rose in me. I feared being a worker and not having a bright prospect, I also feared the criticism of my relatives as my brother had gone to university. Whenevr I thought of this issue I could not eat or concentrate, and my heart beat increased.
During a demonstration I climbed up the closed central door of a bus. When the bus stopped I had to go back to the same place, afraid that the police would see me.
After having slept for a short time I woke up - I had the feeling of someone standing beside me and was very frightened. I had to turn on the light turn on the light for several minutes before I was able to get to sleep again.
When I lied to my girlfriend, telling her that I had passed an exam, when I actually did not even take it.
For my parents anniversary, we hosted a party and we were very happy.
Being chosen to do this experiment.
When I came home late one day. I was afraid I would be shouted at by my parents.
Helping in the nursery school.
I felt disgust of my father when I knew he had a lover.
Saw a blue film in a cinema.
When a lady I was flirting with told all my class-mates that she was in second year while I was in first year, everyone laughed and started looking at me.
When my mother's heart nearly stopped.
At my father's treatment of my mother, at his disregard for her, and not being committed to her.
When inadvertantly I found myself in the ladies room.
A sister broke a cup and when mother asked I was reported to have been responsible.
I liked to see off my aunt (from Zaire) to the airport. That appeared to be impossible because I had to go to school. For long time I wasn't sure if I could accompany her. Two days before the departure they told me I was allowed to miss school.
When I went for a picnic in Lonavala, I felt full of joy.
I forgot to convey an important announcement.
When I quarrelled with my boyfriend.
To have a friend who I didn't see for months, and under the circumstances that I met him made me feel happy, and perhaps because it has been one of the good things that I learned with this friend.
A friend whom I had gone out of my way to do something for did not bother to acknowledge my efforts, and treated me badly thereafter.
I was sitting for an exam in biochemistry, I was very excited because it was a supplementary examination. I passed the exam very well and was glad because I recovered my selfconfidence.
I felt guilty because of the pain I caused to a very close friend. But over the feeling of guilt, my conviction of being right dominated.
Before an important examn.
When I learnt that a friend of mine had talked about me to another friend and had said wrong things about my abilities and attitudes. I was very angry.
Small car accident. Black ice on the road - cars in front of us started zig-zagging and so did we. Car in front did a 180¦ turn we followed and ended up in a gully.
When a person I did not know hurt a friend of mine.
My fear appeared in the form of jealousy. I was afraid that my girl-friend had fallen in love with another man, I was afraid to lose her.
Stopped at lights in Mangere late one Friday night on way home from work. Alone in car when someone came up behind the car and started banging and shaking it. Light was red and had nowhere to go until light changed. When green I took off.
I had a driver licence but I didn't drive for a long time, than I started to drive again, and had to get into hard transit and highways.
One evening I went out with some friends of mine, although I was supposed to stay at home with my little sister who is 11.
Being with a close friend, in the city, who was involved at the present point in time in outrageous activity.
I encouraged my brother to play football and he was hurt while playing the game.
A scene in a film in which one man repressed another one. By concidence, their position was reversed. The other man was repressed in an identical way as he did before.
During my high school time I succeeded to play a concert of Mozart on the piano when I gave my first performance I succeeded to play it very well.
I saw a terrible accident in which the driver of a motor was thrown through the frontwindow of a car. His face was completely away.
I had been living in an overseas city and made the decision to leave the city and come home about 12 months before I met a whole new set of friends, leaving them at the airport was sad and traumatic as they had helped me in many ways and I knew I wouldn't see many of them again.
An item which belonged to a friend of mine was missing. I had taken it earlier and I thought that I had returnrd it so when he asked me for it I stubbornly refused having it. Later when I looked for it, I found it in my room.
I remember when I was in Standard 6, I failed one of the terminal tests and I told my parents that I had passed but after they found out from the class teacher that I had failed, I was proved a liar.
Once when I was studying for my examination, I was asked to do some work which was unavoidable.
When my little sister was sick at home and I thought that she would die.
I used to pinch change from my father's mantlepiece (never my mother - she didn't get enough housekeeping) and then I'd feel when we went to church as a family I'd felt awkward cos I felt I'm expected to go to communion and I would but I was afraid and guilty 'cos I committed a mortal sin.
Last night I did not do very well in one of the subjects. Before the result was announced I feared that I would fail. Finally I got a D and as the results of the other subjects were not all   good I felt a little sad.
When a close friend of mine who was with me in first year could not make it to the second year.
When I try to get closer at a person and she misinterpreted me.
When I thought that my high school love and I had a mutual emotion.
There is a mad boy in our village. This boy hit me with a raw paw-paw in the face.
When one of my friends started misbehaving.
When my dad passed away.
When I got a letter from home.
When I learnt that my brother-in-law had been poisoned by his friends and that he was dead.
The patient whom I expected to get well suddenly passed away after he showed had his meals.
Losing my temper with my spouse.
My life-partner is going through a crisis (way of life, old-fashioned values) and can only get out of it by talking bold decisions. I have noticed his cowardice and attempts to escape his problems by drinking. I detest his drinking and his being full of self-pity.
Saw Chinese people flattering foreigners.
First public speaking.
I was disgusted to discover that my girlfriend of few weeks was already fooling around with another guy. I was disappointed as the guy was a rogue and I respected my girlfriend.
I felt something close to that when I saw that there was a man on the terrace of the flat.
I was ashamed when a certain friend of mine I used to move with failed to propose to a lady yet we always said to ourselves no lady can refuse our proposal.
Seeing a person panhandling money on Telegraph.
When I don't say the truth, when I don't do a certain thing thanks to my laziness.
Did not pick up a water mellon skin, someone slipped on it.
Was confronted with a person having negative thoughts of other people because of their social status, beliefs, color and outlook on life (perspective).
When I don't justify the confidence of people that I respect.
I was with my colleagues and we met an elderly man who was very drunk, as he approached us he started to undress.
I felt disgust about all my friends. After having done a great effort to organize an evening together, and didn't work out, they put the blame on me. After this, I feel disgust towards those that blame me.
My joy knew no bounds when I was selected for a job even before having finished my studies.
I had always been first in my class and in the preliminary board exams I scored the highest marks. Then the exams were postponed and I neglected my studies as I was confident. However when the final results came out I felt ashamed as I had scored less than 60% marks and my rank in the class was fifth or sixth.
My grandfather was seriously ill, he had only a few days left to live. I had always loved him, but never told him. When I saw him for the last time, I had the feeling that I had omitted so many things I could not do again. - There was a fly sitting on his forehead and he was too weak to drive it away. I was very sad when I saw that.
Realizing that school will soon be over, and we will all go different ways, perhaps never meeting again our friends from this year.
When I, for the first time, failed a junior exam, i.e form 3.
When a friend of mine died in a hiking accident. I was not present there and only got the news later.
Yesterday, I was just about to cross the road when a country guy who was ahead of me spat out a mouthful of betel juice on the road. It was very windy and had I not checked my speed I would have had a very good shower of his saliva. Though I was not angry, I felt that these people were very indecent.
During 7th grade our class mobbed a famale teacher so badly that she had a breackdown and was hospitalized.
When I was dreaming that I was being chased, in the upmost of horror the door of the closed felt down synchronicaly with the dream scare.
When I was told that I had passed the exams.
When I didn't pass the examinations for FUVEST I felt myself guilty for I should have studied. I had the opportunities, and I drew them out.
I had shown anger toward my dog and he was killed later that day.
My uncle died - I felt sad at the funeral.
Not doing well in the examn.
I most joyous moment was the day I got my marks. I was very happy when I came to know about my marks at the M.Sc (part I) examination where I got 71.5%. This was the highest marks I have ever scored in my life.
When I did bad on a chamistry midterm which I could have done well.
My mother had fallen down from a ladder when she had been gathering cherries. Her back was hurt. Just when I arrived, I saw people of the life-saving service giving her medical care.
In the holiday cottage of our association, two of my pals came to wake me up early one morning by bringing a radio played at the highest volume into my room - it was the morning service at its loudest.
When I stayed on a nudism beach, a man was watching me in a disagreeable way. I had the feeling that he was examining my body.
When I got home I found that the electrical supply had been disconnected despite my having paid ZESCO the full bill a few days earlier.
I felt shame when I was asked by my cousin that I promised to buy her a birthday present but I didn't buy it for her in front of friends.
We had gone to our native village and I went to visit a tribal group which believes in Goddess Kali. As it was a festival day they had to offer a hen to the Goddess so they cut the head off a hen right in front of my eyes. I felt disgusted and evenb gave up eating meat after this incident.
When I triffled with other people.
I went singing with a group of young people on January 6th (The three Magi), a local custom called "star singing". One of the girls, my girlfriend, broke the star. Being the accompanying person, I felt very angry thinking of the consequences.
I get angry with people who attain certain status without deserving it, only with the support, authority and influence of other people.
I once caught a letter in my girlfriend's handbag from a certain man. I felt anger.
China not winning more gold medals in the Asian Olympics.
When I was substituted in a play which was to be staged, after I had learnt all the lines.
I was waiting behind a car which was going to leave the parking place, because I wanted to park my car there. Because of uncoming traffic I had to wait for a short time - another driver placed his car on the place.
When, for example, I left for the first time my parents and I went to live in Sofia.
China cannot buy your reference.
When I failed the twelveth standard exams I was ashamed at having to see my parents later.
Once I went home totally drunk and roused all our neighbours from sleep.
The shame came when I was beaten by my teacher at school in front of boys and girls some of whom were my friends and a girlfriend apart from being classmates.
I felt disgust when I saw a drunkard vomiting very offensive matter.
I was rock-climbing and absailing & felt OK, but suddenly as I was going over the cliff I was hit by fear - I couldn't go on absailing down the cliff and had to be actually hauled back up it.
I went to bed with a girl and the next day she thought it was the start of something serious and I just thought it was fun and I told her I wasn't interested in starting a serious relationship.
At a friend's birthday party with some of my closest friends. It was all very pleasant and one could say that I was happy to have such good friends.
Make a mistake, offended my friend.
The disgust I feel towards a certain person.
Disgust at myself when I stroked a sleeping girl's private parts.
I was very angry at someone.
I took a girl out once and discovered that she was going around with one of my close friends.
On the cliff by the sea, the silence and the sudden voice of a bird.(swans of the bay)
I was coming home from a relative's place and it was about 9.30/10 P.M. I felt slightly apprehensive when I got off the bus and started walking towards my place. I was confident that nothing would happen to me, yet there was this slight feeling of fear.
A day I was with my boyfriend and a couple of friends in a bar, and he said something that I didn't like (I don't remember what). Without thinking I slept him in his back, getting ashamed and sorry just after.
Suddenly met someone in the biology building at night.
I lived together with my boyfriend. One night he stayed away and next day he told me that he had chat up with another girl.
I told my parents (or more realistically) would not do what they wanted me to do anymore. I guess I sort of betrayed them after all they had done for me.
The joy came when I first proposed a girl at Secondary School.
It was when I discovered that my boyfriend had another girl. I discovered it through a letter he wrote to the girl when he was away. When I asked him he accepted it.
When they told me that my grandfather was rather ill.
I dreamt of my father's death while I was at secondary school. I was screaming at the top of my voice and was woken up by my friend. That day I was really sad.
On a holiday in France I made a walk in the woods all alone and very relaxed. Then a motorbike took me over and I saw the man watching all the time. Suddenly the man stood behing me and I ran away fast.
I felt guilty when once I made my mother angry.
We went to visit my mother at the residence. She was crying and said that she was about to die. I believed all her complaints and continously thought of the possibility of loosing her.
Waiting for my girlfriend to come from her apt. to mine. She was very late and I thought something awful had happened.
After my car accident, when I woke up in a heap of stones.
It was when my father caught me with a girl in dark corners and asked me what I was doing there.
I was ashamed when my friend and I were cross with each other till we apologized to each other.
A teacher spent a lot of time helping me without wanting to be paid for it. For the exam I didn't got a good grade and I felt ashamed.
I felt extreme joy the day I was baptized. I was one with God.
I arrived in Vienna in the middle of the night. I asked for some silly information - as I realized myself afterwards - and the inquiry clerk reacted in a very arrogant manner.
When I don't go to my parents on Sunday and phone them to tell them that I have to study. The truth is that I listened to sports on the radio.
My best friend suddenly acting strange towards me.
A friend came to visit me late one night. He promised to stay only a quarter of an hour, but he stayed 5 hours !! He didn't leave and I was very angry.
When I dated a close girlfriend's boyfriend a few times. He told me that it was over between them and I accepted it. When she found out she finished our friendship.
I forgot to lock the outside door at my Land Lady's place.
To loose friends because of them over-estimating themselves.
At school a classmate who was a very good pupil had to help another boy who performed less well. He told him on purpose the wrong things so that he had to repeat a year.
When I was finally qualified for my profession.
It was at the time of my M.Sc exam, when I was not in a position to take the exam after having studied seriously.
As I was in a ward one man died and I was instructed to watch the last offices. But this was my first time to see a dead person - fear came.
When I was at an official meeting I asked a question to a person. His response was not directed at me but at the chairman.
When I learned that my former boyfriend had become engaged - although I was glad that he had found what he wanted, I was very sad at my own personal loss, since I had always hoped we might one day reconcile.
A great friend of mine travelled with the intention to change his life. He didn't succeed and returned depressed. I had not power to support his frustration and his behavioral change.
I passed an exam which I thought I had failed.
A fellow player, quite unexpectedly, scores a goal, which means a draw.
A borrowed car broke down while I was using it. It was not my fault, nevertheless I felt guilty.
Negative statement concerning me of a friend before strangers.
When I opened my TE Score envelope, and saw I got into Physiotherapy.
When I was on holiday, walking back to where I was staying, at night, and two men started closely following me. There was nobody around that I could run to.
Deception from a person I loved very much.
My friend had been telling me about a certain bird which when it cries at night it's the sign that someone will die. So one night I was alone in the house and I heard the cry of the bird and I was afraid.
Taking part in the mobbing of some girls in my class in primary school.
I had to leave an important function early because of family commitments. Someone else had to complete my job.
When I saw my brother being attacked and I could not do anything.
When I hadn't studied for an exam, so I pretended to be sick so I wouldn't have to go to school. I lied to my mother - she realized I had been lying when she got home from work and found that I had been over to a friend's place.
An Engineer I know wants war so he can get a job making bombs.
I had an interview for entry into college. The results were to be announced on radio. After a long period of waiting the results were released. I had succeded - tension was relieved by joy.
Not brave enough to take up a challenge in a group discussion.
When my grandmother passed away.
At a lack of love of my father for my mum, sadness for him more than anyone else because he does not realise how much love and happiness there could be between them, and is, and how much he is damaging himself apart from mum.
My friend who was in the Bago was kicked out of the sorority.
I broke my knee when I was skiing over "Yastrebetz" (a racing track in a Bulgarian winter resort).
I quarrelled with my younger sister because I had said something against her boyfriend. Consequently she looked through me when she saw me as she thought that I was trying to separate them. She had misunderstood me.
The day I received the key of my apartment and we could enter in it, for my fiancT and I had bought it yet in plans, and it seemed to us that this was almost impossible to happen.
As a child, one evening I had read a novel about ghosts and I had thus spent a sleepless night as I kept feeling that there were ghosts dancing around me.
When I heard about the disaster in Bophal (India).
My mother unjustly became very angry with me and sent me to my room while my father explained that the way she saw things was not correct. I had done things with the best intentions.
The first time that I "played with myself" despite being a Christian. I had read in the bible that it was wrong to make love to someone one is not married to.
When somebody behaves like a scoundrel. Recently a colleague of mine used the name of another one for his own benefit.
I once felt shame when I failed to fulfil the promise to marry a daughter of a certain gentleman.
A case of unrequited love.
When I went to meet the family of my boyfriend in a party in his house. His mother was eager to know me and all his friends ready to make jokes about the situation.
Not collecting homeworks in time to give the teacher.
Getting very low marks in mathematics.
The weather is very bad (fog and slipperiness) the newcast reports many traffic accidents and my boyfriend is driving home and still has 60 kilometers to go.
When my boyfriend came back after being away for 10 days.
When I learnt that I had been betrayed by my friend.
When I am accused of something I have not done, I get unbelievably angry.
I heard friends grumbling at me in an adjoining room, although they had behaved in a friendly way when I was present.
I was dominated by a certain person and even though I knew it I could not change my own reactions.
I felt it when I felt that I was being observed as an object of pleasure (sexual) when I opened and took off a shirt in a classroom at P.V.C.
After the funeral of an acquaintance I felt very depressed. That feeling turned into joy when I heard that I had achieved a good grade for an examination.
When somebody broke into our home one night when my mother was out, and my sister and I had just gone to bed.
When being made look a fool by the teacher in front of the class during a turn.
When my father passed away of cancer, I was extremely saddened. He was not very old, which made matters worse. The actual death was horrendous, but the moving funeral saddened me more so.
When I was walking along a road alone on my way to go shopping.
I have a new born child.
When I was talking to HIM at a party for the first time in a long while and a friend came and interrupted us and HE left.
A friend once reacted childishly (he is 23 yearrs old) to my not responding in his favour to a request, that is: he asked me for some money I refused, and his reaction was quite childish.
When I didn't succeed to enter at the University, I felt that the college entrance course sistem prejudiced me, that my integrity, and effort weren't corresponded.
At the underground station, a drunkard came to speak to me. He tried to ask me something but I did not answer so he began to speak about me with his companion. I detested this dirty growling man.
It was winter/spring and the ice was melting. I was far out on a jetty and I poked the ice with a long branch to try and break it. The branch went through the ice and I fell in, the water closed in over my head.
This was when my boyfriend told me that I was double-crossing him with a certain boy.
When I saw a person I had not seen for a long time.
A certain girl asked me what my major was and when I told her that it was P.A she started criticizing it saying, "I hate that course." She just shows off in front of other people.
At a success of mine, at a real achievement.
Alone in the house (late 8pm) I heard noises. Sounded like someone was trying to get in our back door.
Insulted by a woman in public.
I became disgusted with the man on whom I had counted, who I had trusted, the man who should have been my mainstay - my father. I could hardly make myself (and the others) believe in this emotion. It has cumulated after events and deeds. Everything can happen in this world.
Hearing my girlfriend accept my offer of marriage.
I got into a tight pair of trousers and examined myself in the mirror. My back looked unpresentable and I felt ashamed at my wanting to wear those clothes that day. I quickly changed into another dress.
In Biarritz (the South of France) I met some English students who, especially for me, went to Paris and gave me food, while I didn't have any more money.
The comrade staying next doors insulted me for what he called the misuse of his iron. He called me stupid, self centered etc. I wanted to punch him but instead went for a walk to the mining school to cool off.
A few days back a friend of mine poked me in the ribs for fun's sake, though I had warned him an infinite number of times that it really hurts me, he did it again. I usually ignore this but this time I flared up for a split second and threatened to bash him up. This is the latest incident when I lost my temper, though I felt very bad about it later.
There was a conflict of interest between me and a close friend of mine. He only thought about his own interest and not about our friendship. This behaviour hurt his friends. Another incident is when a friend isolated himself without giving any reasons.
When a teacher though pretending to be a highly cultivated teacher and a man, slapped a classmate of mine in the face quite undeservedly.
Motorcycle accident with two people involved, running off the road. Broke an arm, only.
In arguments with a close friend or relative where my point of view is completely disregarded.
When I came to know that my father and his parents were : self interested, dirty, negative, egoist, bad peolpe,......
When my brother was born, everything went all right. It had been very likely that he would have a deficiency (my sister suffers from Down's Syndrome) and that my mother would be in danger.
When I heard that one of my good friends, when at a party, had got herself involved with some very undesirable characters and was experimenting with drugs.
I had to decline an appointment which had been very important for the other person. For this reason we even got into trouble.
My brother told me that a person (whom I know) had insulted him. I am very fond of my brother, and as he himself can not get angry or hurt, my protectiveness was aroused and I got angry.
When I was appointed to position of trust in a group set up to change the working environment.
A close friend of the family died.
The feeling of joy when again I had confessed my sin and experienced God's forgiving grace and cleansing power - total enlightenment and freedome - bliss.
Heard someone boasting his fortune telling and I knew he was lying.
When I felt that my love was returned.
A very good friend of mine had been away for three months. When we met again, we ran up to each other and embraced.
When I was in my village one of my enemies had written a non-sense letter to a girl and he told the father of this girl that I was the culprit. When I got to know this I was scared as the girl's father was a worse man.
This feeling of guilt really applies to moral/religious views. I (being Catholic) went against what I was brought up to believe in and had a sexual relationship with my boyfriend. Many months later, when I was doing some deeper self analysis I began to feel guilty and realized that I had gone against what I wanted for myself and my future.
I missed the last tram home and had to walk in the pouring rain.
My parents thought that I didn't do my best to pass the final examination (secondary school). When I achieved a good grade they said nothing, but if I had had a bad grade they would have become very angry.
Recently I saw a young girl fawning on a man. And what for - money and things. I was ashamed to be a woman.
When I first sat for an entrance examination.
A few months a close relative of mine died. I had never expected this to happen and was sad for a few months.
When someone makes advances that one does not want.
Selling my used car.
My mother was always fastidious about my room, bed time, etc. She treated us strictly and punished us physically.  These things were intolerable.
I was sad at the expulsion of some of my comrades during the UNZA demonstrations.
After an oral examination I shook the professor's hand, but he had only stretched it out for my ball-point-pen.
A very close friend of mine invited me to spend the holidays with him. He was very kind, good and understanding. However it turned out that he had two of his cousins at his place. He, however gave me everything I needed - even transport money.
When my father asked me if I was a communist, at the same time he made it clear that I should no longer see myself as his daughter.
When my room-mate locked me out deliberately, before an exam due at 1400 hours.
It is some years ago when my mother found me stealing relish in the pot. It was fresh fish which was very appetising.
I had never made a malicious joke in front of my boyfriend. Last week I did it I was funny, he loved it, and I died of shame.
When I felt powerless to help the poor or when I don't know how to.
Enrolling at varsity, being told I couldn't get in to certain papers.
When a soppy poem that I had written to a boy was found and every one read it and started teasing me about it.
When my friend promised that she would come to my place, and did not turn up - I was annoyed at her.
When a colleague was rude with me because she didn't understand the subject about which I was discussing.
When I entered the wound intensive care at the Central Hospital in Blantyre which was stinking.
When as an 8 year old, I wet myself in school.
I was happy when at difficult times I could find support in my friend and my fiancT, I was happy because of their spiritual and moral help which gave me new power to struggle. I was happy then, I felt it in my soul.
When two hyenas made crying noise on the window of my bedroom at home when I was preparing for my MCE examination during the night.
When some friends betrayed my friendship.
I tried to talk to my parents over the phone, as I wanted to go home for the week-end and I knew that I would not be able to bear it. I tried to reduce the gulf and the conflict between us by talking in order to unite our worlds. Result : hysterical mess, blinding and blaming.
There was a lot of irritation between me and a person who lives in the same house where I live. Suddenly it became too much for me and I accused him of several things.
I was double crossing my fiancee and one day she caught me red handed. She forgave me later. I was very ashamed of what I had done.
Someone (a boy) paid special attention to me.
When I stayed alone in a house in Great Brittain and there was a lot of rumour in the newspaper about a murderer still being free.
When I saw a program on Ethiopia on T.V, a fews hours earlier I had thrown away some clothes and food.
When I qualified for form I.
I lied to my best friend and I wouldn't reform what I had done.
I had failed some subjects in mathematics.
When I was very young and we moved as a family to Auckland from Wellington, this meant new school and friends (etc.).
While watching a movie, someone who was drunk started vomiting helplessly.
When I heard that my sister had shouted at my friend's cousin at their place.
When I whatched a horror film on a Friday 13th.
I had this experience of fear when few people were fighting at a social one night, which one of my relative was involved. My fear was greatly for him because he was being assaulted badly.
Day before yesterday my mother bought me a new pair of shoes, without my having asked for them. She told me that when she saw the pair of shoes she felt like buying them for me. I really liked the shoes and they made me feel that my mother cares for me.
One day I was really angry when all my food was eaten by a dog. My anger was against my mother because she was careless. She didn't keep the food in a hidden and proper place.
Once my presentation was the worst among my classmates as I had not prepared it well and had not seen it as important. My presentation was so confused that it clearly showed my poor preparation.
When my grandfather was sick, and died I felt more sad, though, when he was sick.
When India lost the Benson and Hedges cricket trophy.
When walking along the beach with my boyfriend, we saw 2 people having sex on the sand dunes in full view of everyone. It was the fact that they chose that area in which to have sex, that disgusted me.
One of my flatmates and I came back to the flat Monday morning, to find a real Mess, left by the guy we share with.
After seeing an "uncertain" child work on a model for several hours, I watched a "bully" of the same age destroy it, telling the child that it was worthless.
When I blamed my niece for misplacing my book, she denied having touched or seen it but I carried on insisting that it was her.
When I and the person mentioned above had a suspicion of pregnancy.
Someone told me we are not as good as the All English Class.
I didn't tell my parents that I was going to Sofia. I told them that I was going to a seminar. My mother knew that I was lying but she didn't stop me.
I felt disgust when I saw a dead animal on the roadway.
I allowed my little brother to clean the bathroom in his own way. My mother came and saw the floor overflowed with water, slapped my brother in the face and told him to go to bed immediately.
In the evening, while I was watching TV, my little brother came in and started eating food he had brought from the kitchen while I was trying to concentrate on the program.
When a friend of mine was beaten for what was my fault.
That if ever I was really naughty I would be sent away from my Mum and Dad to another family. I was fostered from age 5 and didn't get to Mum and Dad until I was 6 and then legally adopted at 14.
When I heard that a good friend, who had been abroad for a long time, would come and see me.
When I was left by the person I loved without any reason.
My mother always took my side. That brought about quarrels with my father. I knew she didn't like that and I felt very sorry for that.
Introducing myself at a first tutorial this year at University.
When I failed a test at my primary school. I was then in grade 7 and we were about to take the main exam.
When my first niece was born.
I'm afraid of driving on the special seat of a mororcycle, mainly with certain colleagues who by exces of self-confidence drive beyond limits or measure in the traffic and the main victim is always the person who sits behind the driver.
A car came very close to hitting me whilst I was crossing the street.
While playing a ball game, I made a mistake and we lost the game.
When a close relative is treated badly.
I spent a lovely relaxing evening with my boyfriend. We played games and talked all evening.
When I was taking an exam in grade 5. The examinator found me with a note-book and accused me of copying, All the students laughed at me.
I tried to swindle a jeweller because my watch was broken and I wanted to have it repaired it was a pity but they detected it.
During an argument between friends, one of them accused me of taking advantage of some other friends who usually come to the university in my car, saying that I ask them too much money for the petrol.
When I realised that I was forgiven by the God who is there, when I realised how much God loves me and that my acceptance with him is not based on my performance - that he loves me unconditionally and showed that love in Christ who died because I do need forgiveness.
Getting a terrible exam mark, which I couldn't understand the reason for, and trying to see a lecturer or tutor, but being given the runaround.
When I feel I must be with somebody, to talk with somebody - but I am alone.
I am ashamed of the way my father behaves with my mother and sister, and with me too.
A sour looking man was beating his thin dog in Remuera.
I slipped and fell in to a puddle and people started looking at me.
I was alone at home, a man forced the front door which was locked, forced and tried to open a window.
I did not do well in one of the subjects last term.  I was afraid that I would fail. My result was a grade D, though it was not good I still passed. I felt more comfortable then.
I accused my husband of being late deliberately when he came to pick me up from work.
I'm crazy about football. When my team lost a goal in the Paulist championship, and so it lost the classifications.
Once, when I was ten, I could not remember why my mother was so angry. She fainted suddenly and I was very scared as I did not know what to do .
Unrealisation of the desired profession (aviator).
When someone lies to me.
Recently a good friend only called me when he needed something. He never said "please" or "thank you" or any other kind word.
When I went to the clinic for a medical check-up and saw the way the lecturer was conducting the lecture and the kind of responses he got from the patients.
I was in a cafe with another person when, suddenly, several close friends of my partner appeared. I did not know what to do and my partner felt uncomfortable.
In a very important basket-ball match where a lot was at stake, I played very badly.
When I could not pass my exams with good marks. My wedding was to take place 15 days after the exams and I tried to convince myself that this was the reason for my not having done well.  However, I thought that had I really put my mind to doing well at the exams I would have done well.
I felt very lonely, was very dissatisfied with myself when I realised that I could feel very jealous of other women because of my boyfriend.
I didn't get the job I wanted.
I was ashamed when I was being introduced to the church congregation.
One day I took my playmates to the river to swim and play. One of them was epileptic so he drowned into the water. I felt guilty because it was me who took them there.
When I passed the driving test three weeks ago and got my licence.
General Ye Jianying died.
I feel anger when things don't come out as I wish.
As a little girl, I was sick in the middle of a school day and I vomitted in the basin of the classroom.
Last course, when I passed with good marks three subjects which I had previously failed.
One of my good friends had to migrate to America. Our friendship had developed quite well and it was a pity as our friendship would fade.
The discovery that one has only thought of oneself.
When my uncle and my neighbour came home under police escort.
When I went to a halloween party and had to walk through a shopping center dressed like a witch.
I was very fat and felt absolutely unwell. I was afraid of leaving the house and getting to know new people.
In May somebody blamed me that I made him to be caught while peeping during the Nursing Test which made me feel disgusted.
I had an accident with a trafic police car that was packed at a curve without any visibility and against all traffic regulations in a strong snowstorm. As a result I still cannot repair my car because of the missing spare parts.
When I saw a wino by some cans with Food Stamps and use the change to buy wine.
When my boy-friend left me and I wanted to persuade him to stay.
Somebody told her friend that she would hit me wherever we would meet.
When our government decided to withdraw student allowances as it was one of the conditions imposed by the IMF.
I was disgusted by my paranoid attitude towards myself, my homework at university and disgusted about my lack of retention. Especially in learning another language.
I felt joy when I red my name in the list of the approved in the entrance college examination.
I was raped by a friend.
I felt ashamed when I had not attended a class and the teacher asked me the reason for my absence.
When I think about the short time that we live and relate it to the periods of my life when I think that I did not use this short time.
Receiving notification that I had made a successful application to the Speech Therapy course at Uni, gave me a very good feelig of achievment and joy.
When there is danger nearby.
During lectures, I sensed an unexpressed understanding with a boy I did not know. We exchange glances ; I think he likes me, and I like him too. Perhaps he has fallen in love with me .........
Discovering that Lillehammer provided no musical environment that suits my taste, even though I had been told so.
When somebody who had been a bully and had acted cruelly to others who were unable to defend themselves was taken down a few notches and he began to grovel. I was disgusted with his grovelling and the manner in which he had treated others.
When I was victimized for running away with a girl who was somebody else's wife and niece at the same time. I was very angry over this issue because I was told to pay him money after having been punished for it.
The emotion came to me when a certain girl who was not polite to her mother hit her sister severely.
My husband had gone to drive a strange, broken car. At the agreed time, he had not returned, and I feared that he had had an accident.
Lately I've felt guilty because I'm folling behind in my classes and not studying much.
I was alone in my room at the boarding house when at 12 o'clock someone knocked violently on the door.
This is difficult, since I don't remember feeling disgust towards anyone.
Every year during carnival I am very joyful I have an intense feeling of happiness then.
I was very happy when I received the year end results as I was worried about how well I had done. I was very happy to know that I had passed.
I felt joy when I heard over the radio that I had been successful in my Primary School Leaving Certificate Examination and was selected for Secondary School.
There was a sofa in my flat which belonged to the old tenants who were acquaintances. It should have been picked up a year ago but they had postponed it. Eventually they decided on one date and I stayed at home despite the fact that I had other things to do. They did not come, nor did they call and they still have not got in touch with me.
I was awakened by a dream in the middle of the night. I dreamt that a stranger was in my house.
Not getting the class paper in time for the lecture.
When an alcoholic stood dribbling over a food counter.
The same as for SHAME and DISGUST. I was asked to resign my sorority which I did because I was ashamed.
After learning on the news about this man who killed more than 300 women and habitually copulated into their inert bodies.
My roommate refused to walk with me to the English lectures. I have to walk alone in the dark. Lectures are in the biology building.
When I walk through streets late at night. This is because I and my friends were attacked one night without any reason for it.
I was alone at home on New Year's Eve.
I had been rude to my mother at a time when she needed comforting, not anger (death of my sister).
The fridge we had at home had a lock. One day when I wanted something, I unscrewed the door but unfortunately I was caught in the act.
A friend suggested in a round-about way that the reason we were late for something was because of me, and that I'm often late. I know this was partly true, but felt it unjustified that particular time and I felt I couldn't do anything about it anyway (i.e. being late).
A close relative was at odds with a very powerful firm. All his things had been taken, His dad had died a little before this event. He gathhered his children and vowed to give them a good life with a new start - the words were hollow, he bit back his tears .....I asked to be excused and then went and cried in the loo.
A man asked me: "May I sleep in your stairway?" and I answered "No".
I was driving along and saw this young guy urinating into the gutter, in broad daylight.
One day I addressed my husband in an abusive manner in front of his friends. Later on I realized this myself and felt ashamed of myself.
When I had to walk home in the dark for the first time.
When a dog is left whining outside a shop.
Not doing something I had promised.
Getting a phone call from a very old friend.
One day, at an important place I met a group of girls and while we were waiting for a bus these girls started smoking and commanded me to smoke; I felt very disgusted.
When a thief broke into my house and stole some valuable goods.
Scoared a goal in a football match.
When I failed the grade 7.
At the pre-university, I was appreciated as an examplary student by our pricipal. This is something which made me feel very happy.
The way this particular girl spoke, behaved, and reacted the first time I was introduced to her, I felt certain that something between us would materialize.
After having at last finished my master's thesis, I felt great joy and relief. I had been haunted by the thesis during the whole of my studies.
Once I arrived two hours late to my work place (a bank) and I was still feeling feeble and tired.
Making a sexual pass at my cousin with whom I have a very close personal relationship.
I went to visit a friend in hospital. He was going to be operated the next day. I was afraid that they would not let me in and I did not know what his reaction would be on seeing me.
When I dreamt that my family was in trouble and was facing many difficulties.
When I was back home after a long time, meeting beloved people and close friends.
I did not do the homework that the teacher had asked us to do. I was scolded immediately.
When I and the boy next door set fire to a house by accident.
After my final examination at school I was glad that the examination was over and that I had passed it.
I felt happy when my mother borrowed me the car in order to let me go out alone for the first time.
A and I were walking along the new Asia stairway to the Chung Chi college for our lecture and I saw him with her. He put one arm around her shoulder and laugher brightly and joyfully. I did not dare and did not want to look, just walked by them quickly. The interest of talking to A disappeared and I just wanted to remain silent. But I did not want A to know and so I left him and went to F. I should have expected this to happen.
A situation where I ignored my beliefs and principles for a trip of whimsy.
It happens to me quite often. I can't describe a particular case.
A man kept a seat taken by putting his coat on it after a while the chair was still empty, I asked him if I could use the chair, he didn't agree for the chair was for his coat.
I have a two-month old baby. When I came here, to the university, to attend lectures, I had to leave the baby with his father. I felt guilty.
When I promised a male friend of mine to visit him, and did not.
One day in a clinic, the father of a child came in and assaulted a colleague for something that she had not done deliberately.
I was physically assaulted and sexually abused about a year ago. Just the feeling that I might not get away intact, or even alive, produced fear.
When I was attacked by a teenage boy and had my wallet stolen.
A friend was unpunctual, we wanted to prepare ourselves for an examination.
I needed a recommendation for something. I decided that the best person to get one from was a professor who I had never talked to before. I felt a lot of fear going up after class to ask him to recommend me considering he had never heard my name before. But I did.
I tried to date a girl, but she refused.
Our neighbour came and gossiped, about others, with my parents.
In a social situation I became interested in a woman. We talked, we laughed, we enjoyed each other. She desappeared for a few minutes, and a little after appeared with an other man.
I felt sad when I heard that my girlfriend was double-crossing me with the boy who is my best friend.
When I fell head on in a fountain.
I bought a possible answer to a homework problem which was completely inapplicable to the question due to my not having read about the subject matter.
We were on the road in a car when a lorry bypassed us. We had to swerve and we almost got run over.
Did not get up early enough to watch my class football team playing against another team.
I was not able to explain well to my good friend to make him less angry.
Did not do what I promised to do for a friend.
When I met my boyfriend and we discovered that we shared the same ideals and goals in life, and that we could share all our feelings and thoughts and felt that the world's not so bad when you have someone really close to share your life with.
When I heard about the death of somebody I liked very much and I was not present either to see the person or to try to share my emotions with other friends.
When I became angry at my boyfriend without any reason. I know he cannot bear me being angry at him and that he can't study anymore then.
My mother revealed personal details about me and the negative aspects of my character to other people when I was present but unable to defend myself.
As a child (i.e. 5-7) hiking in reasonably rugged bush and becoming lost for a duration of 5-7 hours.
During the summer I received grade cards from my TA's. I expected a B no better in Computer Science. I looked at the card - I got an A - I was ecstatic.
While doing some calculation exercises, I neglected a part of it, though I had marked it as done. By chance, I was asked to demonstrate this very part on the blackboard.
Normally my father never tells vulgar jokes, we do not speak about sexual things, too. But once he told such a vulgar joke, that I was really disgusted. He did not tell me, but some of his friends, but I was present.
When my father's home was to be broken into by thieves who had guns.
It so happened that while staying at anaunt's place I discovered that I was afraid of sleeping in pitch darkness. The room which my sister and I were sharing had no light, and I would refuse to sleep without having the light of the adjoining bathroom switched on.
After failing a second attempt at Med 4, following a number of difficult personal circumstances.
In the traffic I insulted a man who crossed my way. Afterwards I paired with him, and felt shame because of mine lack of pacience and ridiculous attitude.
When I got a record as a gift from a friend.
When five of my friends at the secondary school found out the bad things that I had been saying about them.
I was given a gift by my sister. There were many pleasant things in this parcel.
I felt guilty when I had refused to lend money to my friend who needed it immediately.
I feel sadness from the fact that I was not born with a better appearance.
When we could not land our plane and we knew that the fuel was running out. Bad weather had already frightened us.
On our way to France, my girlfriend and I went to Verona. By chance we met an Italian couple - they gave us two tickets for the dress-rehearsal of "Aida". It was a different world for us full of fascination. After the representation we ate a phantastic pizza in a restaurant near the "Arena".
When I was accused of neglecting work for the wrong reasons.
Passing my driver's examination (after two failures).
Once I had an argument with my friends and I knew that I was right. My friends went on arguing with me even though they did not know the right thing.
I am a teacher in arts and crafts (boys from 15-16 years). for them it is obligatory and they dislike it. They tease me. When one of them cut up some material I flared up.
I had to meet a girlfriend to go out for a drink and she arrived with her aunt, to whom I was introduced. Then the aunt left.
When I walked out of my room with only my pants on and found my girlfriend and her female friend looking for me outside.
Going home alone through the forest after a girl guide (scout ?) meeting.
I borrowed a gold bracelet without the girl's knowledge. I had it for so long I had to keep it. To this day I feel ashamed at myself for having it. I never wear the thing anymore.
I dated another boy several times, when I was still "going with" my former boyfriend. This made me feel a little bit guilty towards my friend.
Being in a Malaysian city with my girlfriend coming out of a picture theatre - seeing her rush up to a taxi that a very old sick man was trying to get to. Seeing her take over the taxi.
Few days ago I really experienced fear. It was connected with unexpected actions on the part of a group of people. This evoked in me many negative emotions.
I met my girlfriend on the way and she joyfully welcomed me on the way home.
Staying alone in the dark.
When I visited a creche. The conditions weren't too precarious but the children were in conditions of physical and emotional penury.
When my brother was held up and robbed.
During the week-end at home, my mother fries greasy and unhealthy meat dishes which make me feel sick.
Falling in love with a close friend.
I reached the bus stop and realized that I had forgotten my bus pass.
When I was convinced that someonne had broken into my flat and I woke up and heard sounds that frightened me.
While studying chemistry with a friend we became angry with eachother because we were both fed up.
After training for an Australian championship competition for a year and then injuring myself 2 weeks before the competiotion.
My current work load is too much. The feeling comes back from time to time.
When I had to go to reconciliation before converting to Catholicism but then once received - o.k.
When I was 20 years old, I fell severely ill and was bed-ridden for 6 months. I felt very scared for my health and my studies.
When I crashed my car.
I told a lie about someone to someone else and they found out  and questioned me about it.
When I was presumed to have stolen maize from the school garden.
When I was 4-5 years old my mother gave me some parts of a chocolate bar and ordered me to bring it to my father working outside. On my way I could not resist the temptation and ate it myself.
I went for a walk with a very close friend; we were talking about our problems, I told her lies.
The death of a close relative.
I fell over head and ears in love with someone who appeared to be in love with me. it made me so happy that I could hardly sleep and eat for one week.
I received a letter from a distant friend.
When I shouted at my mother when she was nervous and depressed.
When I am made to do things in which I see no sense and I waste my time. Some time ago I had to participate in a sociological investigation and then I got really angry.
I met my present boyfriend on a boat trip to England. We had said that we would call each other when we got back to Sweden (we were not going to the same town in England). As soon as I walked in he called from England as he could not wait till he came home.
When I had to go to the gynecologist and to sit on that special chair, I felt ashamed.
New year's eve 1983/1984, I met my girlfriend. We stood on the steps outside her parents home and I kissed her for the first time.
On a trip abroad, a lady-like member of our group turned out to be an alcoholic. She spoilt many days of my holidays because of her behaviour and paranoia.
I had to pay a fine because of speeding.
When I became aware that an acquaintance had stolen from friends.
I insulted a couple of good friends of mine and even tried to hit them when I was drunk. The next day, I was ashamed of course.
I worked for seven months in a factory, and made friends with a fellow worker. Later, I visited my former fellow workers and was told that, while in the army, my friend had shot himself.
When my father was ill.
Teacher suspected me stealing money.
I confronted with this feeling at the Institute quite recently, the pedology lecturer was the cause.
I can't give one description here. I often feel joyful when I have done things good in relation to other people especially when my friend says he loves me and I also tell him that I love him.
Standing in a crowed shop or in a closed room with too much people in it. This gives me a fearful experience.
At an office an application that I had made was turned down because of a scrupulous interpretation of the rules.
When I did not defend my close friend when my father degraded him. I felt guilty for allowing my father to get away with his actions and for the hurt my friend felt. I cleared the matter up with my father a few weeks later.
I was told by a good friend that we couldn't be friends any more because of his relationship with another girl.
Little contact with my father before he died.
Describing to mother how a hole in the wall had appeared while I was babysitting.
When I went to my first dental appointment.
I was angry this morning when I missed the train to university.
I am disgusted with the behavior of a car driver whose car would run over me and my friends during our autumn brigade.
When I was reproved eighth grade of high school.
A few days back I had to ask a professor a ridiculous question because I had lost at a game of cards and had to pay a forfeit.
I wanted to see a friend, I had been looking forward to it and had certain expectations, but he did not pay any attention to me, played cards with other people.
I have a friend that I deeply trusted but it happened that I lost my confidence in her for which she herself was to blame.
Once, when I was very young, my mother left me alone in the house and came back very late.
I was very sad when I heard that my Auntie had passed away.
When I was informed that I had been accepted as a student of Psychology.
The government's announcement of the withdrawal of the student allowances in 1984.
A friend started to shout at me. He called me an old frump.
I felt guilt to have come back from home without seeing my father. When I went home he was at work.
When I got through the first day here at the department.
I met a certain lady at Mchesi and I proposed a word of love to her and at the same time she accepted my proposal.
After going through a glass door, I sustained a number of serious cuts which were gaping open.
When I couldn't find my dog which was missing.
I felt guilty when I mislead a person into thinking he was a close friend when that person was more of a casual acquaintance.
Somebody took my wristwatch and promised to have it mended and later was telling me that he couldn't give it back to me because I was rude at a certain time.
I had fear when I was left alone at the bus depot at night. I had problems of how to move to this place.
I was going to my village, after having been rather oppressed in Madrid.
I felt guilty when I was given a prize which belonged to someone else.
My lovely girlfriend double-crossed me and so that I found her chatting with another guy.
When my boyfriend went away for a month long holiday without me.
When a close friend did not write.
When thieves broke into our neighbour's house and later we heard gunshots.
I was driving and stopped at a stop light. I was planning to make a right turn as soon as it was clear. It was clear on the left so I started but a man was just in front of the car.
Having to go back home form the U.S. after having been there for ten weeks to visit my brother and his family.
At school, I detested the spinach gruel which had lumps of flour in it.
During the Physics experiment session I did not understand the content of the experiment and did not know how to do it.
Finding out that the university will give first priority to qualified practioners and clinical years to go to your English lectures.
When something unpleasant happens to a friend or relative of yours and you are at the bottom of it.
When a relative, who had come to our place, created untidyness and dirtyness.
It was when my father was taken into detention by the CIDS for two years for a reason I don't know up to now.
When reading a newspaper story of a man who had committed incestuous acts on his two-year old child - the thought that anyone could do such a thing is abhorrent to me.
Feeling unable to preserve one's ideas and ambitions as innocent as they are when you are young.
When I first saw the state of a cafeteria in the grounds of the university. Due to students own lack of concern for the environment in which they eat and drink. Rubbish and spilled tea and coffee left everywhere.
Four weeks ago I felt very much touched to find an asciatic patient who had asked the very morning to be tapped of the fluid, dying in the evening. I was really disgusted because this was the Medical staff's negligence. Had the Clinical officers done something that very morning he might have been alive today.
When I realized that my girlfriend, whom I like, and I were going to separate.
Saw my brother-in-law insulting my sister.
When my grandfather died, I saw my grandmother crying against my aunt's shoulder (I had never seen my grandmother cry before).
I shot the decisive goal in an ice-hockey match.
Fear of doing well on a midterm.
It was shocking news to me when I received a telegram from home telling me that my grandmother had passed away. I had to go home to attend the funeral but unfortunately I found that the burial had already taken place.
In an express bus I sat on a seat meant for senior citizens and invalids.
The funeral of a friend who was killed in a car accident. She was of my own age, there were many of my own friends present, as well as her family etc.
When my cat ran under a car and came home wounded. He could hardly walk. I didn't dare to go to a veterinarian because I was afraid he would kill him.
In neglecting some work that had to be done around the house and telling my roommate I would get it done.
After a meeting ended we started talking about when we would have the next discussion ( I had many tests the coming week and could not have a meeting in between, I thought that they would understand this as they had always done). They did not understand my problem and thought that I should not have so many other activities. Their reaction made me burst into tears.
When cleaning up a pile of junk under our house, a huge spider (a "Jungle Spider") ran out near me. (I do not like even small spiders).
I felt disgust when I received visitors at an odd hour. I was seriously preparing for Examinations, so I did not appreciate their coming.
When my beloved grandfather died.
When I did not inform my friends of my forthcoming birthday.
When, for example, I was in my eleventh school year and I learned I had been classed for the Bulgarian Language and Literature National Olympiad.
I feel disgust with some people when I see what they are capable of, including lack of any dignity, when trying to find a seat in the tram.
I bumped my dad's car in a lamp post. He was not at home then, neither was he home when I left for the campus. I did not tell him about the accident and I will never tell him.
When I was on holiday with my former boyfriend, he hit me and behaved in a very evil and ugly manner in front of the hotel personnel.
Talking with someone I admire a lot.
Being refused to attend the neuropsychology lecture in the medical university.
I got separated form my closest friend. He went to work abroad.
My best friend had a relatively severe illness. I was sad because she was suffering.
I had to take care of a neighbour's child. I did not look after it all the time and the child fell down and was hurt. I felt guilty.
Equivocal situation when filling a security questionnaire on entering a government building with several people there.
On my birthday when several good friends came to visit me.
This is one feeling I never betray, but I must confess that the last time I slighty felt happy was when I passed my M.A with a high rank. This was a few years ago when my friend told me about the result.
I've always defended my sister when needed, at the expense of my brother. This has led to feelings of guilt towards him.
Being close to drowning.
I usually come back home early but this day I came home back late to find some visitors at my place.
When I quarrelled with a very close friend of mine.
On boat trip - saw mother giving young child (aprox 6-7 years) cigarettes.
When my half brother became seriously ill with cancer and died later.
I came across a friend with whom I had lost touch for a long time.
In March I was busy studying during the night I could only sleep two or three hours only for fear that I would be weeded and sent back.
My father had once again told me that I should be careful and try to seek admission to other places also apart from the faculty of Social Sciences at the university of Helsinki. I was not at all interested in any other place and had no time to study for other entrance exams.
Friends who torture animals.
I watched the news at the TV, it was a commentary about "Hainburg". I felt disgusted when I heard members of the union speak about the situation.
It was the time when everybody spoke about and discussed Hainburg. I was also asked for my opinion. I was ashamed because I had no firm view of the whole thing and therefor was not able to join the conversation.
I felt joyful when my boyfriend met me at the station, while at first he had said that he would not do that.
When I said good-bye to my girlfriend. I had spent two years on developing this relationship and it was unsuccessful, I felt very sad.
China can not even give you good sound systems for an open lecture.
When I tried to put up a tent some years ago, I was teased and hindered by my cousin.
When my aunt went out of her way to help me out with my financial problems.
For example, when I have promised something but I haven't fulfilled it.
When I had slept with a boy for the first time I felt ashamed for three reasons. First, because I was only 13 years old, second, because I did not really like him, third, because he had caught me napping.
When I had an argument with my best friend and I thought that I was right and she was not.
At work when I did not get the full co-operation of my colleagues to complete an assignment.
One of my friends went and told another friend of mine that I was going abut with another guy in Lilongwe besides the one I had. She said I was seen with him hand in hand.
When I was fighting with my elder brother I unintentionally hurt  him in the eye with a wooden bar. I felt guilty and feared that he would be blind, fortunately he recovered after 15 days.
Being subject to unfair treatment in a working group, someone "bending the rules" was protected by the boss. This resulted in more work for the others.
I won the country ski championship.
Fear to come and live in Nijmegen.
Passed the last exam.
Last year I was asked to look after my niece while her mother was cooking. Unfortunately the kid fell off the bed, I was confident that she would not fall and had not been paying much attention.
My sister said I am not a stable person, and I think she is right.
Death in the close family.
I unfairly got a low mark on an exam and I failed to win a grant, since then I don't have much confidence in myself at an exam.
When I had lied, saying that I never take bread from the dinning hall and a friend of mine caught me doing it. He thus proved to me that I did in fact take the bread.
I saved up money for a good purpose. As I also have to organise a party I am afraid there will rest only a little money for the good purpose I feel guilty about this.
I was angry at the Cafeteria when the cook scolded and said many bad things about me without reason. He thought I was among the girls who did him wrong.
Some students deliberately disobey me as a class leader.
Mr C took my drawing pens, without having asked for my permission first, and lost them. He did not tell me about it till I asked him and then did not try to find them.
Fights that I see in the middle of the street, robberies, fear of darkness when going home.
That was soon after the results of the interview which nearly 9,000 people attended in all the three regions of Malawi. My joy came after hearing on the radio that I was one of the people selected to undergo the Medical Assistant training at the L.S.H.S.
That evening when I opened the songbook while I was singing the song "Those were the days" that guilt feeling became stronger. The lyrics described well - I was really wrong. The wish that I had made was really bad. If she were with me I would really be happy and we would play happily together like the days in secondary school and she would not be disappointed and gloomy because of me.
I was joyful when I received a present (2 books and a pencil) from the headmaster in standard 6 because I had passed, I became No 1 and he said I was one of the pupils who had good behaviour.
When the contract about my shop was signed.
When my new jeans split while I was with the youth group.
Insulted by somebody.
When I came again in contact with a girl I liked very much. And most important she also liked me.
I hit my little sisiter on the head with a stone while we were fighting.
In certain occasion I have a fight with my boyfriend. During the fight I closed the door at his face. He went away but came back next day.
I thought that I was going to fail a subject and so I began to study for the final exam, then my friend told me that I had passed it. That meant that I could go home, as I do not study in my hometown.
My brother came to see me and found me with a boy friend. When my boyfriend greeted him, he did not answer and instead started shouting at me and scolding me in the prescence of my boyfriend.
When I proposed love to a girl and she turned me down.
When I found out that I had failed to pass my exams during the term by one point. The fact that exactly the same thing had happened last term did not help.
A certain Area Party Secretary came home in the morning and said we had to leave our home and build somewhere and the reason being that they wanted to establish a market. The Chairman knew nothing about it and was very angry.
I had spent the weekend visiting relatives and friends and didn't study for Anatomy class on Monday.
When I shot a bird in the head with a shotgun.
I was most disgusted when I had to make a nagging three day journey recently from Calcutta to Bombay. It was very boring and tiring.
When my son has a pain in his leg (for no apparent reason).
I was caught stealing food at my aunt's place. I had tried to hide the food I had taken from the pantry while my aunt was in the kitchen, however she went to the pantry and discovered the stolen package.
Finding that a girlfriend of mine was a prostitute and had been seeing many others during our relationship.
In a discussion the leader wanted to stop because she was of the opinion that we were not involved and she misjudged our reactions as negative. We however only posed several questions which she couldn't answer.
I felt guilty when I couldn't help a person.
When I had left my home, my father, under false pretences, got me in his car and drove home where we were all alone. He was seethed with rage because I withrew from his authority. He hit me, kicked me and threatened me.
A colleague of mine asked a lecturer to put him a higher mark in order to keep his good mards and thus to continue getting a scholarship for an excellent grade.
When my friends died one after the other. The first died in a car accident and the second one recently, due to an illness.
When my girlfriend's nephew passed away.
When you told everyone in the last lecture you will do all lectures again in English and everybody can come (not only English classes)
When I unjustly accused a person of my family of something she didn't really do.
When I think about my family (parents, brothers, sisters) guilt is a part of my feelings.
Receiving a much wanted letter from a very good friend who lives abroad.
When I spoke ill of a fellow worker in the absence of this person.
When I am angry at someone without a good reason. Later on it proves that he didn't do anything wrong.
A rainy day, I was cycling downhill and a car door suddenly opened and while trying to avoid it the back wheels of my bike got caught in the tram tracks. I somersaulted but had no injuries.
My close friend and I applied to TISS for admission last year, unfortunately he failed to get admission. We had done our graduation together and are quite involved with each other, so we had wanted to do our Masters degree together. However, it did not work out as we had expected it to and this saddened me.
When I was selected to this university despite my having studyied in difficulty throughout my secondary school days.
I felt it when I saw a colleague of mine eating like a beast. At the same time he was making gestures, speaking and making the hell of a noise.
My mother accused me of not visiting her enough when she was in hospital for an eye operation.
When my roommate and I had dinner together we decided as to who would clean the bowls. One day when I came back from school I found that she had not cleaned up. Since I had to cook dinner I cleaned them myself and felt unhappy and disgusted.
When in a car accident where car was total wipe off (wipe out, or write off).
I saw a man who had had a heart-attack and who was being treated for it. I feared that my own father could have been there.
I told my pesent boyfriend that I was an Australian as are my parents. As the relationship developed I found it harder and harder to confess and became sure it would end our relationship. He eventually found out when told in front of me by my mother.
When I first passed a job interview.
I called off a relationship with one girl so I could see another.
The morning after a wild party.
I made a long-distance call to people rather close to me and I thought about the sad incident that had happened to them in the near past; I knew that they were thinking about it too when I made the call.
When my little brother passed away mysteriously, at least from what I was told about it.
The birth of my daughter.
When my brothers were being cruel to my boyfriend, because his flat-mate bent back one of my brother's fingers. It wasn't his fault.
Noticing my flat had maggotts !
A close relative of mine died in a serious car accident. I was one of the first two people to see the corpse and I had to do it. Before going in to see it I was afraid as it was the first time that I was seeing a corpse.
When I slipped on a glazed frost road and a car almost ran into me.
I had promised to lend something to my mother-in-law and I forgot it a couple of times. When she asked me about it the third time, I was ashamed at my absent-mindedness.
A girl I do not like kept coming to me and talking to me.
My parents were having a typical family argument. I came in and saw the scene and became angry.
I had decided to propose to the man I liked to make a trip together. One day, during breakfast I told him my idea. I was afraid of his not accepting it and that the idea would end up as a failure.
When I realized that it was impossible for me to be as free as I had imagined and that I could not do anythong about it.
When I was a child, I thought that I had to be ashamed when asking and doing certain forbidden things.
I preached to a F.3 students in a gospel camp. They thus knew more about God and made up their minds to believe in Jesus.
When I saw the list of books to read for an acccouting course, I thought " Oh God how will I ever manaage it!"
I experience a sense of guilt as my middle son cannot express himself like other children, neither verbally nor in writing.
At an unjust, or to be more precise, at a bureaucratic treatment of one's personality.
I felt shame when I didn't study enough for my exams and as a result I failed. I then invented idle stories to talk it good for myself and the others.
I had been in love with a certain young man who pretended to love me but one day I found out that he had another girlfriend who was also a friend of mine.
When the Cambridge results came out and I obtained a first division. I had been thinking that I had not done very well.
When my cousin put feaces in my washing. A silly idea which was meant to be a joke.
On holidays - just driving along a road beautiful scenery. Just with my boyfriend - not really talking but just feeling overwhelmed.
On New Year's Eve, when I went to the house of my girlfriend's parents to meet them.
Lying to my grandparents about visiting my boyfriend in Chico.
When they stole my dark blue tennis.
I allowed my then boyfriend to touch me, if only briefly.
The time I qualified to enter secondary school.
When my present boyfriend asked me initially to go out with him I had waited a long time for this to occur.
Finding out that China is backward in science.
When two of my children were critically ill with measles.
Attempted rape by 5 guys - held my arms behind my back and molested me, constantly threatening to beat me. Penetration did not occur as the driver of the car stopped that.
Assaulted by drunken neighbour.
When a close friend took leave of me, because she went to Israel for one year.
I found myself involved in a fight in which a person died and I had to intervene with some risk.
Last year I went to see friends in Yugoslavia - two girls with whom I get along very well.
I felt sad when I was told to walk out of the classroom because I was within the row of students who were making noise.
During a recent meeting, Mr. A showed his excitement and overindulged in the notes delivered. Though his curiosity could not be blamed, his way of accquiring knowledge was an extreme behaviour e.g he always tried to know what I was reading and gained everything he could.
I had not told my parents about my bad marks in school. One day, my father wanted to speak to the teachers. Fortunately I could influence my parents to take it easy.
The day I was told that I had been accepted as a student of economics.
When my sister was born.
A friend giving me an expensive Christmas gift while I gave her a cheap one.
A friend got angry and drove "like a lunatic" with me and others in his car. I was angry about his dangerous driving.
At my temporary job, I have to restrict others' actions and make them obey me, and this very often gives me a feeling of guilt. I wish there could be some other way of acting.
A drunken man forced me to kiss him.
Last year I passed the B.A exams in Psychology in which I stood first in my class. Thus I got the first prize from the college. I was most happy to tell all this to my parents and friends.
It was in a group situation: suddenly it was my turn to say something, 
but I felt that I was not able to express myself very well - I felt ashamed and blushed.
When I was charmed by my relatives.
When at school I thought that I was going to get the best results in mathematics, but it was someone else who got the prize.
I had been telling lies and people discovered instantly that I was telling lies. I felt very shameful and I felt like disappearing from people.
When I heard that I had passed my end of first year exams and I was ready to enter 2nd year because I felt I had failed as they were very hard.
Continous fear of a nuclear war.
When colliding with my car. I myself was to blame.
When I discovered that the house we had hired in Tonga was full of cockroaches.
When i was asked to be a child's godmother.
While trying to board a train I missed the footsteps and fell down on the platform.
This situation occurred when I entered into a smelling ward.
My boyfriend suffered form ill health for some months, this week the physician told him that he was restored to health.
When I was at school.
Being elected as class leader.
I was catched when, as a little girl, I played tricks. I was very startled then and wet my pants.
When I told my sister I had slept with my boyfriend, and she at first was mad at me I then felt shame for this act, but not guilt.
Cheating to get the best grade on a test in 7th grade.
Waking in morning (early morning) and having whole day to myself.
Once I was not able to give a relative, who was in a critical period, a helping hand. Whenever I think about it I feel guilty for letting down the person who trusted me to give him a helping hand.
A drunkard fell, started bleeding and wet himself. Disgust that turned into sadness-unpleasantness.
I was listening to a priest in church saying how sinful man was, and how all men should renounce their desires and pleasures to please God. I could never understand how something that brings you joy could be a sin.
Some time ago a man tried to teach me something. "Tried" because it is very difficult to teach somebody when you yourself are not competent and cultured.
When I saw the film "Memorie of Prison" I saw a scene of masturbation of a man in the hold of a ship apart form fact that the film wasn't pleasant I had a leg of coconut candies in my hands.
Several years ago I was caught riding the train without a ticket. The station-mistress treated me like a criminal almost.
I was on my way back from the Inter Rail, on board the ferry from Stockholm when my father called me at 7 o'clock to tell me that my uncle had died and that I would be seeing him off on his final journey within four days.
When I felt being treated unjustly by a teacher.
Last night I had a chat with a fellow student. I had known her for about half a year, and for the first time we were speaking "the same language"- meaning an inspiring discussion and encounter.
I can not think of any incident when I have felt very ashamed. There are small incidents that I am ashamed of, for instance, not sending money to the children in Ethiopia.
I felt it at the same time when I felt disgust.
I was spending a few days at my aunt's place. One night I got home very late, I had told them I was going to a party but I went to another place. They were very worried.
In school I had difficulties mith mathematics. When I had to work for an examination, I really felt disgusted.
When I was detained one day in school, by the vice-principal, for indiscipline.
Letting Jesus take control of my emotions i.e., ill feeling.
When I met a girl and asked her for a date and she agreed, (I thought this girl would never like me), this was an emotion of joy.
When I heard that my friend had started drinking beer.
When my older sister told us that she was thinking of joining the rest of the family for the winter sports holiday.
When I was admitted to the Higher Institute.
When the mother of a good friend of mine died.
It was in 1983 September when MCE results were being announced on the radio. When I heard my name that I had done well I just kept quiet. I was so happy that I couldn't even talk.
When I first failed my standard 8 exams for the first attempt for Form I selection.
I am a sportwoman as well. I felt joy when after an year of practice, at a contest, I covered the norms for "a master of sports".
When I argue with my sister. It feels sometimes that I have the upper hand and I use it. I often argue better and this makes her terribly angry.
I entrusted a friend with the delivery of some money to my father, however he misused the money.
I put on a lot of weight in a few months and every time I met someone I knew would avoid them, usually by hiding because my self image was low and I was ashamed of what I had done to myself.
When someone pointed out that I was proud, yet I didn't dress up properly. This was when I and my friend went for a dnce one Saturday.
When I called my boyfriend he asked me if I would live with him.
When I was baby-sitting at my cousin's place, I tried to have a pleasant time and did not really take care of the child. I do not care very much about children.
A boy I look after for the probation service deliberately offended to provoke a reaction from the police.
Saw a very arrogant girl walking like a queen.
To talk in a meeting - expound my thoughts on a subject. Fear delayed me acting to do this.
Talking to someone I disliked.
Time had struck 8 o'clock when I heard from the radio that I had been selected to Robert Blake Secondary School for Form I. I was very happy for the selection. My parents and I were very happy and full of joy.
A co-worker and I had to rush a project. I was only working there for one month and he for some years. Instead of letting me know that he wanted to do the project himself, he went to the superviser and let the superviser tell me to let the co-worker do it himself since he was quicker at it.
I got better marks in the examn than many arrogant people.
I always feel guilty when I see my mother sad or fed up with life. I really dont know the reason.
When I saw a woman who had been run over by a train, just off Kafue. The woman had been cut to bits, there was blood and    splinters of bone every where.
Left alone in the dark in a big building.
I put in two years of hard work and it was neither looked at nor appreciated.
I put an end to a friendship with a girl - I had only pretended love and affection to be able to sleep with her.
When I embarrassed a friend by asking him aloud if a certain person was "the source of gossip" he told me about, while that person was also present.
I was angry at a University tutorial when an ignorant loudmouth persisted in trying to dominate the conversation.
When I failed an exam.
When I found a letter addressed "To Mum" by my son, 6 months later, he begged me not to sell his new shoes which he messed up after wearing them for the first time.
When I was beaten up by thieves on behalf of some friends of mine as they thought that I had a lot of money and would not part with a few coins for their drinks.
My boat didn't win a race which we were favored to win.
I was caught doing something bad and I bribed the person who caught me. Later I felt very bad, maybe I should have paid for my bad behaviour.
When I deny something to my sister and after a while I feel sorry and try to bypass the situation.
When, after a long time, I saw a girl with whom I was in love.
I felt shame when I discontinued my education for eight months.
A grenade blew out next to me.
I had misbehaved at a party and did not wish to meet the person in question later.
I was living with my brother and one day he went away on business and I was left alone to look after the house and the property. At night thieves came and wanted to break into the house.
I live outside Graz - so I have to go by bus. One day I went home from the bus stop alone. It was dark, I had to go through a forest and there was a dark figure behind me. I was very frightened.
I reachad home to find that my baby had not been bathed and fed.
Two timing - going out with 2 guys at once (secretly).
When I have been overhastingly offending or hurting.
I had promised to visit my girlfriend but for different reasons could not make it. I rang up later to tell her that I could not come.
The people on my floor last year were very close. This year 4 of our best friends live together in an apartment. My boyfriend and I dropped by on one of their birthdays and stayed for dinner. Two other people had already been invited and I felt uncomfortable and unwanted. Then I realized I was the one who always called them and they rarely call me.
I was accused of a misdemeanour, unjustly.
When a boy whom I refused to be my lover told all his friends that I was his girl he has refused me because I was not faithful to him.
I had made an appointment with three friends. We had to go out together. When I arrived at the place, the other persons weren't there. I became very angry because I thought they were gone without me. That, however, didn't appear to be the case.
When my brother got very low marks in the exams, I was very angry. I put my studies aside to help him, as every time my brother does badly at school, my family members blame me as well.á
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Not finishing my duty as a class leader.
Through the media and their presentation of a kidnapped child who was raped.
When I knew I had to go out with my mother on some errands.
In 1972 I failed my Examination because of my own crooky behaviour of dodging from Examinations.
When I had my children.
When my one year old son gives me a spontaneous kiss.
My father began to say incoherant things concerning my brother's and my own behaviour towards him. His biased (authoritarian) and ridiculous point of view made us angry.
I assisted to a scene where the police attacked a person that didn't have his documents. The savagery was too much, and the attacked person bleeded to much.
At a party in which I met an interesting female. We enjoyed eachothers company, while slow dacing.
On a social occasion, I noticed that I reacted on the basis of my autonomous nerve system (I could not help it).
When I had my four children.
When my father and I worked on the house just after he had recovered from illness, I was rather lazy. This meant that he had to work hard and was not very well later.
Telling my parents that I did not get into a good university.
Walking around the University at night by myself, having been previously warned of rapes, etc.
When I ate my sister's food and then she found out that it was me. I felt very ashamed but still refused to admit that it was me.
When I committed the sin of immorality mentioned before.
When I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal saviour.
When I entered the dissecting room for the anatomy class and saw several dead bodies lying on the benches.
My grandfather died thirteen years ago.
I think I have hardly had a situation where I felt disgusted. Perhaps once, when I saw a big spider.
A situation of overt unfairness, manipulation of people and its consequences.
My boss on the job failed to keep his promise about something he knew was extremely important to me.
I "cooked" the engine in my father's car - it was actually his fault because he hadn't fixed the temperature gauge or told me. When I finally got home I was absolutely screamed at and the anger I experienced was over the injustice of it all plus the huge row which developed.
I send a word to my boss through my servant telling him that I would not report for work as I was not feeling well and that the  doctor had refused to give me sick leave. My intention was actually to go out of Lusaka for a week-end. I left the same day and the following morning my boss found me in Mongu. I felt guilty when asked to explain things on my return.
The last time I felt sad and disappointed was when I did not do as well as I had hoped in one of the final exams. As compared with the earlier exams, the questions, I think, were unjust.
One of my friends and I had breakfast in a restaurant. It was spontaneous and lots of fun.
I had arranged with a friend to go with him to Carinthia by car. We had arranged a place where to meet. I was a bit late and my friend had left already. I had no money to go by train. I nearly started to cry because I was so angry - it was very important for me to go to Carinthia.
When my little brother asked me to play with him, I told him that I had no time and that I would play with him the next day. However, the next day I said the same thing.
A lonely, neurotic, shy girl lives nearby. She has expressed a wish to meet me, I have however avoided her (turned down an invitation) as the crisis my partner is going through uses up all my empathy.
When being illoyal (disloyal) to people close to me. Had such an episode with my sister, who should have received my support and attention.
This summer I got into a fight with one of our patrons (at a theatre). He hit me and I hit him and her friend, he hit my friend and we all hit eachother.
When I learned that a relative had been spreading rumours about me.
When quarreling with friends.
My father died after two very painful weeks in bed. I felt relieved, and was ashamed of that.
When I had to leave home to go to some other place to study.
Death of a close friend.
Spontaneous picnic with sister and friend and children - great.
When I shout at a colleague in classroom.
Arguing about price with private shop-assistant.
I told evil lies about a close friend of mine. I was evil in order to sound jolly, to charm a person whom I wanted to impress. I sold my friend, I was despicable.
I let my pet budgie loose to fly around my room one afternoon. A few hours afterwards I found he was still free, went in and out of my room leaving the door open. My cat got in and killed my budgie - this happened to 3 budgies.
When I applied for a job which I thought I had a good chance of getting, I was not even granted an interview and did not get the job.
When I arrived late at the job and met the most troublesome boss.
I was in a dancing-tavern and the atmosphere was one of waiting for the end of the world. Suddenly people began dancing wildly, inspired by the band. An unbelievable experience : wonderful that even Finns sometimes flare up and forget to think "what others are thinking of me". It was delightful to dance to one's heart content.
I broke an egg, with which there was something wrong, into a little cup. There was a thick white "wad" in it. I tried to take it out and throw it in the sink.
When I told off a computer teacher who did not want to teach me beacause of prejudice.
When I was a child: I had told my mother a lie and she found it out.
Fear when fulfilling my obligations on my first night fatigue duty as a soldier.
When I told the driver at my workplace to lie and tell the boss that it was not me who was responsible for the delay. The boss was very annoyed and the driver was punished and a day's salary was taken away from him.
It happened that one of my best friends just took my shirt without my knowledge, I hadn't put it on for many days and I was short of clothes.
When I didn't study for tests in High School. In particular remember a physics test. I didn't study because my friends talked me out of it and we did something else boring. I felt so helpless just being there - then guilt set in because I was very close to getting an A in the class.
A friend of mine was hospitalized after having been diagnosed as having typhoid, he had to forgo his exams and also his ambition of doing a dissertation at the M.A level. It was a very sad event for me and I felt very sorry for him so I volunteered to stay with him in the hospital.
When my boyfriend said he did not want to see me anymore (which turned out to be untrue).
When after 10 months of national service I was "downgraded" and did not have to do the remaining 5 months.
There is a girl at my work that doesn't take care much of her hygiene she comes always with her hair oiled, a not very agreable smell, and a bad appearance. Beside this she tries to be nice.
I was in love with a very beautiful girl and when I went back for my holidays I found her wth another guy who she said was just a friend. Later I found them together and was convinced that there was something fishy.
A party I went to last Christmas.
Outside a night club, a grown man was sitting on top of a younger woman, beating her up.
I felt guilt when I betrayed the person whom I loved.
When I am with a friend and we have to leave each other.
I was skiing with friends and they wanted to ski-jump. I did not want to be left behind, so I braced myself and followed them.
I was going to knock down a pedestrian with my car.
I chatted up with a girl who I didn't love. She however was fallen in love with me. I felt responsible for her sorrow.
My failure to provide the appropriate emotional/spiritual level to a sexual relationship that had a large physical content. Born out of inconsistency with my personal beliefs and value shame at largely using this sexual partner.
One day at school I had quarrelled with a school-mate, and ultimately I had hit him hard. He, being physically weak had to visit his doctor and remain absent from school for two days.
My superior at the summer job swindled customers as much as he could, and once put me in a difficult situation after which I could not but detest him.
When I found out that the guy I was dating at a particular time had a steady relationship going on with someone else for a long time.
The first time I really fell in love with a girl.
This sounds really predictable and usual but it was absolutely heart-rending at the time. My first lover (I was 15) just rang up one day and announced that he had found another woman. I never saw him again and it hurt because I was positive that it was "TRUE LOVE" !!
Saw my unfair report.
Being mistreated by other people.
I felt very sad when my boyfriend wanted to break our relationship. Our relationship lasted two years, we shared everything and all this was finished.
Walking on the street passing by an air duct, my skirt went up.
I had told my boyfriend that I did not want to go on with our relationship. I knew that I was important to him but I wanted to be free. I saw that this was difficult for him but I remained firm and did not change my mind.
Failure to complete medical course as a result of failing fourth year twice.
When my 2 year old son climbed up and sat on the 7th floor balcony with his legs hanging out. He was holding on tightly to the upper railing of the balcony but he could have easily lost his balance when he sat down.
When I lost the person who meant the most to me.
When my boyfriend was changing his behavior there was something wrong, I felt sad, because it's desagreable when a relationship is ending.
I was sitting on an electric swing, suddenly the machine went out of order while I was still in the upward position.
When my first girlfriend an I left each other.
One afternoon, helping at home on the property, I was (mustering) getting in cattle and a bull turned and came for me.
When my behaviour was immoral - thinking about sex.
I got into a bad fight in a bar and my friend received a bad cut above his left eye while trying to separate us.
My father had a heart attack when I was not at home (I was still living with them). He recovered relatively well although he had to retire (which implied relief from the stress of a small scale enterprise).
It was mid May 1985, When we had a Test on Nursing. My classmate had an answer sheet, so he tried to peep. The Nursing Tutor caught him. During this time I was turning my question paper and it made noise. This friend blamed me of causing the whole matter for him to be caught.
When relatives have acted strangely, and unfriendly towards me.
A person (a male) told me that he liked me. He has a problem, he is a homosexual.
One time I was injured when I was playing football at School in Blantyre. I was brought to the hospital while my leg was totally swollen. The x-rays confirmed there was no fracture but collection of blood n the muscles. I feared when they started to incise the swollen part with surgical blade.
When I got an unexpected letter from a guy, who had been my school mate.
When a begggar approached me for money, I felt disgusted.
The fact that my mother is getting married again (my mother and father divorced about 15 years ago) means that she will probably move to Turku, and our home, which is a one family house, will be sold (I myself have not been living at home for the past six years).
I had got a bad cold. My father said I must be crazy to go by motorbike at those temperatures. When I answered him that I did not care about a cold, he said that if I did not care for anything I could leave him (it was for the second time he said something like that).
When I received my results and found out that I could not go to a school of my choice.
My girl-friend left me.
Insulted by disgusting people.
When present boyfriend's mother approached my parents and self - to leave her son alone - as she did not want me for a future daughter-in-law.
When I saw that the mark I had obtained in an exam was a good one.
Having to decide on a termination of a pregnancy, after discussing it with friends, family and the man involved.
Lying to a friend about something that was trivial.
I was walking home with a friend at night along a quiet street. Something started rustling in the bush : it was an exhibitionist.
Someone vomited on the street.
While drinking a soft drink, I had the impression of swallowing  a piece of glass so I went to the district hospital and got admitted there.
I went to see a friend. There were other people, too, and everybody brought some present. I was the onlyone who brought nothing. My friend was very hospitable and did not show anything - although I knew how he felt.
One night we were having a barbecue on the beach and I needed to go to my car, which was far away from the beach. It was very dark as there were no street lamps. I ran in the dark, very scared, I ran as fast as possible.
Before Uni started, I had to leave home and take up residence in Brisbane (the "big smoke") leaving home, my family, and moving to such a big place was quite intimidating at first, and I was anxious about it.
When I was offered a high position of trust, which I later accepted.
As a child, when I saw an "unesthetic" sight.
I don't use to lie to my parets about what I do, and the two times that I felt anger were when they doubted me I said that I was going to the club, and they didn't believe me because the day before they had met me at FLIPERAMA. I had the wish to kill them.
When a friend tried to back bite me on false grounds. This made me wonder if he was a really a good friend.
While dining with some accquaintances I was asked something which I should have known but I did not know.
In a dam lake, when the water was let flow to water the plants and I and two other boys were near the water pit. We rescued ourselves only thanks to the flippers and the tyre that was with us.
When I left my sister's house after staying there for a few days. She has two little boys, and they are very warm people (the family). At the time, I was in need of this sort of contact, and I grew very fond of children (no, I'm not a paedophiliac).
When I saw a woman subjugated by money and not being able to hide how she hated herself for not having the will power to get out of such a situation because it was convenient, according to what she told me.
When I realized that I had a hole in my trousers after having gone for a walk.
While travelling in a bus with an invalid ticket, I got caught.
I was spending my summer holidays in a village. My friend and I were coming back from a discotheque at night and we heard a noise from an alley. We were very scared and we got into my friend's house. A moment later, an unknown car picked up a person from this alley.
I tried to pass an examination particularly well, but I did it worse than ever. I felt ashamed.
When I made the winning goal during a very important football game.
A certain person whom I respect and esteem a lot pays me no attention. She keeps up appearances but shows almost no interest in me.
When I got my drivers licence.
The day I was to receive my gold-medal for the M.A, my grandmother, who I loved very much, died after an illness. She died a few hours before the convocation. While I was attending the convocation I had to control my grief as she would not have liked me to miss it. It was a day she had been waiting for, but did not get to see.
When I was tired and unmotivated, I shouted at my girlfriend and and brought up negative sides of her character which are actually not so important.
Always when I am well succeded.
My car had been towed away by the traffic police because it had been wrongly parked. However the sign had been put up only after I had already parked.
Saying goodbye at the airport to my boyfriend who has to go to school back East. We are very close and have been together 4 years.
When I realized the burden it was for my mother to look after all of us, all by herself.
Not accepting hints of intimate relation from a girl.
I experienced this when my maternal grandmother passed away. She was the last of my grand parents to pass away.
Many times, when my father used to come home drunk and maltreated physically me and my mother.
My sister gave birth to twins, healthy ones.
I thought that the guy I had been associating with for over a year went out 2 or 3 times with a high school girl whom he claimed not to like.
Had a nice letter from my close friend.
Going to a disco by myself to wait for some friends. We had separated and hadn't planned where to meet. I wasn't sure if they were even going to this place so I felt very conscious of being alone.
When my demand for accomodation on the campus was refused and the rooms were allotted to first year students who were from "Rucher" and came from influential families.
A typical family argument.
When I approached a person of the opposite sex and was rejected.
I was very sad at hearing that my grandfather had passed away.
It was the weekend of my homecoming. I saw my sister for the first time in 3 months. She's my best friend and extremely close.
My grandmother has been in a hospital for a week and I still haven't had time to see her.
When a class-mate died.
Once a week I work as a volunteer in a biologic garden. this work in the garden and the contact with other volunteers filled me with joy. They also gave me support after I failed passing my driver's test.
I was alone in a cottage I often stay in. I was woken up by a rustling sound in the middle of the night.
Class leader getting me to do things he did not want to do.
I had received bad news informing me that grandmother and grandfather had passed away. The first one to die was my grandmother and after two days grandfather died too.
My fiancT left me for my best friend.
I made dinner for some friends and they appreciated it very much.
When I failed an exam for which I knew that I had not studied hard enough.
I felt fear when my mother was heavily ill.
We had come back from a programme and we were all (three girls)  staying over at another girls placce. One of them started passing very nasty and outright bitchy remarks at me. It was brought on by a male colleague's compliments to me, this girl was herself interested in this guy. Bitchiness and catty remarks made by women never fail to disgust me. I can particularly remember this incident as she knew that I had not encouraged the guy.
I felt guilty when I read an advertisement for a job as a chemist in the newspaper and when my friend asked me if I had applied for that job, I told him that I had not even seen the paper of that day.
I locked myself out.
Too busy to write letters to friends and they said I had forgotten about them.
I had subscribed for this test. We were informed by our secretary where the test took place. We went over there and thought there was a course. So we went back again I felt ashamed that the secretary again should see me.
When I thought that it was going to be impossible for me to start studying (due to wrong information from the student advisor).
I stopped working (had a boring job).
When working in a chemical laundry, I saw rats and maggots in the washing.
I was about to share lunch with my aunt's husband when she told me that I would have to wait and eat with my cousins.
Finding out that I am not an as able student as I thought.
I saw a film where snakes were crawling everywhere. I felt them crawling over all my body with that ... skins. The noise that they did disturbed me very much.
Found out that someone I knew well has been misunderstanding me for 2 years.
Hearing of the death of a friend who had been skiing.
I felt the above condition when I took my brother's bicycle to a market and unfortunately the bicycle was stolen and I didn't know how I could tell the owner about the stolen bicycle.
When my father shouted at me for going to a party with my sister.
I felt guilty when I heard the results of my friend, who had failed. I wished that I had helped him.
I felt sad when my boyfriend and I were apart for some time.
My parents claimed me on their income tax after I had been out of the house for two years receiving no financial support from them. As result I had to work more during school because they were expected by the FAO to contribute to my education when they refuse to do so.
When it suddenly appeared that our dog was dangerously ill and probably would die. We had not expected this because he was always very healthy. Fortunately he survived because we, in turn, gave him medicines during the night.
I went out dancing and found my boyfriend kissing another girl.
When my mother scolded me for something, very insignificant, without knowing the real cause of what had happened.
When my friends left without waiting for me, after we had arranged to go out together.
When I almost walked on a snake.
A person I was attracted to walked me home in the rain and got sick.
Relating to my closest family.
When I failed grade 7.
Being miserable in a party when other people are friendly and happy.
After my father died suddenly of a heart attack.
When my friend needed my help very much and I, at that moment, made an end to our relationship.
Finding out some people had been talking about me at my back.
A friend told me it would be better for me not to be on familiar terms with another friend, although, in my opinion he had no reason to say such things. He only said so hoping that I would search support from him (that, however, was not necessary).
The last time I had sex.
An inter-college basket-ball match.
When some unforgiving acquaintance dragged up an old and rather embarassing situation from my past.
When Dad went to a Sports Day and was the only parent there, and he was cheering for us.
A certain person started to say dreadful things very calmly, I felt hurt and disgusted.
When someone whom I trusted, disappointed me terribly.
When my sister took my things without having asked for my permission first.
When a person whom I do not want to see is continously present.
Saw the village I come from still pay money to buy wife.
A TV program on whale-hunting.
A friend came for dinner with me at home. His parents are ordinary people. My mother, however, used the very expensive porcelain dinner-service and the silver cutlery. I felt very ashamed.
Out on a weekend with a group of people, everybody felt irritated because at night the music didn't stop in time. And at breakfast my boyfriend ran away because we didn't agree with him. I felt angry.
My mother misunderstood me and prevented me from doing something. In return I did not talk to her for a few days, only later on I realized that what she had done had been for my good.
I experienced fear when I was not prepared for the final year degree exams.
When I heard that my girlfriend was talking behind my back and looking down on me.
I felt disgusted when a certain lady spoke words of sarcasm when I was trying to propose to her.
I had this feeling when my parents distroyed a relationship with a boy because they thought he was bad and irresponsible.
Finally being asked by someone to a banquet.
On Christmas eve,1984, I had just finished the exams and was afraid as the results of one of my major subjects had been very unsatisfactory. I thought that I had only a 50% chance of passing. Even if I failed this subject I would not need to repeat. However I liked this subject very much and my results were bad because of my lazyness. If I was forced to change to a minor in this subject I would be very unwilling.
At the sight of an insect, such as the black-beetle.
When I see rotten meat.
My father resigned from work, and soon after this his elder brother died. The next day my granny died (my mother's mother). My dad remains the only living member of his family.
Seeing this badly made questionnaire.
My girlfriend gave me the mitten (left me).
While taking a short cut through the Vasa park, I was surrounded by three people who tried to steal my money. I was scared and was saved only by the appearance of other people.
I asked someone to bring some present to my father and found out that he is not a reliable person. I was afraid if my father would not get the presents he would be angry with me.
When I dined with my new friends, one of them kept reminding us that he was superior.
When I heard that I had made it to the second year at UNZA.
I was driving near my girlfriend's house and I decided to keep going because it was late and I would be back in the next few days anyway. The next day she was killed in a road accident.
Finding out that my best friend could not go to university.
I feel disgust towards those who are responsible for the death of others.
When my best friend started getting involved in my private affairs.
When I got 21/30 points in an exam of statistics. The result was unexpected and it made me realize that statistics do not surpass my abilities, as I have sometimes thought.
When my sister broke my china tea set.
When I heard that an acquaintance of mine was spreading rumours about my affair with a close friend.
When, after a week at school, a teacher sent a note home saying that my son was inattentive and unable to do his lessons.
When a friend carelessly broke and object in my parent's house and did not apologize, or pay, or anything.
Broken a friend's cup.
Once I answered my father rudely.
The begining of my relations with my current girlfriend.
My younger sister was almost run over by a lorry.
The shooting started and we all lay down to protect ourselves from the flying bullets. This incident occured on our way to Feira, during the Zambia army patrols in the Rhodesia war.
Sending pictures home when I'd put on so much weight.
A teacher was very blunt in his relation to a child so that the child was very upset when arriving at home.
Quarreling with classmates.
Once I quarrelled with my sister and after this I deliberately messed up her belongings.
When my sister lost her only son, who was sixteen years old. I felt very bad about it as this was the first death in my family and then I learned slowly to understand to life.
After studying a lot for my H.S.C exams, I could not make it to the medical stream and I felt sad about this.
It happened that my brother promised to give me money for school and then he told me that he had failed to fulfil his promise a day before school started. I became so angry for I thought my future would be ruined.
When at school, I threw a duster at another child and hit him in the head. The blow caused a flesh wound and I was afraid of what would happen to me when the teacher found out the circumstances.
I felt anger at my last exam, I felt angry with our teacher, because he did not rate me objectively and I failed.
When I hadn't learnt my lesson and I asked the teacher to give me "a three" and he agreed but even he felt quite awkward.
NB: In Bulgarian schools "a three" is the second worst mark.
When I realized that I was in hospital after a car accident and that I had a scleral tear in my left eye.
While watching the movie called "Deer hunter" on TV, when it showed how prisoners were treated.
My boyfriend and I did not have any contact with each other during the Summer holidays. I met him the day of the registration and looked through him. In the canteen he asked me if I wanted to have a drink and I said no as I did not want him to do me a favour.
I had not punched a ticket in the bus because I had a card. But when the ticket-collector came it turned out that I had forgotten it. The shame I felt was great though it was not done on purpose.
Next door nieghbour ran over his cat in driveway, he tried to finish it off with a flat shovel. I would have taken cat to veterinary to either kill humanely or cure.
At about midnight I had to go by bike through Graz alone. On the whole it was a distance of several kilometers. A car followed me through the streets. Only when I went into a one-way street the car disappeared. The rest of my way home I was very afraid.
When I overtook a car on the mainroad, misjudging the distance of an oncoming car and this resulted in tooting and flashing from the other driver (we could have collided), and I had an acquaintance in the car with me.
One of the greatest sadness was when my grandfather died, because I loved him very much.
Did not return the library book on time.
When I hurt a person's feelings.
Once a person in authority (school teacher) was telling blatant lies about me and the headmistress would not let me defend myself. She was also telling lies about other members of my family.
When my best friend died, at the age of 16.
I was using my sister's stereo while everyone was out. I know she wouldn't want me to and I would get into trouble if she found out. But she was only partly justified in forbidding me to use it. She never found out.
At an important moment in a volleyball game we made a point and by this we won a set from a much stronger competitor.
My dear hamster (called Hannes) died at the age of 2 and 1/2 years. His shape forced me to mercy killing (an injection).
I once got a phone call stating "one of your friend is in jail, please come and see him". When I went to the jail and saw him, I was disgusted.
I gave some personal information to a friend of mine, and he told it to some others who were implicated in the affair.
I felt guilty when I "stole" the boyfriend of a friend of mine.
When I stole a book in class and the teacher caught me, the rest of the class laughed at my attempt.
When my friend let my personal matters be publicaly known.
Person talking about a situation while eating.
I felt very sad when I had to give up something that by right was mine and although I didn't get it, a kind of suvenir that people don't give you the right to have.
Guilt conscious struck me when I failed my Standard Two Examinations in 1972. I knew that I would suffer the consequences of what I had been doing during class hours: thus playing with friends and sometimes not even going to school.
Finding out that I have misunderstood other people.
The serving lady in the students' dining hall shouting at studennts.
A fear of lack of personal powers.
When I am out in the dark and a suspicious looking character comes towards me.
I slipped on butter one evening in the Dining Commons landed on my rear causing my tray also to land on the floor.
I have experienced disgust with some people - usually double dealers.
Made a wonderfull new friend.
I have a horror of spiders and snakes. On a walk through the wood I saw the body of a slow-worm (without the head).
During the Summer, at my workplace, a person kept interfering with my tasks and making unfounded remarks. I felt hatred for him but it stopped when I realized that he just longed for attention.
I experienced long ago when I was sightseeing Bulgarians in a foreign language.
Recently I felt very sad without any reason. It lasted for a few days. There was nothing I liked in that period.
Some time ago I promised to meet an acquaintance of mine and to carry him some promised papers. I haven't done it until this day. Now I feel quite awkward when I meet him.
When a close friend failed to live up to the expectations I had of him - thereby causing pain to his spouse. I believe that my anger was probably a reaction of fear that I wouldn't be able to live up to my own expectations.
I am not very affectionate and I feel guilty as I do not give as much affection as I receive.
A party with friends on New Year's Eve.
When my daughter began staying away from classes - at the age of nine only.
Some men were talking about me and my sister.
One day I did not feel very well and I wanted to talk to somebody. A friend invited me for dinner and I was very glad.
At a night club watching little tarts trying to earn a living.
A much older man took advantage of me during my childhood (four to eight years of age).
When I got 1/2 out of 15 in Abnormal Psychology I felt ashamed.
No very strong such emotion. Treatment of my sister by her dancing instructor - he is a "user", i.e., takes advantage of her good nature.
At a party, I started talking to a guy I had seen in one of my classes. My boyfriend felt awkward and left to talk to a friend but kept on looking at me as I talked.
I had planned a trip to the South during Easter, together with a friend. She was very sorry when I changed my mind and decided not to go after all.
When I received the result slip of the higher level examination (an university entrance exam) and saw that I had a very good possibility of being accepted into the university, I felt very excited.
When a close friend entrusted me with a secret and I let the cat out of the bag.
When my mother and father split up I was angry: I felt deprived and "different" from other children at school.
During these Summer vacations a schoolmate who was not in my class went to Britain. Before he left, his classmates and some of us who were accquainted with him had a B.B.Q on the beach. When I arrived I saw that some people , who were not close friends of the departing person(person A), were playing mahjong. Some others were playing bridge and A had nothing to do, besides it was A who had prepared the food. Later when we wanted to talk and his classmates did not even have the decency to listen to him. They only asked him a few questions half-heartedly and then they talked on their own. Some of their conversation was against me and another classmate.
When I found a maggot in my food at the dinning hall, all the food had gone bad.
At my native place I was riding my cycle, which did not have lights, at night and so a police man caught me. I requested him to let me go but he would not so after a few minutes I just escaped.
When my father was ill and was waiting for the results of his tests.
Finding out from this lecture that China is backward in psychology.
I received a poor grade on a midterm even though I got all the right answers and knew the material. I went to the TA to try to raise my grade and he wouldn't do it.
A good report card (a scholarship) in primary school.
In contact with a poor family of northeast it was offered to me a crab to eat at my request. But the fact that this crab was prepared antihygienically and his appearence was also antihygienically it caused me disgust but I ate it anyway.
When I was a child, I had a terrible nightmare with St. Nicholas' Devil Servant. I asked my mother if he really existed and she said yes. The following nights I could not sleep and a light had to be left turned on.
A man sexually aggressed a small girl in the bus but the girl did not dare to speak out.
When I was getting up, I found a live cockroach in my bedroom.
Finding out that my best friend was deceiving me.
I had obviously done the work badly but my class-mates of the student's association did not blame me, they helped me do the work.
I felt a physical fear, if I can call it this way, today, in the bus where I was sitting on the first seat. While turning the driver didn't see the tram which was making a dash towards us (coming from the side I was), and whose driver intended to cross in yellow light.
Saying goodbye to a friend.
Not getting the reference paper.
You may find out that I am stupid and not to let me do your experiment.
When I witnessed a bus accident in which a bus, full of passengers, nearly overturned on the Lusaka-Kabwe road.á
My elder brother often criticizes my mother's cooking. Once he did it very impolitely and lost his temper. This made all of us very sad. I was very angry and I scolded him. He asked me not to interfere with what was his buisness.
We were at school, in the room for audiovisual classes. We were watching a film, and just behind me two classmates were bothering me with their mocking and shoves. I reacted angrily (I suppose) by hitting one of them.
Once I had torn a few pages off a library book and I felt ashamed at this.
China winning the Asian Olympic.
I once failed a test miserably and my friend did very well and someone made a nasty comment while comparing me to my friend.
When I learnt that a boy I liked had been with a girl for three years.
When I was young, I became very angry as I was not allowed to stay up all night for the fair in my town.
When in my childhood we were forced to take cod-liver oil.
I have high expectations for my future but if I pursue the subject in this manner I will not attain this.
I went to my boyfrien's house. There I found clothes of a certain girl. Without asking whose clothes they were I started tearing them only to realise that they were his sister's and so I felt guilty.
A conflict with a pupil and there were probatory teachers present.
Overhear people talking about me and saying that I am stupid.
When I went home and there was nobody, I waited till 2 A.M and   still nobody. I was suddenly scared and anxious as this had never happened before. In addition my mother was very weak and I feared that she had met with an accident. Therefore I was anxious all night.
I was alone at home when I broke a figure and then mended it. A few days later my mother noticed it and asked me about it, I told her that I had no idea.
Last year I put off an exam for the autumn session without knowing if there was a supplementary examination session. When I came home with my exam unpassed I felt guilty before my parents when I remembered how much they had done for me.
When I was accepted for further education, here at the university.
Landlord putting up rents sneakly and slimily.
When I was not chosen to go to your English lectures.
I was very angry when one day I went to see my girlfriend I talked to her and could not answer back. She was depressed for reasons which were not known to me.
Knowing that I had to do the survey with him I felt very reluctant. Although I do not know him I feel disgusted by just looking at him. Thinking that the project lasted several days I regreted having joined that project.
I was disgusted with a friend's behaviour when she got absolutely drunk so that she vomitted all over my house.
My friend had trouble and I was not able to help him.
I get angry with my brothers and sisters when they do something that I do not like. They know this and still do it so as to tease me.
Confronted outside a party by some very nasty character - gesturing to a car full of mean-acting friends - felt in danger.
At the death of a close relative.
Got a big fish in fishing.
When the robbers broke in, at night.
I heard that a former superior of mine had died, I was later at home home reading about it in the newspaper and I thought of our interaction and how it was no longer possible. The limited scope of human life is sad.
One time I felt guilty when I told one of my previous boyfriends we were through just because I never felt like having one at that particular time.
At school teacher for not allowing us to go out on New Year's Eve when on a class trip overseas.
When I took the first year university exams and made a lot of mistakes in the P110 exam. I was afraid of failing and thus being unable to go to the school of medicine.
I discovered some pornographic literature in a workmates drawers. The literature featured pictures of naked women defecating on one another.
Finding myself alone in a public toilet block with a man known to have had great psychological disturbances.
This condition accumulated in my mind when funeral news was brought to my awareness, that a close relative had passed away.
As I usually do not start learning until a short time before an examination,, I once made up my mind to try to work for a longer time. But once again I did not do it - and got a bad mark.
I was living at home during the Summer vacations and towards the end decided to take some of my clothes and other belongings to the appartment in Guttenburg. When I had finished I went to my ex-boyfriend's (relationship uncertain) home and stayed there till 5 A.M. I had to leave then as my parents needed the car for work in the morning. My parents do not like my boyfriend.
Looking up end-of-semester results, and finding I'd failed three out of seven (subjects).
When I imitated a teacher behind his back - walking very silly.
As a child - about 8 years old - walking across a paddock - being set upon by another boy who claimed it was "his land" - being intimidated by the boy - crying, being punched, etc.
When I was young I stole something from a shop and got caught, then I was taken to the police station and my parents had to come and get me.
My son passed grade 7 and was accepted for form I.
First anatomy lesson.
There is one thing which makes me feel shameful, when I see friends of my age group working and earning a lot, when I am still studying. A friend I met a week ago after a period of 5 years is earning more than Rs 3000/ month.
When I learnt that I had to repeat the first year, I found the solution immediately but was blocked by many difficulties.
When I had been angry at my friend without any reason.
Had an insulting letter from my father.
Relatives visiting me.
A friend of mine goes out with this guy. She sleeps with him but is quite happy for him to play around - as well as herself.
I moved to Nijmegen for my study. Soon after this my mother had to be admitted in hospital because of cardiac compliants. I knew that my moving was an important reason for this.
On my birthday, when a very close friend sent me a huge bouquet of flowers.
When I saw an accident where the man lost his head.
Talking about someone behind their back.
When I was ringing up a guy who was my teen idol, and was in Auckland. I was really scared, I didn't know what to say or do.
I became very angry with my friend because he didn't do shopping, while we agreed on him doing this. My being angry was proved to be without reason and I felt guilty about it.
When I came to know that my exams were on two successive days and that there was very little time (about 9-10 hours) to study in between.
Winning a race that I had been training for, for many weeks. (Running Race).
When I was travelling at night.
Being insulted by my roommate (she is in the English Class).
The day I was told that I had passed my Malawi School leaving Exams and I was selected to go to college.
I ate a Runeberg's cake, though I knew that I would immediately put on a kilo.
At what I was capable of of selfishly using others for sexual encounters, while I held a vision of having a deepening above-board (you know, "girl next door") devotion to a girl in my head. My drives and actions did not match this so consequently I felt disgusted at my failure.
I was in a garden one evening and I saw a snake coming towards me.
When I have to leave the baby in the carriage and go shopping, I fear that something will happen to the baby.
I was bitten by a dog.
My friend still trusts me as a friend.
My elder brother had been expelled from college and he was so frustated that he attempted suicide - he drank bottle fragments. I was very sad when I learnt this.
My girlfriend lost her temper without any reason and she did not consider or respect my feelings.
Death of my grandmother.
When I get something that seemed very hard like getting a job, a boyfriend, etc. A specific sutuations, was when I started to date a boy whom I liked for a long time.
When I checked my examination paper and realized that I had been careless, thoughtless, lazy and hasty so as to make unnecessary mistakes concerning things I know and understand.
When my nephew was born. The birth was hard, it was a big baby.
When I was told that I was selected to attend Medical Assistant Training.
When I knew that my niece did a bad schoolar examination because I couldn't explain her the lesson.
I was travelling in a local train when a drunkard, smelling terribly, entered the same carriage and started eating fish that was stinking.
When my friend ended up pregnant by a gentleman whom I considered to be good and faithful but he ended up neglecting her and not bothering about her.
I felt anger when I had a fight with my father, and he beated me. My mother came to help me (because I was beeing beated) and he also beated my mother.
When I noticed that my parents were not in such a prosperity as most people in my surroundings.
I had planned to go to town with my friend at 1500 hours but she went for the registration and I waited for a good 1 and a 1/2 hours. It was vital for me to go to town but I could not as it was she who had the money. Finally I borrowed some money from friends and we went to town. I was really angry with my friend.
When realizing that my girlfriend and myself in fact had started the process of breaking up.
Almost had a bicycle accident.
I told my primary teacher I hadn't done my homework as my mother was in a car accident. My teacher rang that night to see how my mother was - she was fine i.e. no accident !
The death of an animal we had reared.
When I was concentrating on my work, my friend disturbed me continously. I asked him to stop but in vain.
When I bought my car.
A friend gave me a lift and we met a road-block. He tried to turn back when an officer shouted at us to stop. My friend took a turn suddenly and the officer raised his gun but by the time we were gone.
The juniors in our dormitory at school started to complain and make a lot of noise about the duties assigned to them by the prefect who was my class-mate and was very cool and dull.
My mother was working with a knife and we were all laughing heartily. She was not able to control the knife and stuck it deep into her hand.
In a Christian gathering's lucky draw I mistook a girl's name for mine (a boy's name). I realized my mistake only when I went up to the stage for the prize. I did not know what to do as everyone was looking at me. I blushed and went back to my seat.
I fell outside the door of my house.
When I was nearly beaten up by the brother of my girlfriend.
When I saw my 18 year old son grab an oxygen mask as he had breathing difficulties. I had a bad conscience because I had not stopped smoking. Medication for the dilation of his breathing tubes also caused a sense of guilt in me.
I talked with a man who stammered and without controlling myself, I started to talk imitating him.
A relative, whom I like very much, left for the United States.
When I was in the canteen of the United college I mistook a stranger for a classmate as I was not wearing my glasses. I realized that I had made this mistake when I saw him again carefully.
While in the army, I was treated unfairly by my superiors. I was held responsible for a deed of which I was innocent.
I had a misunderstanding with my father and after some time I found that I had been wrong.
I behaved in a nasty manner towards a friend, I said things which I could have said in a more friendly way. After that I felt guilty.
Same situation as before - having my car stolen.
Guilt - because I had not written to my sister for months before she died.
While dancing in a restaurant last week.
When someone I had had a relationship (purely sexual) with came up to me after I had used her and acted as if nothing had changed.
I separated with the one I liked most. She refused all my dates and told me that she had dated another one. My heart seemed to cease beating. I was silent for some time and then I whispered goodbye and left without turning back.
There was a cup final match between Limbe Leaf Wanderers and Silver Strikers and someone promised to give me some money for admission fee to watch this game. Unfortunately he did not give me.
A colleague asked me for some advice and as he did not have enough confidence in me he asked a third person.
I met again a very good friend whom I had not seen for a long time.
When I was in the 12th standard, I could not speak English. One day, while talking with my relatives I used a wrong word and my cousin corrected me, believing that I did not know English. I really felt ashamed then.á
After closing the front door I realized that I had left the key inside the house. I felt even more guilty since it was not my own house but the house of people I hardly knew.
When my girlfriend left me to go out with another guy, even though she knew that she was wrong.
I hate the behaviour of my so called friends, they use bad language, spit, boast and treat the youngsters badly.
During labour when the foetal sounds became faint and there was a big alert for a forceps delivery.
When my father had a serious fight with my sister, because of me.
When I failed two subjects last year.
A close friend took part in a racist violent action.
After a jogging session I had severe abdominal cramps and this lead to my wanting to empty my bladder. My friends gathered around me and two of them had to help me to the toilet. I was ashamed at having to go to the toilet in the presence of my friends.
When I did not go to work because I had to study for a midterm.
I'm allergic to most foods - eating something that I'm allergic to caused guilt.
When I had not understood anything after a lecture.
I asked a girl out on a date and she said no.
Watching a violent movie.
I was afraid of moving away from home and moving to Helsinki for my studies.
I was angry when I had not been granted a leave out pass during the last weekend.
Last week, my organization summoned an executive meeting and one of the executive member's pointed out a loop hole in the committee's administration. He could not suggest any improvements, so I quarrelled with him.
Was picking up my father from work and on passing through the Valley watched three prostitutes walk up and down waiting for someone to pick them up. Clothing was disgusting.
It was last September when I felt very sad. It was when I heard that I was not selected to study in the University of Malawi.
This was at secondary school, a prefect framed up some case and took it to the deputy head-master. I was called by the head-master and he threatened to suspend me.
Such a feeling springs up in me sometimes when I have meals at a catering establishment. It is a result either of the look of the food or when watching the way some people eat.
When I lost my father on the 25th of September,1970. He died of a sore on the leg.
During a football game, another player who was perspiring very strongly ran into me.
Disgust - no. Maybe it is more precise to say revultion at a worm or a snake. But I mean it in a social aspect when somebody had behaved like a scoundrel to you, when by his actions he has made you change your attitude towards him but I thing this feeling the way I meant it, is not typical for the people interrelations.
I felt guilty because I stole some sweets from my father's grocery. When he asked me who stole the sweets I told him it was my brother who stole the sweets and he was scolded.
When I was teasing a girl, who turned out to be my brother's dame.
In the student kitchen that we share, somebody drank from my juice pot (one litre) so that I only got one glass out of the whole pot.
My girlfriend who had spent 6 months abroad broke off our relationship by letter.
When I was starting in romance with my husband, we went out to curt, and we stayed in the car "making love". At the time I was seventeen and I was very immature until a day I lost my virginity.
I felt guilty when one of my secondary teacher left me while I was in Form three, he was the only one who showed love to me.
When I met again a great friend and talked a little while with him. When I see again another I miss.
I was talking to a friend of mine about our parents and education. I said something and then realized that I did not know my friend's parents, their motives and education. I felt ashamed at having talked about something I did not know anything about.
Family member survived an operation.
I felt guilty when I said bad things to my sister, I had not intended to do so. She cried a lot and later she fell ill and I felt responsible for her illness.
A certain friend evokes positive feelings, when I am with him but negative feelings when he is not present. I feel the need to express those negative feelings. However, when I speak about him, I always think: Why do I like this, he does not deserve this, but still I do so.
A friend came to tell me that her father invited me to go on holiday with them in Benidorm otherwise I could not afford to go on holiday.
South Korea cheating for gold medals.
When a student accused me of having stolen his textbook as he had found a form bearing my name in his other books and all my explanations fell on deaf ears.
Making an unexpected talk with a professor in the canteen. This made me shy.
As the only person in my family into academics, I ought to have looked after my younger (and only) sister better, with respect to her education and life experiences.
Not being alowed on a school camp with the class I'd been in for 11 years (I had stayed down due to illness)
We are repainting rooms in my house. My mother started to enact plans to paint my room without consulting me.
My grandmother was about to die, and it had the effect that at night, after having read a book, and once in bed, in perfect darkness, the fear arose that I too may suddenly die.
I was ashamed at being the only one to have got a C+ in ED120 assignment.
I felt anger at my roommate due to his habit of leaving dirty dishes in the sink and generally not cleaning after himself.
When I was at home alone, I felt a super-natural force, dangerous for me and the people close to me.
I could not find my monthly tickets for the bus when I was on the bus.
My father had been involved in a car accident two years ago. I was then very scared thinking that he would die as he lay unconscious in hospital for two weeks.
It was when I drunk urine during my childhood thinking it was water. My friend had urinated in the tin.
My son was apprehended for shoplifting at the age of 14. Because I too had been apprehended at the same age I felt the shame of not having been able to prevent my son from acting in the same way.
When I cancelled an appointment with an idle story. Afterwards it appeared that the person had looked forward to it and reserved time for it.
Not being a good host for a friend from a far away place.
A friend of mine had promised to arrange me some tickets for a concert which I considered important. He could not get them the way he thought he would, so he gave up the whole thing.
When after an overwhelming anxiety and enquiry, I understood something about why I exist and what my task in life is.
One evening, when I had gone fishing with my friends, we heard the roar of a lion near by and had to run for our lives.
I went to a party and there were some cakes which weren't good and had a bad smell.
I had stopped talking to a very close friend of mine. A week later he came over to try and make friends with me again and from the way he talked I felt that he was a very mean preson.
The headmistress at a secondary school accused me of banging the classroom door when I didn't in front of the whole class.
My father gave me money for school fees and I didn't pay school fees instead I spent it on beer and did not tell him about this.
Losing my temper to my sister.
When mother was very ill, I feared that she would die.
When a discussion resulted in an insult, which in my opinion, was not justified.
Every time I do not write something well in English.
I told my elder brother that he was irresponsible and that I did not care for what he did because he was teasing me.
The saddest moment in my life was when I lost my younger sister a few years back.
Last night - finding that someone in the house had eaten an entire packet of almonds I had bought for a family treat.
I was walking quite quickly and unthinking through a children's playground, when a toddler ran in front of me I knocked him over and he hit his head quite hard and began crying.
It was on 9th January 1983 when I received a message from home telling me that my father passed away on the previous day with a history of cancer of the oesophagus. This time I was doing my third year of my Secondary School.
The mother of a person with whom we had been sharing a housing accused me of trying to rip her off over payment of bills in the house.
I was a bit frightened when it was found that there was something wrong with my liver. However it turned out that it was not serious and I need not worry.
I thought that someone was angry with me but, by hindsight, that didn't appear to be the case, he even liked me.
When I drove partially across the country with my father. We stopped in a few towns and stayed overnight in motels. The joy I got was from the feedom I felt and the real beauty of the country.
My notes were not returned to me, it kept on being procrastinated.
I overreacted towards my mother and felt ashamed afterwards.
Can't describe any disgust situation.
I unexpectedly got a present from my father.
I felt it when on duty in the hospital I understood that I was not afraid to face death, that I also helped a little to relieve the pains of a patient.
When I saw Russian roulette on TV. (obviously the movie "Deer hunter")
I stayed at the Coast for a weekend with friends. My brother came to drive me home, but was rude, and in a hurry to rejoin his friends. I was embarrassed because the family involved was extremely nice, and hospitable to him.
I look up to my Karate-teacher. When I came to a training lesson after I had not trained for one week, I was totally stiff. I was ashamed.
I remember deceiving my brother, I told him that I was going to attend the Sunday service, instead I went out to the town with a friend.
When I tried to breake it up with my boyfriend, and he refused to let me go.
Disgust of drunkers and of blood.
Taking a chemistry midterm.
Once when I was walking alone at mid-night, I happened to put my foot on a frog, as it felt smooth I thought that it was a snake and I felt afraid. á
When a friend of mine was drawn into a fight because of the stupid gang he belonged to. I felt angry with him and his friends. They could not think about anything sensible, but would fool around without taking into consideration the feelings of other persons.á
When at times unconscienciously I speak to my mother in a high tome but after that I am sorry and I feel guilty.
When a good friend with whom I had an intimate relationship made clear that he didn't want to continue in the same way. He choose his girlfriend (also a friend of mine).
Someone stole my ski at Vitosha and of course I was the one to be blamed. I left them without supervision.
Speaking in front of a large group of people.
I had been caught red-handed having stolen some paw-paw. I was then taken the elders owning the paw-paws.
I felt guilty when I lost K43 for my friend when he was arrested.
I fell down in the bus when it braked suddenly and everybody started looking at me.
I saw a film about the nazi concentration camps during the war. After the film I felt disgust.
Recent break-up of seriors long-term relationship, helped along by would-be in-laws.
When they threatened me with a knife to take my money.
When I get an exam back with a grade that I did not desire. Then I get mad at myself and say that I could have done better.
I wrote an assignment and was given less marks than a friend with whom I had previously discussed the assignment.
After a long trip in my dad's van without incident I stopped to fill the tank with gas and dented the side of the van against the pole. Then my cars electrical system would not work when I tried to drive home from his house.
Late for a lecture and therefore missed it.
I was very sad when I could not take the M.A (I) exams due to illness, and a relative of mine disheartened me about it.
A colleague asked me to study with her. I could not explain things as perfectly as she had expected. So she reacted in an aggressive manner.
When my friend and I were discussing the good looks of a guy we realized that he had been listening.
Saw in TV that China had the most gold medals in the Asian Olympic.
When I found my baby whipped by my Auntie. I was really sad and up to this moment my sadness is still on.
Once when I was babysitting for some neighbors children I found roaches in ther bathroom. I had never seen a roach before but I called my mother to make sure that's what they were. And she came over and checked.
Some persons, who are important for me, came to see me and I had not washed the dishes.
Cooks refused to give me food.
When I won the "Under 18" Showjumping at the Brookfield Show. The competition was very stiff and there were many riders competing.
At my father, when he yelled and accused my sister's friend (over the phone) of doing something he didn't do, or know anything about.
I feel anger when somebody forbids me to do something.
I had asked the teacher to write a recommendation letter for me, but I had not provided enough information and had run short of time.
Saw two Canadian students boasting about how rich they are in Canada.
After I had managed to fail my first year at University I was scared as to what I was going to do with my future. I didn't want a mundane 9-5 job and yet I didn't know if I could pay my way through an unsubsidized year at university to settle down and continue my studies.
I feel ashamed every time that someone makes me a positive or negative critic.
To be kissed by soembody I didn't expect to.
One of my good friends told people something I had told her in confidence about someone else.
While having a discussion with my mother, I realized that she does not for a moment doubt the justification of her making the decisions concerning my life.
I was fearful when I realised that the relish was overcooked simply because I was not keen enough at checking whether there was still enough water in the relish or not, instead I was just playing with my friends.
The trick was really intolerable. They hid it, and I was worried and restless all day. When I saw them I really wanted to slap each one of them.
I was in the library of medical psychology and walked into the wrong direction. A man who came out of a room threated me very denigrating and I became very angry in a resisting manner.
On the last day of my school life I was very sad, specially on the farewell party day. I felt sad to leave behind my beloved teachers and friends.
I had a class-mate who was rather stupid. I did not like him but I respected him. When he tried to talk to someone, they would not listen to him and I could not bear seeing this.
When I see how people around me pass by certain unjustice because of indifference or cowardice.
We were driving a car of a friend of mine when we turned in the wrong direction towards an unknown district, and nearly drove down a precipice.
When I betrayed my former girlfriend.
When my son fell off the cot at the age of 5 months, I became very nervous and thought that it would cause defects in his head.
When I went up the stairs in a high, dark house full of shadows, passed a door and had the feeling that someone or something was behind me, although I knew I was alone.
I was then in the 10th standard and was going to my native place. The last bus had already left and so I started walking, it soon became quite dark. The road was a village road and was deserted, I was not even sure if that was the right way. I finally reached home at 10 P.M.
I was to prepare relish for the family. I overcooked it and no one liked the meal that day.
I was so angry with a patient who refused to take drugs.
My teacher asked me a question which I failed to answer and I was told to stay behind after the class and give the answer after studying it from a book.
Someone drove into my car and then denied that it had happened.
When I decided my first marriage had ended, and left with the child. I felt overwhelmed by guilt as I was separating mother and child.
I did not do as well as I expected on a chemistry exam. I received a score below the average and I thought I had done very well.
I felt guilty when I learnt that some of friends found the finished at the Cafeteria because I took food which was more than my share.
After my graduation exams I was waiting to get admitted to a post graduation course, however the situation was not very favourable for me and I was upset. Suddenly, Bombay university offered me a seat and I landed up in Bombay for my post graduation studies. This happened last year and was very pleasant for me.
My baby sister was 2-3 months old and when I was trying to get her on my back, she slipped and fell.
My friend told me he really likes me.
When first came to CAL I went to a rally on Sproul and I later learned that the rally was conducted by the Moonie cult. They were taking pictures at the rally, so I was afraid that they would circulate the pictures and then kidnap people. I did not know how the cult worked. I was scared.
When I was a soldier I quarrelled with my commander and may be in revenge for this he detailed me on duty two successive nights. Naturally he checked me up on the second night and found me asleep for which he sent me to the cells.
Once when I said bad things concerning a friend.
While walking through an old mining area, I unwittingly disturbed a wallaby which, in its resultant flight, accidentally fell down a deep mine shaft. On investigation it seemed uninjured, but it was impossible for the wallaby to get out, and also for me to get it out of the shaft. To prevent its suffering a slow death, I shot it.
I borrowed a piece of music of someone and I always forgot to give it back. That person wrote me a letter asking me to give it back. I did so and I told him an idle story why I kept it for so long.
When I bought new skis; I was ashamed to tell the assistant that I am not good at skiing and therefor bought racing skis.
When bicycling along, a courier van started to tail me very close - I sped up and moved over and he just did the same. I reacted violently, much physical responding in the dangerous situation.
When I was finally able to return to a job that I enjoyed doing after several months absence (I was not needed during this time).
In primary school I once faltered while answering a question and the others started laughing.
I was driving a friend's car, and I got close to the pavement to ask my way and I struck a parked car.
When I saw a big man hit another one, and nobody did anything.
Years ago I ran away from home which disappointed my parents.
I live with my boyfriend, we have a close relationship, I fell in love with another man.
A person that eat half of a cockroach in a cake without knowing it.
When I considered writing a load of crap for this emotion.
I was ashamed when I got the lowest result (mark) in class. All the same I didn't worry too much because I knew I would have got much better if I had read enough.
I had an appointment with a friend. I promised him to meet with him, but at last I did not without having informed him.
That I didn't want my friend to leave on holiday for 10 days because I thought I would miss him. I was constantly trying to persuade him.
When I boxed my child's ears.
My apartment has had three robberies in the last month. The guy upstairs just got robbed making it the fourth.
For the first time in my life telling someone I loved them.
I had a cousin whom I loved so much. Unfortunately she passed away suddenly and one time I had a dream in which I was talking to her yet she is dead.
The long lasting illness of my grand-mother, and the changes in family relationships caused by it.
One day I was near home, kissing my boyfriend in a car when my mother appeared and asked me to go home, because she didn't know about the event.
Diagnosis that I have a stomache ulcer.
I took a math midterm and I knew I did really well and it was Friday so I felt great joy because the week was over and I did well on a test.
Adolescent guilt growing up feeling "bad, immoral" sexual desires, some 10yrs ago.
I am sad because some relations to friends are not very good.
While having a discussion with a colleague of mine, I realized that her conception of man and work were similar to mine.
When I did something naughty and it lead to the embarrassment of my parents.
I felt this feeling when one day my landlord's cat had crept under my bed and I couldn't cope with it during an hour and a half.
When I learned that a friend of mine had not been speaking to her boyfriend for a week after an argument because of unfounded jealousy.
When I broke-down while seeing off my friend.
A girl whom I hadn't seen for a period of time told me that she had been pregnant and had an abortion - I was the father.
When given responsibility to grade papers in elementary school, I cheated a little and graded my own higher.
I was to take a test and I had not made the necessary preparations until it was too late. There were two days to go and I still had not done much.
When I had to walk along a dark road alone.
A dirty person, smelling bad and unknown laying on me.
When I go out alone at night.
No really strong such emotion. Just falling off to sleep when I caught sight of a 5 cm diameter spider crawling onto the pillow beside me.
When I went to visit a friend in the hospital. She had to undergo an operation for rupture. I was glad to hear that the operation succeeded and that she was relieved of her pain.
My daughter was 2 yrs she went up to a colt tried to hit it. It turned on her and kicked her over the heart, sent her flying through the air. I left my mother and sister to deal to her as they are nurses. I felt I didn't want to know if she was going to die, it was just too much.
When our cat was killed in a car-accident I was very angry at the driver of the car because he didn't take enough care.
When the university withdrew the accomodation that it had given me.
When I nearly collided with another car.
At an exam in pharmacology I tried to prompt a coleague (she asked me something) and the assistant professor made me a sharp remark.
I was worried by a task related to my studies which had to be done in groups of two. I was talking about it to my friends when I said something negative, in too abrupt a manner, concerning my work partner. I did not quite mean what I said and I felt ashamed at having been mean enough to criticize him as he is also a friend of mine.
When climbing up the stairs to the top of a ski-jumping hill.
When I heard that my girlfriend was getting married to another person, I felt very sad. That day I did not eat anything and kept thinking of her all day long.
One day I was going through the street door of my house, when a man asked me for a doctor. He then showed me his genitals and asked me to cure him myself.
When I had to lie about my age to be accepted as a member of a group.
Some time back I had signed a letter which I had not read. What had happened is that something had been written against my friend and this went to the higher authorities. My friend asked me -"you also signed ?"
When my boyfriend last told me he loved me after I gave him an impulsive kiss.
When Wayne and Sue (close friends) were announced our guardians at ther wedding.
When I first had a sexual intercourse.
I was sleeping nicely until in the middle of the night when I became awake because a friend called me for some (in my opinion) nonsens reason.
Staying alone in a dark place.
Some boys deliberately played tricks on me in the experiments.
I had experienced odd moments one time when a patient came into the Ward in which I was working. The patient was badly burnt in the right side of her body. I was very nervous at the sight.
Finding out China is backward in science.
When I can see my parents because now I am far from them.
My boy-friend had promised me to come home at about 10 p.m. He did not return until midnight and had consumed a lot of alcohol.
I made another person cry for an unjustified cause.
When my parents and sister went on a trip and I was separated from them for about three months.
I was in about Grade 7, I came home from school one day and was told that my mother had skin cancer and would have to go to the hospital straight away.
When I entered a toilet in a bar and it stank.
My father died last year after an 8-week severe illness.
When a friend of mine had her period, while thinking she was pregnant.
I was told quite unexpectedly that one wanted me to become the vice-chairman of our student organisation. I was really surprised and joy was the first emotion I felt, though behind it there was worry - how shall I succeed ?
When my father died.
I've had three midterms in the past two weeks and I hardly studied for any of them (like 1 or 2 days) I feel guilty that I hadn't studied and I got C's on all of them.
A few days back I had a tutorial class and the teacher randomly assigned one person in each group to make a presentation. The discussion in our group had been confused and the presentation was not very well prepared. Unfortunately I was selected to present and I could not keep calm, was confused and result was very poor. I really felt ashamed.
I felt much anger and perhaps I feel it till now, against my girlfriend's sister who incited her to betray me just when I needed her very much. She didn't think of anything, simply passed over everything.
Before I had a tooth pulled out. I was very upset and ill.
My parents attitude towards each other when they should become reconciled, despite my father's long-time addiction.
I felt guilty about going out when I should have been studying for a presentation I had to give on Wednesday the next week.
I feel sad when I see things done against men and nothing could stop it - at least I think so.
When I failed an exam unfairly.
When seeing a friend that I had not seen in a long while.
I remember my religious experience. During a gospel camp, a few friends of mine decided to believe in God. The joy that I felt at that time was more than words can express. I blessed them and praised God in my heart.
Walking in the dark I saw something strange.
One day during our clinical practices, we had a very ill patient. Unfortunately the patient passed away. I had seen him dying and it was the first experience. During the night I became afraid fearing the dead body.
When I got separated from my first love.
The death of my guardian with whom I had stayed when I did my grade six.
Saw someone licking his dining bowl.
When I saw my niece (5 yrs) crying in the hallway for her mother who had passed away about a month ago.
I broke the gutar of a colleague but as it happened in a moment when nobody was present I could escape from the guilt.
I felt joy when I heard that I was accepted for the Free University in Driebergen.
I'm afraid of not being able to go to the school I want because of suffering grades.
I had a quarrel with a good friend about the fact that I didn't pay her a visit when she expected me to come. Hereafter I was very sad because it became a real quarrel.
I experienced this emotion when my friend committed suicide after we had spent the afternoon playing and discussing life and it's problems.
Sincerely I'm a very timid guy and so even in very simple situations sometimes I am ashamed.
Unfair and unjust attitude toward a person close to me, what I was the witness of, caused anger in me.
When I blamed my failure to the bias and favouritism in the    marking system, in fact I had not worked hard enough.
When I entered a bar looking for a friend.
Being made to look like a fool by a girl.
When I realized that I was not working hard enough and was not being useful as an individual to the society or the family, guilt at spending money on uncalled for activities - in short wasting my life.
Climbing a mountain to see a view, towards the top we suddenly came across a ledge with a nearly sheer drop on either side, which I had to cross.
Car accident in the middle of the night.
Could not buy a reference book because I got up too late to cue.
My mother told me that the enveloppes that I had been tearing (I had torn the stamps away) in good faith had been the first-day enveloppes which my father had collected as a young man.
One day, early morning my mother who is healthy fell ill. There was no doctor or compounder near by and for a few hours -8 A.M to 6 P.M she did not speak a single sentence, nor did she drink water or milk. There was no movement in her body and I felt really scared. I almost lost my confidence about her survival.
When I was accepted as a student of Psychology here at Gutttenburg.
I broke a window of a neighbouring house and I feared my mother's judgement and action on what I had done.
I felt fear when my friend and I broke into an abandoned military base in Los Angeles this summer. I feared because I didn't want to be caught.
I read a book about the situation in South-Africa, about the terrible violations of human rights. I was disgusted with the white population.
The only event I can remember is having a nightmare when I was very young (3 years old) I dreamt about a machine which was going to crush me.
When my parents drove me to a nearby place and went home immediately instead of waiting a few hours. They could have easily waited.
I was walking through a thick forest and there was a big snake at a distance of about four metres.
When I arranged our holiday in Paris, and my girlfriend raised criticisms all the time.
A certain night during initiation.
When I was a child, I had a nightmare. At that time, I was not yet able to tell anybody about it, so I was very frightened. I could not explain myself all that and I had to deal with it by myself.
When my mother was operated.
When I failed one of the first year's courses.
Failing in the English language exam.
I was in a car accident on the way back from a weekend rowing regatta we'd won. 5 others were in the car. I thought I'd never be able to row again.
When I sat in the wrong discussion section in the beginning of the semester. I insisted on being in the right section and the TA's list should have included my name. When I found out that I was in the wrong, I apologized, turned red and left.
My mother had for some time been trying to separate me from a good friend who, she thought, was not good company for me. Finally, at breakfast one day, we had an argument and I tried to defend my friend.
Talkiing about the past happy hours with two friends at night in a camp a few months ago. We shared our feelings, notions and every hidden anxiety. I thought that they cared for me and I was very happy and satified.
When a friend from whom I preferred to hide my private life discovered that I had relations with a man.
Several weeks ago, I had problems with friends, I felt disgusted by a friend.
Maltreatment of children.
One day in the TYBA class the teacher asked me a very simple question which I could not answer. Finally the teacher himself gave us the answer and my friends started laughing at me as I had not been able to answer a simple question. I knew the answer but feared that my response may be wrong. All this made me feel ashamed of myself.
At my job, I got disproportionately angry with a child. My reaction was not as it should have been.
Insulted by classmate in public.
When I thought that I had failed the examination.
When I argue with my boyfriend, I feel as though he feels superior to me.
The mother of a small child found me shaking the child in exasperation, because I couldn't get it to sleep.
On TV I saw a report about church in Amerika. A priest was shown who was performing miracles in front of the camera - I felt disgusted.
When I was in a religious school my teacher showed me up in front of all my class-mates. They were very sarcastic and cruel.
When I behaved improperly - fought in a public place. Afterwards, I felt guilty about my conduct.
The breaking up of a relationship. We decided that the relationship could not carry on, so it was no surprise to me. And anyhow, I had known it would happen sooner or later.
When I was told that the brother who was staying with me would not go to the training school that year but only the year after.
When my library books were overdue and I did not have the money to pay for them.
When I was walking at night, I saw fire suspended in the air and it was split into several segments by something I could not see. I suspected that it was witch-craft.
When my mother found me in her bedroom "stealing" sugar in her bedroom. According to our customs there comes a stage when a child stops using the parents bedroom and I was well past that age.
Every time I meet a certain person. We cannot get on well together, we dislike each other.
Failed to do what I had promised.
When my love for a guy was returned.
I had gone camping with my old classmates and there was a storm. We were in a flurry but at that time I felt the love and concern of my friends.
I felt it when a girl who was dear to me lied to my face. I got angry with the fact that she knew I didn't believe her but she kept on telling lies.
When we were on holidays my girl-friend had to leave me after 4 weeks and I had to stay in Turkey for some more weeks because I had a job there.
I felt disgusted when a fellow student asked me to marry him. I had not expected this from him as he was a mere friend.
Receiving my result slip (pass) on my birthday.
Saying something quite rude, but in jest, about a photograph of someone, but it didn't quite turn out that way.
I had a quarrel with my father. He was depressed, because somebody had treated him injustly. As we had an argument, it was impossible for me to help him.
I feel this feeling when I am to fill in a questionnaire or a form.
I was once called in court in Zemba Traditional court to answer a charge of impregnanting a young lady, I felt guilty for she had some letters which I used to write her as an exhibit in court.
I went to a friend's baptism as she became a Christian after me and I realized that she was more enthusiastic about her spiritual life than I was. When I was with my brothers and sisters of Christ I had a guilty feeling which could not be dismissed easily. When pepole asked me as to when I would be baptised my guilt feeling deepened.
An exam where questions about very specific knowledge were asked.
When males in my family try to assign house duties exclusively with referance to sex.
Being sexually assulted on a bus and noone helped (people only laughed).
Finding out my name on the list for English lectures.
One night I could not practise my violin as my family was watching T.V with the lights off, so I wanted to listen to some tapes. It was dark so I asked my brother to bring me a torch, however he scolded me. I was so angry that I slammed my violin on the floor.
When I lost something that was valuable to my sister.
I felt very sad when I lost my three Kwacha at civo Stadium when Sam Mangwana was playing some Rumba records. That was not what I expected, I wanted some Disco records.
A girlfriend of mine behaves in a very childish way - she does not like my going to see a friend who has been introduced to me by this same friend of mine. I would like to be friends with both of them, but she does not like this as she is possessive and would like me to be close only to her.
It was last week on Saturday night when I was at Mchesi. I feared to cross the Lilongwe River Bridge to come back to School due to darkness - until somebody had to escort me.
I felt guilty about talking negatively, and agreeing with a person who was doing likewise, about a non-present third person.
The night of a high school dance, I went partying and collided with another car. Both cars were totalled; people were injured but not seriously.
Getting into this university.
When someone took my pen away.
I had to take care of the plants of a friend of mine for several weeks. I watered them, but let them stand in a cold room so that two of them perished.
Was nearly knocked down by a car.
When my ex-husband left our house, and the children cried because he was not coming back.
After my vacations, one day after a lecture it occured to me to buy a rose for my mother. We went together to a pub and my mother told me that she would be getting married next Spring. I did not known about it and so was all the more glad.
My father promised to send me pocket money at the month-end since I wanted to buy a new pair of shoes when I was at secondary school, but he didn't.
Zhu Jianhau did not break the world record for China.
When I reproached my friend because I was myself low-spirited and disappointed.
When I shirked the gymnastic lesson I met the director of our school who asked me what I was doing.
On Christmas eve I went to a classmate's home with other classmates. The next morning when I came out of the toilet she said something and I did not understand what she was saying. When she pointed at my trousers I discovered that I had forgotten to zip them up. I rushed back to the toilet but by the time the others had guessed what had happened.
I was very angry when I heard that my brother was beaten by his friends.á
On the way home from Marstrand I was driving behind my father's car. Another car tried to push in front of my father and he was forced to swerve and he thus collided the car with a pillar. The other car drove off without even seeing what had happened.
When I was robbed in a bus.
We were walking in the park at night. It was very dark and very late. We began to hear foot steps all around us, and we could not find our way out.
Before knowing my marks I was not sure that I wanted to go to that class.
I watched a very terrfying film in LT2. This film really pushed my heart out of my body and I was forced to go out before the second reel ended.
Getting a good mark for a subject I had worked hard at but expected only a moderate mark.
When I went to explain to a lecturer whom I liked that the work expected of me was not going to be in.
I felt it on the same occasion when I felt sadness which finally grew into anger.
During the funeral of my grandmother, when I saw my mother and other family members crying.
A lecturer in great detail spoke about his sexual experiences.
I had a short lasting sexual relationship with someone I didn't love.
It was more that fear - anguish -that I felt before my last exam.
I was very happy when I found out that I had passed with flying colours and that I had made it to the university.
I was coming back home with my mother when the purse I was carrying got stolen. It was done so swifty that I did not realize what had happened till much later. A lot of money and the keys of the house were lost. I was guilt ridden at my carelessness. I felt terrible as I do not normally loose things and this was quite important, especially the keys.á
Found my name on the list of attending the English lectures.
I felt sad when I heard that my cousin had passed away just suddenly.
Once when I was in the cell group (religious activity) I found that almost everyone in the group read the bible daily and I felt guilty in my heart.
When I was accepted to study at this school I was very happy.
My brother in law was dying of cancer. To see him wasting away was very sad.
When my neighbour's house was broken into and shots could be heard.
I took my father's car to church one Sunday (I told them that's where I was going ) I decided instead to go for a drive to the beach - on the way I got a puncture.
When my father suffered with dizziness. He had to be hospitalized, because the physician didn't know what was wrong. Because his stools were black, I thought it could be cancer.
I am ashamed when I am not prepared in a subject and I have to answer in the presence of the patients.
Fear of sexual overtures from a close relative in the family.
Passing by a good friend's home without coming in to visit him.
I offended a person who had done much for me and who had helped me for everything.
When I failed the grade seven examination.
Yesterday my friend gave me a gift and had dinner with me.
A bus drove over my right leg. The event itself was not very frightening but when I had to wait in the emergency ward for three hours and then my leg began to swell, I was frightened.
At an irrevocable loss (with respect to human relations).
When I am in an environment or with a person much worse off than me, I realize how privileged I am.
At having an argument with a stranger, in the street.
Had started a relationship and did nothing to keep it up, partly the use of another person.
Close friend leave to go overseas for an indefinite period. Farewell scene at airport.
On my birthday, when I was given my presents.
" I have been hearing rumours that you have not been allowing people in your room," he said. This sentence really shot my heart. I failed to find the right words, instead I walked away without uttering a word.
When I arrived home late at night. I know that my mother gets worried and this made me feel angry.
I felt joy when I heard my name being called on the radio as one of the students who had passed the interview of Nursing and was selected to start Nursing.
In autumn I had to move to another lodging. My landlords, quite intelligent people, warned me I had to move in the nearest future. But I had difficulties in moving my luggage because I couldn't wait for a car to come. How amazed I was to hear them threatening me they would throw our my things. And at that my luggage was well packed and did not stand in their way. I was quite disappointed and disgusted.
One winter day I, unwillingly, was outdoors with my younger brother (10 years younger than me). I lost my temper on him and wanted to throw my brother down the snow bank we were on. I pushed him but not as hard as I had wanted to. We were alone the two of us.
My boyfriend didn't turn up after promising that he was coming.
When I was denied my favourite dish at the dinning hall (shima with roast chicken), I felt disgusted.
An out-patient asked me to read for him a certain prescription but I was unable to do so. The patient was dissappointed and lost hope in me.
My younger brother and sister were involved in an accident on their way back from school and my brother was quite badly hurt.
My dog of 16 and 1/2 years - "Lord Grey" died in his sleep - His death caused me more and deeper sadness than I thought.
I walked up the main street of Auckland at 10 o'clock at night. I expected it to be very active with people, gangs, fast cars etc, thought it was actually quite quiet, though also oppressive. I walked about half a mile and bought a drink along the way.
When I wanted to kiss a friend and didn't succeed, I felt shame.
When I forgot a promise made to a friend of mine.
When my grandmother died.
I had a singing-lesson, but I was not very good. The last exercise was singing scales. I did that very well and my teacher seemed satisfied.
At my summer job, I was responsible for making various orders. It was not me who had ordered some seasonal merchandise, but when much of it was left over and had to be thrown away in the Autumn, I felt partly responsible for the much too large order.
When I was a teacher in an evening school, a girl raised a lot of questions and expressed her opinions. She, very often, took a stand which was different from mine and she thought that it was better than mine. Her opinions were helpful academically, but she did not take into consideration my position in public. Also she seemed to be very talkative and so she disgusted me.
My girlfriend mentioned a certain girl's name who was my girl some time back and she is no longer mine that she said she was still mine.
Right before I went to a concert with my last boyfriend he told me that although he told me he was going to take me to the concert, he didn't want to see me anymore. After that we stayed overnight and I said "well, when he leaves me I will be ruined for awhile, but for now we're together." I woke up in his arms and it was the happiest moment of my life.
When I lost my grandmother. She had been my guardian after the death of my father.
Several days after my final examination at school, I was sitting in an airplane on my way to Greece. I enjoyed that moment very much.
My parents put pressure on me to buy clothes, when I would not have liked to do so.
When I was first taken to the dissection room where I found 10 dead human bodies.
A relative of mine had come to see my husband to talk to him about a problem concerning his sister and me. I was angry because this relative of mine did not dare to speak to me and instead spoke to my husband. I got to know about it later the same day.
After hearing about the death of my grandfather. First I could not believe it, but later I wept and felt the situation was hopeless. I felt lonely and wanted to be consolated.
I did not quite succeed in breast feeding my baby.
My girl-friend and I live in one flat with another couple. We get along very well and usually we share everything. Once we two were sitting in our room and eating a cake when the others came in.
When I was notified that I had been accepted as a Psychology student.
I had to have my tonsils out. I had been making up my mind almost for a year - I was afraid. But during the two hours in the hospital room, while I was waiting to be called for the operation I felt a real fear - of the pain, of what they were going to do to me, of the unknown.
This morning during my sleep I had a feeling that someboby was attacking me. I started crying in my sleep and then my room-mate woke me up.
When I was selected to start Form I at Malosa Secondary school.
An incident occurred to me when I was going home with my girlfriend. On the way, a man named Banda grabbed my girlfriend in my presence. I was really angry with him and as a result I threw stones at him and he ran away.
Disgust with myself for consistently making foolish errors in communicating with others (asking for 1/2 Kg of nuts when I only wanted 50 g).
When the person I am going out with let me down in a situation that I was depending on them, and didn't show respect or care.
My parents did not approve my choice of a boyfriend (now an ex-boyfriend). He happened to be 13 years older than me and he was considered completely unsuitable for me. IDIOT.
I forgot that the course instructor had directed us to go for special classes after the usual class hours. I missed this the first day and when he asked me about it the next day I said that I had forgotten.
Car accident. Travelling as a passenger along narrow bitumen road at night - trying to overtake semi-trailer. The truck pulled over onto our side and we hit the wet dirt, swerved back into the truck, back onto the verge, over a guide post and into a ditch.
I feel always guilty before my parents when I come home and have to tell them I have failed an exam.
I was very angry one day when my husband ignored me and slept   on a separate bed. He had no reasons to doubt me or to neglect me and I had never imagined that he could do such a thing.
I was told that a friend of mine was going to Mexico for good.
I was very scared at the time of the Ty.B.Sc examination as I had decided to get 1st class results. I was afraid thinking of how the papers would be.
The birth of my child.
When my gradmother died.
I was in a train when a woman started talking loudly and attracting everybody's attention. The worst thing was that she was discussing something, about which she knew nothing, with another person.
Sometimes when I go to work my crazy boss (a hyper Jewish lawyer) insists I do things his way (filing, typing, etc.). He sometimes blames me for things I didn't do, and I can't yell back at him.
I felt disgust when I kissed a guy that I know. I was on the outs with my boyfriend and this person appeared but he has nothing to do with me.
I felt it when I was at home and saw a discussion without sense between my parents.
A few lies that I had indulged in, a few years ago, while raising loans from my friends.
Saw on TV China not winning more gold medals in the Asian Olympics.
I was happy to hear that my sister had won a prize at running competition.
I omitted to do a favor to a friend, while he was very much in need for help.
I was a passenger in a vehicle when suddenly another vehicle came from behind to overtake us. However another one was coming right in front so the other vehicle changed course and blocked our way and so we crashed against the side of the road.
A few weeks back I had a very important seminar and I had circulated my papers to all the panel members. A day before the seminar I realized that I had inadvertantly burdened certain    derivations and I had failed to correct it. I feared that this  would reflect very badly on my performance. Fortunately none of the panel members detected it and I felt relieved.
After being depressed because of a very bad relationship, my first love called me and told me that he would always care for me no matter what I did.
My classmate at TISS has the habit of biting his nails and ever since my childhood I have never liked this habit. This person is near me in class, dining hall and the campus so I suggested that he should stop biting his nails. However he found it difficult and my disgust feelings have not changed.
When my brother's visa for the U.S.A got cancelled.
I could not do the questions on my math midterm.
I was not able to help my sister to understand that her husband is a bad man before she was married to him.
When the bus driver failed to stop and pick me up at a bus stop.
Slept with someone close to my girlfriend and myself.
When my aunt, whom I had loved very much, died. When I heard about her death, I was not as touched as at the funeral. I really became conscious of her death at that moment.
When my studies are too demanding and I cannot cope with it.
My room-mate was drunk, he vomited on the floor and fell face down on the vomit nearly choking himself to death. Then he fainted and so I called the first aid.
I got angry at my mother for something trivial. We were in a bad mood because my father was very ill and I knew that my mother really needed support. I had reacted wrongly.
When I vomitted a lump of blood.
Travelling by coach on a rather narrow and wet road.
After my little sister's Graduation from High School my grandmother became very sick. She passed away a few months later.
When I was teased by my friend for not scoring good marks in the exams.
I felt some disgust for my boyfriend for a time, after he had left me.
Once I failed seven subjects at school and I was terrified to give my report card to my father. I left it on the table and went to bed very early in order to avoid him seeing me.
Angry with my brother, who was making fun of me, teasing me.
When I read the newspaper that morning I found my candidature number on the admission list of the Chinese university. I was satisfied and happy and the cumulative anxiety disappeared. I only wanted to cry out that I had succeeded.
When my fellow classmates were involved in a quarrel.
Walking on a dark street with noone around.
When I was accepted for a course on finance and accounting.
Bus driver driving roughly - old man fell off seat into aisle - driver wouldn't stop - disgusted with her behaviour.
When my husband lied to me, tricked me and when I had to leave my home.
My father was a member of the public Alcohol and Drugs Board, when I was picked up by the police for being drunk in a public place.
Quarrel in the family.
Not being able to have a party at home with friends.
I experienced anger most recently when I had committed a sin which I had gone a week and a half without doing. I had made a vow to God and had blown it. Now I had to start all over.
In Southern Tyrol, I was gathering apples, it was a fine day, I was not thinking about anything, I felt an overwhelming joy.
On a dark night I felt that there were several people near me and I did not know who they were.
After passing my Malawi Certificate of Education Exam and being selected to Kamuzu College of Nursing.
I read a book whose plot and expressions were obscene and in very bad taste.
I don't remember about a situation when I have experienced this feeling. Maybe it was when I saw a drunkard in the street.
I removed an article of clothing belonging to my employer while in a position of trust.
I found a cockroach crushed between two folders in my bedroom, I called my mother.
When finally I found a place to live, I felt relieved, predicting changes in my life, and I became happy.
When I had not prepared my contribution to the group as thoroughly as the other members, with the result that the overall result was poor.
When I passed the 12th standard board exams.
When my best friend foud out I'd been lying about something I'd been doing behind her back.
When my friend, after a beer spree vomitted in my sitting room.
I was at school whhen I received a letter from the dean of my school congratulating me for my performance at the previous year's exam.
Got in touch with earlier friends after a long absence.
One day, when I was a child, my grandmother shut me up in a room.
I sent a book to a friend of mine. The book meant a lot to me and he lost it.
A piece of work was marked as bad by the teachers I and some fellow students didn't agree with their vague criticism. I felt myself taken in by the teachers and felt disgust.
Made a wonderful driend who understands me.
I had promised to help out with domestic chores and I forgot about it.
People not resprcting my opinion.
Someone smoking on Electric train (Electric trains are non-smoking) with alcohol smell coming from person.
The day the results of the certificate exam came out. I went to school and at first I did not feel frightened. By the time I reached the fourth floor ( the results were being given on the fifth floor) I found it difficult to walk and felt that I would die.
Discussing with a certain person about a job I was getting and that perosn was negative and pessimistic.
I was scolded by my mother for no reason.
When in a difficult moment I couldn't express myself correctly and my thought came out with distortions bringing about highly negative and distorted results.
Before an exam which I, finally did not take.
I had been having a heated argument with a lover - whose intention was that we should marry in the near future - and was rejected by her when I started to cry. When I stopped crying for a moment she said "There, have you got it all out now ?".
When the girl whom I have lusted after expressed reciprocal feelings and then days later changed her mind.
After a busy day I went back to my hostel. I closed the door and had a drink, then I read my favourite book on the bed. Suddenly I felt peace and joy.
When people next to me play the fool.
When my grandmother died, her life was heavy and her last hours were terrible.
When I was admitted to the University.
In a very crowded shop I was distracted and missed my turn in the queue. A woman who was behind me began to shout at me asking me either to pay more attention or to leave.
When I was going home, I saw somathing which looked like a snake  on the road but later I found out that it was only a stick.
I was in the Korean War. We were attacked with mortars, me and companion. We stopped the jeep and ran for cover. Fortunately neither of us was hit but we both came close to being killed.
I was returning from the Universtity at night when I was accosted by a boy who molested me, passing his hands on my body.
One time I set up my journey at night going to a certain bar. On the way I met my friends and they told me that two people had died because of heavy fighting. I proceeded on but with fear.
As part of the assessment I had to speak on a subject in front of the class. I was not really prepared and I was just reading the stuff I had on a piece of paper, when some of the students asked me something I could not give them an answer. I felt ashamed as I had not prepared the topic.
When a boy who was drunk came into my room and misbehaved in the presence of my boyfriend.
When I could not attend the college picnic due to some difficulties.
When my parents behave very "witty" towards me, they make insipid jokes about which they laugh. Or my mother who treats me like a little child.
This morning I spent a lot of time on my toilet and missed the train to the university. My mother told me that I spent more time than a woman on my toilet. I felt a mixed emotion of shame and anger.
A friend of mine was drunk and having an argument on the street with a woman, appparently his girlfriend. I was walking on the other side of the street and thought that I was not supposed to interfere. Later I heard that he had shot himself that evening.
My grandmother wanted me to help her. I was driving a tractor pulling a dead branch off a tree. I told her she didn't respect me.
My mother told me that I could not go to the mountains. Despite my age, as long as I am in her house I must do what she says.
A person ignored my advice, did not pay any attention to what was saying. She acted as though I wasn't even there. We were doing group work so everybody had the right to speak yet she just ignored me. She made me feel insignificant.
Disgust with drunk people.
This also happened when I was very small. I was beaten up by my mother for no fault of mine, I had just beaten up my younger brother for what I thought was his fault. I was very angry with my mother.
After moving out of my apt. I took all the furniture and dishes and everything. It was mine but I took it all just to spite my roomies. We had a few (a lot) of disagreements. I felt guilt for moving out for the bad reasons.
Failed to recagnize a friend on the street.
My superior blamed me for some neglects at work in front of others. In fact, the task in question was not supposed to be done by me.
Before I went to the urologist's I was afraid for several reasons: because it was for the first time, because the medical check-up might be painful, because of the uncertainty and because someone had informed me about it.
When I was successful at my work I was full of joy.
When I was with a girl who seemed to love me, while I was with her just to go to bed with her.
The price I was charged for work on my car.
I was filled with joy when I heard that I had been selected to come here at Kamuzu College of Nursing.
Being looked at by someone I do not like.
A large german shepherd dog ran and barked at me (he didn't bite fortunately).
A friend I had missed very much came to see me unexpectedly.
When I cheated my trusting girlfriend by telling her that I was a qualified doctor and later she found out that I was only a medical student at the preclinical level.
Saw a man dressed as a woman.
I felt angry when I heard that my sister had failed the Examinations which we hoped she was going to pass with distinctions.
When my special friend said "I love you" for the first time.
During our last exarcise in agricultural machines we went out in the yard to examine a row of machines. But we seemed not to have fulfilled our task well, because when our teacher came and asked me a question I was unable to answer. I felt awkward because he didn't deserve it.
I stole 5c from my mother's purse for a choo-choo bar - I was 6.
I forgot my mother's and sister's birthdays (they fall on the same day).
Quarrelled with my younger brother.
When I was punished in school for no serious mistake of mine.
I received an unexpected letter from a friend I had met a short time before. He sent me a poem and wished me good luck. I felt very happy because I had great esteem for that person.
I could have died when I was caught cheating on a test in high school. That was my first and last time.
In a study group, a person always liked to argue on some unimportant, irrelevant and minor points. He tried to persuade  others in an unfriendly way. He was obstinate and would not accept other's point of view.
When I received the news that my in-laws had passed away. I depended heavily on them for their guidance and the running of their daughter's buisness.
My father and I had an argument because I do not help enough at home.
My father died. I was away at the time and did not know until two days after.
When I saw a man hitting a child of 2 years without any consideration, simply because the child had been leaning against a window.
My behaviour at a recent party. I passed out early, luckily.
My old teacher in primary school died.
When my mother decided to clean out my room and throw out what she thought was junk, without my knowing about it, so I returned home to find half my stuff gone.
Beaten up by a classmate in school.
When someone I know was caught in an "adultery" situation.
I lived in a student-house, where you shared the lavatory and shower with a fellow student. the shower cubicle formed the connection between both appartments. My neighbour very often was drunk and aggressive. One night, I was afraid that he would enter my room.
When I got my B.Sc degree with first class.
Going to Cowell Hospital and finding out tediously that I had a stress fracture. The anger came when the senile doctors found out 4 weeks later that I had 2 stress fractures in one foot and should have had crutches. I was in distinct pain and barely could walk to classes. They said it would be better in 2 weeks.
When my friend told me that he would come and meet me in a moment.
I was accepted by the Chinese university.
I had fear of my father (parents) when I first became pregnant. I was afraid of delivery itself and whether I would give birth to a stiiborn or a baby.
When I heard the news that my brother had passed away. It was the first time that I lost a brother.
I lost my purse that had money in it. I was sad until I found it.
I was cold to my sister without meaning it, just because I was upset and frustated.
For instance when a girl is interested in me and likes me.
When I had come home drunk the day after a party, I felt very ashamed in front of my parents.
I was asked to join my friend in a boat at Mangochi Lake Malawi and when making a turn, it seemed as if the boat would sink on the side.
My mother caught me stealing some food when I was a young boy.
A friend of mine suggested that I become a film extra. The idea seemed very funny to me and my reaction seemed rather outlandish to the others.
When I feel lonely, perhaps because I have to study a lot and I am shut up in my appartment. Nothing happens in particular because there is no time for anything else.
It is very difficult to relate it to a certain event. I am familiar with the disgust of Sartre (la nausTe), a frequently occurring cause may be described as "the self-assured dullness".
When I realized that my bathing suit was spotted, I had became menstruated.
I was coming home in a taxi with a fellow worker of mine. He was criticizing my earlier conduct towards him, which to my mind was unfounded. When I reached home, I ran out of the taxi and slammed the door.
I kicked the chair in the classroom to express my anger.
When it appeared that I was not pregnant when I was several weeks overtime.
When a close friend met me at the station in the middle of the night, when I came back from a long and tiring journey.
When I heard that I had got the best result in school and would be definately selected to the university of Zambia.
In a Mathematics class, the professor asked me a question and I gave the wrong answer.
Someone being arrogant to me.
I didn't give back in time some money that I had borrowed. My friend relied on them.
I criticised an action of my mother and for the first time she genuinely took notice of it. I felt shame that I was almost taking the part of a husband, or at least an equal which I should not.
One day I was with my girlfriend and other friends were behind us, I fell down because the place was slippery and I really felt ashamed.
When I was involved in a car crash.
When I stared to much at a pastry that a woman was eating and at the same instant the pastry felt on the floor.
When my brother (5th in the family) passed away.
When I was young, about 6 or 7, I did not make it to the toilet on time. I hid the dirty trousers in the cellar as I feared itá
being discovered by my parents.
During the military service, I lost a part of an equipment; I accused another person and he was rebuked and punished.
Once in a public ladies room, I opened the door of a cubicle that was taken, although it was not locked.
When I tripped while getting on a bus.
When I have forgotten to warn somebody for something, or when I have forgotten to bring something I have been asked for.
My younger sister wanted to take classes to learn a musical instrument. One Saturday morning my mother asked me to go with    her for the registration. I did not want to go so I said that there might be many bad people at the club. As a resullt my sister was scolded by my mother.
I had arranged to meet my friends at a certain place, and I was with other people. My friends did not arrive and the people who were with me began to get tired. My friends were one hour late.
My parents scolded me a lot for something I had not done. It was my sister who had done it.
Listening to my roommate boasting about her new clothes.
A friend forgot his appointment with me.
Some friends and I were having lunch. Someone said something funny and one of the guys started laughing and spat his food in a girl's face.
When I knew about my first job.
One night I had a feeling that somebody was stealing my car, but I was too frightened to go and see.
By fun I had a tussle with my sister. Suddenly I obviously hurt her unintentionally - and she ran out of the room, crying.
A certain woman had asked me to make something for her and I kept putting it off. When I finally made it, I did not see her for days only to be told one day that she had collapsed and died. I felt quite guilty as she had jokingly said that I might not do what she had requested me to do.
When I was a child my parents caught me with a pornographic magazine.
A friend of mine was shouting at me in a group of juniors.
To say goodbye to dear friends after the holidays.
I beat up a female friend after I heard the defamatory stories that she had been telling. I was later called to explain my behaviour.
The first time I slept at my boyfriends house and had to walk down the hall to the shower in front of his housemates. I felt they were judging me.
When I was told that the form five results were out.
When a guy chased me when I was out jogging.
When you kill yourself with work and see the number of slakers wandering around, doing nothing.
A friend had promised to call me at a certain time. I expected his call impatiently but in vain.
A sense of guilt before my parents when I had to discountinue my studies in the first year because of unpassed exams.
When I stole something.
When my beloved girlfriend got married to another person.
For the above: guilt at not living up to my own moral expectation, guilt for not being the type of person my patents wanted, guilt for just about bloody everything, just realising that I have failed drastically in my own eyes.
I was a prefect at secondary school. On the sports day I told others that I would take down the names of the people who misbehaved and after some time I sat down for a brief rest. Suddenly the head prefect came and scolded me in front of others. I was very angry as there were other prefects sitting and he picked on me. I thought that a brief rest was not serious enough to be blamed.
Football was a very big deal at my high school, so I was joyous when my school's team won the conference championship last year.
The day my teacher of Latin and French died.
This happened when one of my uncles died just whan I was planning to go and visit him during the next holidays.
Summer, heavy rain, storm - I was standing with my face stick to the window: the childhood, something was going away forever this summer, I was leaving my home, I was going to study in another town, for the first time I was leaving my parents, friends, I had to manage myself, a long and loved period of my life was over - I was crying.
I feel this feeling at one and the same degree when I am not prepared to overcome certain obstacle in my life.
When I was caught by the police and was kept with a group of delinquents, which added to my fear of being shut up. I was afraid of the people near me and the future consequences.
On one occasion whilst engaging in horseplay with my girlfriend, I caused her to be physically harmed.
I moved to a flat. A friend who had lived there before, had left the flat in a terrible mess. I was very angry about that sloppiness and impudence.
When I had been obviously unjustly treated and had no possibility of elucidating this.
When my mother was robbed in a shop.
When a friend of mine visited me and my house was in a mess.
My roommate leaving my drawers in a mess after plowing thourgh them looking for something.
I told some acquaintances of mine something that I regretted later.
Watching China winning the Asian Olympic games.
When my boyfriend openly let me down, preferring another girl.
One day my room-mate started imitating me, doing what I had done a few hours back. I got very angry and started beating him up.
I felt afraid when I smoked maryhuana for the first time in my life with a lot of friends in the middle of the street at day brake.
I was in my room, I just heard that my Uncle had been caught in somebody's house with somebody's wife. He had to appear in court. I went to see what would happen to him.
When I saw a good male friend unexpectedly after a year, as I've just returned from overseas. I was feeling tired, looking a mess, and nervous.
At the tender age of eleven a friend and I left a party and proceeded to walk through dark and secluded streets of a bad neighborhood to find a telephone (recent spate of Horror Movie watching had occurred).
The time that I had to put my dog to sleep.
My roommate talking and shaking her bed at night.
I took the tram without paying. There were many people around me when I was caught by a controller. I felt ashamed but also angry.
At school, when the only thing people my age could think of was getting rolling drunk. They couldn't have a good time without firstly getting drunk.
Someone in my family (my brother I suspected) ate a bun which I had made for myself. It was during a long telephone call after I had just made it and put it in the oven warming drawer.
When one of my cat died of a disease.
I had an appointment with a colleague of mine to give her my lecture notes. I couldn't go and I didn't send them, and so the girl missed a day for the preparation of her term exams.
A child was admitted in hospital with Meningitis. I was asked to do lumber puncture to obtain Celebral Spinal fluid for diagnostic purposes. Since the condition was already bad, the child died as soon as I finished the procedure.
One morning after breakfast I was still not satisfied. My nephew (a small boy of 2) had not eaten his breakfast and just when I was taking a bit of his share someone walked in.
When my sister became pregnant at UNZA last year.
This week I was phoned by an old friend with whom I lost contact a few years ago.
Did not finish homework.
There was a scene of shooting in front of my house, I was very afraid. Two armed men confronting. I didn't discover the reason of the incident.
I was driving my car and it was very misty. It was in the night and I was alone in my car. I felt totally insecure, nervous and overstrained.
Our Headmaster came to our hostel. The lights were off but there was a lot of noise. We shouted at him when he knocked at our door. We later saw that it was the Headmaster.
1976, Soweto uprising in South Africa and the racist Gout's reaction to the students demands concerning the educational system.
When I was a child, I was always afraid of my father. Just when he looked at me, I felt frightened.
On a camp - boys and girls in one cabin. One guy forced himself upon another girl and was having intercourse, while the girl in the bunk beneath was pretending to be asleep and not be ill.
I mangled the side of my dad's van on a fence. I did not realize the extent of the damage until he showed it to me the next day. The shock on my face was genuine so a friend interceded with a good excuse which I did not deny. I never clarified the situation.
When I left a man in whom I really believed.
The time when I cleaned the house and everything was tidy, then my cousin, who is 4 years old, came with a muddy pot and made a mess of the whole thing.
A sense of guilt I felt once when I couldn't defend the confidence my teacher had in me and thus discrediting him at a concert.
When I had to walk over three kms through a field which had wild bulls, because my car had broken down.
My grand father caught me eating his private jelly bean supply.
I felt joy when I passed the worst phase in my life and discovered how many people considered me important to them.
Given duty by the leaders which I do not like to do.
When I flew out to my mother and made rude remarks because I felt so tense (studied too hard for an examination).
When I stole a packet of cigarettes from a neighbour and the next day I owned up and returned it.
When I went to see the doctor and had to take my clothes off so that he could examine me.
Decided at the last minute not to do something that I said I would do with a person.
An ex-colleague asked me if I was interested in working in their accounts bureau. They needed "clever people" and he had "immediately thought of me."
When my boyfriend took me to his father's grave.
When I was 10 years old I stained our bench with a fountain-pen, I tried to twin the cushions, but then there were colour nuances. Then my mother catched me, she saw it and became very angry.
When I was talking to a person who is a hypocrite, I felt disgusted at his reaction.
When a close friend of mine maintained a relationship with me till she needed me and broke it off when she did not need me. She behaved life a really selfish person.
I talked to my boyfriend on the phone when I was in high spirits and had a lot to tell him. I had been looking forward to this conversation and he did not listen to me to the extent that I had anticipated.
I felt happy when my mother gave birth to a son who is the last born in the family.
A few weeks back, as I was in a hurry to leave the house, I left some of my things lying around. This is something I never do. My uncle,who lives with us, as we live in a joint family, remarked that we were always doing things like this. This really got me mad.
When I realised that I had become too emotionally involved with the person I'm going out with, and when I began to like someone else and questioned whether I really care about person I'm with.
Death of my father; he died of laryngeal cancer.
When I could not complete my assignment on time.
Getting into a crowded bus.
My elder sister whom I love very much was leaving for the     West Indies for two years and I was staying behind.
When I was cycling through the park late one night, two people jumped out of the woods and tried to stop me. There were shouting something at the same time.
When my boyfriend came form Rumphi to Lilongwe for a visit I was very happy to see him and couldn't believe it was him with me.
I had been together with my boy-friend for two and a half years, when he got to know another girl and not even tried to conceal that from me. I drew my conclusions and left him - I also felt a bit guilty for what had happened.
My grandmother several times has been struck by cerebral hemorrhages. Until now she recovered well each time, but there is always the threat to loose her.
Whenever I see poverty and starvation. I live in an affluent society and am privileged to have many opportunities.
I didn't offer my seat to a pregnant woman in the bus.
When I was walking around all alone at night.
When I climbed up a tree to pick apples. The angle of the ladder I was on did not enable me to get high enough. This implied that the ladder was not very stable.
A friend of mine is having psychiatric problems because of his mother's death ages ago. He is really quiet and because it relates back to his childhood I feel sadness for him. He doesn't lead a normal life and it just seems unfair.
I was hitch-hiking when a man stopped and gave me a lift to Nijmegen. During the ride he asked me whether I was in for fun. The man was fat and tatooed.
After I reluctantly refused to dine with a certain man on the same table.
When my colleague spat on my face after a quarrel.
I once stole my father's money and denied having done it. Instead father threatened my young brother and he was beaten. He was innocent and I felt guilty.
A friend of mine uses butter instead of oil when he is cooking. I am always angry about that, because it is an unnecessary luxury. Recently we both were cooking and he wanted to use butter again. When I had already put the oil into the pan, he poured it out again and put the butter into the pan.
Shouting at my parents because I was angry about something else.
When I was in primary 6, my father died. I was very young then and did not know what had happened. The weeping of my relatives and my tears made me sad.
When I passed an exam which I had failed last year.
When I was travelling to school by bus, I went past a place where a sewer had been repaired. There was a bad strong smell which suffocated me and I wanted to leave the place immediately.
When I had not done well in Geography at my MCE I was expected to get more than I did.
When my sister came home late one day and thus disobeyed my parents.
It was in the evening when I heard that my girl went to Zambia and that she would never come back.
When my girlfriend of two years told me it was all over.
I was unaware that I had walked the streets in torn trousers.
When I was nearly attackad by a man who had been chasing me.
When I won the first prize in a cross country race.
For a drunk man (about 20 years old) that I met one evening, and who behaved impudently with the girls standing by.
When my mother caught me masturbating.
One day I was chatting with children at home. Then I took a lump of soap and gave to one of them pretending that it was a sweet. I thought the child would realise that it was not. Unfortunately he did not and he put it in his mouth.
I was working in a classmate's house with a group. A girl began to graze her foot against mine under the table.
Postgraduate students talking about girls stupid.
When I noticed that my little sister was sulking, because I could not meet her because of a misunderstanding.
When my mother slapped me in the face, I felt anger at that moment.
When I complained to my mother about how untidy the kitchen loooked, she boxed my ears ( this had never happened before).
The computer at school had left out my name along with four others and I had no rights for one year. So I was happy to find my name on the medical schhol list.
Saw a father beating up his small child.
My sister won a scholarship to Norway and it was particularly as she walked across the tarmac to get on the plane and she looked back at us.
Saw a scene in a movie implying incest as humorous.
My current lover and I had been very busy with work and study and had not had time alone together for almost a month until one afternoon recently when we made love for hours and then showered and ate together.
I went to a restaurant with my boyfriend for dinner. There we saw a couple. the man of the couple was a negro and he hadn't manners for eat.
When I took away my best friend's boyfriend.
A lie on the part of a person close to me.
I was very sad when my first boyfriend finished our relationship.
I remember being sad whe my aunt's child died (2 days old).
When I heard that my father had been involved in a car accident in Lusaka. This happened when he had gone to get the car which had been stolen in Lusaka.
Not being chosen for the English lectures (my girl-friend chosen).
I did not go to the exercises, without any adequate reason.
When a classmate wanted to sit down, I pulled his chair away, so that he was slightly injured.
Our teacher had invited us to lunch and once at the canteen we started introducing ourselves. Two of the boys showed a lot of interest in knowing personal details and then they started talking about some activities held in the college. I had little interest in those activities so I talked to another student sitting next to me as I was afraid that they would ask me questions on those activities.
My father had been drinking and I feared him when we went to bed at night.
When I spoke to Jan-Erik Wikstr÷m on the telephone.
With my mouth full of bun, I drank directly from a packet of milk which turned out to be weeks old (completely separated). It took a while for the milk to seep through the bun.
I had lunch in a restaurant with a friend and I paid the bill. The change was that of a two dollar and a ten cent coin. As I was talking with my friend I took the two dollar coin and forgot to leave a tip.
It was the first time I met him (my boyfriend Mr.W). It was during the first term Summer vacations. We met each other while handing in our homework. He invited me have a trip with him and we were together till 8 P.M.
On the TV news I heard that Nicaragua had complained about the increasing threat of war with the USA.
When I was in form 3, my aunts lied to my daddy telling him that I had told them that I was pregnant. My daddy told my mother and she asked me if it was true. I was very angry with my aunts.
When I was travelling by tram, I tripped and fell against the door. I thought that I was going to fall out.
When I have suffered a terrible fit of eating, that frequently occurs. Then I eat everything, I act like a glutton I eat big amounts of food, sometimes even half a loaf.
I felt sad and depressed when I heard that our cat had died.
I was having an argument with my brother on his behavior, then we started fighting and I got annoyed at him because he started teasing me.
Haven't been frightened for ages.
Walking along the beach with a friend (another girl), talking, picking up shells, laughing, chasing seagulls.
When I got divorced from my husband after ten years of marriage.
I found a big black beetle in my coffee cup. It was alive big and it was moving its limbs.
When I was told that they had got tickets for me for a film marathon I wanted to see.
I work part-time as a shop-assistant and a customer spoke to me very loudly about an Indian man & white woman with children - how horrible that was and would I want to have little dark children.
When I hurt my parents in one way or another.
A friend of mine tried to persuade me to go at her place to act as a model because she felt too tired. It was a quarter of an hour before the appointed time, I had just lied down and did not want to go because it was too late anyway. She said that I only was talking about looking for work, but if it was possible I would not accept it. I was angry about this unjust judgment.
I once drank too much alcohol and became very ill. This was in the presence of my friends.
When one of my parents insinuates something about the other (they are divorced).
Breaking the left hand indicator box by moving too close to structure.
I didn't do an important job and it had an adverse effect on other people.
When I felt I had let my parents down, especially my mother, by having sexual intercourse for the first time, and a few times after that. Also, when I went on the Pill.
Going to Chico to visit a friend.
When I met a good friend of mine after a long time.
When I was operated on the knee and had to go through rehabilitation.
A girl I love does not love me.
Once when I complained I caused a great discussion between my parents.
I heard part of a conversation in which one talked very low about women.
When I see people with burns I feel sad, actually I can not even express my feelings as I think that they must suffer a lot.
Someone who was speeding was forced to slow down when I pulled out onto the road and proceeded to abuse me at the next set of traffic lights.
I had an argument with a friend of mine. She would not let me speak and then I began to shout at her. She got angry and left, I did not try to prevent her from leaving.
When I was told that I had not been successful in getting the job I had been expecting. I was sure that I was sufficiently qualified.
This happened when it was finally confirmed that I had stood first in the university for the M.A exams. A few days before the official results were declared a clerk had brought the results unofficially. So I had been expecting the results but the confirmation allowed me to legitimately feel happy at my success.
In the army, I had been in hospital for two weeks and as soon as I returned to the company, a sergeant ordered me to fetch a load on the tractor trailer.
I think I felt ashamed for the first time when I entered a night club.
When I saw President Reagan get elected.
When I failed my grade 7 exam at the first attempt in 1975. My father and the entire family thought that I was finished in life. I really felt like hiding.
I couldn't fulfill a request of a girlfriend of mine, though I categorically promised her and I believed there wouldn't be any hindrance. It was partly for objective reasons but also because I couldn't organize myself.
A few days after I had finished the relationship with my boyfriend, we had a quarrel. Then he hit me. At that moment I found him disgusting.
I spent an evening with my girl-friend. When we wanted to go to bed I was totally drunk. Next morning I felt rather ashamed.
I had something wrong, saying wrong things and being impolite to someone, and this had embarrassed the this person. And I still meet the person.
In a certain book I read about cruelties and violence in prison and souteneur circles; I felt especially disgusted when I read detailed descriptions of physical and mental torture of less powerful people.
We had fixed time for practice as we had to participate in the inter-department song contest. I arrived and found that there was nobody there. When I went to the canteen I found them eating lunch. I was so angry that I aired my greviances to one of them and then left.
After an operation I had to stay in bed for a long time.
When I lost my driving license because I had been driving while under the influence of alcool.
After shouting at a friend.
When I was reading a book. It had nothing to do with the book itself but with the disagreable smell of the pages of the book.
When I was molested by an old drunk man.
When a big angry dog put its snout on my arm and had I made one movement it would have bitten me.
The day that the results of the college entrance examinations for the S. Paulo University were published and I didn't find my name on the list. Entering this University was my greatest wish, and the fact of not having succeded caused a great frustration, and not only sadness.
One day when I was working, I went out for dinner with friends without my parents knowledge and I only came home at 2300 hours.
The thought that I'll never sit at the school desk again, caused a deep grief at the end of my eleventh form.
On the way back from Denmark with a friend on a small yatch, there was a storm and my friend was blown overboard; I was very scared till I managed to get him back onboard.
Friends calling me fat - pear shaped in front of a nice girl.
I was not given a chance to explain to my close relatives as to why I could not go to visit them when they were ill. When I did go, they thought that I had been selfish and irresponsible duringá
their illness.
When I had had the possibility to act or to do certain activity better but I had not done it because of reluctance or carelessness.
When I received the acceptance letter from UNZA. I had just come home from work when my kind sister handed me an enveloppe which I opened and was overcome with joy.
I felt guilty when I was found to be the chief leader of making noise in class.
Whenever I see a spider or a snake I feel disgusted.
When I gave birth to a child and saw that it was normal when it was put against my breast.
Once my father slapped my mother for a small quarrel.
When I was ill and had to stay at the hospital for a period of time.
When my grandmother, who has been living with us for 14 years, had a stroke and was left paralysed on one side. She has been quite close to our family and to see her suffer in this way makes me feel really sad.
I found myself a place after looking for one for a long time.
When I was young, one day in the car we fell sick and ended up vomitting on each other.
I was scared when I realized that I might miss the train which I was supposed to take. I was 1500 Kilometres away from home and when I heard the depart whistle I was still 150 feet away from the train. I finally made it.
When my car froze, and I could not start it.
Tutorial again ! A fearful feeling came to me when I sat on the chair and looked at my fellow students all around. I was really scared that they would ask me some questions or challenge the ideas that I had presented.
When I see all the putridness of people. The fact is the catarrh and spits that whash the streets of S.Paulo.
Did badly in an examn.
When I saw a girl in my economics discussion section smiling and asking stupid questions to the TA. just to get attention. She was obviously ass-kissing. It happens in every Econ. discussion held weekly.
From the fact that my husband and I are not in good terms.
When I was feeding a premature baby (7 months), the baby chocked. This was when I was working in children's ward I thought I had killed the baby.
When I worked at the life-saving service I was disgusted by a patient whose outward appearance was distasteful.
When I was coming back home alone at night.
One of my colleagues accused me of having stolen his iron and I was sure that I had done no such thing.
When I did something wrong in the past and denied having done it when asked about it later.
I am not good enough to join any team to play sport for the class.
I visited a place in Morocco where they worked the leather. I saw the skins emerged in a liquid which ressembled putrification.
I was having breakfast with a classmate and suddenly I began to cry as I thought of a friend of mine whom I had not seen for a long time.
Some days ago I had a slight car accident through my fault.
Not applicable to myself.
A friend unjustly put the blame on me to relieve his conscience and also spread lies for the same purpose.
When I was unable to respond to a welcome in my indigenous language of Maori at an important function where I was the only woman in the group and it was expected of me.
When a person whom I had invited did not come on the appointed day and time.
During class one day I walked out of the class. The teacher noticed it and decided that he would take some action against me, when I realized this I approached him and told him that I was sorry for the incident and would not repeat it.
I got 100 FIM too much when I changed money at the bank. They soon called me at my job and the situation was embarrasing for me.
When a thunder belt hit the roof top of the building I was in.
When I heard that I had passed Primary School Leaving Certificate and was selected to go for Secondary education.
I met a woman who was looking for our house. She stopped me but I ran away. When I arrived at home I found the same woman and she told my parents what had happened so I felt ashamed.
I was a passenger in a jumbo-jet which was accelerating down the runway and almost at the point of take-off, when the pilot suddenly braked and put the engines into reverse thrust, in an obviously urgent attempt to stop the aircraft. The hostesses show signs of concern and my first thought was that something was on the runway in our path and that we were in danger of hitting it.
I felt joy most strongly some years ago, when I took part in a NH Competition and I was the first.
As a result of breaking the indicator light as mentioned for guilt.
I was supposed to have done some things for my mother, but just plain didn't get around to it.
When I saw a T.V programme on animals in the film world (mistreated and used).
Passing an exam I did not expect to pass.
I promised my mother to come home on her birthday, but at last I was prevented. Nevertheless it would have been possible to go but I did not.
The day I was nearly stabbed to death by ruffians who wanted to take my money. I refused to give them any money and they started running after me, I ran into somebody else's house to save myself.
When I did not get admission in M.Sc after my B.Sc, I felt really bad. When I started my journey to Bombay, after having accepted my uncle's offer to come to Bombay, I was afraid, wondering if I would succeed or not.
When I stated sharply something I was not very sure of and a few days later I was shown to be wrong.
Feeling inadequate in a group situation, being unable to convey my own thoughts and feelings.
I felt disgust with alcohol in general when a close friend of mine got so drunk that he didn't realize what he was doing and it was quite shameful.
When my last year's second semester results came through - I was ecstatic.
I asked my friend to come with me to a disco because I wanted to be with a person I know well. But when I amused myself with others I let my friend sit alone, although I had asked her to come.
When someone tried to rape one of my best friends and he claimed it was her fault. He the hassled her, claimed she was loose, and threatened to sue her.
A good friend quitted me after he had behaved in a strange manner.
Left alone in the biology building surrounded by empty buildings.
Someone messing up the room we share.
Not being able to hand in homework in time.
Telling friends about your nickname.
After 10 days of hard work and having suffered many changes I passed my last exam.
My mother kicked my surrogate father out and he in turn did not care for the dog, Afthur, he bought for the family. His lack of concern lead tho Arthur's death on the freeway. I loved Arthur like a brother. He was easy to talk to.
Being sexually assulted on a bus.
When I didn't notify someone that he was summoned by a headmaster and as a result he ended being on a heavy punishment.
My teacher said that being university studets we did not have any self-initiative or self-control.
A "near-accident" in a car, driving too fast on an icy road.
The cat of my landlady escaped through the window which I had left open.
I was playing in a football tournament and saw the rules openly disregarded.
When someone whom I considered my friend, without telling me he was annoyed, proceeded to ignore me for several meets with no apparent reason.
I felt sad at having to leave my girlfriend after constant problems and failed attempts at reconciliation. My sadness was caused by the irreversibility of the decision.
Physically fighting with my girlfriend because she just walked out of a room of my friends and had pushed and cursed at me when I went to find her.
This happened a year when I was having a hard time, I got admission to do research despite obstacles in the procedure of admission.
The day I learnt that I had been admitted to the university.
My girlfriend does practice and therefore leaves me alone at night and in the weekend. In addition, she is very busy doing several things. So we don't see each other often.
When friends try to put me down or hurt me.
Nearly caught masturbating.
When I got fired from a job because I gave a discount to a friend.
A time when I was very afraid of something was when I broke my father's antique lamp.
When, after having cleaned up the kitchen, two hours later I saw that there was a big mess. It irritated me very much.
The day I learnt that my girlfriend had been going around with a close friend of mine.
When I woke up after a nightmare.
I forgot to water the flowers in our flat and was rebuked by my friends who share the flat with me.
I felt joy when my two twin sisters were born.
My best friend got married and left her home-town to go and live in Poona. After her wedding I felt sad.
When I was a child I broke plates because I wasn't given food on the grounds of coming home late.
Insulted by a teacher in front of the class.
A relative not acting on her promise.
I thought that I had failed an examination, but when I was informed about the mark, I saw that I had passed it.
When I went to report a stolen good at the police station, the woman-officer-in-charge was very rude and did not seem to have respect for anyone.
Thinking that I had been seen smoking at school by a teacher - waiting to be summoned to the headmaster's office.
When I saw a dead body in the mortuary I became afraid and I was filled with fear.
I went shopping with my mother and sister (17 years old). Mother always told my sister what she should buy. Instead of assisting my sister in defending herself against mother's interference, I just behaved aggressively towards my sister.
When I got into an argument with someone and was very abusive, but they were a close friend and I later regretted it.
My boy-friend an I seperated on his initiative.
When I purposely locked my babysitter out of the house at age 4 because I DIDN'T LIKE HER.
This was when I saw, for the first time, a naked woman (prostitute) run away from a house after having been discovered by the guardian.
Stranded in the north of Fraser Island with a submerged 4 WD hire vehicle.
One of the greatest joiy was when I succeded in acquiring a motorcycle through my own efforts.
Before getting back the results of a test in school, when I had worked very hard and was worried about not succeeding.
I forgot to zip up my trousers, this was not noticed by anyone.
At rejection / being ignored by a loved person held in great esteem.
My mother told my uncle who is a Roman Catholic Priest (Redemptist Father) that I had been living in a de-facto relationship for three years. He was very, very angry at me.
Shame of not doing something well.
When I saw a picture, in the Gothenburg Post, of a totally demolished car with two fatally injured passengers. The car was so badly damaged that they couldn't get the bodies out at the scene of the accident.
A recurrent lovesickness.
Stealing money from my parents when I was young.
My room-mate locked up our room without specifying where I would find the keys. I had to spend several hours in my other friend's room.
During a lecture six students (including me) were asked to leave the class as we had not prepared for the lesson. I felt ashamed and angry.
When a friend told me that my education had nothing to do with our discussion. This friend has failed the 7th grade, what made me angry was that I had not used my education to argue.
When one of my closest friends died unexpectantly.
When I didn't get a certain job at Lillehammer which I wanted very much.
I felt fear when I sat for one of my exams. Though my fear was not quite justifiable, I still remember about it.
When I was young I felt ashamed when our relatives visited us and I hid myself.
When I learnt that the girl I had impregnated was in hospital and was on the verge of dying as she had refused to accept the responsibility of her pregnancy and had wanted to commit suicide.
When my boyfriend and I went out for a dinner and subsequently went to his family. We had a very nice evening.
Can't remember specific event - besides just being moderately happy until a year or so ago.
I was at home and we were sleeping when we heard some robbers breaking into our house.
Recent break-up with my girlfriend. We had been together for over a year. I was overseas and discovered over the phone (while I was at work).
When I was told that my daughter, who is at a boarding school, was very ill and that they needed me there the same day.
Whenever I think of enrolling in Organic Chemistry.
Helping older people on the toilet.
I insulted the girl to whom I had proposed when she turned me down.
I feared that I would not be able to hand in the book-report on time as I had started working very late. The book was difficult to read and my teacher did not accept my work as it was handed in late.
Disgust at a girl I know for continually feeling sorry for herself and never acting positively to do something about her problems.
I felt very frightened when a robber broke into our house and threatened to shoot my father if he did not part with some money. I was looking at the man with his hand on the trigger.
I read a newspaper article about dogs being stolen in order to use them for fighting purposes.
When I heard that I had achieved a place in form I.
I was biking with my boyfriend, the sun shining after a long period of bad beather, afterwards we spent the evening and night together.
We got news that my (almost) 21 years old brother died while visiting Europe of a cerebral hemorhage. It finally hit me an hour after we saw his corpse in the coffin. It felt like a door between himself and everything had closed and locked forever.
When I was curious about it and went to a spiritism session with a friend. I had already been there other times (many times when I was younger) but that day, even if I don't believe in spiritism I was terribly afraid that something would happen to me (sort of incorporation !).
Finished a difficult midterm.
When I had to travel alone, unescorted for the first time.   It was an over-night journey by train to a distant place.
I was playing a sport in an advanced PE class and many of the people were not advanced.
Class leader told me to collect homework for him.
When I did not find the rack used for beating up rugs, in the yard.
After being away on a holiday for 2 months, a friend, who lived interstate, had remembered when I'd get back and phoned to welcome me home on the night of my arrival.
A friend who shares the room with me, opened the window in the morning and left the room the whole day. When I came home in the evening, the room was so cold that I couldn't stay there.
I cannot recall feeling guilty in the near past.
REMARK - SUBJECT MAY NOT HAVE TAKEN THE EXERCISE VERY SERIOUSLY.
When a car ran into me. The moment that I felt on the street I thought "This is my end, I am going to die".
Some time ago I was present at the wedding party of two close friends of mine.
I was sitting in school, waiting for my sister to go home. Suddenly a boy put fire in a paper and threw it were I was sitting. The paper didn't get me, but I felt terribly disgusted at this cowardliness and irresponsibility that caused a great discussion. We went to the director and he, drunk as always, said that I was ... attention in school. I felt disgust of this situation, and of the persons implicated in it.
When, late at night, I discovered that they had stolen my bike.
The physical appearance of a meal.
At a party, several comments were made about the personal situation of one of the people present. She was rather affected and uncomfortable.
Saw someone acting in a false manner in public.
When I finally managed to get a specific sound from my guitar, after baving tried for a long time.
When I was 7-8 years old, I woke up one night and found myself alone at home. My mother had gone out to buy cigarattes from a machine.
In September 1984 I got two girls pregnant and the families of both the girls confronted me . The fact was that my parents were around and I felt guilty answering some of the questions.
When I was a child I was afraid of big dogs. One day when I came home a big dog was laying in front of our door. I was so frightened that I did not dare to enter the door and I waited until somebody passed by.
One evening a friend of mine was telling a fearful story, nobody took it seriously but I got frightened.
On seeing a scene of an accident in a magazine.
Winning a tight tennis match. One set to play, and the team was behind by 3 games. We won the last set 6-2 and won the match by a game.
We were riding in a friend's car. He was driving very fast and suddenly a another car crossed the road in front of us. My friend had to turn the car rapidly.
When my beloved uncle was shot dead by relatives.
I came home one day and discovered that my sister had borrowed my car and had gotten into an accident with it. My entire front bumper was destroyed.
When my brother bought me a nice pair of shoes from South Africa.
When people around me did not understand me the right way.
After I had lived with my boyfriend in a foreign country for half a year, I saw that it was impossible for me to stay with him (for economic reasons). We separated although I loved him.
When my mother met with a serious accident and there was danger that she would not survive and if she did she would loose her memory.
Saw my roommate messing up our room.
When I was responsible for getting my friend run-out in a vital cricket match.
Having agreed to share the taxi expenses, three people in the back of the car just ran off, leaving the person up front with the entire bill.
When the car I was driving skidded on an icy road and landed in  a ditch with one side against a rock.
Risk of being involved in a fight after a party.
When my brother was selected to the University of Malawi (the Polythecnic). I was very excited and I rejoiced due to one of our family members qualifying for University level at long last.
I had an appointment with someone at a certain time. The other person didn't appear.
I wanted to finish a relationship after 3 months. Unfortunately my friend had a different opinion. I could not answer his feelings this made him unhappy, and me feel guilty.
This situation happened when my friend me with a knife which I stole from him.
I have a very close friend who lives in another city and we have been writing to each other for a long time. The last time I went to her city, just to see her, I was disappointed to see how great the distance between us was.
The death of my mother-in-law after a long sick-bed. at the moment of dying I was with her.
An unjust refree decision at a sports event when I was the team leader.
I was together with my family one night, a few days after my father had died, during that conversation I expressed my displeasure because nobody understands me.
I was disappointed and angry at the bad quality of a documentay program on TV. In my opinion, the topic was important and the program should have been made with seriousness and consideration.
When I was admitted to the Sofia University.
Insulted by my mother.
When I stand at the bus stop for one hour waiting for the bus to arrive.
My boyfriend and I were getting dressed up and putting make-up on to go to a Halloween Party. We were dressing up to be two mimes. It was very enjoyable and I thought we looked really good, it was an accomplishment. We were alone in his house.
My mother, sister and I were thinking about old times, our childhood, and we had a very happy time.
Coming home one night - my sister was home, and had been drinking heavily and started picking arguments.
On my birthday, my closest friends were here at Berkeley pithched in a lot of money each and bought me ten records to replace some of my records that were stolen. They threw a small surprise party for me too.
When I could not find my 2 year old daughter. I ran and looked for her everywhere and could not find her. (I finally found her, she had gone to bed to sleep)
At the funeral of a friend about 20 years old, who was killed in a hit-and-run motorcycle accident.
Being misunderstood by friends.
Guilt after fighting with my sister (for) telling her how bad she was.
A friend asked to borrow my notes and I did not give them away (my notes too badly written)
When the man I loved decided to leave me forever.
When I almost ran over a small boy who suddenly was in front of my car.
A friend of mine who was driving a car ahead of me died in a car accident.
My girlfriend sent me a letter with a shiny picture in it.
I was watching television. It was about midnight when a very dear friend called saying that his father had died in an accident.
When I learned that my brother had spoilt an LP of mine.
Meeting other friends who got in the good universities.
I took french leave to do my homework.
When I have to go in for an exam and the examinor is a person with a whimsical character and unsteady requirements.
My love and me rented a room in a hotel one evening. We stayed there a few hours and when leaving the hotel, I felt ashamed.
I was very scared when I went to the examination hall for my M.Sc examination as I had studied a limited partion of the course thoroughly and I was in great doubt whether that would be asked.
When one of my closest friends failed to make it to the third year of university.
During my Summer vacations I planned a carnival for the community youth center with a few other volunteers. I was the head of the organizors and we spent over a month planning it. During this period we got to know and understood each other. We discovered each others potential and we planned many interesting things for the carnival. The day of the carnival everything was bright, the programmes went well and the attendants enjoyed it. I felt extremely excited about it.
When I was 17, I had a mystic vision. I melted into a dazzling light, which omitted perfect love. The physical experience became unimportant, I heard or saw the words "overcome egotism". The feeling of joy remained for month after that experience.
When I was put into a tennis team below my standard.
On my birthday, an old friend of mine sent me a card. I had not met him for a year and I was very glad that he had thought of me.
I often feel guilty, and it has to do with other people, e.g. if I haven't visited my older relatives for a while.
When I was appointed by the Ministry of health to join the teaching staff of one of the medical colleges.
I feel disgusted at my cousin, who is bad-mannered, does not know how to behave and talk to others, he does not respect elders and lies all the time.
I was walking to school and I passed by a red cross post where there were many soldiers. They began to pass remarks at me.
At home when they lost three pieces of my puzzle.
It was my mother's birthday. My father and I used to buy a present together. However, now I had bought something together with my girlfriend and I forgot to ask my father.
When someone does something wrong which affects me negatively.
I was walking home late at night from lectures and someone deliberately started following me. It was dark and I was scared.
When I found out that my girlfriend would not be coming back to UCB for one semester, but would be living in San Jose.
When I unexpectedly received birthday greetings from a person I like.
When I had exams a relative of ours, who lives in another city,á
came to visit us and I felt disgusted at him.
A close friend of mine was to get married in a weeks time when her father died of a heart-attack. I knew him well and felt bad on hearing of his death.
I was working in a job in which I could not work quickly enough, and was told that my work was not up to standard.
Once when I was playing table tennis I was already sure that I would win , but at last I lost the game.
When my darling found me walking hand in hand with another girl whom I loved also.
My nephew's mother just left one day (my brother and she were not married). My nephew, Anthony, was shaken. I was sad for him because a similar situation happened to me.
Cleaning the bathroom of my apt. and realizing my roommate who had lived there all summer by himself had never cleaned the place.
Once again, my life partner came back home drunk at midnight.
When I was sick my husband bought me a piece of cake.
Robbery mentioned under sadness.
When someone threw a firecracker into my room at 7:00 am in the morning.
My class winning against another class in a football match.
When I could study at university.
In the tram there was a fat, sickly looking woman in front of me who was asking for directions in a thick voice. When she got up to go a disgusting smell of urine came from her. I felt that I would choke.
My girlfriend left the house in which we lived together a few months ago. This made me very sad.
To fight with a sister and to know that she doesn't care.
I felt very sad when I heard that a friend had committed suicide.
At a party I saw two persons having a fight. The aggressions and the hate between these persons produced an unpleasant impression on me.
My roommate was rude to me.
When I was caught with my girlfriend in the house at night.
When I saw a horrible movie - Alien.
Bought something bad from the shop and they refused to change it.
I stole a coconut cake from a reception table and when I put in my mouth I realized that the host was watching me.
Reading a letter from a close friend who said he missed me and cared for me.
After much trouble getting together in the first place my boyfriend and I celebrated our first anniversary.
I had a discussion with my girl-friend. After some time we started to quarrel and at least - to get the upper hand - I said that she was not as important to me as she might believe. Some time later I apologized for that.
After making an effort to enter at University I found a course and a school of higher education which were compatible with my experience and potentiality.
A friend of mine remembered me when she needed me and did not even think about me when she did not need me.
When I am not able to fulfill any request of my son - can't take him out to ride his byke, because I am tired.
Once when I crossed the street, and was nearly trampled by a car.
A sudden end to the relationship with my first girlfriend.
When I was blamed for some of my attributes which are very often misunderstood, especially when one is very frank.
My father is someone I disgust. So when he comes close to me a feeling of disgust overwhelms me. When I stay a week-end at my parent's place I will remember it for long time.
My sister forgot to bring presents for my birthday, I was rude to her.
Losing my job that I had for 4 summers. I took it personally and cried for 6 hours off and on. I wanted to hide away and did for a few days.
When one individual takes advantage of and/or injures another relatively defenseless individual, consciously. I feel disgust mingled with anger. A person on my dorm floor verbally assaulted another person for having a certain religious belief.
My mother developed hipertonia and I think I too am to blame bacause with her it is a stress disease.
I was angry when I watched a ski-race. All the Austrian skiers dropped out.
I was very sad when I heard about the death of my teacher who taught me in Standard 8.
The sense of joy comes to me always after a period of depression, as an organic feeling for an upsurge. I don't exclude the situative feeling but in this case the reason is not in me, it's out of me.
Some time ago I slapped my son without trying to understand who the real culprit of a damage was. After that I felt guilty and bad but it was too late.
My mother wants to talk very often about her life. I dislike this because she always talks negatively about the same people whatever I do it doesn't help.
Someone stole a K10 note and the teacher thought that it was me when I was not responsible for the theft.
I lost my grandfather whom I loved very much. I had not known that he had been ill for a very time, when I received this message he was already dead.
Finding out that my grandfather had died. He lived in England and I had not seen him for 10 years.
It was when I was allowed to take my wife away from her parents after being refused for three times on grounds that she should first write her examination.
I was sitting in a restaurant with friends and I knew that in the meantime my girl-friend must have come to my flat and found the door closed.
When I found out I had passed all of my university exams.
When I was forced to call the telephone company about a bill concerning a disconnected phone belonging to my landlord. The bill was four months overdue and in the meanwhile he had been using my phone, he seemed to have no intention of having his own phone reconnected.
I was walking along the passage to my room (very near the anatomy laboratory) and I heard something and felt that there was some thing behind me. I looked back and there was no one. I started imagining that maybe it was a corpse.
My grandfather's death.
During an argument with my brother, I behaved rather intransigently, even cruelly, wishing to morally hurt the "person" opposed to me.
I felt happy at the end of a 10 day student camp. We had shared our hopes and aspirations and in the open situation so generated, we had made strong frienships and experienced our own worth as well.
I was happy when I understood that the girl I liked was in love with me.
I am thinking about death, the eternal of it, the unknown, the sense of being here. Often, laying in bed in the dark and quiet, the fear makes me feel dizzy.
When I think that I do not study enough. After the weekend I think that I should have been able to have accomplished something during that time.
When caught shop-lifting as for shame.
I feel disgust when hearing or seeing other people being treated inhumanely. For example torturing in chili.
I felt disgust when I saw a friend walking in stagnant water without putting on gum boots.
At a private party I literally fell into the food. The party was completely ruined for the host, carpets had to be cleaned, etc.
When I had my first oral examination after a long time; especially one day before the examination when I had the feeling that I had not studied enough and had not enough time to make up for it.
I was away to school (Primary). In my abscence my young brother at home got sick suddenly. My parents took him to hospital. On the way he died. It came to me as a sad, sudden and shocking news and I felt very sad.
Once in primary five, I had forgotten to take a book to class and the teacher punished me by asking me to stand at the back of the class. I thought about the way my mother would react if she saw me being punished. My mother was very good to me and though she did not see me punished, I felt sorry for her.
I do not have accomodation on the campus so I stay with my extended family, one young man used bad words while asking me to leave their home.
My father caught me having sexual intercourse with my closest cousin. There was nothing wrong with it but the female was too old for me.
After seeing a horror film - Omen. I could not sleep at night even though I closed my eyes. The last scene of the film kept coming back to me, I seemed to hear the girls in the film shouting at the devil. The devil did not have any expression on his face and I thought that he would choose me.
We got into a fight with some chaps in front of our family house. The value of the property destroyed was approximately 15 000 FIM. I felt ashamed when my parents came to know about this.
I knew a girl so lovely that everyone would like her. But she refused to accept my Christmas present and I tried to forget her.
I once watched the series called "Dynasty" on TV, and I detested it.
When I was driving home after several days of hard work, there was a motorist ahead of me who was driving at 50 km/hour and refused, despite his low speeed to let me overtake.
I was really pissed when the Russians boycotted the '84 Olympics. I had anger towards them and Jimmy Crter. I was very anxious to see it.
I spoke with a friend on the phone who I haven't seen in many years. It was a joyful event to talk to him.
The day I came home drunk after having attended a disco party.
After having been told not to take the car, I took it anyway and felt guilty about having taken it.
I had this feeling before my graduation and never dared to speak to my relatives and friends. Because of this feeling I would avoid situations, however I do not know the reason for this.
When another fellow worker decided to leave the company. We had been very close and we would not be able to work with eachother any longer.
One morning I was standing at the bus-stop and the bus passed by without stopping, even though there were only 8-10 passengers inside. I felt angry at the rude behaviour of the bus driver and conductor.
When I learnt that my younger sister had been expelled from secondary school because she was pregnant. That was the second time that this happened in the family - the first time it had been my elder sister.
After hearing the news about the death of my sister, I felt very sad.
I was angry when someone stole a magazine which I had borrowed from another friend and locked it in a drawer.
When my grandmother died - having to see my mother weep.
Some boys talking about nicknames of the lecturers, and I was too afraid of them to stop them.
When my ex-boyfriend didn't want to sleep with me anymore and I insisted. We made love but he felt very badly and I felt guilty.
When I was a child I hid under the sheets out of fear of darkness.
I was drunk one night and I insulted three ladies. The following morning they approached me and asked me the reason behind my bahaviour, I apologized for my unruly behaviour.
Dog dirt which thaws in the spring.
When I part with my friends I feel always sad for some time. I can't remember a concrete example now. For example I have just parted with a friend of mine and I am feeling sad.
When I let a person assume a fault that I committed.
When I was 13 years old I wrote passionate love letters to my boyfriend and I later found out that his sister had read them.
A friend called me and told me that she wanted to come and see me. She lived in a village at 50 km distance fom my home town. Next morning I expected her but she didn't arrive. As I got impatient I called her but her parents told me that she had gone skiing. I was very angry because I had cancelled an appointment to be able to see her.
Adultery with the girlfriend of a friend of mine, of which he learned.
My girlfriend came home after a business dinner at the most expensive place in town drunk as a skunk. Whats more she drove home and couldn't remember doing so. I was disgusted by her state and her actions.
I was so sad when I heard that my Uncle had passed away. He was the only man who was supporting my parents as well as myself.
I borrowed a car which was supposed to be used for a long journey a few hours later, and one of the tyres burst in the middle of the town and I did not know what to do.
In traffic I often get relatively angry with other drivers. Several transgressions make me mad, especially not yielding to priority traffic (e.g. coming from the right).
A friend of mine said in a group that she felt lonely and withdrawn from everyone because of mental deficiency.
One day I felt dizzy during a lecture. When the lecturer asked us as to who had heard the fairy tale - I was the only one who put up his hand and this surprised the whole class.
I was disgusted when our cricket team manager dropped me from the team.
During an argument an acquaintance accused me of having insulted her parents by having had sex in their house which they overheard.
In 1980 when I was in the 12th standard, we had arranged a small picnic in Kandala. One of my closest friends wrote a small and cute poem for me, which expressed the feeling of closeness we had for each other. I was very thrilled and I can still remember it.
When I was emotionally unstable I said things which may have hurt others or made them feel unhappy. When I calmed down I realized that I had been selfish and had not taken into consideration the feelings of others. Then I felt ashamed as someone pointed out my behaviour to me.
My mother carried on using mental pressure concerning something which was serious and a real burden to me.
Viewing the nuclear war film "Threads".
Years ago I fell in love for the first time. as natural for every school-girl I was day-dreaming. Later (after 3 years) we left each other. No one was to blame but I felt deep sadness. Even now I remember about it quite often.
I was of the opinion that 12.00 pm was too early to be back at home after going out, so I stayed away longer, knowing that my mother would be worried.
When my tennis match was interrupted because a kid cycled right into the court.
When I listened to a conversation of friends talking about the power of money.
It appeared that I gave correct answers to all questions during an examination of personality while I thought I performed very badly. Even now, I don't know how I managed it.
When I was a child, I was sometimes forced to eat things that disgusted me.
I arrived an hour late for an important meeting ( I had misunderstood the time).
During my Highschool time I was chairman of the student's comitee. In this function I once had to make a speech to a large audience and I was very nervous. After three sentences I forgot my text.
One evening I went fishing with some friends but we could not fish as a fisherman had already put his net there. We pulled out the net to find only crabs in it so we threw the net away. The net was large and may have cost $1000. The fisherman used the net to earn a living and we had had thrown it.
Quite unconsciously I offended a girlfriend of mine. It was really worthy to pass this fact over in silence, but I acted so, because I believed I was right. In fact it often happens to me to feel guilt, after I have already done the deed.
Insulting other people.
When I was selected to come here.
I was furious when the teacher pointed out in class that I was the quietest girl in class.
The time I drove my uncle's car, without having asked for his permission. It was the first time that I was driving a car.
I had just moved to the town where I study and I got a postcard from a good friend (from my home town).
The period when I was pregnant and when I gave birth to my son. I can say those were the happiest months in my life.
One day before Christmas, I went shopping with my brother and his friend. We had a good time. But on the way home we were almost in an accident because the weather was bad.
After an exam I was in a very bad mood as I had done it very    badly. At home, my mother took so long to ask me how things had gone that I lost my temper. I overreacted and made my mother cry. She still prepared lunch for me and did not scold me . Suddenly, I thought that it was my fault and I started crying.
When my son was diagnosed as having CEREBRAL PALSY, at age 5. He would have to endure so much labelling, stigma and discrimination, even though his case was relatively mild.
I was on vacation, and therefore I did not attend a meeting of the day care centre. Nevertheless, the very day I came back they called me early morining to ask me "what are you going to do about the matter ?" (which had been discussed in the meeting). Then I got angry.
After some friends had come to see me. They had stayed for several days and we had got on very well. When they had left, I had a feeling of emptyness.
I saw a man falling on the walkway. He seemed half dead, and was immobile. I felt disgust for the people who passed by without doing anything to help.
Feeling helpless, not being able to accomplish what I really wanted to do.
First time I slept with my present girlfriend. Had been best friends for a year but had been hesitant about getting involved emotionally.
When my friends did not ask me to go to a New Year's party with them.
I was very much ashamed after a friend beat me at school and I was defeated.
I had been very weary all week - no letters, no phonecalls, no visitors and then my younger sister came with some cheese, a card and some pocket money for me; and she told me that she was working now.
A few days back I was waiting for the bus at the bus stop. Before getting into the bus I had prepared the exact amount of coins to pay for the bus fair and when I got into the bus I put these coins into the box meant to collect the bus fair. I thought that I had paid and wanted to get inside. However the bus driver called me and asked me in an impolite way if the coins were stuck at the opening of the box. He had not seen me paying and there wasn't a stack of coins in the box. I could not understand this and the driver kept questioning me. He made me feel angry and at last i inserted a dollar coin in the box just to get away from him. Later I found that I had forgotten a few coins in my pocket and had not paid enough for the fair the first time. After I had entered the bus I could still hear him scolding me and I felt disgusted.
Slaughtering of animals.
When I found out that I could not go to the concert (after buying the tickets) because of a biology test which occurred the morning after.
I was afraid when my dog ran out through a crack in the fence when a train was coming.
A man whom I like, was drunk and tried to molest me.
Saw a dead rat on the street.
One day, when I was twelve years old, my brother took some slimy substance swimming on the surface of a pot of vinegar made of cider and threatened to throw it at me.
I was once raped (one year ago) by a man who was a lot older than me and whom I just met. Maybe it wasn't rape but the man wanted more than I wanted to give him since there were other people in vicinity.
When I was selected to a University College of Nursing.
When I heard that my Uncle had passed away in a road traffic accident.
At my Summer job, nobody looked after me in particular and I had to learn all on my own.
My sister had to undergo a very complicated operation, her eyesight was at stake.
Pictures of Nazi extermination camps on a T.V program.
Leaving home to move closer to University. As an oldest child, this experience was traumatic for both my parents and myself.
A friend was assaulted by a young man on her way home.
When someone ignores what I am saying or doesn't let me have my point of view and they monopolise a conversation.
I was in a train where a fight occurred. One person who was there opened his handbag and took out a gun, another who fought too looked among his things for a weapon to fight.
Insulted my girlfriend during a peptalk.
When I was given detention at secondary school.
I was badly beaten up by one of my friends during a wedding party.
Meeting a male friend with whose wife I was having an affair.
When I stood first in the B.A exams. Earlier I had heard of these boys and girls who were toppers, but when I first heard of me having topped I could not believe it.
While walking in town I noticed how the police harrassed a man who was under the influence of alcohol. They terrified him with the thought of arrest by driving close behind him on a pedestrian street. My disgust was directed at the gestures and the facial expressions of the policemen; they seemed to be enjoying themselves.
I had told a person unpleasant things in a bad manner. He was very depressed and caused an accident.
When I talked to a psychotherapist for the first time, I started to cry; first I talked to him but he did not say anything and after a while I was crying.
One night my father suddenly suffered from a heart attack which lead to breathing difficulties.
When I almost did something awful with a friend of mine and myself.
When a close friend, residing in the hostel, lost his father I really pittied him and the situation made me feel sad.
I bought a Christmas present for my girl-friend. On my way home I was really glad about having found such a suitable thing.
When an argument with a friend of mine over our behaviour towards another friend turned into a quarrel.  I lost my temper and nearly knocked him out.
At a party where the boys were telling revolting stories about the girls they'd been with.
This was the worst incident of my hostel life. I was insulted by a close friend of mine on the eve of the New year and it totally spoiled my New year's night.
When close relatives tried to dissuade me from studying Psychology because of its low status.
The inability to read a book at college.
One day I went for a bath. I took off my clothes and as soon as I had finished my brother came in. I felt sad and I found no reason why he came in.
Not being able to answer question in a seminar.
I know that a certain person feels very lonely, and that she always looks forward to seeing me. However, often I am too busy to visit her, then I feel guilty.
My uncle had promised to buy me a bicycle. As time went by and I had not received it yet, I asked my father to buy it for me. Later I heard that my uncle had wanted to offer me the bicycle on my birthday two weeks later.
When one teacher unjustly gave me zero in a test saying that I was cribbing.
Bisshop Ter Schure intoduced himself on TV to the Dutch Nation. He spoke as if he was God himself, and didn't discuss the way he had achieved this position.
I had to tell a collegue the time for an appointment with another collegue. I told her the wrong time - it was obviously my fault.
When my mother rejected my boyfriend and made unfair judgements on him.
A girl entered in the division where I work and greeted everybody but not me.
The day the results of the Chinese university was announced I should have been very happy; however my grandmother, because of her prejudice and misunderstanding, started a quarrel with my mother. She expected me to take her side and she deliberately talked of my mother's wrong doings. I was very angry because - one my grandmother was not being reasonable and two because it should have been a happy day and three we had moved into a new house that day.
The same situation as with sadness. I was afraid about what my parents would further do to distroy my relationship.
When I found out that the seat in the coach that I had booked had been sold to somebody else.
Having had a very heated argument with my sister - I began hitting her about the head with a newspaper I was holding.
I am going steady with a boy, but I had sexual intercourse with another one, and I felt guilty about it afterwards.
I was at school and afterwards went to work. After work I went to see a friend and stayed out late. when I got home my mother was awake and I felt guilty.
When my father talks about our relatives and favours them, I feel angry.
I saw a septic, smelling wound.
A good friend of mine who is at the moment in a foreign country. I didn't write her for several months and now I feel guilty.
When one has arranged to meet someone and that person arrives late, in the meantime one starts thinking about all that could have gone wrong e.g a traffic accident.
When I got my results ( I had made it to the second year ).
When my mother looked in my drawer (where I keep my personal things) and she found some porno photos that I have kept from more than a week, and split it.
This happened when I was in the 10th standard. The paddy crops were in a bad shape as it had not rained and there was no water in the well, so I was in a very sad mood. I came to the conclusion that I would ignore the paddy field, just 12 hours after this it rained for one hour. This was a very tense time and the rain brought me tremendous pleasure.
Sometime back I used to stay with my mum alone then time came when dad joined the family from his working place I found myself having fear for him for no cause at all.
Family discord and uneasiness due to something I did not communicate on time.
When I was not accepted as a student in finance and accounting.
One day, when I realized that I was alone, I felt fear of loneliness.
I felt it when I came home after the examination session and I said I had not passed my last exam.
I sensed this feeling when I passed successfully the second tour of a competition.
Against the will and without the approval of my parents I went for a few days to my boyfriend in Germany.
I felt sadness when I had to get separated from the woman I loved who had to leave for her motherland.
When I went to my boyfriend's house for lunch and saw his parents, I felt that they were watching me all the time.
Ran into a parking car on a bicycle.
Had a very good friend. We grew apart I found myself running her down to other friends.
I felt guilty when I had taken the car keys and I had an accident but as my parents did not know who was to blame, they punished my brother because I had no driving licence and they thought it impossible that had driven the car.
We had had a party the night before and we still had some liquors left the morning after. I went to the kitchen pretending to prepare some tea and was caught by my fiancee pouring some rum down my throat.
My sister and I were fighting as usual. She's older tham I am, bigger built and stronger I couldn't win in a physical battle and in a verbal battle I couldn't seem to get through to her to really hurt her.
I argued with my father on matters concerning marriage. Traditionally speaking, I was not supposed to, so I felt guilty of violating my traditions which I must hold in esteem.
My friends aren't working for the same common goal we all need to accomplish.
Naturally when I got myself discharged this was my second birthday.
I overturned in a canoe a few years back and I didn't know how to swim. Although I had a life-jacket on I still panicked.
When I got first division in the exams before leaving school.
Failing an examination.
When I got a good grade for an exam in statistics.
I'd just got the top mark in an exam.
I cannot remember a situation in which I felt ashamed. I was eating with some people and a little boy I took care of. I warned him often not to knock down his glass of mild. When I took out his chair I knocked down my own glass.
A boy in my class talking too loud in the lecture.
Saw people spitting in public.
One day I was in the countryside with several friends, and we began to eat figs, after we were all full we noticed that all the figs were full of worms.
One day in the intimity with my girlfriend I had an ejaculation.
The same for guilt would apply.
I was trying to have sex with my best friend's girl but she did not agree to it.
When I dated my friend's boyfriend after they had broken up.
I was looking after my cousin's little daughter; she fell down, was slightly injured and cried vociferously.
Not being able to help my friend to do homework.
My roommate boasting about her English lectures.
When my grandmother died; I had a stronger relation to her than to my mother.
When India won the Prudential cup by beating West-Indies in the final match and became the world cricket champion. West-Indies was the strongest of the eight countries which participated in the competition.
I once was accused of falling in love with someone's girlfriend which was not true because the girl was just a friend of mine.
My girlfriend started singing (she cannot sing) and did not stop despite my asking her to do so.
Last year my freshman yr. It was a day in March I did well on some tests. I seemed to finally adjust to college, it was hot and sunny. I was walking in front of a frat. when I heard Beach Boys "Surfin'USA". I had this overwhelming feeling that to be at CAL was good. I still have it somewhat.
When the person I'm having the affair with won't talk to me in public.
My son lives in the country. I feel sadness when I see mothers having walks with their children.
Asking someone to give me back the money I once lend him because I needed it myself.
When I was on a cave excursion with friends, I suddenly lost them and was afraid of losing my way in the cave.
My mother was very angry with my little sister and told her to put her hands on the table in order to beat her hands up. She forced by means of her power.
Getting back with my boyfriend after a year away - apart.
My mother was stuck by an apoplectic fit, was hemi-paralyzed and suffered an aphasia.
Before taking an exam.
I was appreciated by others, especially my family members and my friends.
I was raped once when I went through a dark alley at the back of our house. The man pushed me in the bushes. I fought back and succeeded to escape.
I am a school teacher. At a teacher-parent meeting I received a good deal of positive feed-back on my work both from the parents and through them from the pupils.
Discussing psychology with my friends before the lecture.
When I lost a wallet while travelling, since it belonged to the group I was very afraid.
Fear - paralysing - that I would not be accepted by the God who I believed to be there because I was "morally bankrupt" (before becoming a Christian and realising that that was why Christ came to free us from sin and to forgive us).
This person I know lied about how much income his parents made and received money through grants which he did not need. Another person is barely making it, did not lie, and did not receive enough money.
On school, during a fancy fair, there was a stand of amnesty international. There I read (for the first time) a description of the tortures of a woman, what they did to her.
When I had to come back from my village last Christmas.
I felt sad when my father was sick.
Girls dressed like foreigners in the university.
When my dog was stolen.
When I refused to fetch water for my aunty while she was busy.
Encouter with a prostitute.
I had drunk a couple of beers and my fiancee got angry at me.
When I had just moved into my new appartment I found a ventilator in the kitchen. I was going to clean it when I found that the drum was full of mud and slime. I felt disgusted.
When I discovered that my mother had been involved in adultery.
If they force me to eat something I don't like. For example, my parents always twaddle and whine, when I don't eat all the food.
I was very ashamed when I was neglected by a certain friend whom I was thinking loved me very much.
Failing in an examn.
When I began dansing, the teacher came and told me that I was very good and would soon get into the ballet academy.
After a big fight with my parents.
When the committee, to which I belong, was accused of having squandered the money of the association.
Almost crashing my car, something which could have led to great problems.
Telling friends about how my parents had been treating my brothers and sisters unfairly.
When someone I was close to became a paranoid schizophrenic and I was unable to see this person because of the situation.
I awoke at night and did not remember dreaming about antthing in particular. I just felt oppressing fear, it was dark and all the others were sleeping.
I felt very disgusted at a friend to whom I had given a Psychology book to read, and she did not care to give me back the book during the exams.
On the scenic railway at the fairground.
Yesterday, when the final whistle blew at the final match between OIS and IFK and it was certain that OIS had won the Swedish title.
A drunk man attacked his wife and wanted to humiliate her by insulting her. Then he turned violent and started to beat her in front of her child. She left it happen without saying a word in order not to make things worse. I watched the scene and tried to calm the man, but without success. Just because he was stronger we had to comply. From that day I detested him.
Not speaking to my sister-in-law due to lack of interest in a relationship on my side.
When I heard that my step-mother had treated my mother in a wrong manner.
When I fought with my sister and said that she had provoked this. She was very seriously scolded.
My cat was sick and I had to take him to the vet to be put down - no one else there to do it.
When I am in an auditorium with people and I ask a silly question so that everyone starts to laugh.
I had promised to say goodbye to a person who was going on a trip, and I did not turn up.
Sleeping with a girl on a Saturday night and then not contacting her in later days.
When I failed the grade 7 exams.
During a fight with my best friend.
Several good friends made me a surprise visit and this made me happy. They are my closest friends and we had not seen each other for a long time.
On Reberbahn, I was in a "restaurant" where drinks were overpriced. I did not ask for the prices beforehand, and when the bill came I could not pay the bill.
I attended a ceremony in Denmark which is comparable to our Halloween. They build a large bonfire and place a life size dummy of a witch. The crowd cheered when the dummy burst into flames.
Article published in the college newspaper.
It was about a fortnight ago, I was declared successful in the U.G.C exam this year (only four in Bombay succeeded). My joy knew no bounds.
When others let me down, fail to keep agreements.
On my birthday I got a present that I had desired for a long time.
I was told to do something I did not want to do.
The sadness came to me when I heard that my girlfriend whom I loved so much got married to another man before a rebuff from her.
Before going to school I usually take something to eat right at school and this time I took Father's money without him knowing it. I felt guilty and I returned the money.
One of my class-mates had a disease unexpectedly, he had been in a coma for six days in a hospital before he died.
The quarrel between my parents.
I hapened to overhear something which I was not meant to hear.
My father suddenly fell ill and died.
When I got to know that I had passed the university entrance exam. I thought that I had done one of the exams badly.
Won a prize for effort.
Leaving Melbourne to move interstate - leaving relatives and friends behind.
I heard of the death of a closefriend of mine. I had gone camping    with him shortly before his death and the whole thing seemed very sudden to me.
Once sitting in the cinema, I became very anxious (watching a "cold" film). I do not know the reason.
When I began to date a boy with whom I am till now. This was 16 months ago.
Low evaluation of other people's cares.
Someone told a lie that I had stolen his money.
I passed an exam that I was absolutely certain that I had failed.
The lift of Stockholm central station stank of vomit and urine.
My mother was unwell and went for many cancer tests. She spent time in hospital being opened and closed many times.
Stealing from my mother's purse when I was a little boy.
I was angry with a friend of mine who behaved in an affected manner.
I was angry at my boyfriend who had promised to come to see me but did not because he spent the evening with his pals.
Can't remember that feeling.
I was jogging in the forest, in the central park area, when I saw a man hiding behind a tree. I got frigthened, turned around and ran out of the forest.
When my basket ball team lost the qualification at a final.
My mom called early in the morning (On a Monday) and I had just seen her that weekend. I couldn't understand what could be so important as to make her call at such a strange hour. I missed the call and had to call her back that afternoon.
As in sadness (A), relating to this slaghter of fur-seals.
I got back too late after a Sunday going out without having called up home to tell where I was. my mother hadn't slept the whole night.
One night, after having decided to finish our relationship, I took my girlfriend home. While driving back home, I felt that I had not handled the whole thing very well.
When I was in the army, a room mate of mine came back from furlough and threatened another fellow with a knife.
I passed an exam which I was not sure at all to pass. I rejoyced at the result because the possibility of continuing my studies depended on it.
When the results of the part I exams came out I felt tremendous joy in my heart. The results came out after a long period of worry and anxiety, so it gave me endless relief and joy.
The death of my grandfather.
When I missed crashing, by a hair's breadth, into a man who came out 20 metres ahead of me when I was driving at 110km/h.
When I wet my head (or bed ?) one day my sister discovered it and reported it to the other siblings. So my mother had to scold me.
I was very happy when my scholarship to continue studying at UNZA was approved after it had been cancelled.
While he was drunk, my life partner tried to hit me. I felt scared and fled to the bathroom.
When my girl and I decided to get back together after our separation.
When someone took my things without having asked for my permission.
When a classmate of ours knocked on our door at 2 o'clock in the morning. I was disgusted at his behaviour.
When I realized that I had been wrong about a person close to me, because of pre-set ideas and prejudices.
My father called me (behind my mother's back) and told me that my mother disapproved my behavior in the weekend. However, he didn't tell me the details and left me with unanswered questions.
When I was doing research a few months ago, I had asked the Institute to sponsor me for a computer course which was held in TISS. However, because of the administrative officer I could not get the money.
I made a comment that at the moment didn't fit.
I had not seen my brother for five years as he was not in Spain.  When he arrived at the airport, I felt great joy.
When I knew that my husband and I were going to have a child.
I received a letter of acceptance from UNZA.
When I missed the chance of becoming a graduate in mining engineering, after having prayed one week in the church I was not even selected.
I got disgusted with a man who was beating a woman in the street. I just happened to be there but I was abhorred by the rudness.
I made a remark to my sister concerning her attitude to men, the way she talked and I compared her to an acquaintance of mine. Later, the same evening, my sister looked sad. I felt guilty about her sadness.
When I saw a large spider crawling up the wall.
Good dinner on the National Day.
Once, I accidentally injured a boy in the eye and he almost lost it.
Saw my father with that woman he is married to now.
I was asked to stop studying economics, a field which interested me, by my employers.
When I wore a grotesque figure hanging down my back.
When I heard that my father had passed away. I could not eat for a week and was only crying. I could not find the courage to go to bath.
I was so excited once that I told my classmate that she was old, this hurt her and I felt guilty.
I haven't often felt this feeling. Once someone stole my garment.
My friend often played a joke on me and sometimes I thought that he was a nonsensical person. Once when we went to a friend's house he walked in first and shut the door firmly behind him. I felt that he did not respect me and moreover I was his friend so he should not have behaved like that. I was very angry (as it is I was in a bad mood then).
When I received the S.Y.J.C results, the marks I obtained were not up to my expectations and I missed admission in engineering.
I had too much homework and examinations and I did not know how to organize my work.
When I used to go to my chief asking about any doubt about the job and he didn't care, didn't answer me, leaving me speaking alone.
It was on January 1st 1985 when I accidentally broke a Fanta bottle in a certain bottle store in Zomba.
Incomprehension and repression towards a child's behaviour, commonly not accepted, and making the child cry.
We were starting a student project, and the teacher we talked to was very negative and not very helpful.
When I wanted to go into a house, there was suddenly a big dog standing beside me. It was hardly moving, but I did not know how it would react later on.
Sitting in the dorm when the guys were verbally reading letters in Penthouse.
In a situation whereby a friend's actions were deliberately against my wishes and (with) no regard to my feelings.
I liked a boy and I would feel shy and then blush. The more I wanted to avoid it the more I blushed.
The stories about my aunt who was beaten and humiliated by my uncle.
Confession to my parents about my involvement in a moped theft.
Recently when I made a slip and blurted out indecent words in my mother's presence.
Finding out I was chosen for the English lectures.
I faced this feeling when I realized I wasn't admitted to the institute in the first classifying, in spite of the high mark I had got at the entrance examination.á
One evening I saw the old guard-man I knew, change into something inhuman for about 5-10 seconds, this really frightened me.
When I was mistakenly accused of being a thief when I accidently gave a fake coin at a counter. I realized this before I handed over the coin, but the man called me a thief and called a witness.
My grandmother died suddenly last summer.
I was an instructior in a youth organization. Whenever we, the instructors would have a meeting the advisor would be present. He did not understand our worknig conditions but talked a lot and had a lot of outdated ideas. Whenever we disagreed with him he was very discontent and said that we had a prejudice against him. Why did he have to treat us as his subordinates ?
When I failed an exam last Summer. I had worked very hard for it and I was very disappointed thinking that it was hopeless to continue at college. I did overreact.
When my close friend was involved in an accident and passed away instantly. He had gone to buy a new car and had asked me to wait at his home so that I could see his new car.
When I understood that I was admitted to the University.
A friend and a girlfriend went to Rome for 10 days with their class. When they were back home I heard people tell "strange" stories about my friend and that girlfriend.
I had a schoolmate who went to the hospital as her brain was bleeding. She fell unconscious for three days and when I went to see her I saw the miserable state the family was in. Moreover I could not do nothing for her. I was very sad. Finally, she died.
I worked at a lawyer's office during Summer and I got a very good reference from him.
After making a joke about a friend's marriage that was too personal.
My parents were out and I was the eldest at home. At midnight a male stranger phoned us and spoke to me in a rough language. I hung up and heard someone walking outside our door.
When I decided to move away from my parent's home, my mother told me that it was as if a part of her had been torn out of her.
When I knew about my sister's in law finacial situation and what she was facing.
I heard that a friend had died in an accident; group situation: suddenly a friend came in and said "Have you already heard that..."; there was a terrible consternation, silence, then everybody shouted excitedly "How could that happen...".
In an important situation for me, my father behaved inadequately.
People talking in an important lecture.
When my mother died in August 1978.
I felt ashamed of feeling sorry about myself when I passed through the situation of being betrayed by my girlfriend.
When I arrived too late at a meeting of mentor (the night before the introduction of novices on the University start).
I am a kindergarten teacher and I am thoroughly weary of my job. After having taken the university entrance exam I suffered from anxiety for weeks as I did not want to carry on with my work - studies were the only alternative.
I have felt this feeling when a person whom I believe and respect, lied to me.
Having an affair with my good friend's best friend. And every time I see my best friend I feel guilt because we can't tell him.
A person misinterpreted what I had told her. I had told her that I had failed to insert a NasoGastric tube but she went and scolded the patient that she was being uncooperative.
My boyfriend told me that I had very high demands towards him. In my opinion this was wrong.
When I made love with someone who I didn't really love. Sometimes I even considered him unlikable.
Foreign students playing loud music in the night before the biology examn.
I felt guilt when my friends were punished to slash grass at the gound because of making noise in class. I was in the group of noise-makers but I denied having done any noise.
At an undeserved attitude toward a man, when human personality is not treated decently.
At the beginning of the year I moved to a new city - I felt sad as I had to leave many friends and family members behind.
I was in a sanatorium. In front of me a boy fell down from his invalid's chair. I could help him but I didn't. I felt like being paralysed.
Someone who always took care for the key of the sportshall stayed away without letting us know. Next time he did as if nothing had happened.
My father gave money to my brother but not to me.
I was taking a shower in a cubicle in France. Then I discovered that a few children were loking at me from the adjacent cubicle.
A drummer who had borrowed my drums destroyed both the drumskin and the sticks. He did not repair them nor did he tell me about it.
I felt a sense of shame when I compromised a colleague of mine. I got an information from him which I quite out of place shared with another colleague of mine and it resulted in an unpleasant consequence for him.
When I met a friend of mine after several months.
My love proposal was turned down by a lady I really loved.
When, after a long time of searching I got my first job.
I felt very sad when I saw the first list from the names of the people who entered at the University and my name wasn't there.
When I was selected to the university of Zambia.
My parents and brother came up over the weekend. We are a very close family. This was my first year away from home. They brought one jacko-lantern with a new design. That is the old joke that we have a great new design - it's always the same.
The greatest guilt I felt and I didn't know if it was really justified is that when I was a child I had a brother very close to me. He became ill, and asked me to see him in the hospital. I didn't go, when his situation became worse in the U.I.T. (Unity of intensive therapy) I went and he died.
When I failed the grade 7 twice and only passed it the third time.
The time I learnt that I had passed my Malawi School leaving Certificate Examinations.
In the classroom we discussed with the teacher. He told me things that affected directly in a negative way my job and my behavior in the classroom in front of the other pupils.
A girl with whom I was staying having sex with a person for about 3 nights running, and then with his brother the following night, and back again.
When I broke the piggy bank of my brother and my mother discovered that.
A girl whom I trusted and with whom I had shared personal, confidential matters twisted the facts and told it to a common friend of ours. When this common friend told me the version my friend had told her, I was angry.
When I recently managed to get my first consulting assignment "myself" i.e on my own initiative.
When I was young I was playing football near my parent's house and while playing I fell on the ground. At first I thought I was not seen by anybody, but when my mother laughed I felt very ashamed.
My relationship with a boyfriend was finished and I didn't succeed a years-course.
When I bribed the person who caught me doing something I was not supposed to have done. I was very ashamed of what I had done.
When someone told a secret I told them not to tell.
Almost always when I go to fetch the results of an exam.
When I saw the certificate results, I did not feel very happy as I did not realize that I had got all the credits until my classmates pointed it out to me. My parents and my relatives praised me and I realized that my results were good i.e 2A, 5B, 2C. I felt satisfied with the results and was happy.
I felt glad to live again when I went to a meeting about the "Knowledge". There are 4 techniques of meditation that connect you with the essence of the human being.
Thinking about friends overseas.
At night when I was coming from Lingadzi Inn I heard a hyena crying in the Lingadzi jungle. I was alone.
When I had passed MCE examinations.
My cut was run over by a car. After searching for a long time I found her lying in a kerb. I was rather shocked and angry with the driver.
I was watching a procession during the Holy week, and a penitent approached me.
In a sexual experience with an unknown woman where after the sexual act I only could go away without looking backwards.
I read a newspaper report that a little boy was forced to look while his sister was raped.
I was very happy when I discovered that I had passed my first year examination and was among the thirty students who would major in economics.
Once by coincidence I clutched a stranger (in a rather intimate way), thinking it was my boyfriend. When by hindsight I feel ashamed when thinking about it.
When someone in my family died.
When I was caught in an elevator and it got stuck between floors.
I put my head into the pullover of a girl to see her breasts. The girl looked at me so that I felt ashamed.
I was nearly knocked down while I was cycling.
At school I was talking to a classmate about mathematics. I had grown weary of it and said : "I would like to throw the book on the arse of Kuikka". My classmate said : "Now, he is sitting there and waiting for the book" (Kuikka was one of the most quiet boys of the class). I was ashamed of myself.
When I provoked a fight with my mother, hurting her feelings very much.
I had not written to, or called my grandmother, who was lonely, for a long time. My mother asked me to call her on her behalf and when I did so, my grandmother was delighted and she told me that she had been waiting for some news from us.
After having failed my driving test.
Obscene phone calls.
I was stopped from entering a party while I was at School but I had an Invitation card with me. This was done because they said I was too young to join elderly people.
Once again my parents distroyed a relationship.
When I have a plain appearance.
Years ago on Christmas Eve I felt very sad because I realized for the first time how I missed my father who had died at Christmas Years ago.
My peers didn't want me to meet someone during rush for fear that I would give her a bad outlook on our Sororoty house. I shouldn't have seen this, but they blew and I did.
It was in March 1985 when one of my fellow students borrowed my wristwatch and after sometime he broke a glass of that watch I got angry when he was telling me but the anger didn't take long to fade.
Always when I get separated from my friends and relatives from my home town.
My elder brother and I have not always had a good relationship and I feel ashamed of myself as I do not call him to talk to him nowadays.
I am ashamed at myself sometimes when I am working with handicapped people and don't wish to be seen in public with them.
When I was pointed out as a problem child in primary school and my mother took the teacher's point of view.
As a child when I was blamed for peeing in the swimming-pool.
I felt happy at the settlement of our marriage, even though we are from different socio-linguistic backgrounds our parents agreed to the wedding without any conflict or discussion. We had thought that they would object to the wedding but it did not happen.
I wandered by mistake into the safety zone of a shooting range, and was shot at.
After a short stay in Marocco we missed the ferry-boat back to Spain and we had to look for an accomodation. By chance we met a man who offered to take us to a camping site. While I was sitting in his car I was terribly afraid because I had heard of people being robbed in Marocco.
My parents inherited an appartment and this made them behave in a peculiar manner.
I felt disgust after watching a picture on television about torturing political prisoners in India (this happened in the India of Indira Ghandi).
I ride my motorbike in my village and everyone stares at me as if I was a rare specimen.
I felt joyful when I heard that I had been selected for College education.
When my father came into the bathroom and saw me standing there naked.
I was given an exam which I thought did not measure at all my ability or my knowledge of the subject.
Guy I cared for went back to Canada to live.
I was caught doing something I was not supposed to do. I did something with the person who caught me (bribe) and even though he promised not to report me, I am still frightened.
When my aunt took her own life, I felt guity for not understanding that she needed support.
Yesterday in the elevator a man started smoking, this is something I just can not tolerate.
When I saw parents punishing their little child for something he had not done. In my opinion, even if he had done it he should not have been punished for it.
Very intoxicated men who incite each other to fight.  I met a vile smelling man on the tram who got closer and closer to me till I got up, then he got angry.
I had made an error in planning a programme and had publicly accepted the mistake, despite repeated requests not to bring the matter for discussion a professor kept constantly passing remarks. I reacted angrily.á
It was some years ago when one evening some people came home and told us my father was badly injured in an accident.
Three weeks ago a friend of mine bid me good-bye before going abroad. I felt happy for her as she was achieving something by making the trip, but I also felt sad as I would not be seeing her for a long time.
When I met my mother after months of absence.
When I was in lower six class during the Summer I joined a research group of the Chinese university student union. I knew a lot of CV students there. A year later one of them was travelling in mainland China and he got T.B. He died a few weeks after coming back to H.K. We all got together for the funeral and when I looked at the body for the last time I felt extremely sad.
I was hitchhiking and was picked up by a stranger he drove into the woods and wanted to make love with me, I refused and escaped from the car. When walking in the wood and hearing the car I was afraid.
When I went to see the dead body of my uncle. This was a very dramatic expreience as it was the first time that I entered a mortuary.
When my parents work very hard and get tired - while I go to school and study instead of helping them. I feel that I'm letting them down, disappointing them.
When I came back from my holidays.
Losing my girlfriend who made an end to our relationship. By this I lost an important source of support, certainty and joyful moments. I cried very intensly when that happened.
I found a baby opposum on the road and took it home and cared for it for a week. It had to be force-fed and carried in a fur pouch under my jersey. My father had the vet put it to sleep as he said they carried diseases.
I broke my friend's badminton racket and she kept quiet about it.
I had a summer job in Sweden, and my boyfriend came to meet me on my birthday.
Receiving a nice present from my parents.
I received the results of the test paper of my major subject and I found that my result was not as good as a classmate who had recently changed his major subject.  I felt very ashamed.
I greeted a friend and he did not respond.
When I passed the whole weekend with my boyfriend, coming back home on Sunday afternoon he met my parents for the first time.
When I asked my girlfriend to marry me.
I had to wash my grandmother because she did not get to the bathroom on time.
When I first heard that Tage Dannielsson had died.
When my uncle died I saw a funeral for the first time. All people stood around the open grave and cried.
I was forced to leave an unforgettable friend.
Went to a movie with a date, walked on the beach (in Alameda) spent some time afterwards in her apt.
When I was with the girl I love very much, for the graduatiion ball.
Going to the examn not well prepared.
When I got to know that my father had passed away.
Saw an arrogant girl walking pass by.
When my sister died in a fire accident at home.
Deceived by other people and ran into trouble.
When in an economic crisis I got an unexpected sum of money.
I was very disgusted the first day I went to put a dead body in the Mortuary. There were many dead bodies and some were uncovered so we had to put on top of the other bodies.
The day the Real Madrid team of basket ball qualified for the final at Athens.
A friend doesn't let me study when I want to. She doesn't feel I need to study and doesn't understand how important studying is to me. I get very angry with her.
My father was very angry with another man in the presence of my friends.
My girlfriend who had been very far away from me came to my place. She saw me and ran after me. I didn't know that she had come. I couldn't see her. She held my shoulders standing behind me.
A colleague's 17 year old daughter is seriously ill with cancer and has only a year to live. I heard about it 6 weeks ago.
I was for the first time on a brigade this year. At that time my sister was to bear a child. I was mad with joy when I opened the telegram from my parents and learned I had a nephew.
I was very happy when I passed and went to form I. It was a great relief for me as I had been very worried considering the large number of pupils who fail.
I was on my way home by bus. A man who had drunk a fair amount of alcohol started talking, trying to hug and pat a woman sitting next to him. Fortunately it was not me.
After days or weekends where I did not accomplish the amount of sudying that I wanted to because of more pleasant activities which come up.
Squeezed the puppy in the door.
I was very angry at my father when he didn't give me as much money as my brother to use for studying. Once again my brother was better off then me.
There were old people in a crowded bus and I did not have the courage to give them my seat. I closed my eyes to sleep and then opened my book to read. In my heart I wanted to give them the seat.
I had a quarrell with my boyfriend and decided to finish with him and and my Easter holidays.
I broke a glass of glycerine at the Z.C.B.C store in Ndola.
After my +2, when I did not get admission in B.E I felt disgusted.
When a classmate hit me on my occipital region when I was busy studying and concentrating on my classnotes.
Being insulted by my roommate.
When I went out with a friend of mine to meet her ex-boyfriend who didn't know that she was engaged to be married.
When a person that I like very much got near to me.
When they changed my office to another room without my agreement.
Passed an exam by 2 points.
When I was involved in a car accident last November, after the first fall of snow. I lost control of the car and it spun round and landed on the opposite side of the road, on the hard shoulder. It was stopped by a pole on top of a bank sloping down to a stream.
When I went to the sauna for the first time and there were men and women.
I was travelling in the South of Brasil, near the end of the year. I was well settled with 3 friends. At the evening of 31 M., somebody, also with us, took from his purse pints of all colours, and the 4 of us, and other friends, that were at the same beach, painted each other and we went to the beach with champagne.
When my wife told me that the refrigerator had stopped working.
About the car (sadness) I felt anger the way I acted after negotiating it.
Afraid of a dead body.
I had to tell someone that I was interested in remaining celibate and alone. And that my spiritual master strictly prohibited sexual relations outside of marriage. This caused great fear through lack of conviction afraid to hurt someone's feelings despite my own being hurt in the process.
A railways officer, when asked by the ticket checker to produce his tickets, got very aggressive and started abusing and using his authority in a very wrong way.
When my chief accused me of an error that I hadn't made.
When I passed a very important exam.
My being admitted to UNZA.
I had lunch with my ex-boyfriend and did not mention it to my fiancee. I felt guilty despite the fact that I felt nothing for my ex-boyfriend.
When my father died I felt myself alone and the fear possessed me. I was a child and all my sisters and brothers (8) were young.
When I lied to my best friend about a boy she really liked but he didn't like her. I told her he did and she bugged him for a long time embarrassing herself.
When my natural parents name would show up on papers and not my, what I call real name.
When I just took a shower with a girl down the hall. I felt that I had let my devotion to God go out the window. Although nothig happened I felt ashamed.
After having considered it for hours I was able to overcome my scruples and to call a friend with whom I had fallen in love. I realized that my decision was right - and was very glad.
When I gave birth to my son and saw that he was alive and that I had managed it well. He was born a month too early with a malfunctioning lung. This happened a year ago.
I spent a weekend in San Diego visiting my boyfriend Rob. We were at the airport and my plane was just about so leave. After saying goodbye, I boarded the plane. It was the hardest thing to do and it was a sad trip home.
A friend of mine trusted me to back her in a decision she had made. But when the moment came I did not agree with her opinion.
Suddenly found out that I was the lasr one to leave the anatomy room.
Without my permission, my son had made popcorn after coming back from school. The consequences were a spoilt kettle and chaos in the kitchen but what could have happened with the hot grease ?
We were at a hamburger bar and a man at a table nearby started coughing and spitting into his plate.
My father accused my brother of having bumped his car, and it was wrong.
During lunch with some classmates, a priest was also there. He was eating desperately as if someone was going to take his plate away. He did it with gluttony. He wiped his hands on his suit several times and it was full of crumbs.
I felt very angry when a mishanga seller robbed me of the transport money I had to go to school.
I have been afraid several times. What marked me was that I almost didn't enter University.
I felt much anger when my fahter interferred in my relations with another person whom I liked very much, ending something that I adored.
Had to tell people that my parents are divorced.
Left alone in the dining hall at night.
One day my friend told me that she had heard that I was moving about with her boyfriend. I was disgusted with the news.
I failed my Nutrition paper which was the paper ending the course.
I lead a rather secure life. The only thing I can remember is a song from the nineteenth century which is against alcohol. Both the melody and the word (although naive) effected my emotions.
I was going around with a foreigner's wife and my entire family got to know about it, this was just when I had become a Christian.
It was when my father beat my mother while she was ill for three weeks and now she was recovering.
When criticizing something about a person and then realizing that the person whom one is talking to is similar.
This was what I felt when my boyfriend went to Bourgas to study there. I had the feeling I would lose him. Anyway the distance Plovdiv-Bourgas seemed to me so great.
My friend and I worked for the community centre by holding a booth. One day my friend went off to another booth to play. This meant that I was very busy and could not maintain order. His behaviour disgusted me.
Before an examination.
I bacame involved with a boy for a very brief moment not because I liked him but because I needed some sort of company. The consequences weren't as I expected and caused me much shame.
When I received a message that my brother was seriously ill and was in hospital.
Sadness, no, I felt something much stronger when my father died.
It was last week on Sunday that I was walking with my girlfriend along Kawale road going to town so I tried to stop a car for a lift and the driver didn't stop and I felt shame because people were looking at us.
When our school was raided by the pupils of the boys secondary school who beat us up.
Being told that I am a stupid person.
I wasn't able to see my girlfriend on her birthday and because I was late arriving home from uni, I didn't phone her as arranged at a certain time (she rang in the meantime).
I went to visit friends and it was very companionable.
In a film, there was an episode where they used a chain saw to cut a man. I could not look at it, but I could not avoid listening either. I sought shelter in my boyfriend's arms.
When I saw a male engineer one year and came back to find he was now a female (I don't know it/them personally).
I have been thinking of changing my major for a few months. My original major was Chinese language and it blocks my way. I have to face many problems at the sametime and I do not know what is real and virtuous. I do not know if I am not interested in Chinese or if there are other factors which make me sad. I am not very clear on what I can do for the study of Communication and Journalism. I am not clear about what I can do. What are the limitations ?  I hesitate but I feel more adjusted now.
I am currently taking CS 50P. I had to finish a couple of assignments but I was hindered because I could not get a passing score on my program.
I told my friend something confidential which was supposed to remain between the two of us. The next thing that happened was that a girl who is not even close to us came laughing and askad me to tell her about it. I was very angry with my friend as I had trusted her.
Sitting in a bus, I heard behind, the voice of a girl I was friendly with. After her talking for some time with another girl I decided it wasn't her in fact that someone miming her, which it was when I finally looked. I was talking to a friend at the time.
My mother along with some of my friends gave me a surprise birthday party - they invited a large number of my friends along too.
Celebrations on the graduation day with the orchestra playing in the garden ( I am a part of this orchestra).
There was a cat on the street. It had been run over and its head was open. We passed beside it.
Brother provoked anger. It was when mother and father were away and we had to look after ourselves. He accused me of being selfish and a snob.
When I heard a rumour that the 1st year exam results were out. I had fear that I might be one of the failures.
When I had an argument with my grandfather the day my younger brother was born.
I had been away from home for a long time and when I came home I was delighted. It was wonderful to see familiar, dear people and I was rejoycing in advance. I had been feeling very lonely.
Not quick enough to help the lectors to catty things for the lecture.
Being unable to stop urinating on the bus.
Going out with another girl besides my girlfriend and not telling her.
When in the end of a semester I got the approval in a matter that I judged very difficult.
I saw in an ice-cream kiosque a cockroach walking through a cornet.
When the result of a project work was treated nonchalantly intead of being criticized by the teacher.
When I was younger I often saw my father come home drunk (he had big problems at that time). Once he woke me up in the middle of the night and shouted at me.
I remember that when my mother died the day was sad and every time I think of it I am saddened by the loss of my mother.
When I had lied to a friend/son about some things we had discussed and I had to be one better.
When I failed the entrance exam to IMEC.
When a close classmate failed a year.
I went to eat at my aunt's house and she served macaroni with a horrible appearence. I felt the sensation above. The worst was that I was practically obliged to eat.
I saw a cripple in rags with small children in Italy. He was probably an imposter.
During the Christmas holidays, I met some of my old friends, after not having seen them for six months.
In a day when at work, in school, and relationships came out as I wanted, and I was recognized in my work.
I felt disgusted when I went to one of the Central hospitals where my hope of getting good treatment was turned down by one of the doctors who said I was alright despite my feeling pain.
As a child - stepping on a rusty nail - being told that I might get tetanus.
When I had to plunge in a swamp of fetid and stagnant water.
When my flute-teacher was replaced by a new one.
My friend has to go on field trips, he just told me.
My mother in law slept in my bed.
When I got a low grade in an administration course.
When I found out how the people of Ethiopia were starving and their government was spending millions on celebrating being in power so many years. Then I saw all these people on TV needing food, etc.
On the occasion of assignment of tasks and responsibilities in which such an assignment, dispropotionately carried with it high responsibility and low ability of organisation and resolution.
It was extremely sad to me when I heard that a patient who I was taking care of in hospital had passed away. He had some abdominal pains.
When my aunt told me angrily that I was a good-for-nothing and she was fed up with my behaviour.
I was at a boarding school during my primary school days. I was broken so I pretended I was very sick. My father came and he picked me up. He spent a lot of money on medical expenses which all proved to be negative.
Fighting with my father while drunk.
I couldn't fulfill a promise.
I felt ashamed when my lecturer said in class that I happened to be the dullest of all.
When a man spoke very sexistly in the company of some friends of mine.
When I lied to the physiology teacher.
I was drinking a glass of wine and eating something when there suddenly appeared pictures about the famine in some parts of Africa.
Finding out that we cannot have good references because China is poor.
I saw some images of a decapitation in a horror film.
On holiday, seeing the lanscape in Gerona.
I was alone in my parents' house, having made plans to spend the afternoon with a lover (plans which the lover cancelled), watching a movie and considering my life and circumstances - pressures of examinations in particular.
Birds had made nests in our thatched roof and they were flying and flapping their wings in the bedroom at night. It was very dark and I could not even see my nose. I did not know that it was the birds till my mother told me so.
I planned to travel a distance of 20 kilometres on my bike. I planned this when I was working in the hospital. When I went to the house I found that a friend had taken my bike without my consent.
I learned that my girlfriend had been unjustly missed from work.
During a lecture, a colleague who did not know anything about the subject, got on my nerves asking silly questions.
A very close friend of mine died. I read it in the newspaper. I didn't know what to do and thought about it the whole day.
When my co-resident opened the bathroom door while I was bathing inside.
When I gave water to the plants of a friend. Then one plant fell over, and a little statue broke. I, of course, had to tell him everything.
When I was in the toilet and someone came in.
I could have passed the last exam of the public competition, but I failed as I had not studied.
Fear is an emotion that I experience very often. Naturally this is during exams and subsequently while waiting for the results. However there is one occassion when I was paralyzed with fear. This was when I was doing my M.A.-I, and we had a series of student lectures. I was one of the participants and my lecture happened to be the opening lecture. I had been confident all morning, about twenty minutes before the lecture, my confidence started failing me. I felt my heart go cold, my lips go dry and I was really paralyzed. This incident of fear is still fresh.
I had a picnic with old classmates, we chatted and played games.
Can think of no time that I have felt fear.
Passing a very difficult examination which I didn't expect - MCE.
When I was in a little fishing boat and we ran into hard weather in the open sea.
A teacher giving a test was called by a student by his first name. He (the teacher) said that he didn't give him this liberty.
When I meet old past pupils of mine - and find they are all doing well - I feel joy. Yesterday I met a young woman (20 yrs) I'd taught her at 6 yrs, then at 12 yrs and hadn't seen her for last 3-4 yrs; she was no longer a waitress but a meter maid for Council.
I was talking badly about a person to some friends, and discovered that his daughter was listening.
I didn't like my former fob and felt joy when I received a telegram offering me a new one that I though better and for which I had been waiting.
When I was accused by my brother of having stolen a 5 kwatcha note from my mother's bag. I was beaten up for this, the money was found later.
When I passed the driving test after three failures.
The time I first saw my cousin who is living in Tanzania.
When an old schoolfriend phoned me to arrange an appointment to talk about old memories. I hadn't seen him for 8 years.
When a mistake occurred at work which I was not responsible for. This was disclosed later.
My episode of fright happened when I came to study. I had to stand in front of my still unknown fellow students and talk about myself. My hands shook, I flushed and became tongue-tied.
When one of my best friends commited siucide during these holidays.
A person whom I thought to be honest took and spend the little money that I had and I had no way of getting any money in the few following months.
When I was 12 years old, some friends of our family had come to watch TV. I lay on the floor and moved my pelvis. When the other people had gone, my mother told me that it had looked as if I had wanted to make sex.
Taking a trip to crocokile country I fell out of the boat and was motivated by fear of being eaten to perform great swimming feats.
When I had to talk to some strangers, from whom I was expecting a negative answer.
When I got myself the kind of girlfriend I had been hunting for a long time.
When my mother went through an operation, it was not very serious but I was sad and could not sleep before the operation.
I was filled with joy when I heard that I had been selected for a University course.
I feel a strong anger when I am treated unjustly.
I told my boy friend not to park in a certain place because the car would ger towed away - he didn't listen and it was towed away. At that stage, our finances were below the poverty line & it cost us $10.00 - all the money we had to get us through that week (including rent).
I could have been killed by a falling object.
I call my mother at least once a week. However last week I completely forgot. This morning she called me, she thought I felt ill.
Jealous of my husband's old girlfriend. We met her with her husband and there was a lot of reminiscing.
My girlfriend had started going around with another boy. Her cousin, also a friend of mine, asked her as to who she preferred. Both of us were present and she chose the other guy.
When I got separated from the woman I loved.
My boyfriend with whom I had a longlasting relationship, fell in love with another girl, then he asked me something which implied that he loved that girl more than he loved me.
When I passed the university entrance exam. I had thus finished with a difficult period of my life and I was about to begin one which I had desired a lot.
Someone had to do a lot of efforts to make something work. With my help he would have finished much sooner, but I wasn't in the mood to help him.
When I passed my final examination at school.
Seeing a film in which there were several bloody crimes.
This happened when I went to check my first year results, I had thought that I would fail and I found that I had a clear pass in all my courses.
When I was travelling home by bus and suddenly the bus hit and the bus leaned against a wall.
My grandmother is a highly authoritative person, who lives alone, is independent, but doesn't know to live without commanding the others. I hate this!
When a girlfriend left me.
I wanted my boyfriend to stay when he didn't. He stayed but when he left I felt ashamed because I should have let him leave when he wanted. I was too selfish.
On the way back from a Summer spent in Sweden, I drunk with a man in the train. I had drunk so much that when I got home I fell asleep in the entrance hall. I have never drunk that much, neither before nor after that incident. I was ashamed because my mother and my sister had to see me in that state and my father had to carry me to bed.
I felt disgust as a result of one of my midterms - I thought I had prepared well for it, but the end result wasn't what I had expected.
After a long time I saw my boy-friend again.
When I became conscious that men don't wnat anything they don't have a goal. They have: sex, but this isn't important.
I went to a lecture and once again it had been cancelled, this was the second time. One had a negative attitude towards the lecturer.á
When my sister was very ill and was admitted to the hospital.
When I had a little accident with my boss'car.
When my car suddenly broke down !
I was given a wristwatch by my first girl and after two days another girl of mine also gave me a wristwatch.
Once I was not ready for a seminar and I was asked to leave.
I felt shame at the hurt I caused to my family especially my parent father, shame of hurting people emotionally. A misconceived self-blaming that didn't do me any good. Shame at being myself as I am.
One day I went to see a movie without my parents permission. It was an adult movie and I was scared that my parents would not allow me to see the movie. However after coming home I felt very guilty at what I had done.
When my oldest sister discovered that her boyfriend had another girl.
I feel sad about an event I can not influence.
Hearing that I had been successful in getting a position whereby my financial, physical, spiritual and emotional needs will be well catered for. This position fulfils a lot of my aims for the last five years of my life.
I passed my MCE Examination. at first I was worried but when I heard my name I had joy in my heart and I arranged for a trip to attend a wedding ceremony.
Spoilt, smashed and molded potatoes in the fridge, and having to clean up the dish later.
I quarrelled with my brothers (twins) at home on saturday. One of them studies in a private school and the other one is repeating his form five. They do not know what they are doing. They follow every word of their teachers, books and systems. They always try to rationalize their bad acts by some game and they are satisfied with their awkward life. I have tried to persuade them very often but have failed. This time I had a fight as they have no voluntary spirit (they did not polish the floor).
They asked me to throw the rubbish into a dustbin which had some awful liquid accumulated at the bottom.
A female classmate was always late for meetings which were for the homework and not social gatherings. We were very busy and the deadline was close but we had to waste half an hour or an hour waiting for her as we could do nothing else then.
When my mother betrayed me by obtaining money from my husband when we were separated - pending divorce.
My sister bkoke her leg.
When I was caught going out with another girl by my girlfriend.
I was travelling from Delhi to Bombay. I had booked a seat one month back and I had also got a telegram confirming this. However, in the train my name had been omitted from the reservation sheet, and the one seat that was still vacant was alloted to another person who paid for it despite my requests for the seat. I was allowed to stay in the reserved compartment when I paid money.
When I laughed at a lame man walking down the road, it looked funny at the time but later I felt lousy. It was the same day that I had stolen some coins from my mother in the shop.
When I tried to hide a fact from a person for irrelevant reasons and considered such an attitude childish.
Boyfriend "chatting up" another girl.
A lady I live with had not bothered to clean up before she went  on holiday (I live in a collective).
When my father a 4th/5th generation colonial (from Eng.) attacked me verbally about my chosen partner. A man whom he discarded because his colour skin was not white. His ultimate disgust saddned me.
I had to go to the doctor's because of a veneral disease. I told the doctor that I must have been infected by my boy-friend. This was not true, but I was ashamed to tell the truth.
When my roommate's boyfriend assaulted me. He was threatening me, calling me names and pushing me around.
I once felt that my last hour had come when I was unexpectedly found in the hands of.
When I was looking for a job I felt a lot of fear but the fear was greater when I found it.
I was attacked, standing in a doorway, by a pack of 5 dogs, alsatians and farm dogs with my escape route blocked by a shut fence.
When I cheated my father about the book allowance at university. He discovered that we were given K150 per year for books.
I broke a cup and put it back without telling anyone about it and someone almost got blamed for it, then it was discovered that it was me who had broken it.
I went to a party with my boyfriend who got so drunk and started vomiting. It was so disgusting.
In the student's union there was someone who took the photocopies of two large volumes. I asked him to let me take a few, he refused it for an acceptable reason.
I have a girlfriend, who is almost like a daughter to me. She is studying out of station and I get to see her only once a year. Her arrival is always a joyous one.
I turned the knob of my granny's two band radio and did not hear any broadcast, " What ! Have I broken the knob ? How much does it cost ? What if the spare part is not available ? " --I did not know how to tune a radio.
I was stood up for a date function by someone who I really cared for.
Some people not cueing in the dining hall.
My boyfriend hinted over the phone about wanting to "be free". He thus did not say it point blank, silence followed.
The loss of a close relative who was ill with cancer.
There was an earthquake for several minutes and I was on the eight floor.
When I entered University.
I went to the dining hall and found that the cooks were cleaning the plates and there was no food for me, and the blue birds (security guards) were busy eating the food that was supposed to be for me.
When I was in a car with my parents and friends and we had to back up (reverse) pass a river which when I recall it (I was only about 5 yrs) seemed we were going to fall in and drown.
During a ski tour with a friend, we two had drunk too much. When we went down the slope on ski, I lost my friend who had lost his way. I thought that something must have happened to him (he finally arrived but after a very long time).
I forgot something I agreed upon with a good friend.
The news of the natural calamity, an earthquake in which hundreds of Mexican people died.
When approached by a gang of youths in town at night.
I am not doing what I should with this questionnaire.
At school - being whipped by the teacher in front of the class.
I felt angry when my mother-in-law did not handle my daughter properly and she fell down from the bed and hurt her head.
A professor was going to read aloud in class a composition of mine in which I had criticized some political attitudes and also some class-mates.  I was ashamed at having written that.
When I saw that I had passed the university entrance exam. It made me forget all my problems.
I was walking on a street alone in the afternoon when there were not too many people on the street. A couple of guys were following me and I was ignoring them. Suddenly one of them came in front of me and started using dirty language and harrassing me. I got very angry and wanted to strike back at them.
When I was trying for a girl who I really liked and cared for and thought she felt the same way too. But she didn't like the idea and just wanted to stay friends.
I was once this week angry when soemone trying to compress my mind due to his nonsense speech which himself could not tolerate at all.
My sister was afraid of her husband.
I read about the national and social spirit and self-discipline of the people of developed coutries like U.S.A, England, France, Germany etc. Comparing this to the Indian people I felt guilty as they have no national spirit or self-discipline.
I felt disgusted one day when, as we were eating, a child defecated on the table side.
When I received the first year results as the first year had involved a lot of work and I was very pleased when I got the results.
When I lost the notes of the lecturer I had borrowed from my friend.
I feel unbelievably happy about the relationship between my boyfriend and me, it is a reoccurring feeling.
I felt disgusted when my cousin decided that she would stop going to school saying she wanted to get married. She was only 14 years by then and she didn't understand what she was thinking.
When my husband talked about the restrictions he will have to accept in his life to make our marriage work. I felt that it was directed at me as it was me who had demanded the changes. We were with a marriage counsellor then.
When my little sister was born.
I remember that when I was in school I saw a case of partiality - one of the teachers gave private coaching classes to some girls and she would give these girls extra attention in class and would ignore the others.
My father died unexpectedly at the age of 53 years. He certainly would have liked to live longer. I was also said because I was confronted with the fact that I would die one day too.
When I found out that my father had lung cancer and they did not know how long he would live.
One evening when a boy who was drunk made a pass at me by trying to kiss me.
Recently in the tram, a man ran his fingers over my girlfriend then over me.
A bad smelling cucumber.
When I received a positive answer from my appeal to withdraw my registration at UNZA.
Cheating in a minor geography exam at school.
When I met with friends that I hadn't seen for a long time.
When the literature teacher made me recite a poem in the middle of the class and I had to gesticulate.
My father's death in January 1983 moved me deeply. The gloom prevailed for almost two years and I am still to recover from it.
I remember that my form 2 teacher was very fierce and dogmatic. My feet would tremble whenever I saw her but I had to face the fact that I had to go for her class.
At one of my close friends saying she didn't like the way I am nice to people I don't know, or who have been nasty to me.
At my grandfather's funeral - My grandparents virtually raised me as my mother was a solo-parent and had to work.
Going to take my driving test.
I went to the school library and asked for a book, but the librarian told me that there wasn't such. However when an other colleague asked for it she gave it to him.
When I had to leave my mother and my sister after a week's visit.
I knew I had to take an exam very soon but yet I couldn't start studying. I also knew it was very imprtant to succeed the exam this time.
When I secretly tried smoking for the first time, being 12 years old.
A friend died of cancer when he was 18 years old.
I deliberately avoided a person who I wanted to hurt, and who wanted to talk to me.
Insulted by some stupid people.
When we stayed in Vienna with our class, my friend and I behaved incorrectly. Our teacher threatened us with exclusion from school.
Made a statement that other people did not believe.
I felt unfairly treated at an airport, being told to use a different counter (for domestic traffic only).
I was sad when I saw that a beautiful girl was not attainable.
I feel ashamed when I act dishonestly toward somebody.
I once felt guilty when a certain passenger in the same (ship, plane ?) which I boarded when coming from home lost his 10t which in fact fell into my pocket unknowingly.
When my favourite football team made a goal and was about to win the Cup of England.
When the teacher asked me a question in class, concerning something I had read earlier, and I did not know the answer, so I felt ashamed in front of the whole class.
When I had to represent my boss at a meeting.
I detest any kind of constraint and hate the attempts of elder people to force me to a norm of behavior without having legal or moral rights to do it. I felt this emotion when a neighbour of mine made me kick out my guests because they had talked very loudly and threatened that with "connections" she will expel me from the inst.
China not doing well in the Asian Olympic games.
After I had had a disappointment in my private life, my friend, who studies in Vienna, came to see me spontaneously.
I was at home, filling my tax report. Nobody had time to help me. I would have liked to do it quickly so that I could go and meet a friend of mine who had just returned from hospital. I got angry as both my brother and my father refused to give me their calculator as I had not asked for it nicely. I could not leave as I had to wait for help and the tax report had to be done.
When my mother was proved to suffer from a very serious disease.
It was when I stepped on a python (snake) unknowingly while it was sleeping near a baobab tree.
I was complaining about calling people whom I didn't know. I forgot that the purpose is to invite people for dinner and get to know them.
I was watching TV with a friend. After the first film I wanted to watch another film on the same channel. My friend switched over to the other cannel without asking me what I wanted.
My grandfather had lung-cancer and was being nursed at home. I felt fear when I was alone with him and he almost choked on mucus secretions.
My article not chosen by the college newspaper
With the job appointments committee when the headmaster in charge explained that a male teacher was more suitable for the particular post. I had more years of service than the male teacher, but this was not taken into consideration. I could have been given a less attractive job if things had gone the way the headmaster wanted.
Not keeping a promise of delivering materials of great importance to the receiver.
While at primary school, I did not let a friend ring a bell although he would have liked to do it. Afterwards I felt bad.
When my younger sister, who was then 16 years old, was pregnant.
The doctors from Belogradchik town determined a wrong diagnosis to my son. A month later, after some complex examinations at ISUL (A medical institute in Sofia), the diagnosis was categorically rejected.
Insulted for no reason.
My companion admired me when I did some work voluntarily.
A relationship in which I had put my trust, broke up. I was sad when I realized how easy it is to forget something that one had once regarded as great and significant.
Could not get into the university I wanted to get in.
"Boy, you have been admitted to the medicine school and your uncle is coming back fron Canada next week," my father told me and it was a happy moment.
I was sitting at a rock concert, listening to an extremely loud band. A tiny baby in a crawler had been left by his young mother, right out in the sun next to a speaker, and was screaming - probably in pain.
I received the mid-term exam paper of one of my major subjects and I found that I had failed it.
I feel disgusted with toadies, hypocrites, chameleons.
When my uncle died of leukemia at age 35.
Achieving my goal at a swim meet. I worked toward the goal for 9 yrs. I was capable of achieving it, but I didn't know when.
In cinema I saw a film which showed how a person was torn out his guts when he was still alive.
During an informal talk with a friend when we talk about the life of another person, a common friend, that is in a situation of not being able to assume certain problems that he decided to solve, that is, she herself suggested the problems and decided to solve them but didn't get it until the moment.
Many years ago I saw the film "Psycho" by Hitchcock for the first time. When I saw the film I was alone and afterwards I hardly dared to go to bed and hardly was able to sleep.
Someone, who was sitting very close to me, was smoknig in the compartment of an air conditioned mini-bus.
My uncle was taken to the UTC for an operation as he had cancer. There had been a lot of deaths of late - 3 out of every 4 operated. I was scared for my uncle's life.
When I had my first sexual relation and it didn't work.
I'm glad when I have good relations with my colleagues and most of all when we are at a party.
I was sad when I heard that my cousin died because of being bewitched by her husband's second wife.
I visited a special education school. The headmaster applied a policy of strict positive - negative reinforcement to the children involved. Children who measured up to his standards were made a fuss of - children who didn't were ignored.
Watching a football game. This remindes me of the time when my father was still alive and when we watched football games on TV together.
When felt lonely about writing my family.
Once I woke up in the middle of the night and felt frightened as everyone else was sleeping and I could not even go to their room.
When I was face to face with my deceived friend after sleeping with his wife.
In Ward 1A was an epileptic patient who was burnt the whole body and was stinking very much such that the whole ward was affected. Few people could come near him.
I felt very sad when a friend of mine failed the final exam and she could not be accepted at the institution of learning.
When I heard about the advances an acquaintance of mine had made to my friends, who did not approve of them.
After the interview for admission to the university and before the admission list was disclosed. I was scared that I would not be admitted and my fear lasted for quite some time. My fear disappeared only after the list was disclosed.
Some people were sitting outside and saying things which were not really true.
I had a long discussion on politics with an acquaintance. He was more knowledgeable than me and I failed to explain my point of view and was misunderstood so I felt depressed and left.
When my sister's first child came home, after one week in intensive care at the hospital.
Two summers ago my best friend and I drove into unknown mountains at midnight to pick up my broken car. We told one another horrifically scary ghost/murder stories and succeeded in scaring eachother pretty well - even though somewhere in our heads we knew the fears were unjustified.
I had a girlfriend which I used to call regularly. Then I didn't phone her for a while. At a certain moment I felt a little tension which became worse.
I was disgusted the other day I was told to take off the dog's faeces around the house since they smelled bad I did the job but in the end I felt disgusted.
When my friend who was drunk insulted me in public for no reason at all.
I vividly remember having feelings of disgust toward some of my jr. high classmates who didn't work at all on their schoolwork and who would coplain and take my tax money when I was older and more successful than they were. At the time I pictured some adults like this that I knew in the complaining situation.
T.V features showing the violation of defenceless people.
The death of a close friend.
Recently, some friends and I had too much to drink while on a foot-ball road trip to USC. We trashed our hotel room and I felt ashamed when the maid walked in the next morning.
My friend not allowed to go to the English lectures.
When I received a beautiful birthday gift form my parents.
If a close relative's life is in danger.
When they broke the artistic work of several weeks. Changes were made and it was broken without permission, they had no right to do this.
Sometime back another girl who was in terms with my ex-boyfriend came to shout at me at twelve midnight. It was because she thought I was still interested in the boy.
I had high-heeled shoes one time, but a certain girl who saw the shoes told me that they were out of fashion and I looked as an old man when I was in those shoes.
A saturday night a bus full of drunken people.
I was sitting in a station-hall and watching a lavatory attendant. She was very dirty. She started to eat something out of a dirty cup - it must have been something like lard. Then she took some breadcrumbs out of the pockets of her apron and ate them. I had to leave - I felt like vomitting.
Friend (male) hinted that my talking to other men at a pub was immoral. He implied that I should remain only with my boyfriend the entire evening.
I was entrusted with an object and while using it I handled it carelessly and it broke.
At a party I met a girl who drew me to her, told me some nonsense and always wanted to kiss me.
My grandmother's brother had taken active part in the resistance movement. He had been in prison many times and there he lost his health. He became an invalid. When we phoned to First Aid the nurse on duty behaved quite unkindly when she understood how old he was (79).
I wrote an Exam and happened to have not done as well as I thought I would. I was angry to myself for not having done so well.
When I was 8 years old, I would usually come home from school with my mother in a car. For the first time I had to take the school bus, and I mistook the bus stop and found myself two kilometres away from where I lived. I was very scared, wondering how I would get back home.
After having quarelled with a relative of mine about politics.
Doing unexpectedly well in an examn.
My girlfriend's results in school had become worse because I prevented her from learning (we often went out etc.).
When my friends were rude to a girl.
Came back from surfing to find car broken into and gear and money stolen.
A study visit to a chicken factory : the butchery, the smell, the environment and the noise.
When I met friends I had not seen for the last 2-4 years.
I felt angry when I failed in an exam about which I knew quite a few things and I did not deserve to be plucked.
I was disgusted when my little sister had been hit badly by her friends.
I spoke to my mother on the phone. She had skin cancer and was waiting to be operated. I forgot to ask her the date of the operation and just before finishing our conversation she gave me the date in passing.
When my brother went to shoot wild ducks, I feared that the boat would overturn and he would drown or that the gun would accidentally go off.
A situation where I stole a friends wife's wallet.
Saw the film about Eight Nations Army conquering Beijing.
When I had to undergo the final examination of secondary school, I lived together with a girlfriend. We both were afraid to fail, but it appeard that we both had passed.
When I was offered a place in the university as a full time student.
In the recent lightning storm, bolts of lightning were hitting close by (1/8 mile). I was in bed at the time and was afraid I might be struck.
Fear of the loss of a close friend, of feeling the ground slipping from under my feet.
One day, I was home and there was a phone call informing me that some of my relatives had died in an accident.
I failed to keep a promise and this had a serious effet on someone's problem.
I was double crossing Mercy and Maria. They one day came to know each other. I was found by Mercy red-haded when I was with Maria.
While playing indoor-hockey, there always is an older man who frequently and intentionally plays the ball out of the field. In my opinion this is very childish, because we play for fun only.
When I got a small present form a person I like very much.
I had gone to aa bookshop to buy some books. Somehow, I got very cross with the security guard checking through what I had bought. I lost my temper and screamed at him. Later I felt very ashamed at myself as a lot of people I know were there.
Car accident nearly occurred between us and drunk driver coming in opposite direction it missed us by approx 1 m and collided (after rolling twice midair) into nearby scrub.
I had a habit of wetting my bed when I was young. One day, when I was invited to my friend's place to stay for the night, it happened again. I was ashamed of myself.
A close acquaintace cried for me. I felt happy because somebody cared.
When I insulted my young sister for a very little misconduct of putting on my shoes. She wrote me an apology letter and the message she included made me feel guilty.
While swimming, I hit my head at the bottom of the pool and required stitches. I later learned that the consequences could have been much more severe and that terrified me.
My grandmother died during Christmas break several years ago.
When my daughter was born.
Being put down by the class leaders.
In my 20s - and was going out to dinner to celebrate a friend's birthday. Her (older - in 30s) cousin, really wanted me to get drunk cos I'd visited their (cousin & wife) place quite a bit, but had always been very careful - brought up to believe in moderation in drink (but not guilt repression etc). I mixed drinking with smoking (which I rarely did) and got drunk and had to leave the table to get sick in the loo, and later went home and was sick again; have never felt so awful in my life. And I didn't want to face or tell my other flatmates, or family.
Not succeeding in a cross-country skiing competition, which I intended to win.
At my sister's wedding.
Dead rat in the kitchen of the university.
I felt happy when I received the letter telling me that I had been admitted to the university.
When someone does not listen to me after having asked me to repeat what I said. This happened more than one time with the same person.
Very often I take care for my little sister and oversee her duties. Most of the time everything went fine, but sometimes she absolutely didn't want to obey; then I hit her (we frequently were hit by our father).
At my grandfather's death.
At work a boy was injured because of my lack of supervision.
The day I got a telegram telling me that I had been selected for a B.A at UNZA. I felt happy because I had not expected to be selected.
My roommate being unconsiderate.
A friend (female) and I were on holiday on Great Barrier Island by ourselves. One night we were nearly raped by about 20 locals - they came to our bach and tried to break the doors down. All of them were stoned or drunk and we hid under the bunks and were totally terrified. Eventually these guys gave up and went looking for us on the beach. We escaped and slept in the bush for 2 nights.
After watching the 49ers lose game after game, year after year, I was finally rewarded with a Super Bowl victory which made me extremely happy.
My Uncle was beaten by his troublesome son. He fell unconscious and gained consciousness after some time. That time I was at school; this news reached me through someone.
When I met a very close friend of mine after one year of separation.
After having taken an exam i feared having failed it.
When my dog ran out on thin ice last spring.
In a hurry to get to lectures and the car would not start.
I feel shame when I have made a promise, I can't keep it and this has negative effects which are caused by my behavior.
Our class had organized a picnic in November. I was the class representative so I became the organizor. However the picnic was postponed by one week and I had something else to do then. Initially I did not ponder on what to do and decided to go for the picnic. When I had the time to think about it I thought that my decision was wrong. My classmates thought that I would go as I had signed my name but I did not go. I told another class representative that I was not going but he did not know the reason behind my not going. After the picnic my classmates asked me why I had not gone to the picnic and everytime someone mentioned it I was apologetic. I should have decided right in the begining that I would not go and then they would not see me as irresponsible i.e promising to go and changing my mind afterwards.
When a man who had a knife grabbed me and threatened me with it,  during my holidays in Monze.á
Accepted by the college football team.
When I saw our computer teacher.
Cueing in the students dining hall.
I said something which was against my conscience.
My cat died from an illness. It had been with us for 7 years. It was a lovely cat. It had been ill for one or two weeks and the veterinary surgeon had told us that it was dying.
When I learnt that my close friend was going to immigrate.
I felt shame and I couldn't look into my teacher's eyes, after not attending his lectures.
A nightmare. I was dreaming about bloodsuckers, which I tried to shake off from my body, they are everywhere, they get glued, they suck. And there are a lot of them. I panic.
I did not reply to my friend's letter in time.
Leaving a friend of mine alone at a dance - I felt I should have kept her company.
Eating the last remains of dinner that someone else (unknown to me) had claimed.
I have a very big family. At my grandmother's funeral we all met and everybody pretended mourning. In reality it was like a fashion-show: everybody wanted to show himself.
Caught lying to my father about a speeding ticket I had received.
When my mother scolded me for coming home late, i.e after 7 P.M.
Found out that my grandmother might have been misdiagnosed as a psychiatric patient because the doctor did not know about neurologism.
One day in class, the professor asked me a question concerning something he had been explaining. He was very close to me (beside me) and I had no idea what to answer.
Sitting on the bus seats supposed for disabled people, children and old people (by mistake)
One night we, all the family members, were sitting in the front corridor of the house when a gentleman looking person came in. He was my father's client and he had come to bribe my father in connection with the proceeding case. At my father's refusal he abused my father, my brother and I could not control our temper and we rushed at him.
Finding out that the person I love understands me.
When I was found urinating, behind a toilet instead of inside it, by my class mates and the teachers. I was told to pick up my own urine from the wet soil, I did it.
Spending the nitht with close friends, after being away (out of Nijmegen) for a while.
Watching a horror film.
My friend and I had offended our classmate unintenionally. We wanted to apologize to her so we decided to visit her. We knew that she was stubborn so we were frightened. When we rang her door bell, our fear was at it's climax
Carried out a vandalistic act on some windows at an old army location.
I was walking from my friend's house, a few blocks from my house, when a car began to follow me. He waited I passed by it rotateed a little and stopped on my way. I changed completely my way and the car went on following me until I turned at a corner and running I hid in a garden of a house, waiting for the car to pass by. I went back home terribly afraid.
When taking part in the mobbing of one of my best friends in primary school.
Out of sheer curiosity, I went to see a pornographic movie in Copenhagen. The room was full of men, who panted and masturbated. Very disgusting.
When I failed my S.S.C exam.
Losing my temper and allowing myself to act childishly by yelling and screaming at a person who I felt had done me wrong - in effect lowering myself to their level.
When I had to talk with an important person about a job.
The death of my twin sister - suicide.
I feel this feeling most often before me not before the others. My outside is iron but actually I'm wasting away.
I had been on friendship with a certain girl for sometime and the love was going on well, but it happened that I made the friendship come to an end suddenly without good reasons.
When I was seven years old, I stole a chewing-gum from a big glass bowl on the counter of a nearby shop, and I got caught.
I did a solo flight from Ardmore to Kaikohe before I got my pilot licence. I can remember it was gorgeous day and I was on a natural high, cruising up the coast with my maps and compasses and gear. Other pilots had seen me off and wished me good luck and it was a real adventure.
When people/press analyze a particular newsworthy item (CAL Football team) which I am a member and can only see the situation in a bad light and always put the team down.
I was travelling in a bus from school going home for holiday. In the bus unfortunately I stepped on a bag in which there were delicate things.
In a conversation my boyfriend expressed definite and quite pretentious opinions and he took up an attitude towards a theory which he himself had never known. His information was from fortuitous sources.
One time at the hospital I passed near the intensive care room. The offensive smell that came out disgusted me in such a way that I didn't even dare to enter the room.
When I was at the end-of-term party last week and had fun - was happy and sang and drank only soft drinks. It is possible to have a good time without alcohol.
When I gave in to what my wife wanted and locked the cat out, it was killed by the dogs.
I once saw an old man up the road, fossicking through the rubbish bins and the gutter. I was really disgusted at first but I've seen him a few times since then and now I feel really sorry for him and I often give him cigarettes when I see him, because he mainly goes after cigarette butts and it is revolting.
I had met someone and we became good friends. Our relationship grew closer and now he is my boyfriend. I felt joy when I found out how he felt about me.
Saw some girls dressed up like Americans
One day while we were strolling along the road one of my friends suggested that we go and watch a blue film. I was curious so I went along but I felt quite guilty later.
From the cigarette smoke. Usually I feel disgust from it when I am in a restaurant.
Hearing about a friend back home that had to have his stomach pumped because he had overdosed on pills.
Finding out about the university does not have enough foreign currency to buy the yournals in your reference list.
I was angry when my sister began to talk nonsense and to laugh at the way I swept the room. My anger grew (I tried to control myself). After telling her to leave me alone, I vented my anger on her as she did not obey me.
When my boyfriend was leaving to go home one night, I had a very deep sense of uneasiness and an unwarranted fear that I wouldn't see him again.
Disagreements with mother. When I moved from KankaanpSS, she had promised to help me move but broke her promise because of some hindrance.
I was angry when my abilities of a singer were underestimated.
When I learnt that I was selected for form I.
When I had to lie to my boyfriend so that he wouldn't suspect I'd bought him a xmas present as expensive as I had.
Having quarreled with a boyfriend, he threatened to leave me.
When I was the target of a great many insults and completely unfair accusations of a large group of people.
When I received the acceptance form for the second year at university.
Left alone in dark when young.
When I felt that an exam, which I had feared, was an easy one and went well.
Seeing someone who has bleeding nose.
The birth of my first child.
On a mountain tour, my girlfriend and I passed by an inn. Near the house there was a big dog which began to follow us. As my girlfriend is afraid of dogs, I had to draw his attention to me. He jumped towards my shoulders and wanted to play with me but I really did not like that.
Waiting for my marks in a difficult subject.
I came home from school very keyed up. At the dinner table I unfortunately unloaded a lot of my hostility off on one of my parents. I'm ashamed that I didn't dispate and control these feelings before coming to the table or even let the energy build up in the first place.
I felt disgust when I realized that I had eaten something fatty, and vomited too much.
My little niece, who is very talkative, suddenly became very naughty and began wetting her pants. She did it one afternoon.
When my mother found a leaf of my diary where I had written about my mother's lack of education, especially her poor arithmetical insight.
One night, my boyfriend expressed his love for me in the canteen in the presence of my friends by giving me a present.
I felt guilty when I spent a night at my boyfriend's place, particularly because I had been harsh and spiteful when I had left home. The reason was that I feared a possible discussion on the subject and I wanted to leave defiantly.
I was disgusted to find out that the water isn't filtered or purified before it leaves Latimer Hall from the drains.
At my grandfather's funeral. I remembered that the thing he liked and respected most was earth, I thought that he had attained what he wanted and was not separated from it any longer.
I realised that someone was insidiously attempting to shit me off I was disgusted with him for doing so, because I afforded him with no excuse to do so.
When I entered in the University after a year of struggles.
When my boyfriend did not turn up in time as he promised he would be coming.
I woke up in the middle of the night as I had jumped and shouted with fear. I thought that someone's cold hand or something similar had touched my hand. I crept down under the covers and went back to sleep.
Some boys told me your nickname is "Little Girl Doctor", I did not tell them off and laughed with them.
When my boyfriend wanted to leave me, I felt sad and melancholic.
That I didn't take the time to make an appointment with someone.
Was threatened with a knife ... in the military by soldiers form another unit. The reason was girls.
I was riding with a friend in his car. At a speed of 120 km/h on the snow-covered motorway I would have liked to get out.
I thought that I could have avoided the above situation (the one in fear) if I had concentrated more on my work, which I hate.
When I was about to clean the draining board and saw it looked underneath the sink (I live in a students hostel).
When, for example, I was not approved to continue my studies at the Moscow University, no matter that I had the highest marks and in general the best records of all the candidates.
A few weeks ago I thought about an exam I had to take soon. I remembered this just before I had to go to sleep. I felt guilt because at the beginning of the year I planned to succeed.
Forgot to collect post for a friend.
When I was still a child, I saw a horror film on TV in which there was a rotten human skull.
My father has a chronic desease. In the autumn of 1983 he had a very strong fit or seizure.
I was very sad when I did not get admission in the English college, as I had 1% less marks than they wanted.
I realized the girl liked to be with me.
When I had promised to do some washing for my mother and I did not do it. She did it herself despite her being ill. I felt very guilty.
Death of grandfather (unexpected).
I was going home by car late one night when it was cold, dark and windy. I became rather panicky on the way to my house.
A friend of mine called me when I was not at home. I phoned her back to know what she wanted and she told me that she had dialled the wrong number.
I had to terminate a training because I wasn't suited for it. I was very sad about this, because I very much wanted to finish that training.
When I found out that the girl, with whom I was in love, loved me too.
I was in "Hainburg" in December and I was angry about the politicians and the police.
Before I moved away from home, I feared leaving.
On New Years eve I drank too much alcohol, so much that I had to vomit in the presence of other people.
A drunk man bumped into me and wanted to grip me. Fortunately I was able to break loose.
I felt happy when I learnt that I had qualified for the grade eight.
The death of a relative, friend, or someone I esteem.
When I asked a friend to return the money that I had loaned her and then remembered that she had repayed me in several ways.
Unexpectedly I met some persons who I like very much. Spontaneously they invited me and integrated me within their group, although it was late in the evening.
On my 18th birthday I passed the driving-test. I was glad because I had had to study very much, because I had been lucky and because - as a proof that it was really difficult - not everybody had passed the test.
When I passed the B.A exams and my parents allowed me to carry on my studies and do a M.A. , I was very happy.
When I found out my cousin had been killed. I was angry at the world, and her murderer who was her ex-boyfriend. It was the worst and most hateful day of my life.
It was in December last year that I was chosen to come to this Institution to study as a Medical Assistant.
When a certain girl I believed to be my life partner refused an engagement.
When I found out that I can travel with my best friend.
I was selected to come here (University, College) when I was least expecting it.
When I fell in love with "X". Overnight I felt confidence, self-esteem,  responsible and worthwhile.
When I was touring Asia with my present football team, I saw old Europeans with young asiatic prostitutes.
I lost a close friend.
I am disgusted at the number of second year students who are pregnant illegitimately.
When I ate a rotten apple.
My patient died of Anaemia while I was organising blood transfusion for him, so I felt guilty, because I thought that may be I was slow.
Disgust with a subordinate.
When I was called for an Interview at Kamuzu College of Nursing.
When we still attended school, my brother and I usually went to see our aunt and to show her our term's report. She rewarded us with money. Although my reports were as good as my brother's, he got more money.
I borrowed my classmate's notebook one week before the examination and I promised to give it back to her in two days time. I was very busy at that time and forgot many things; as I was not very often at home she could not contact me. When I started my revision I realized that her notebook had been on my desk for five days. I contacted her immediately and gave it back to her. Though she did not say anything I felt very guilty.
We had to move to a very different city because the company where my father worked also moved to that place. It was very difficult for me to make new friends than.
My boyfriend had drunk too much and beaten me. When I had to show the letter the door, which was almost crashed, I felt ashamed.
When I was jumped by three men in a deserted area.
A classmate told me I must have bribed the class leader to let me go to your English lecture.
In a public swimming hall I saw a very aggressive man who practically attacked the children who got in his way when he was swimming.
My mother treated me unjustly as if I was a little child. I said mean things. I was unable to defend myself adequately.
When I forgot to take out money for my mother. She asked me what she would do, because I had messed up her program for the following day.
When I read a lot and did not remember anything.
I feel anger when I see a "parent" beating and punishing his child in the street. Recently I was a withness of a similar case.
An encounter with a man whom I love, after a very long separation.
During my childhood I once lied and my sister found out.
Girl I was fond of did not initiate conversation as I expected in tutorial.
When I was told that my father had passed away.
Walking in the dark and thinking about ghost stories.
Having gone to school without learning anything, as usual.
after getting a fail notice for a math class, I realized I was not doing very well in school in any subject. I began to fear failing a class or two.
My roommate liked to listen to some meaningless songs which had melody but had no content. We lived together so when he played the recorder I was forced to listen to them. I could not tell him that I did not like to listen to the songs, as I had no right to disturb the freedom of others. So I would find a pretext to leave the room and go somewhere else.
One night going downstairs, and hearing a strong stirring of brances, which was not the wind.
In the army, an acquaintance of mine tended to use his position to advance his own interests.
I went home and visited with my family and friends.
I came home and discovered that someone had broken in. Then I realized that they probably were still there.
I felt guilty the other day because I took two pieces of bread instead of one in the Cafeteria and some of the girls were short of bread.
While cycling in the country a dog started running beside me, growling and barking, and trying to bite my foot.
A close married friend has just had his first child.
Some friends and I were crossing a street when one of my friends was seized by a car and thrown aside. I had seen the car coming in our direction but I did not have enough time to react and prevent the accident.
Because of the examination I had to study night and day.
When I passed the university entrance exam.
At the hardware store, trying to convert Imperial to Metric measurements, I made a mistake, and didn't buy enough tiles for the bathroom. I was angry at myself, because I hope to be a Maths teacher.
When, for example, someone is calumnating.
This happens to me when I am not prepared in a given subject.
People hunting animals.
When I forgot the birthday of my best friend and I innocently came to visit her one week later.
I was on a walk with my child when I met a drunk woman.
When I was a child I used to play with my cousin gushing wather to each other in front of the door of my house. One day we decided to gush with on a passing car. The driver stopped and went to discuss with my mother and my aunt that were there.
When I was working as a nurse in a mental hospital, a patient ate up the contents of another patient's spitoon.
At work being shifted to another area.
When my mother's new husband treated her and my brothers and sisters badly.
Not being able to spend more time with a friend who was visiting me.
When I was young - 14, I pinched from a store and was caught. The store then contacted my parents.
At the butcher's I saw an animal which had just been slaughtered; blood was dripping on the floor.
You told me psychology can help people to be happier.
When I spoke to my daughter and wished her luck for the examinations she was about to take.
I felt it when I saw our headmaster blushed ingratiating himself with high ranking officials.
At a social event when none of the guests would help to serve food or clear tables. It was all beneath them.
When my friends and I were caught with our girlfriends outside the school grounds when I was at the secondary school. We were caught by the headmaster.
Got a present from my friend for my birthday.
I entered the wrong room, and got into a bed where someone already was sleeping.
When my mother found out that I smoke maryhuana.
All my friends arranged to go for an afternoon snack and they did not tell me. They told me that they did not have my phone number but I do not think that this was true.
I had cared for a horse for 2 years. One day it was sold and I cried for several days because I was so sad.
I answered a certain question from Dr. Maqgda wrongly. She asked something about Femur and my answer was saying something concerning the brain. So I was very ashamed amongst my friends.
When I was watching some scenes from the Bertoluchi's film "Twentieth Century".
Disappointment over a friend.
I was very pleased and happy when my older sister came home from living somewhere out of town and I hadn't seen her for months. We are very close sisters.
At the dentist's, waiting for my turn to come.
Often a dog which is treated very badly by his owner comes to us.
One night, walking along a park, I began to think that some roughnecks would appear suddenly with knives and things like that.
When two drug addicts tried to take away my money.
One of those days when I was going to school with my brother and he annoyed me.
After my girlfriend had taken her exam we went to her parent's place.
It was my father's birthday party when I was asked to bring a tray of tea and other drinks.
My father had been alone for a long time because my mother and sister were on holiday. I had not seen him for a long time and when I finally called him I realized that he had been very sad about that.
I once proposed my own niece whom I did not know but I discovered after she was my girlfriend.
Once I had to visit a rather special person.
When I left New York, and all my family and my friends behind me.
Some times I was ashamed of presenting seminaries or even to speak in class.
When my father married a certain lady. The reception was held at Kasungu town Hall.
My girlfriend let me down badly 3 times in one week. These instances summed up all the negative aspects of our relationship which at the time seemed doomed to fail.
Having received an offer to do post-graduate work.
When I had wrongly explained someone an important exemple for an examination.
Failed to be elected to be a class leader.
When a friend who comes visiting me unexpectedly asks for coffee and I refuse to give him this.
I happened to see the video-tape movie "This is America - Part one" at my friend's place.
Lecturers being unfair to me in reports.
This issue worried me rather than saddening me. In mid September I went to Guanggho alone. I was looking for an accomodation in the evening and after having walked 2 or 3 miles I still could not find anything. What could I do? I was not worried about sleeping on the streets but because of some procedural problems. I finally found a place to sleep at 8 o'clock.
When I was selected at TISS X.
I missed the train and had to wait for the next for two hours. For this reason I missed an appointment which had been very important for me.
Once I worked as a designer. A fitter was hard hit in a damage that occurred at the building site I had designed.
I went to see the entrance examination results at university. I rejoyced at my success.
I got a good reaction from my tutor and tutorial group for a presentation I'd given that I was very worried about.
Heard that my girl-friend was chosen for the English lectures and I was not. I lost my temper and she is very upset now.
I felt joy when I saw my daughter after a separation of twenty days.
The day I was forced to use a public convenience place in town. It was so filthy that it really made me sick.
I happened to see two boys fighting, one of them fell down and hurt his head. The other one used this to spank the head of the 
boy on the ground.
My younger brother and I had been fighting over the TV/Video. He kept on turning it on and off every 2 seconds and was not listening to my authority and was being cheeky. We fought and I ended up in tears - he'd won.
If a guy one is not interested in makes advances.
Not helping parents enough at home and at the farm - this has happened many times.
The elections of 1982 and 1985. The thought of what a social democrat and communist majority could achieve, especially "worker share" funds and its extension.
I was angry when my friends said that I should not receive Nursing Science books because there was a rumour that I was intending to leave the college.
My girlfriend one day went out and promised to be back at 6.00 pm however she first arrived at 10.00 pm, without a message (we had to go out that evening).
Attitude to a related family.
My girl-friend did not understand me; I was angry with myself because I had problems when we seperated - I could not resign myself to it.
Not to have studied enough when exams were near.
I was afraid when I learnt that my father was seriously ill in hospital.
When I heard the news of the death of my father. It was in the evening and I was alone all night in my room trying to remember the face of my father.
I insulted my friend for a small reason and after time I realised that I was wrong and felt ashamed; everytime I meet her I feel ashamed.
When I failed one of my courses at school - the university of Zambia.
Watching TV about china is behind in winning gold medals.
At noon one Sunday I received a phone call telling me that my mother had been knocked down by a car at the street crossing and that her husband should go and see her. I could not believe this as my father and my mother had gone out together to buy lunch boxes. However I immediately ran to the scene of the accident.
When a certain boy went about saying that I am his girlfriend. I wrote him an insulting letter to him and called him names.
My friend had written a letter to me, the contents of which I misunderstood and I wrote back a very harsh letter to her. On realizing the blunder I had made, I felt like hiding my face in the sand.
When I heard that a good friend had committed suicide.
A few days back my mother was not feeling too well and still did all the house work. I felt guilty as I had not offered to help.
When I heard the bad news about the death of a close person.
Death of the family dog.
Somebody wanted to beat my brother at a wedding ceremony and I was trying to protect my brother but the other man was calling names to both of us.
When I slept with a guy because my best friend wanted me to. He had never had intercourse with anyone and had a terrible complex about it.
I went to a pub with a group of friends (not very close) and I was with one girl most of the time, while the other girls in the group wanted to be with me. They stopped talking to the girl I was with.
Whenever I see an alcoholic.
When a friend didn't invite her own parents to her Graduation ceremony.
When I had a serious argument with a dear person.
I feel ashamed at the fact that even after 35 years of independence  70% of the Indian poulation is still below the poverty line.
First day at University (I didn't know what to expect).
When I realized that I could not communicate properly with my closest friend.
I did badly in the mid term examination.
My sister had promised to help me to do a translation from English into German. But the day I needed her she told me that she was busy - I was very angry.
When I went to visit a relative and saw how messy and dirty his place was, in the absence of his wife.
When you are unjustly assessed at something you are sure to have been right.
My anger is with men, their inability to be human (not all men).
When my elder brother failed form five in 1968 when I was 5 years old.
I was talking to a friend and he said something which was very funny.
When my mother quarrelled with my aunt over me.
I was on holidays, and I was going to meet a friend whom I had not seen for six months. Again I felt very happy.
A gathering of a social sports club at which they proceeded to show pornographic videos and then afterwards (when most people had had quite a bit to drink) carried on in a very degrading, unmoral manner - especially females exposing and flaunting themselves with no shame or embarassment.
Someone borrowed my textbook and deliberately did not return it.
When I was small, I would always fight with my younger sister and one time I hit her and knocked the wind out of her. I felt real bad about it.
We had promised, with a friend of mine, to take our friends to a restaurant and after having looked for a place for hours without finding one, and not being helped by the others we had to give up the idea.
I was in a bus with my school material when I fell and sat on the lap of another passenger.
I was in form five at the boarding school and my friends and I had gone drinknig beer in the nearby village. And we were caught red handed there by a form master.
Obscene phone call where the person knew my name.
When my father thought that I was an unrelaible son.
After a party I spent the night with a friend. We both were drunk, the morning was disillusioning. A friend was me leaving the room and I felt shabby and immoral.
My third grade teacher caught me cheating on a spelling test. I couldn't spell Australia and she said in a loud voice something like "We don't have cheaters in my class".
I am separated from my husband. The way he has behaved towards me makes me angry.
When I noticed that a nice person was being exploited economically.
I saw someone that I thought I knew repeatedly drunk. I do not like to be around alcoholics.
I found out accidentaly that while my uncle was away in Canada, my aunt had been bedding a young man on a regular basis.
One of my friends asked me to go shopping with her, another friend of hers was also coming along. During the outing they kept talking to each other and I felt left out, even when I tried to talk to them they seemed not to listen to me and did not pay me much attention.
Once I bought my sister a pair of sports shoes as she was going to join an athletic meet. However the shoes were a little big and had a few flaws. She muttered all the way and blamed me for having wasted her money anf I felt guilty.
I felt disgusted when I was not given money for lunch at school by my father as a punishment for beating my little brother.
I felt afraid of losing somebody I love to another person because I was an incomprehensive person and lots of time I fight with this person.
I started a new branch of studies after having failed a former one. When I got back my exam papers I was very happy to know that I almost had full marks.
When I realized that it did not make much sense to start a relationship with a girl who was not very constructive to establish a firm relationship.
Getting a letter from a friend who did not write for a long time.
I was on a class excursion, by boat to Stockholm. At night my class mates prepared to clebrate their motive in life which was "life is merriment". I felt depressed about the way they sought happiness.
I had been separated from my girlfriend for about a year. On her birthday I put a present in her mailbox. I had spent two days choosing a suitable present for her. I waited for a few days and there was no reply from her; at last I received a thank-you card in my mailbox. On the card there was only my name, the words thank-you and her signature. I was very sad then.
When I was acceptted as a student of psychology.
My mother did not come home till late at night (Ages ago). Anyway if I don't know where my parents are and when they'll be back I start thinking that perhaps they have had an accident and are perhaps dead.
In a rather important exam, when they caught me red handed copying.
During a family reunion, they started talking about me wearing an ear-ring.
Being caught by parents in a compromising situation with girlfriend.
I felt joy when I was admitted to the Higher Agricultural Institute.
When I heard my name being announced on the radio that I had been successful in an interview for admittance for a medical Assistant training course. I was really happy and I enjoyed myself by dancing to music from the Radio cassette.
A few months ago when I was teaching, I suddenly became very angry at the children and slapped some of them.
I felt that I contributed to a possible rift in the relationship between a boy and girl soon to be married, in my flat after I moved in. After stating my celibacy to him which she overheard and didn't previously know about I suspect.
In a park near our home, a group of young people who were strangely dressed were seated in the middle of the street. They began to eat while carressing each other.
When a pet died. The pet was the closest friend I had for 15 years.
I was disgusted at the existing red-tape in the government offices. I accquired my passport three months after having applied for it and I had to go back five times to them to correct a minor error.
On the T.V I saw a news feature on South Africa. A policeman   attacked a group of black people with a whip.
In order to be admitted to my final examination, I had to pass two examinations. As I had not studied very much, I resigned myself to be left behind. Nevertheless I succeeded in these examinations.
Bad temper of the serving lady in the students' dining hall.
The situation in which I felt happiest in my life was when I was with the person I love for the first time.
After my boy-friend had beaten me for the first time, I always trembled when somebody knocked on my door or when I heard steps coming nearer.
I was testing my new roller skates in the street, suddenly a dog ran barking in my direction, very threatening. I was very startled and terribly upset.
My boyfriend decided to make an end to our relationship.
At about nine p.m., I went home by bike on a dark cycle-track; because of lack of time I had to take the short-cut.
When a member of the family complains about the food that is served, it disgusts me.
Saw someone messing up our room.
When we complained about the uncleanliness of the work place, the authorities agreed to have the place cleaned. Even after 2-3 days nothing had been done. I felt disgusted at the whole situation.
Winning the local soccer championships this year was a great joy.
When I was told that I could take a week off and go for a trip with my friends.
I left a boy with whom I was going around without giving him any explanations.
When harassed by this boy - it was sexual (refer to GUILT).
When my nephew asked me to tell him a story and I simply did not have the energy or the will. When I saw his disappointment I was terribly guilty and read a story to him after all.
I felt sad when a thief stole all the clothes from my friend's cupboard at school (boarding).
When my boyfriend was away, I flirted with his best friend; I felt guilty the next day.
I feared that my dog's eye was infected too much. He had played around in the weeds and a foxtail had gotten under his eyelid. I took him to the vet and I feared that he may go blind because of the foxtail.
The last day of school is traditionally celebrated by singing a song about all the students who are leaving. In the song about me, there were things which irritated me a lot.
I kicked the dog outside on a cold night because he was annoying me. The next day he came down with the flu and we thought he was going to die.
I was alone at home and I could hear odd noises coming from above our bedroom. I knew that nobody lived there since it was an office. I got frightened (later I was given a "natural" explanation).
Bad food in the students' dining hall.
A friend's boy-friend treated her very badly, let her serve him, provoked her and just utilized her.
When my husband and I decided to take a few days holiday after a particularly trying period.
My daughter was a baby and was crying to be taken on my lap. I felt very nervous and moved her away and went out. As soon as the feeling of nervousness passed I was taken by an enormous feeling of guilt, for having rejected my daughter.
I borrowed my friend's radio cassette and the plug cracked and some pieces broke off when the plug dropped off my hands.
I made an unkind remark about the ethnicity of some friends without realizing it.
I have a boyfriend and I am very fond of him. When we had our "11-months jubilee", I had forgotten it. But he gave me a red rose.
Once as a school girl I was copying at a class work and my teacher spotted me.
I read a book about torture. The book described exactly how the torturing was done.
After a motor accident (I was the frong-seat-passenger) I spit blood.
As a small boy, I took a coin from an empty taxi cab. My mother saw it and told the driver about it. I even knew the driver.
A month ago I turned in an English paper in late after I had already had a previous paper late and promised not to do it again.
Some foreign students playing loud music late at night.
I was walking alone along the place where people fear that there are always thieves there and the people who kill their friends during the night two months ago.
I sensed such a feeling when I understood I was admitted to the University. I was at home, the atmosphere was still, though I myself was full of suspense. I tried to do different things. When the telephone rang and...! Yes, of course there were other situations when I felt a similar feeling but I was unmindful of them.
A friend who was 22 years old died.
Failing an examn because I did not work hard enough.
Shame of being reprehended.
When a close relative got quite drunk. It was a relative that I had respected for a long time and looked up to as a child.
Someone attacked me with a knife.
The dying of a close member of the family.
When I understood that my marriage was falling apart, and we decided to be legally separated.
A boyfriend with whom I split up with came over to a friend's house where I was visiting with a male friend. In a confrontation in another room he tried to find out if I was aroused by my friend by feeling my parts.
Not being able to convince my class leader that my friend is better than me to go to the English lectures.
At the death of my husband's father's mother which occurred during university examinations and therefore I was unable to attend her funeral.
When I had to prepare and read a paper to my fellow students but I didn't cope with the task.
I caught a "peeping tom" at my window when I was getting undressed.
When a very dirty class-mate farted in my presence. There was a terrible smell.
Someone not responding to my criticism.
I once saw an elderly lady who was not properly dressed. She was wearing a transparent dress, such things are not sopposed to be seen in African society.
In the compartment of a public transport railway, I did not give my seat to an old man who was standing near me. It was another teenager who did so.
I was very joyful when I heard that I had passed the standard 8 exams. The day I heard the news was the day I celebrated my birthday.
I was moving in the graveyard at 6.00 pm one day and was griped by fear because I was told that ghosts detain people moving there at night.
When the brother-in-law of a girlfriend of mine found us in a bedroom with clothes and panties spread all over the place.
When I found out the CIA was mining Nicaraguan harbors.
I lost my driver's licence because of speeding.
When a little brother of mine damaged a cassette.
I felt ashamed one day when my teacher shouted at me in the presence of my boyfriend.
When my friends tried to discriminate against my friendship with certain other friends which they thought was improper.
A friend of mine came to visit and stayed with my roommate and me. My roommate and she became good friends. After she left, he didn't talk too highly of her.
When I was walking down the street, some boys showed me a knife and stole all my money.
I felt sad when a friend of mine died and I felt that something had irrevocably gone away from me.
A reoccurring fear that something will happen to my relatives.
When my mother and father were on an excursion in Chechoslovakia and I was at a student camp and I heard over the radio about the events that were taking place there.
When I was selected for higher education, i.e grade 7 to formI.
When I inadvertantly made some close friends and relatives feel bad.
The way my husband and his family treated me - unfairly, cruelly, and unjustly.
That was what I felt when I told my first lie and then was cought.
At using other people, because of sexual experience that was using another to the detriment of both. Anxiety that I may have affected another for the worst.
Having been angry and unpleasant towards my parents.
The stories about the way my grandmother treated my mother.
When Christmas holiday started, I felt very joyful when I finished my last exam.
Someone ruining someone's property just for the fun of it.
A party with no worries (i.e. no tests homework etc.) many friends were present and good music.
When I was the South Koreans on the TV.
While reading Olli Jalonen's new book, the distant, cold and selfish relationships between people (in the book) made me feel disgusted.
I confused a girl with another.
At the funeral of my uncle, I was one of the bearers. I was not familiar with the etiquette and acted tactlessly because of my ignorance.
Since I've been here I haven't written to any of my relatives. I got a letter from my mom telling me how upset my grandparents are from not hearing from me.
When I excreted on the mat instead of the potty.
Thought had discovered true love.
When I tell someone no. In other words when I refuse to do something although I could have helped him.
I was afraid of a certain examination although I was relatively well prepared.
A friend of mine told me that I had passed the entrance exam to the university.
When I knew that a person who I didn't like, had about me other feelings.
When I see people who have no sentiments.
A terrible cloud-burst started when we were camping in a tent on a great bald field.
Lying to my cousin about the form five examination fees.
Some time ago a close relative of mine got off cheap with the worst.
Watching "11 am". They had a programme on the starving refugees. Their plight was a source of sadness for me.
Just before I started my study I had to move, I was very afraid to be left alone and that I could not manage it.
When I was 5, a few of my friends and I would light matches for fun. One of my friends confessed to her parents and my parents, I guess, knew or suspected I was involved but I said I knew nothing about it.
My elder sister forced me to do a few things which I did not like to do.
I feel fear quite often but this feeling was very strong last year when my husband was quite unexpectedly sent to the hospital.
When my flatmate put me down because she "thought" she was better than me, or she felt she was.
Disgust is a feeling that I have never experienced with peoplie but , on the other hand, it has been with repulsive animals, i;e snakes on T.V.
Reading literature on AIDS/homosexuality.
The death of a friend.
In the bus I was sitting next to a colleage who was drunk and behaved in keeping with his state.
Bus conductor insulted me for not buying a ticket (I forgot).
My 3 children - each top his class in the final exams 1984.
Skiing down a very icy slope, very fast in white-out conditions. Out of control with no idea of what I was doing or where I was heading.
Recently when my sister, who is four years younger than me and very spoiled, shouted at my mother for no apparent reason . The heart-broken expression on my mother's face made me feel very angry.
My best friend started moving out with my boyfriend. When I heard this my heart sank because I didn't expect that my own good friend could do such a thing, so I got angry.
I was in hospital, and then was visited by someone quite unexpected.
I failed to show up at an agreed date.
When I first saw a person begging.
When I was pressing figures on the curtain cloth. I had bought the cloth after months of hindrances.
I was feeling really low - had been a series of fights with my siblings, been under pressure at school and wasn't going to the party I wanted to go - instead I was going out with my family. A guy called and said, in effect, that I was "nice" and he liked me. Hence the emotional joy.
I had planned to study for my mid-term exams on a certain day and my room-mate called me to ask me to go out for a stroll. I tried to make an excuse so as not to go out but she refused to listen to me and insisted that I go out with her. I find it unnecessary to talk to her anymore.á
When I masturbated in my room.
Seeing a friend "making love" to a high school girl. I accidentally was dragged into this room where the happenings had occurred. I was disgusted at the reality.
When I heard on the radio that the football match in Belgium had ended in a catastrophe, and several people had died. I could not understand how normal people could behave in such a way.
My father had an operation which lasted for hours. We were all very worried but it was successful.
I stole carrots and got caught. I had to apologize to the owner.
When my best friend got a boyfriend. Because of this a relationship of ten years was finished abruptely.
Waiting for a taxi - when within 1/2 an hour two separate people challenged me to fight for no apparent reason except they were drunk.
When the Real Madrid team of basket ball qualified for the final of the Europe Cup at Athens.
My first day to work in hospital, when I was dressing wounds I was disgusted when I came across one wound with a very bad smell.
I made friends with a classmate whose behaviour I did not like - he tried to flatter other people and did not respect me.
Once in my homes yard, I was plaing football with my cousin and in a certain quick the ball went on uncontrolled putting down a bird-cage, killing it.
When I was six years old we were on holiday in France. There was very heavy weather then.
When I was at a boarding school at Lusaka, the Rhodesian soldiers came to bomb a house near our school and we saw the whole scene.
When I was a child, my uncle came to see us. I spit at him and ran out - I do not know the reason for that. My father came after me and insisted on my apologizing.
Two years ago, somebody I like very much wanted to give up his studies. I tried to make him understand the importance of what he was going to do, not only of the difficulty to find a job but also because he will decrease his culture etc. This person made the test to the college entrance examination and to our great joy we found out that he succeded in entering at the University.
Following heavy stirring / ridiculing a close friend who was very vulnerable to such attack - inspiring fierce, defensive counter-attack.
Doing poorly on a midterm.
After a footballmatch I went home by car, a friend drove. I did not realize that he was drunk until we were in the car. He was madly racing. Several times we were in dangerous situations and I told him to be cautious, but he did not care.
When I "hated" one of mmy flatmates who was nice to me.
When going to the exam.
I was the reason behind the break-up of my friend's relationship with his girlfriend. She finished with him.
My boyfriend made me a proposal.
I was in grade seven and my class was planning a protest against a rude and immoral teacher. I sneaked out and told the headmaster about it and so the plan was foiled.
I was forced to go to a party with someone I didn't love and he was telling people that I was his girlfriend.
I was angry about 3 months ago and I kicked backwards against the wall. It caved in and so I had to show it to my parents. I had been angry after my mother said something to me about not being able to find clothes in my size - something that I'm sensitive about. (6' 5'' 210)
Death of paternal grandmother to whom I was very close - died of cancer.
Sitting alone in a quiet room concentrating on things happening around me which pleases me.
I was late meeting someone for an appointment.
When a thief broke into my house at night.
I was "best man" at my brother's wedding a year ago.
Passing away of my father.
My sister lost one of her twin sons (my first nephews) and then the older one died a week later.
Lack of respect for my parents.
I thought him a good friend but he tried to lie to me several times. Last time was the height of impudence. He promised he would come home but he didn't. I felt a sense of anger and insult.
When I was little - Mum caught me telling a lie about who broke the cup.
I was about to begin a journey in a car with an acquaintance of mine.
When confronted and in my opinion hassled by the police.
Third highest grade in the class and the best answer given for one question (the question was graded by the professor and he indicated he liked my answer).
When I splashed a child by not slowing down while driving through a puddle of water.
Succeeding in helping others.
Being insulted in public for the wrong reason.
I last really felt sad when I left home for I was leaving all my long time, pre-kindergarten relationships behind.
Last week a former school (secondary) mate of mine, who is now in a differentt school came to my room here at UNZA in my absence. He was drunk and he vomited in my room. I was unhappy.
When I realized that I was far behind the others in the language course and I could no longer catch up with the others.
When the church choir came one Sunday after being away for some weeks.
The sudden death of one of my parents.
When a group of friends began to make critics about me.
Some students trying to please the lecturer.
We went fishing some 5 or 8 kilometers off the shore of Lake Malawi. Before we could settle down the lake became very rough to the point of threatening our lives.
My friend was pregnant, but lost her child during the second month. I went to see her at hospital - she was crying. I felt very sorry for her.
One night a very dear person said: "I hate you". Of course it was an impulse and this person didn't feel that about me. The person expressed regret, and everything was settled, but I can't forget.
Getting back my math midterm, I received a lower grade than I thought I would get. After going through the questions I felt that the grader had graded harshly and I had made only a few ? errors.
First weekend back home after one week at Uni I scolded one of my sister's best friends for using our telephone. Very silly, but I was annoyed because she was there at a time when I needed to be with my family.
When I was admitted to the Bulgarian State Conservatoire.
To force someone to do something that suits me.
I felt guilty when I tore a photograph I found at my boyfriend's place only to realise that it was his sister who was on the photograph.
When abroad, while driving a car along a dark, winding road.
A mishap suffered on misinterpreting a girl's proposition.
I was in Sierra Nevada, climbing a peak over 3,000 metres high, without any light and with many other problems. I was afraid for my life.
While still at school a friend died of cancer, after being ill for a long time, she was 17 yrs old.
When my dress and a few other things were stolen from my wardrobe.
When I get a hug from someone I love.
When my grandfathers died and I realized how much I would miss them.
When I red a report in the magazine VESA about an Iranian telling what she had lived in the prisons in Iran. I felt disgust about that people.
I "snapped" very abruptly at my mother when she said something silly and stupid, (in front of other people) she looked so defenceless & hurt & told them that I'm always doing that.
I had thrown with the ashtray a still lighted cigarette in the plastic wastepaper basket. It had burnt out and my landlords made me a row that I might had set their flat on fire.
When I as a Pakeha (white) new Zealander, was just as racially prejudiced as other people whom I had condemned.
When I went to see the result of an exam and saw that I had failed.
The emotion came when I misbehaved at school and the Principal threatened me that I was going to be expelled.
The 2nd time someone I had met cared for came over to my house I was absolutely inebriated and was sick into a bucket.
When I was a child it was found out that I had taken off my clothes outdoors. It was summer and my friend and I were out in the woods. It had felt exciting at that time. My parents discovered that my trousers were back to front and I felt ashamed.
My teacher reminded us not to do a Summer job, however I did it for two months. Yesterday I was chatting with my teacher and when we talked of the Summer job, I felt ashamed.
When I got my fingers stuck in one of the side holes of the door, in the tube.
Betraying someone's trust.
Being alone in the room at night.
When I took the car of someone without saying it to him.
When I nearly walked on a blindworm and then saw it crawl away.
Wrongly accused a classmate.
Telling a lie to wife over phone about what I had been working at.
When my dad told me about something he had done against my mother.
My classmate always borrowed my notes and would not return it to me on time. When I had a test she was selfish and irresponsible and so delayed my studies.
Finding out that the class leader can go to your lectures, and his English is worse than mine.
For the sheer pleasure of it, I quarelled with my boyfriend who was trying to be especially kind to me.
In the house where I live there is a new flatmate. His friends unfortunately are the dirt of society, intelligent, fashonable, rich and bored. At a party recently they were doing things I didn't like done in my house. I felt angry at them.
While playing basketball I broke a team member's spectacles. His face was injured by the pieces of glass. It was not serious but I felt guilty and blamed myself for being too careless and vigorous in my game.
When after a party celebrating a friend's 21st birthday - upon leaving I found 10 people outside throwing up and further 4 unconscious.
4-letter words on a TV programme (Roche) while we were entertaining "conservative" relations who wanted to see the first episode.
When I heard that a 14 years old girl had been raped by four rikshaw drivers in our town.
A class-mate died after being two months in coma, after a car accident.
When my sister - after a history of one abortion and one stillbirth - gave birth to a perfectly healty boy.
I have always felt ashamed for some people's behavior to their too old parents. I have felt hurt and shy when they have left them to the mercy of fate.
Sleeping alone in a tent, while hearing several noises such as rustling etc, I am afraid that there are people who are up to no good.
Having my luggage checked at Customs.
Teenage neighbours smashed my letterbox for the fifth time in a couple of months. It was a deliberate action of kids who had stayed in my home, had meals there yet took a dislike to my daughter.
I passed successfully the preliminary exam for a participation in the children Assembly.
On Reperbahn, in a restaurant, a "charming" old saleswoman came to beg a drink for herself.
When I see that my mother forces my little brother (15 years) to work very hard for school. I don't agree that she constantly puts him to work, but I don't tell it to her, so nothing changes.
Having my personal objects rearranged by someone else without my consent and having it arranged to their taste. Then trying to find a particular object they rearranged for an hour or more.
The day I woke up to find that a kitten I had wanted to keep had been eaten by the neighbour's dogs. It had been locked out by my wife who claimed that it had dirtied the sheets.
Acting in a play at the orientation camp made me feel timid.
A girl asked me why I didn't dance. I told her I was ashamed to dance. I felt myself ashamed having to tell her this.
The first time that I saw a dead person. This was when I started my gross anatomy practicals.
At a friend's party there were several allusions to my sexual adventures.
I am disgusted with a nieghbour who is looking for all sorts of quarrel with my parents and me. He feels we are hampering his living close to us. This has been going on for quite a long time.
Grandfather lives in a home for the elderly. He always looks forward to visits. On his birthday (by coincidence it was on "Mummy's day") however, nobody went to see him. Is the own family more important than grandfather ?
Doctors ignored relative who complained about pain, and is now dying of cancer.
A story I heard recently about a baby dying after sexual abuse.
I got pass marks in the H.S.S compulsory courses while most people performed well.
I made the college entrance examinations for P.U.C. It was what I wanted more. When the first list came out I got frustrated. I wasn't in. When the second list came out without hopes I started to read the newspaper and my name was thre. I was in the bus and felt like crying so that everybody could hear me. The cry was hold, and 1982 became forever a mask in my life.
I had written a "love-letter" to a class-mate of mine, this was meant to be a joke. Unfortunately it fell in the wrong hands and I had to face the consequences.
On New Year's Eve I went in a disco with friends. I amused myself and got to know many other people.
I offended my mother.
A pig in the well from which we drink.
I was going around with a girl without loving her. Not only did I go around with her, but we did many more things. In the end I was not very sincere to her.
A girl, who is a friend of mine was having an affair with a boy who is also a friend of mine. I got to know that this girl was also seeing another guy. Later on, she just broke off with this friend of mine without giving any explanations. This made him sad and depressed, and I felt disgust for this girl.
Guilt at often being unable to visit a close relative in hospital after her death I felt very guilty and wished I had done more.
When I was accepted for my third year (G-10) at my former secondary school.
It was a narrow and dirty passage which was located near the market and I had to stand there to wait for people.
My mother and her friends were speaking badly about my father when they were separated, and my brothers and sisters and myself were allowed to listen.
I was involved in a ... attempt on a man I had developed a close warming relationship with. Although I knew I had done everything I could and that his progress of a "normal" life was poor I felt guilty as if I could have done more.
One evening I stayed at home all alone. As we lived on the ground floor, I was often afraid of burglers.
When my grandmother, my second mother died.
Occured while preparing for a midterm in Social Welfare that I thought was going to be very hard and felt unprepared for.
I worked with several classmates on a project. I was very anxious about the project while my partners showed no concern and when we had meetings on the project my classmates did not pay any attention. Some of them read books while the others argued on irrelevant questions. The meeting would go on for two hours without the main theme being discussed. We wasted time and could not reach a compromise. My classmates avoided doing the work and the responsibilities, they seemed to value other projects more than this one.
At Christmas night there was a good movie on television which I wanted to see for years. I was whining about it till someone told me it was very childish. Then I felt shame.
When I applied for the college entrance examination to FUVEST, and I wasn't approved in the second fase.
When I failed the entrance exam of the medical school and was studying biochemistry which has no job prospects in Zambia.
When I failed my Standard 8 Examination for the first time.
When I received some good news : I obtained an amount of money I needed to buy something I had been planning to buy.
When my brother gave me a watch.
I work for a journal. Once the lay-out came to nothing, due to thoughtlessness of some colleagues.
I did bad on a test I didn't study for.
Canoeing across harbour in winds - 20 knots and rising seas.
When someone tried to bewitch me and my friends at night.
Not winning a medal in the swimming contest.
A friend catched me while masturbating. I am not fully sure whether she saw it or not.
I was angry about how the government acted concerning Hainburg, especially when I saw a discussion about it on TV.
I used to have two boyfriends in the past. Then one of them wanted to get engaged to me. I agreed but was guilt-conscious for disappointing the other one.
When I heard about the way a parent of a friend had mistreated him, and caused a great instability.
Unexpected visit by a close friend, whom I hadn't seen for half a year.
I went home late one evening and saw that the security lights were off. I got inside the gate and just then I realized that the dogs may be outside.
One night at three o'clock I was followed by a cardriver, who tried to molest me.
Close friend discovered I had deceived them. Felt shame at having done it and knowing that they knew.
Whhen the front tyre of the car burst.
Despite my being affectionate, sincere, and helpful to close relatives of mine; they turned around and accused me of being inconsiderate in my relationship with them.
One of my friends came to know through some other friends that I  had applied for some course in an institute. He asked me "why did not you tell me, I would also have applied." At that I felt guilty.
I thought I would be able to use the mangle of the house, and so I did not want any help. However, I blocked it and I had to get the janitor to help me out. He reproached me for not having followed the instructions
An unjust calumny concerning me.
That someone would discover whom I really love.
At a weakness on my part.
No specific instances - perhaps having lied as a child resulting in someone else being blamed for the event.
During a party I overheard a conversation about china. When I wanted to give my opinion one of the people came out to be Chinese and his opinion was right of course.
I suddenly found that those whom I considerered to be my good friends did not care for me. Although I could still be with them I felt unimportant. I deeply thought about the reason behind this so as to see who was responsible for this. Finally I made up my mind and decided not to expect too much from them. I was sad when I decided that they were no longer my good friends.
When my friend had a child out of wedlock.
When my son omits to carry out certain duties at home that he knows needs doing.
Students fear many things but we seem to fear the examinations most of all. I remember I was horror stricken before my microbiology exam, because it was a decisive one.
A series about Freud was shown on TV. In it, a tampon had been set in the nose of a woman, and forgotten there. After great pain it was taken off (close-up picture), the woman was bleeding from the nose and the mouth.
I was on my surf ski. Rather large waves to strong current separated me from my ski and we both began to drift slowly (actually rather quickly) away to sea. The direction I was drifting in was taking me straight over a reef on which rather large sharks were constantly being caught. (I was alone with no one to help me).
I hate hypocrisy. My friend (girl) tried to intrude into my affairs with my future husband. After that she behaved as if nothing had happened.
During the exam period I studied in the library alone. A close  friend of mine, who is also a classmate, told me that my application for a Japanese inter-cultural exchange programme had been accepted. I was not very sure as I did not know that the list had been declared. I ran to the board and saw that I was really included in the list. I was so excited that I smiled all day long. When I met my classmates and friends I told them the good news. I was so happy that I could not concentrate on my studies.
Being asked to go out by someone I care.
When I saw a very disagreable scene.
I wanted to get in contact with a girl I loved, but I was afraid she would refuse me.
One night, at a friend's place I realized that I had everything I most wished, around me.
My feelings towards would-be in-laws for their participation in recent broken relationship.
Last week a friend of mine called on me and said I was moody and difficult to persuade. With this I got angry with her.
I was sleeping when I heard the neighbours screaming, I peeped through the window and saw a thief trying to enter my neighbour's house.
When someone stole my bike.
At the airport, eighty beer cans that I was carrying in a bag spread all around while I was going through the metal detector.
I met a dear friend of mine after a long time. I expressed my feelings in our own usual way, by mutual scolding and abusing (with complete understanding) and by touching, patting and taking the hand of the other person, etc...
When I encountered not only with my father's lack of understanding but also with his unwillingness to understand me as a parent, as far as things for which I (not he) have proves to be right are concerned.
Yelled at my parents for not buying me a car like other parents.
One night, I went out with some friends for dinner and I did not tell my parents that I would come back late. I thought of phoning but in the end I did not. When I arrived home, my parents were very worried.
Our dog had to be shot because he had killed a roe. I liked him very much and so I could not resign myself to that. I hated the hunter who shot him.
Towards wife's laziness in not performing her usual duties because of television watching.
I was with a girl one night and then did not call her again, although she had asked me to do so.
I cut a friend's hair in anger, without any consideration.
Not having owned up to the responsibility an incident where family car received minor damage.
I experienced it once when we were on a drive. Our car passed by the one comming from the opposite direction at an incredibly small distance.
My boyfriend finished our relationship when I started studying psychology in Nijegen, because then we would not be able to meet frequently anymore.
When my boyfriend once again told me that he loved me after a period in which he felt very depressive.
Misunderstood by friends.
When I was in Form 4, at Secondary School, I was elected as a school Library Assistant and also the leader of Catholic Students, so I felt very joyous.
I stayed at home for a period because I felt depressive and I neglected my study when people adked me, I told them that I had freeterm and studied hard. I felt ashamed for my behavior and lies.
When I was little and didn't own up to placing a lolly on the varnish, this pulled it all off and I didn't admit my guilt.
I talk too much, cannot keep things secret. I promised a friend not to tell something to anybody. Neverthless, I did, and she got informed about it. I felt very ashamed.
I told Mr Winter of Downtown Fashion to go to - when he did not accept my Visa !
When I realized that I was pregnant. I thought about what my relatives and friends would think about me and I felt a lot of self pity.
The male friend of my mother (a widow) moved in to live with us. I did not like the man.
I was sleeping alone in the house at night. A boy putting on a short only knocked at the window whispering that I should open for him.
After our sad first of May party, I felt ashamed because the friends who had been invited had to suffer. We, the organizers of the party, did not drive the intruders away.
The more than satisfactory result of a recently-completed university subject was communicated to me by phone.
I could not finish my homework on time.
When a girl I wanted very much, said "yes" and fell in love with me.
In the University we were convoked to a stroll like a freshman I was still innocent about the manipulation. On seeing the goal of the exaltation to poor character people, I felt anger on feeling myself mass of maneuver.
I get angry when someone imputes on me things I never can do, naturally negative. Servility, "connections", impudence, traits that get me mad.
I felt guilty at being part of the successful people. Felt guilty at being a student when other people were not. Guilt about being a potential success in various areas of society. (So stupid this emotion)
When I failed at the first entrance exam.
That my brother and father are into alcohol, two men with priviledge. Not using it positively.
I lived in a flat with a couple. The woman was so jealous of me, that she sometimes had crying fits. Eventually her husband could not stand that any more and wanted to kill me.
Forgetting a close friend's birthday.
I had a feeling of shame when I found myself unable to answer some questions from my tutor simply because of a lack of preparation.
Marriage crises. Boredom.
I flet shameful when I learnt that I cooked Nsima which was full of lamps in it.
I went to fetch my girl-friend at the station. When the train arrived and I saw her descending and running up to me, I felt glad.
When I was in F4 I led my class to a riot. However the form master said that my conduct was good and asked me to tell him the names of those who had taken part in it.  I replied that I did not know.
When my relationship with my family is very poor I often fear being excluded from the group, a fear which is stronger in situations when an argument is on hand.
The time when my sister had her first baby I was so happy and joyous because she stayed for two days after marriage before she had a child.
I lost a conference because I hadn't got in touch with a certain person to inform her that I would go with her. I thought she knew what I wanted.
I was drawn up a statement for an infringement of the traffic ordinance. In fact I was innocent.
When I am dirty because I have not had a shower for a few days.
Forgot to turn up on prescribed day for jury service.
Badly chosen words to a vague acquaintance of mine made me feel ashamed at having given the wrong impression about what I wanted to say. Thoughtlessness.
With a group of handicapped people we went to a party. When we wanted to leave we were not able to find one of these people. I had told his mother that we would leave at 4.30 p.m., actually it was planned for 3.30 p.m. Therefore there was a delay.
I escaped from communicating with God for a long time. I did not read the scriptures and I did not pray. I felt that I was getting further and further away from God. I felt guilty as this was because of my laziness.
Being treated unfairly and being hurt by someone I love.
One day my boyfriend put my hand on his penis and I felt well, but after I felt a guilty conscience because I hadn't thought about the consequences that this could have brought if I had gone farther.
When I spanked a child in anger and later regretted it terribly.
I felt very angry after one driver had run over my beloved niece.
When I was accepted as supervisor for a student teacher. The notification came by post.
When I finished the work that I had planned to do - my homework.
On a telephone talk where I was agressive and stupid without the least, reason or better motive.
I was at a children's camp abroad. The people (the leaders, my coevals) were very king to us. One night we smeared our foreign friends with tooth-paste while they were sleeping and then we roused the whole camp by our shouts. Later I was so sorry. I didn't utter a word for two days, then I went to apologize.
I was really angry when the President general of UNZASU was arrested by policemen.
I was walking home one night (after getting a bus to my town) when I was confronted by a group of males (about 6), they would not let me pass - they made comments etc. - I crossed the road and hurried home.
It was August 30th when I heard on the radio that I passed my M.C.E. exams and I was really happy and joyous because of the event.
Criticized in front of the class.
Attending to a demand made by a client (I work in a bank) I suggested her an application of money in a week ahead, but I informed her wrongly. The client arrived a week after and the application wasn't made and she lost with this a lot of time and money.
I was shopping in Utrecht with friends, we also ate some chips and snacks in a snackbar, then we saw a shabby fellow. He took a cold half eaten croquette (a snack) from a rubbish bin and eat it.
Being mistreated by my former primary school teacher, Mr Zalu.
When I had gone for a boxing tournament which ended at 2 o'clock in the morning. I was alone on my way back, and I could hear the barking of the dogs, the nocturnal animals and the sound of my   own footsteps. There had been a rumour circulating that there were ghosts in that area.
At school when I had a shouting argument with a friend over my ability to carry out a particular duty in the correct way without harming her.
Father said: If you are pregnant, you will have to procure abortion. I was filled with disgust against my father.
My best friend at school told lies about me to a boy I was seeing and went out with him herself.
Receiving understanding from within self of a subject I had previously wished to understand better.
Because I was lazy and unthoughtful I did not get into contact with a very close friend when she shifted from the Gold Coast to Brisbane, for a month, despite her efforts to contact me. I felt shamed when I finally confronted her again.
When I met an old schhol friend (school love) who works in Sk+vde.
Saw a mate bribing the leader.
Finding out that the university police was afraid to stop the foreign students playing loud music (China's shame).
The fact that I was pregnant. I was always considered level headed and did not have sex until 18 and out of high school.
When I did not get the salary increase that I had been expecting and understood how little one's work was appreciated.
Going away for the weekend, leaving my College room open - when I returned several friends had had a party there, leaving the mess.
At a weekend's seminar my trousers suddenly burst, therefore I was prevented from participating in several activities.
Last Summer I was walking along the beach in a bikini and an awful man came cycling after me. He was shouting and I ran as fast as my legs could carry me.
I felt sadness when I remembered my former boyfriend with whom I got separated an year ago and when comparing him with my present one with whom things are not much of a success.
At a meeting with over one hundred people, they decided who had to speak from the stand by drawing lots.
I felt anger against a colleague of mine during a rehearsal in acting. He hadn't learnt the text of an opera act in the course of several months and thus making difficulties for the rest of my colleagues.
Joy for me is when all my family gather around home for special occasions as Christmas etc. It really gives me joy to see my family and relatives and to observe natures productivity process which have been going on for centuries.
My mother and my sister carried on picking at me all day long for no reason at all and I ended up getting angry.
I was to meet a friend at the bus-stop (he was coming to visit us) and he did not turn up. After having waited for him for some time   (about an hour) I called him up, to be told that he did not intend to come as he was feeling tired.
The person whom I liked most left me for a friend of mine, after several months of mutual help and a profound knowledge of each other.
A nuisance used to live in our flat a month ago. I experienced this feeling when I tried to chase her out.
When I failed some tests my first year at CAL.
I am afraid before an exam or colloquium.
I stayed for several weeks with a friend of mine before she moved to live with her husband. One evening he came drunk and made an awful scene, which I still remember.
The day my parents were involved in a car accident and had to be operated and before the operation the doctor said that it was mater of life or death.
My elder sister scolded me in front of my younger sisters and cousins. She said that I was very lazy and I felt so sad that I cried myself to sleep.
Before important sports events.
I received a letter from my college telling me that I would not be allowed to sit for the exams because of my low attendance in class and the bad experience in the terminal exams.
Being in love for the first time.
When I failed the grade seven exams.
When I went in a clinical hospital and saw in what conditions people are attended there.
A male, Honduran acquaintance of mine despised my opinions.
When I recently got an appartment in central Gottenburg.
When my father addressed me directly and maliciously, thus including me in the "family war".
When I watched a film about the problems of abandoned children (PIXOTE).
When we were going to Nkhoma last Saturday the vehicle was moving very fast, so I feared we might crash since the road was too rough.
I felt the above condition when I was found in a house playing with another man's wife where I was asked questions and I was unable to answer.
When I decided not to out any longer with a girl whom I liked quite a lot. This made me feel low for a some time.
I woke up in the middle of the night of a nightmare, I was alone, it was very quiet and very dark.
I've a situation of responsibility an employee who had a habit of being late, came late again after promising to say he would be at work in a few minutes, then arrived 3 hours later. He had been drinking.
Almost crashing into the back of a car while driving along the motorway on my motorcycle.
When an English teacher unfairly made me repeat a semester which I thought I had passed. I had to ask my parents for some more money to carry on studying.
The first time that I saw a surgeon cut off a leg and put it in a black rubbish bag.
I met my ex boyfriend by chance. We separated a few months ago and I am now with a new boyfriend. My ex boyfriend looked depressed, and I know I am not to be blamed.
I went to see a movie and I went with a friend, it was really frightening and it made me stop and think about the world around me and what it is really like out there. I was frightened all that night.
At school, I did not tell the teacher that it was me who had laughed, and she punished the entire class by making them stay behind for one hour.
When I was young I got lost on the street and the police found me after a day.
I felt guilty when I failed to take an exam though I had had enough time to read for it but I hadn't made use of it.
When fell in love with my present girlfriend.
During a class I was asked a question which I did not hear very clearly, so I gave an answer which was not related to the question and everyone started laughing at me.
Watching the Asian Olympic game (China winning).
When, as a child, I was nearly knocked down by a car.
When my elder sister died.
It was when I discovered that the girl who I had proposed was a friend's girlfriend.
When I was in a situation which seemed hopeless for me, I moved back to my parents. For my father it went without saying anything (normally he ofter grumbles at me).
I was captain of the school swimming team. The team was only two points in front before the last relay. We won the relay, which I swam in, and thus my team won the championship.
When I failed the M.S.C exams.
When friends found out that I had been lying about where I had been on a particular occasion.
Two years ago I saw a film on the TV. Even now it makes me afraid.
This was when I was discovered stealing a piece of bread at home, I was very hungry a few hours before supper.
A friend which I hadn't seen for years, sent me a small present.
When my girlfriend became pregnant.
I was carried away while talking about my visits abroad and I tended to boast a little, till I realized that the listener was amused.
Walking along with a dog barking at you and following you.
I beat my young sister because she refused to wash plates. She started crying and I felt sorry and guilty for what I did.
When I found my boyfriend, who I had been dating for a year, at another girl's house. We had had previous conflicts concerning the girl, but he had always claimed they were just friends.
My first real experience with a boy. We were alone. I was quite young and pretty naive and he was pretty crude and real, sort of, macho. It was dark, at night during the summer and we were talking.
In August,1983, the long awaited "big envelope" (a document for C.U.H.K admission) arrived. It was in the afternoon and I had not been doing anything. When the postman, with his big bag, knocked on the door I knew what it was about. I hurriedly opened the envelope and my mood at that time is hard to describe. It lasted several hours and only calmed down later.
When my girl told me that she loved me more than any male creature on earth and that I would be the only one in her heart for all her life.
When I nearly caused a traffic accident with my car.
When I had to sleep in a bed at a hostel, which was full of dirt.
Not doing well in examns which I should do well (English examns).
This situation keeps occurring - when my little sister disagrees with me or vice-versa. We have very similar temperaments and I always end up feeling angry at her and myself for fighting so much over unimportant trivial matters.
When unjustified hurting other people.
When my rights to use a shared house had been usurped by co-owners out of pure selfishness.
Leaving the house myself and a female friend had shared for 6-8 months because of the friendship which developed and our approach to each other in occasional instances of several personal crises.
This last August when my parents dropped me off and moved me into college I didn't know anybody here; I was 17 and Berkeley really scared me.
I felt disgusted when I was in a restaurant which didn't appear to be clean and orderly. (I do not like to be in unclean environments).
On rising. No apparent reason.
When I heard that my nephew had passed away.
When before the last exam I have taken, I went out instead of studying.
After a hard day at the university I also had to make dinner that evening. It failed because of a frying pan which broke.
In a fit of temper I told things that were unjust and they greatly hurt my mother though she didn't show it.
At church camp when I accepted Christ into my life and so did my friend.
I was told that a friend of a friend committed suicide.
When I was cycling past a parked car someone opened the door and nearly pushed me off my bike and into the traffic.
When a very near person got into an awkward situation but showed only helplessness and indecision.
When I saw in the newspapers, on the T.V, and magazines the chaotic situation caused by the drought and hunger in Mauritania.
When an acquaintance of mine told me about the way his parents treated their sons in an unequal manner. The most successful of them got continuous encouragement, and the youngest was not encouraged and was rejected.
My father promoted to be a professor.
I was watching a sad film and it affected me deeply.
When my mother surprised me while masturbating.
I am afraid of my academic results as I will face several problems. I am scared of my limitations and the unlimited problems and I do not know how to cope with them.
Can't remember exact example.
I was in the living room at home with an ex-boyfriend, it was nearly a year that we had separated, during the talk he began to remember our courting and gave me a long kiss.
I feel this emotion very often when I try to express my feelings in public, because other people do not understand my reactions and think that I am silly.
I was to meet one of my friends (girl) at the library at 8:00 already dark. She would be walking alone. She was 45 minutes late but I kept waiting, calling her room and other places she could have been.
When my grandmother passed away. We had been waiting for it as she had been sick for years, but when it happened I found it hard to accept.
When I had to finish those big amounts of homework in time.
When once my mother asked me to do some work for her at home because she was busy and moreover this work was to be done by a man. But it remained undone.
While trying to get my little brother over a ditch, he fell on his head and started crying. I was scared of having caused him permanent injury.
When I nearly drowned in icy water wearing ice skates. It was difficult to get out.
As a child I suffered of nightmares. Even since than, I have never been so anxious and fearful.
It happened when I lost two very intimate friends in a car accident.
When I forgot to cook something that my mother had told me to, and at supper time the food that I was supposed to have prepared was not there.
My little brother was arrested by the police at the railway station after he had drunk some beer.
I happened to have met one of my teachers in town during working hours. The badness was I didn't ask for permission to go out and I was guilty-conscious.
I feel disgusted since I am unable to cope with all the wordly affairs as I spend much precious time to pursue my hobby and to be admist the people I love and long to be with.
When I did not get the compound which is known.
Truely, I got very ashamed when my brother was sent out of Business Machines Limited Company due to improper handling of the office equipment in Sales Services.
When I was fined for speeding.
While I was pushing a court roller out of a ditch, I slipped and fell down and the roller rolled back towards me -down slope-It is a miracle that I still have my legs intact.
When my friend did not pass the high school graduation examinations.
When I noticed that a person I found attractive had seen me picking my nose.
Once while crossing a road I was overcome with fear.
My classmate got a "B" for his homework while I only got a "C". When we got the results he acted as if he did not merit this grade. I found that his humility was hypocritical and I found it disgusting.
A theft committed by me.
I made a very insulting remark against a person whom I care for very much. This event was caused by a third person who didn't like the person I insulted.
That a friend had been badly beaten and stabbed many times and the person that did it got away without any punishment from the law.
When my daughter gave her solo dance performance in Poona and there was a big applause, I was overjoyed.
I was rushing home from school because there was a 49er game that night. I got into a non-injury accident, which was all my fault, but destroyed the front of my car. The truck I hit was undamaged.
Afraid I wouldn't catch the train when I was going to see my sweetheart.
When I received my report card in C.O.U. I was afraid of obtaining low marks, but they were much higher than expected.
When I was young I saw a horror film. Then when I went to sleep, the film came back too my mind and the characters frighteneed my imagination.
When I gave birth to a healthy boy.
When my Bictorian "friend" was staying at my house we ere going places together, and sleeping together. At the time I had a boyfriend locally. The first time I had to face him after sleeping with the guy from Melbourne I felt very guilty.
When I heard about a murder of a 16-year-old girl.
When I got really drunk on Norvegian Indipendence Day, and was not allowed to participate in football (soccer) games for two weeks. That was very unpleasant.
Getting a D in a class last semester and knowing it was because I didn't study.
At age 10 my foster grandmother died, I had a fear of dying.
After having been ill, when I was coming back to the hostel, I felt very sad leaving home.
When I was going to bring back my girlfriend to LA to meet my parents.
My neighbour was not able to set his car in motion because it had snowed heavily. I helped him - he was thankful and invited me.
Brother continually interupting while I was talking on the telephone.
I felt ashamed of myself the first time I drank as nobody in the family drinks. I felt that I had let down my parents and my friends.
When I got a message that my child was not feeling well.
My friend and I planned to search for old documents and utensils in the cellar. It was very late at night when we arrived in the cellar. He indicated the place where the police (40 years ago) found two dead bodies. I got very scared when he told me this story.
Many years ago a friend wanted me to with her to southern Europe and I preferred to travel alone. I felt guilty because I wanted to go on my own.
I was ashamed when my boyfriend went to sit with another girl when he invited me to come to watch Drama festival.
I was pregnant and thought that by not having the baby I would hurt the father like he did me regardless of the life we had created.
The loss of the woman who loved me most till today.
I had been away all night without having told my parents about it. In the morning when I came home, my mother looked tired. She said that she had been awake all night because of me and that she was angry and disappointed.
My class leader told me I am not chosen for your English lectures.
A father helping his kid to fight other kids.
I had worked long and hard on a project when a friend inadvertantly destroyed it. I could not forgive him for a long time. And at times still get angry at him.
In school I was very bad in running long distances and my class-mates laughed at me for this reason.
I had an implicit agreement with my sister about meeting her, however she had not understood the situation the same way so she did not turn up.
My friend replying to my letter and again saying he was attracted to me and suggesting we write, talk and get together and see how things went and his suggestion that I could ring and doing that it was really good - though really insane conversation.
I was very angry with a girlfriend for interferring a little too much with my personal affairs. I told her so rather strongly and she started crying.
I returned home late from a party last night and I felt afraid trying to anticipate the reaction of my father.
When my cousin passed away unexpectedly and tragically (a murder).
People not cueing in the dining hall.
Not being able to help my friend to study English.
When I was made to feel responsible for the emotional state a friend of mine was in.
My cassmate laughed at me when I was being scolded by the teacher.
When I was in a bus on my way to the examination centre, a man  sitting opposite me kept looking at me continously. I did not know what was wrong. When I reached the centre I started strolling around as I still had a little time. Suddenly a man came and whispered "You have forgotten to zip up your trousers." I was at a loss to say anything and I felt very embarrassed. When I thought of the bus incident I felt even more ashamed.
When my sister took something that belonged to me without my permission.
Not having good marks like other people for homeworks.
When someone I love told me that she did not love me anymore and that she wanted all the snaps that she had given me in exchange for the ones I had given her.
I didn't visit a very close friend at the hospital and some days later he died.
A drunken friend of mine was beating up another friend, who was also drunk.
After I was thrown out of a car in an accident, this resulted in a fracture.
When I was in a Christian institution, sometimes the nuns would send back the people who came to visit us when it was not the visiting hours. This disgusted me.
I slept in a tent at the Barracks which caught fire at night and my best possessions got burnt in there.
My sister marrying a bad man. He is cruel to her.
When I was accepted as a student at the college, not having thought it possible.
When I complained about a colleague to the manager and he told her that someone had complained; this colleague came to me believing that I liked her.
When I forgot my mother's birthday.
When the summer holiday job was almost over.
When I saw several people washing their car with water from a drain.
When I found that my ability to do ordinary work was worse than my fellow mates.
After taking a difficult midterm for one of my classes, I felt shame for not studying as much as I should have. I was ashamed of the results of the midterm.
I get irritated with my son when he screams or is sick all over his clean clothes.
I was within a hair's breadth of knocking down a drunkard who suddenly ran into the street. The fear came later when I   realized what could have happened.
When my sister left home to go and live with her husband.
Guilt at having pressed another person to expose/explore his personal weaknesses/faults, to the extent that the other person was made to feel terrible/defensive.
A honest "sliding" on the part of a girlfriend of mine. Terribly crossed I started breaking things and tearing books.
Being stopped by the police for a traffic offence which I don't think I committed.
When I heard that a close relative of mine had given birth at a very young age, in a very remote area and had had very few problems.
When a boy tried to fool me so he would be OK trying to show me that he is a gook boy.
I was alone in the bus when I tripped and fell, and dropped all my papers.
I had undertaken to help my sister for her class work but some unexpected circumstances prevented me from doing that.
I felt it when I sat for my exam in anatomy.
After having finished my B.Sc, I was struggling hard to continue my studies and had taken the M.SC exam. I was not sure that I would be selected in the written exam. When I saw my name in the selected candidates list I was overjoyed.
My class leader told me the university won't let all of us go to your lectures because we are not All English Class.
Receiving a letter form a girl that means a lot to me emotionally.
After the car accident in GUILT.
I made a major mistake while learning how to use a computer programme and the teacher criticized me.
My best friend could not get into university.
When I played in a chess championship, I was disturbed by other people. I asked them to be quiet, but in vain.
A month ago when one of my fellow workers got a promotion over me. It was just a small promotion but recognition was involved.
I wanted something in particular and did not get it, also there was no possibility of getting it.
I had worries about a certain illness.
I felt disgusted when I found out that someone had betrayed me. That person had been dishonest with me and I felt used.
Being harrassed for being gay; suggestions of being physically beaten - acting as informal bouncer in a gay bar.
When I was house-hunting: Another person got a flat that I would have liked, too, because he heaped a floot of words on the letter.
The first day I visited the hospital I was disgusted because I experienced offensive smell which I never expected. I nearly ran away from the course.
After confronting the person who stood me up, I blew up and said all the wrong things.
At the hairdresser's, I got two stains of dyestuff on my new trousers. These stains are not removable, so I cannot put on the trousers again.
At a choral concert I appeared as a solist. The concert5 was very good, I forgot all the hard work that had been done before. There remained only an undescribable joy and a feeling of warmth, security etc.
When I nearly got my fiancee pregnant.
I felt joy when my boyfriend proposed to me in marriage.
Reunion with my wife after a legal separation.
We had to take our cat to the vet for mercy killing (an injection).
When my friends and I were camping in a weekend, and with little food, we met a middle age couple from a small town that invited us to eat in their house. Their house was small, badly built with old and dirty forniture and utensils. The problem was with pans, and dishes, and even the food.
When, for example, I fail in my undertakings.
When I discovered that I and my friend would be licensed at the first call. This emotion was accompanied by a great relief. It was the coronation of a year of sacrifice and extrene discipline.
When I had broken a piece of glass of the refrigerator by putting a hot pan in it.
A few years ago my mother suffered from canccer and died within two years. We had not finished our studies then and could not bear our responsibilities as her children. My mother had tried her best to take care of us but she lived in pain these two years. Neither the doctor nor we could do anything for her as cancer is incurable. I was very eager to replace her in suffernig , even die instead of her.
Listening to horrot stories at night.
Watching an old lady running up the street to catch her bus and miss it, it reminded me of my own mother and how dreadful it would be to be her in the same situation.
I was in ILHA GRANDE with a wonderful sun, with wonderful people, with a wonderful sea, with a wonderful boy.
When somebody made me touch human faeces.
When I am alone at night after having read horror stories, and then I heard unexplainable noises.
When my girl went away for a holiday without saying good-bye to me.
When I take a look into a slaughter-house and when listening to stories about torturing people or animals.
I bought something and the shopkeeper gave me more change, I realized this after I had left the shop and was on the bus-stop - and I then needed the money.
I cannot remember exactly such a situation. But I know that once I went to a very dirty lavatory and that disgusted me.
Once in my work it happened a fight between the person in charge and me. I got so angry and spoke out everything I felt at the moment.
Watched a horror movie which involved sexual attacks on women.
When my friend (girl) promised to help me go to the hospital and be examined by good experts and she deceived me.
The breaking up of a long lasting relationship.
When I was told that a good friend was seriously ill.
A teacher gave me lower grades than I was entitled to, and was hoping for.
In the last day of carnaval I met a boy and began to flirt with him. I was in love with him. When he introduced me to his friends I died of shame because I was with them before, I met my boyfriend in carnaval.
When a study tour got confirmed, I was happy all the time till  the tour began.
When I got to know about the reaction of a friend of mine in a certain situation. I had not expected him to react that way.
After I had been away for a long time a friend told me that I had passed all my written examinations.
When I have to take exams I am very excited and have not much time for the housekeeping. Then my friend has to do everything.
I felt anger of a friend when she met "a date" and become nervous and pest as she always gets when she meets him.
Finding out about Chinese money cannot buy foreign journals.
Today I did a lot better on my architecture project than I expected.
Recently, I left my bag in the car of someone who picked me up while hitch-hiking. I spent some effort to find out where he lived (I succeeded).
A teacher wanted to instill a certain opinion and a certain behaviour into myself, what I refused. I was afraid when I saw him.
A shop in Downtown wouldn't accept my Visa Card - before December last year.
When I finished a relation after four years, leading to much sorrow for the other one and myself ("although it was the best solution").
When I found out that my good friend and roommate did not pay the phone bill and electric bill like he promised and let me down.
I helped my little sister (13 years) learning mathematics. Obviously she did not want to understand what I explained and started to cry. I grew angry.
In September 1984, I was forced to live with someone I did not like. The first week we were at loggerheads and our conversation was like a debate. The atmosphere was very bad. When he learnt that I had got 95 marks in a test he told me " A failure, You lost 5 marks."  I was very angry, not because my marks were lower than his, but because I could not tolerate his pride. I did not show my discontentment and carried on doing my work.
When I woke up after a night of drinking I couldn't remember and discovered several untoward things had occurred.
When on holiday in Greece I called my best friend, she told me she passed the examinations and that she had been admitted to the study for speech therapy.
In May 18th, 1984 my boyfriend went to the U.S.A. In December I was told he passed away. He had cancer of the Oesophagus.
It was discovered that I had received a warning letter as my G.P.A was very low.
A friend who was 22 years old, died of leukemia; I had not known that he was so ill and therefore had not cared.
In an exam when I answered the questions with very little assurance due to insufficiet preparation.
At a certain situation I felt myself neglected and undeservedly harmed.
When I was about 14 years old, I "borrowed" a can of drink from the refrigerator, intending to replace it later that day. But it was found missing before I could do anything - no one owned up to its disappearance.
Once I was very frightened at night as I had a very fearful and terrifying dream, I could not go back to sleep for a long time.
Disgust for a person who treated me badly, and has treated other people similarly - including lying, hiding facts, being deceitful, unfair, etc.
To be able to prepare myself better for an important examination, I did not spend the nitht with my girl-friend but in the students' hostel. I had not done that for months. The day when I had the examn, somebody knocked at my door at seven o'clock in the morning. My girl-friend who likes sleeping late, had come to be able to be with me.
When somebody stole my brother's disco machine.
First day back on the job.
My boyfriend was playing with my cat. He was playing games with her and telling nice things to her.
I may not be clever enough to understand your English lectures.
At school, I had acted against the will of the group, and the next day they promised to take revenge on me.
Before one of my final exams of the third year - natural sciences.
I met a girl (22 years old), married. I liked her. I asked her for a date and I kissed her. I discovered that she lived nearby where I passed every day. I got amused thinking that her husband would be ... or me . I didn't talked to her anymore.
When I dived among sharks and the brightly coloured fish on the outer reef of Tvavni, Fidgi.
The day I got to know that I would get a shared dwelling with my boyfriend. My parents place was getting a little crowded with my growing bother wanting a room to himself. I first felt doubt, then joy, but also sadness. The feeling of joy was the strongest.
I felt alone among a large number of people. I was sad to see that nobody cared about what was happening to me.
When there was a bomb threat in Tolman Hall. This was the first time that I felt my life could be in danger.
In my village there was this tax collector who used to cheat people and collected more than was wanted, the surplus was for his family and himself.
When I saw a film where a black was rapeing a girl while another one was filming it for a pornographic movie.
When I saw a fight I had a physical reaction of disgust and of deep perturbation.
One evening I was watching the news on TV. Again they were talking about the danger of war. Suddenly I imagined what it might mean for me, for my friends, for the people close to me. I felt it a very near and possible event.
I had a very short term romance during the summer vacations. When we first met I felt excited but I wanted to avoid him after we had met a few times and so I proposed that we stay apart, I felt very sad then.
Passing an examination, although I felt sure I had failed.
In form three we were taking our mock exams and someone else (a friend) was making noise when the examinateur picked on me and said that he would tear up my answer sheet. I got very angry with the girls involved.
My car skidded on the wet street.
Vertigo - standing on a ladder and painting the house.
One day I was walking with my boyfriend. We met my ex-boyfriend and out of jealousy he started calling me names.
I was out with a friend in a place where it was very, very busy. When we wanted to go I bumped a person, who dropped his glass beer I offered a new one but he didn't accept it.
Once when I had started to write a paper, there was a phone call for me. I had to go downstairs to receive it and after the conversation I discovered that all the information had disappeared from my mind.
When we were at home, my husband and I, he made a remark about something I had done, in a perfectly friendly manner. My deed had been unjust and I knew that my husband was right, therefore my sense of shame.
When I opted for my research field, for them the percentage of marks was more important than my knowledge.
When a thief entered the house in which I was sleeping.
A class-mate answered (accidentally) the call of nature in the class during a tough mathematics examination.
A girl I was with yelled something out to this group of guys I knew. It sounded really childish.
When I state things with great positiveness and try to convince others, and it appears that my statement is not right.
This happened recently, I was in the dining hall and one of my friends with whom I was eating called me a fool.
For example, to feel bad because of one's attire, to be among people who do not belong to the same social class, to give a wrong answer in class, to be surprised in particular situations.
When I was driving my car, I wanted to pick something from the floor of the car and drove into the guide-rail. I thought that I should not have done that and felt guilty.
When my boyfriend wouldn't dance with me on my graduation night because he thought I could dance with my friends who were friendly.
When boyfriend could not stand up to his mother or for himself.
When my father's car got stolen from me. (A 1966 Ford Mustang - very hard to replace).
A friend of mine was hurt as he thought that our relationship was not the same as before and something had gone wrong.
When I learned, after the ecography, that my mother was expecting a baby girl. That was what I wanted.
It was when a friend took me to a place and gave me as a gift my astrologycal map with the explanations of a psychologist.
I was with a group of people and everybody told me to do or say something. It was a confusing, strong and traumatic situation for me.
When I failed to answer a simple question.
This was when I was being followed home every day from the campus, by a stranger. He would follow me to the campus and then sit outside my class. If I was not there he would ask my friends as to where I was. He was a dark, ominous looking person and I was terrified of him as I did not know his intentions. I reported him to the security officer, who turned him over to the police. I was even more petrified then.
I had applied for a job and they had assured me that the exams would take place a few months later. A week later I went to obtain some more information and they told me that the exams had already taken place.
At one time while at primary school I lost a pencil case of a friend and I didn't mention it to her until after a fortnight.
I guess I have often been ashamed after having talked badly of other people.
The results of the mid term examinations were very poor.
My roommate's lack of consideration of me.
When I received the letter informing that I had been accepted to be a Chinese university student, I was excited as I had longed for it.
When I was caught with another man's wife. I had taken the opportuinty as this man was abroad but he returned that night.
Got a package from my parents, without even a small note enclosed.
I was seriously injured in a road accident. The very first steps I took with only one crutch to support me I felt so good. I enjoy being alive.
When on Christmas day my grandmother died. I received the news when I was coming back from a party on the 24th at 5 am.
A girlfriend ended our relationship in an abrupt and unexpected manner.
I and my friends got acquainted with a guy from Sofia who turned out to be gay, but we found that out only after 2 or 3 days.
In a confrontation with a person, he provoked me several times till I reacted in an angry way. Fortunately there were no disastrous consequences.
I had promised myself that I would do one good deed every day. One night I saw a beggar whose muscles had been atrophyed. I walked passed him thinking that he was feigning. Later I realized that he had not been pretending and I had a feeling of guilt as I had not kept my promise.
For the loss of a close friend or relative, but you feel grief when you are away from home, too.
I had gone on a vacation and my mother left home without leaving me any thing - money to come back to school.
I had promised to contact a friend about a particular matter by a certain date, then thought no more about it until the friend reminded me after the date had passed.
During a trivial (friendly) discussion, one of the participants made an intervention which made me feel uncomfortable.
I saw in the street a man spitting.
Fear of punishment for having broken an item of value to my parents.
Stopped at a Fast Food shop with friends and a few locals wanted to fight us for no apparent reason. They hit and picked on one of my friends.
When I was still a child I was told off in face of other persons for having touched an object that didn't belong to me.
When I gave my boyfriend a brush-off.
I felt ashamed when I fought with my mother on some issue, and caused her trouble.
When a person is privileged in account of situations that are unjust, and disloyal to colleagues and friends.
When I learnt that I could do further studies at the Chinese university.
I am scared when I stroll alone on the Chung Chi college campus.
While attending some affairs, which were taking some time, with a bank officer, I felt that my clothes and appearance were out of place, too raggy.
Getting back my Psych 140 midterm.
When my mother interfered in my life.
I was living in a flat where things did not go very well for me. Finally, they threw me out and this prejudiced people I esteem a lot.
I borrowed money from a friend and did not pay back the debt when I said I would.
At primary school, when I vomited in front of others in the middle of a lesson.
When I was walking on the street, a group of drunk, bawling young people approached.
Once I had dinner at an elegant restaurant and I did not have enough money to pay the bill. There were a lot of people there and I felt quite awkward.
My family told me to leave if I was not willing to accept the conditions they imposed on me.
The first time I saw a pornographic film, all that in practice is so beautiful but on the screen appered as something mechanical, irrational, disgusting and dehumanizing.
In the last year of the high school we had a huge fight between my group and the graduation commission (two students of my classroom) because they accused us unjustly of a gossip about them.
Something very unpleasant happened when I was a soldier and I was directly involved in it.
When I go out with my friend with enough money and good sense to our favorite dancing.
After some time of work I was transferred to another place and in an other quite harder job.
When my grandmother died - at her funeral.
During a movie in which I saw the effect of white settlers in Africa.
When a so-called friend let me down, when she promised to tell me when a certain concert was occurring, and that she'd get me tickets. I was really looking forward to it. She did nothing, just told me out of the blue one day what a fantastic concert it was going to be.
When I got the scholarship I was very happy as the finacial burden of the family was reduced.
I received a letter from a friend whom I was missing
No ideal result in the University entrance examn, guilty to family and friend.
I think that I am rather shy and do not mix with people as I would have liked to, out of shyness.
Despite our good performance and excellent results the management refused to meet our demands.
When playing a football match, there was one player who made mean tackels, kicked at everything and did things having nothing to do with football.
I took part in a football match. The referee was extremely partial to the opposite team. This stirred up my discontent and anger.
I unexpectedly met a girl with whom I have always got along well. ( I had not seen her for several months.)
When I was confronted by a policeman one night around 11 o'clock. I was afraid when they threatened to take me and my girl to the gallows.
When my boss cut off my vacations saying that in that month it wouldn't be possible, and after some time he let another girl take vacations that month. The anger was because of the resentment. Resulting from our bad relationship.
When I took my entrance exams successfully and also when I got my school leaving certificate because the delivering ceremony was extremely official.
My cat died painfully and slowly.
Walking in the dark by myself.
During a family discussion on my future and my prospects as a student, they accused me of not bothering about looking for a job to assume my financial situation.
On my second plane trip, we ran into unexpected turbulence.
The house was on fire, and I was saved by the dog. I am afraid of the fire, verging on panic.
I was afraid when my mother left me alone to live in our house for one month.
Before the first examn.
I was running in front of a crowd when I slipped and fell on a wet lawn.
When my roommate forgets to flush the toilet.
During a summer holiday at a bar I happened to see a dead to the world woman.
When bathing at surf beach & lost togs.
I went to buy a bicycle with my father. When I wanted to pay, my father took his purse and payed.
In 1983, my results at the university entrance exam were very poor - far from what I had expected.  I thought that I would not be accepted at the university.
When my father managed to begin a "new life" after the divorce from my mother; resulting in a new little sister for me.
When the gear broke on my car.
Last night, I dreamt that things that looked like monsters were trying to kiss me.
When I miss the train and I am late, and I have to wait half an hour for the next one.
I couldn't be with a girl on whom I was very keen.
When I received a letter from the university telling me that my application had been accepted.
My parents are divorced, father pays alimony for me. Two years ago my sister who lives with father, suddenly asked mother for money. As she considered the amount of money my mother offered her too small, she brought an action against mother. I was terribly angry with my sister.
Last academic year I received bad news - my grand-uncle had passed away. I felt lonely and bad because apart from the     biological ties, he was a good old friend of mine at home.
Arguing with a friend over politics. She was more informed on the issues and made me feel very ashamed of my political ignorance.
When a cousin of mine took my bottle of T.B tablets, put water in it and threw it in the dust-bin.
Having finally to admit I was wrong, after having denied it for a long time.
When my brother who has been out of New Zealand for 10 years came to visit with his wife which none of our family had previously met.
When I was left alone one week-end without being prepared for it.
I was very startled when, at night at 2.00 am, a boy approached me and yelled "I fuck you", then however he stopped and laughed at me.
When a friend, after being free of drugs for half a year, started using them again.á
My sister once stole my mother's money and made her very angry. After this my mother would beat her up for unreasonable reasons. One day my sister lent her book to a friend without telling my mother about it. When my mother learnt this she beat her up and even threatened her with a pair of scissors.
It was when I dreamt that I had encountered Satan, he wanted to grab me and take me to his kingdom. He was very repulsive and I have never seen anything like that before.
When I blurted out an answer in class without having been asked to do so. The teacher told me that it was bad manners to do so.
When I was in the army, we got a certain dish for dinner that I do not like at all. We were not obliged to eat, but I was very hungry.
On the road there was a dead animal with its entrails showing and its skull crushed.
When I broke something and a friend of mine was blamed.
When some friends and I get acquainted a guy during vacations I thought he was disgusted and "a friend" of mine for whom I feel a little disgust wanted to stay with him.
When I told my uncle a false story - that people had stolen the books from my room and I demanded money from him. When he found out the truth I was in trouble.
Getting into this university to do medicine.
My grandfather died, when I was an exchange student in the USA.
Doing something wrong at home, and then letting my (normally) more rampant brother take the blame.
When an intimate friend of mine passed B.A with first class and I got only pass class.
I played in a stage play. Suddenly, in front of 200 people, I could not remember the words I had to say.
I was very hungry and just wanted to start eating when a friend called me who usually talks for a long time. I was angry because I was prevented from eating.
My mother suffers from a mental illness. One night she was not feeling well and was sent to the hospital. I was scared that she would die, and all night I was very sad and did not dare to close my eyes.
Before an exam in logics.
Once I was caught by thugs aged between 20-35, they asked me to surrender all the property I had and I remember feeling very scared.
The behaviour of a fellow towards me and some others in the army was really mean. I detested this.
A serious drug error while nursing that I knew I was responsible for (patient lived, no complications fortunately).
On a road trip with a group of sorority and fraternity people, I became intoxicated and basically raped. I don't remember the actual event, but I know the feeling that I experienced later.
It was during a school holiday - I was found necking a girl in my room by my father.
Getting lost in a strange place.
When I pass exams, or when a close friend of mine recovered from an illness,etc.
My nephew is a deaf and also "hyperactive" boy. I had been responsible for looking after him for a full day, and was very tired. Then he suddenly grabbed a knife and stabbed me in the leg. I got so angry that I didn't feel any pain.
I received an unexpected B+ on an engineering midterm. I did not study nearly as much as I should have and it was a difficult test.
The time I was at secondary school during the holiday I appeared to my father while heavily drunk and I talked nonsense like in some sort of carefree.
Two years ago my best friend died in an accident, just a day before my birthray. We were very close to each other and I felt very sad at loosing a close friend.
Not getting an airplane ticket fot my mother.
I felt guilty last year during the winter term exams. A colleague of mine asked me to give him my lecture notes (I had very good notes and I had passed my exam in advance) but I still don't know why I didn't give them to him. That colleague failed and he was on the verge of not passing it at the supplementary examinations.
During carnaval I danced for a few minutes normally I don't dance because I am rigid in my moving around during a dance, I stopped very soon.
When, as an adult I have been caught lying or behaving badly.
I got my driving licence after they had frightened me with it's difficulty.
The last time I felt it was when I was coming home late at night.
My first feeling of falling in love. Coming across a person who made me feel love, happiness, joy, giving me a new and beautiful future, who made me dream.
Fighting with class mates in Highschool.
When I won the best prize in the National science fair.
When I received the news that my beloved grandmother had died. I was at the boarding school and was only 13 years old.
I was in my village when a bull jumped over a fence and started chasing my friends and me. We were very frightened till we climbed up a tree.
When I found out that a person I went to school with had died in a car accident.
My flatmate was asking questions about my relationship with my boyfriend, whether I wasn't treating him as unfairly as I claimed he'd been treating me. As a result, I was angered, and became defensive.
My classmate used her personal relations to get a seat for a subject that I wanted also. I had taken the pains to help him apply and I did not get selected. I did not like this as he had not told me the facts earlier, he need not have lied to me.
The emotion came when a certain boy opened my locker without my knowledge.
When I moved away from home.
I realized that the girl I loved had to leave me.
I got angry at a friend of mine whom I caught reading my notebook (almanach).
When I was parking my car I was not cautious and bumped into another car. I caused considerable damage. The driver of the other car was very angry and I let him insult me because I felt guilty.
When I stepped on a snake at home, it was dark but there was moonlight.
Returning to school and rejoining my girlfriend after 3 months of separation from summer.
When I was accused of "bitching" about best friend.
I complained about a colleague's behaviour as she goes back on her word, is often absent and is irresponsible. I found out that she was an alcoholic and was trying to fight againt her addiction.
Unjust punishment of a friend of mine.
A girl who also hires a room in the house where I live always tries to make a quarrel with everyone available she disgusts me.
When I got a first class in the twelveth standard exams, I was very surprised and happy and I had a very good time with my friends.
Being very close to having an auto accident, almost driving off the road.
When I heard my sister got in a bad car accident.
A very close friend left me.
I was angry with a person who behaved terribly at a ball offending her relatives.
Doing poorly on an exam that I thought I should do well.
I was wearing a slit tight dress at a disco and it burst open.
While playing I urinated on grandma's floor and did not go to the lavatory. My cousin told grandma and she came.
My son lives with my parents in the country and I feel this feeling always when leaving for Sofia, but the last time it was quite strong.
I suffered from a gynaecological illness. I was quite displeased to hear that my roommates had talked about it and they had misrepresented the truth. I felt deeply hurt when I learned that it was done by a "good" acquaintance of mine.
I would have liked to go out to chat with some acquaintances, but I realized that I was not wanted. I felt hurt, disappointed, lonely and deserted.
Once, when I arrived home very late, my parents had an argument because of this; my mother wanted to stand up for me.
My father who is very quiet discovered I was going out with a coloured boy. He called me names and was really upset.
My roommate being nice to a party leader in order to get into the party.
Talking with a nice girl.
I was keeping a friend's Library book which went overdue. My friend was charged for the delay in returning the book to the Library. I felt guilty when I realised I was responsible.
Fight with my mate after a quarrel.
When I was studying in the library - preparing for a test, two people sitting next to me talked to each other for 20 minutes. There were no other seats so I could not go elsewhere and I did  not want to interrupt them, so I could only be angry in my heart.
A friend visited and made comments that my house/garden were not as neat/tidy as in the past. I'd not seen her a year - She implied I'd gone to the pack (I'd only been working full time, and taking 3 University exams part time).
I had to prepare a report but I couldn't write it. I read from a book off-hand, I was quite uneasy and I felt I didn't manage.
Getting slightly intoxicated at the 1984 I.C.C. Ball.
While quarelling with a fellow worker of mine, I was vehement and irritated and I told him what I thought of him in plain language. I was ashamed of myself when I met him the next day.
I get angry when my smaller brother misbehaves and talks with indecent words.
Finding out that old and useless practitioners of retirement age will go to your English lectures and they do not understand English.
A very drunk person.
When I learnt that I had been admitted to the university.
When an acquaintance (he was drunk) of my room-mate vomitted on the kitchen carpet. It was past mid-night and my room-mate had just moved in, this acquaintance had helped her move in.á
When I witnessed an accident.
I was talking to my mom on the phone and she told me that she had just gotten an award that day in front of all these people and she asked me if I wanted her to send me the article in the temple newsletter to me. I said no very quickly and felt guilty for not being more interested and hurting her feelings.
I had a dream about my fiancTe leaving me and making an end to our relation.
The possibility of having failed the examination.
Defying my parents and staying out all night when I wasn't supposed to.
4 years ago my family decided to move from New York to California. From the time we decided to move until the time we left, I realized how much my friends cared for me. When we left and for a long time after that I was very sad.
I was river rafting in Nev. and our boat tipped over and I was sucked under in to some rocks and got stuck and all I could think was that I was going to die. And it was so quiet under the water it seemed like no one would care or remember.
When I was forced to decline the invitation to my mother's 70th birthday because of my work committments in another area.
When the cast general election resulted in Norway getting a conservative government.
Beating my brother up.
When I was twelve I was babysitting some children but I did not act very responsibly and one of them was injured.
My girlfriend and I agreed to go to the cinema. However I completely forgot our appointment. I remembered it two hours too late when I went to visit her.
When I misled a person: I said that I would do her a favour and didn't.
When my term paper was evaluated.
On my birthday a friend came to see me unexpectedly and brought me flowers. I usually do not see her very often.
I felt ashamed when a friend, I had always respected, insulted me in public. He was drunk.
When I heard the last regulation of the socialist govrenment concerning pensions.
When after a lot of provocation my child threw a plate on the floor.
When I had to walk home from the bus-stop in a skirt that I had soiled. It drew a lot of attention and they all seemed to want to see the blood stains.
I wanted to go out to walk but I didn't know either where or with whom, suddenly an invitation appeared.
When I was a child, I fell into a cellar (when playing) and could be freed only with big difficulties.
I had a quarrel with my father, because I was of the opinion that he decided in an authoritarian way which TV program we should watch. I became very angry and started throwing things through the room.
I hated you for not letting me go and found out that it was not your decision.
We were at a football match and when we were leaving the stadium (the stadium was packed with people) and I lost my shoe in the crowd. Our attempts to find it didn't give any result and I had to go home without one shoe. In other words to cross the whole town !
I do not like one of our neighbours as they are very selfish. Whenever they want something or need help they come to see us, otherwise they do not even bother about people who live next to them.
Finding out that I was deceived by a friend.
I am disgusted with liers, hypocrites, slanderers, flunkeys.
When my neighbours accused my brother of stealing their rose-bush, I was very angry as he had not touched it at all.
I had gone to the hospital for my research and got late in reaching home. I feared that when I reached home there would be a quarrel because of my being late.
In an examination ,which other students found easy I could hardly think and did not know what to answer.
After an argument with a friend of mine.
Getting a low grade on a midterm.
I felt anger against a person who told bad things about me in my absence.
When I fought with my friends.
When I was caught telling a white lie. At that time, I was not allowed to stay outdoors after 8 p.m. One day when I was late, I made up a story that our neighbour had invited me to his place, though I had actually forgotten about the time while playing with my pals.
I was going to go on a vacation to Texas this summer but was unable to go because of registration.
When I was a child I played my mother a nasty trick to make her feel hurt.
When I was told a friend's baby had been born with only partial sight. This was her first child and she was not young (the mother that is).
In a situation with my girlfriend I took a decision. Later when I thought about it, I realized that it was an erroneous decision.
During the Chinese lessons a student often showed off. Moreover he misbehaved and dressed very badly. So disgusting !
For not having succeded in getting the job as a translator that I wanted.
Finding out that the girl I like does not like me.
When I attended the concert of a pop singer.
The day I decided to get out of my house I saw in my brother's eyes that they blamed me for the situaiton.
A friend's father had died, I was to come and see this friend although I did not know his family.
Emotional reassurances by spouse.
I was to take part in a cocktail party on the occasion of our national holiday as a servant.
A few days back a friend of mine had asked me to call on him on Sunday. I had accepted it but later did not go for no specific  reason. I just slept in my room. The next day this friend called me up and told me that he had been expecting me the day before and his wife had prepared a very good lunch for me, which had gone waste. I felt very bad about this incident and it has been growing in my heart ever since.
Being reunited with my family after not having seen them for 5 years, at the airport. Sheer elation at getting through the "paper work" collecting bags and the anticipation of coming through the customs gate.
When I woke up in the middle of the night because of a dream, it wasn't a nightmare, it was an uninteligible dream in wich I woke because of a certain end.
I was walking on the pavement when a white car rolled on it and directed towards me. I was quite near the house wall when it rolled by and hit me.
Quarreling with my father, when he made false assertions.
People spitting in railway stations.
I was called and invited to have a talk about a job I wanted to have.
I felt sadness when I notice that I'm not important for a determinate person. We do many things for a friend, and we see soon after, that he doesn't do anything for us, nor thinks of us.
I felt it when playing I pushed my brother and he fell down cutting himself in pieces of tile.
Finding out that I can go to your English lectures.
My younger brother destroyed and gave away some of the books that I had intended to keep for as long as possible.
When the bank let me borrow some money this winter, after my grant was spent.
At a discussion a friend took a "faschistic view", what I had not expected.
When after having had sexual intercourse with a friend, I thought that he had told about it to a friend of his.
When I heard about the death of my aunt.
I feared that I would have to describe my sexual life to an older, strange woman.
When my father's new fiancee treats me like a child. She does not trust me and constantly misunderstands me. I get particularly angry when she says nasty things about my boyfriend with whom she works.
I dreamed that this girl and I were cuddling in bed when my girlfriend walked in. I really love my girlfriend so I felt guilty and sad. I know that this is a wierd example but the dream and the feeling was clear to me as if it had really happened.
An old woman was violently thrown down the stairs of the tube by a group of louts.
When a drunkard, in town yelled at me saying that I was a prostitute.
When I sided with my mother in a quarrel she had with my father before they briefly separated.
I feel angry at people's indifference at our ability to be present at an event and to stay partial to what happens.
The disease and subsequent death of a close acquaintance. Sadness was accompanied with feelings of powerlessness (I also experienced sadness in the situation described under guilt).
When I was caught with someone's daughter.
Bulgaria won a football match against France.
In a warm bus full of people, someone vomited and the whole bus stank.
My grandmother died, and my mother called me one sunday morning in the Autumn. The way my mother told me about it, I hated her at that moment. She sounded as if she had been waiting for the death of my grandmother. I had lost a person close to me. I felt guilty too as I had been bad to my grandmother of late. I had not remained calm when she no longer understood everything so well.
When I had to go through lonely streets in the middle of the night.
When I almost drowned myself in the municipal swimming pool that I use to go almost not excaping.
I am always sad when my boyfriend goes away. He lives and studies in an other city. We have gone steady for 2 and 1/2 years and everything is going very well, but sometime this situation makes me feel bad and very lonely.
At hostel, my roommate was a very selfish person and would avoid doing anyhting that did not concern him. A few of us prepared lunch together and had decided to share the work. My roomate had promised to do the same but I had to wash the bowls everytime after dinner. I tried to wait and thought that he would realize his fault. I did not want to tell him to do the work as he is a university student and ought to have self-respect. He disappointed me and so every time I saw him I tried to avoid him and did not want to keep any contact with him.
My parents did not let me go on holidays with my friends.
Something was stolen.
After 3 weeks I saw my girlfriend again.
When I was in lower six I joined an interview group to interview the general public. One of my friends in the group lost her purse and she was very nervous. Five of us had to go another place so we left her, and planned to see her later. Then I heard her describing how her purse looked. I realized that I had seen her purse on the floor and had not wanted to do any thing about it.
Found out my wife (girl-friend?) pregnant.
I went for a walk on the beach with a friend whom I had not seen for many months. The weather was very pleasant, we had some ice-cream and lots of fun on the beach.
I greeted and embraced the wrong person thinking that it was my friend.
At school, a couple of years ago, a so-called acquaintance told lies about me to a teacher I was told about it by friends who overheard the conversation.
When anybody wants to make me feel guilty. For example: I should do something for my mother, but things didn't go as she hoped. Then she threatens: I'll do it myself.
The death of my father.
My paternal grandmother had died. We weren't close but she was blood. I didn't cry but I was sad, partly due to her death and partly I think, due to the fact that I couldn't/didn't cry.
I experienced this feeling when I was accepted as a student. Because everything turned out different from my expectations. Although I passed the exam successfully I was accepted as a student only when I didn't expect it at all, namely at the beginning of September.
Winning a rowing race at a Karapiro regatta. With 7 other friends.
A young girl tried to put an end to her life because of lover's grief; not until she was in hospital I heard that I had been the reason for her action.
My sister, whom I like very much, asked me for a favour which I refused her for some flimsy reason. Some time later I felt sorry for that and something like sadness.
When I passed an important exam.
Once I offended a friend, instead of her coming to me to ask and discuss the matter she was just telling other people about it and say all she could about me.
When I got indecent offers.
A sudden doubt made me run for a long time in a rainy autumn night. When I reached the intended place I saw my beloved in another man's arms. A sudden blow, grief, I cannot qualify it, it is painful for me to remember about it.
When I took a car which was not mine, and suddenly it stopped working.
I met a girl some time ago and I cared very much about her but it happened so that we left each other. I felt some sort of sadness, I think I can call it so.
I felt disgust with a man I had trusted and respected, to whose problems I had always shown deep understanding.
I got a very nasty electrical shock when I was tampering with some electrical applainces.á
When I was walking in a field which had a lot of manure.
I was on the Inter Rail in Naples alone. After an evening in a restaurant I was going back to the hotel when a prostitute approached me to sell herself. I refused but as I carried on walking I felt that I was being followed by someone.
It happened that I was alone - with no contacts with friends.
On a trip I passed by a cellulose factory. It was a fine day, beautiful landscape; I observed this factory with disgust.
Making bloopers: e.g. telling something negative about a certain person, while that person is standing besides you and hears everything.
I am disgusted by people who spoil their identity because of misbehaviour. This morning when I was in a crowded bus, I found a seat on which a university student was sitting on one side and he had put his bag and files next to him. There was very little space left and I sat down while he kept on reading. Even when I leaned on him he did not put his bag away. He did not respond and I felt very angry.
After the death of a girl who I disliked.
When I made love with a girl, which I don't really love. However I know that she loves me.
A certain boy came into my room and started telling me that I was not pretty, that I had no manners and that I should learn some. I had just come to campus and he was in fourth year.
My friend promised to take me out for a movie but he didn't turn up.
I received a message that my elder brother was involved in a car accident and was admitted in hospital.
When I was accused of having impregnated someone's daughter, it was the girl's cousin who had done it.
Some foreign students playing loud music before the biology examn.
When I saw my 16 year old sister at home after having waited for her all night, not knowing where she was.
My bicycle was demolished.
I had shouted at my younger brother and he was always afraid when I called out loudly.
When, after drinking a glass of water, I found a cockroach walking out of the glass.
My friend was so intoxicated that the police came and took him away, and they later contacted his parents.
I saw a friend of mine who had suffered a very heavy contusion after an accident.
The joy came to me when I heard that I was going to start a Medical course at the Lilongwe School for Health Sciences.
I had an important amount of money with me and felt fear of being assaulted.
In a party of friends I got completely drunk.
Somebody went around spreading news that I like people with money.
My grandfather died. He lived almost as a recluse not caring for himself as well as he should - Dad and we all helped as much as we could, but it didn't save him from himself. It was an unexpected death. His second de facto wife was lucky she wasn't jailed.
Several years ago I stayed with friends in the mountains for one week. We lived in a hut and had to cook for ourselves. One day my friend did not succeed in preparing spaghetti. That dinner was terrible - nevertheless we all ate rather much and had an improper and unsavoury conversation.
When I watched a report about El Salvador on TV, I saw people who had been murdered by terrible methods.
I felt guilty after getting really angry with a friend and having an argument. I was being stubborn and proud, and selfish, because my friend let me down, through no fault of her own.
My boyfriend's mother, whom I had not met earlier, made an unexpected visit. I was lying lazily on the bed, reading a newspaper and my boyfriend was studying.
Eco-activists demonstrated against a project to build a power station at the Danube in the middle of a lowland forest (Hainburg) and the government decided to delay it for another year. When my father heard about it, he said that we needed another Hitler.
When I recently got a very positive answer from a clinic telling me that they would willingly assist and collect data for me for a clinical pilot study.
My best friend had failed Exams. She had to leave and so we got separated.
When for the first and the last time I tried to crib and the teacher was with her back to me but right when I was taking the materials out she turned round and saw me.
When I noticed the negative changes in a friend's behaviour.
Power cut made me unable to listen to the songs sung by my favourite pop star.
They had returned much less of my taxes than I had expected.
When I failed the S.S.C examination I felt very ashamed.
At work, when an elderly man complained unjustifiably about me and distrusted me.
After a difficult exam. When I had not hoped to take it and had got a high mark. When you present someone with something and he feels glad.
In secondary school I had a class-mate who talked too much.  Once we went to the cinema after school and she sat next to me and commented the movie throughout - very disgusting.
I feel guilty as I am not working, and even my studies are not progressing.
My best frieend left school recently. The next day the weather turned bad suddenly and the male class-mates turned off the lights. I remained on the table and was scared.
I was neglected undeservedly.
Being treated unfairly.
I felt fear of the purest kind after a car accident. The incident and images of horror kept coming back to my mind. I wondered what could have happened to my sister, my friend and me, though nothing very serious actually happened.
When something went wrong for me I lashed out at someone else whom I loved and who was not in any way responsible for what had happened (my sister).
It was a complex situation concerning a relationship with a boyfriend, I had broken the relationship for some reasons. Meanwhile, as I felt it, I had most sorrow.
My mom told me not to gamble, but I did anyway. Sometimes I would even take some money from my parents and brother. She found out and yelled at me.
I was in a restaurant with my boyfriend when I saw my best female friend after not seeing her for two weeks. We rejoyced, hugged and had a long talk.
Someone told me that he would stay at my home for one night. Therefore I made big efforts to make everything ok (food). One day before he cancelled the appointment because he had to go to church with his parents.
I was severely reprimanded for a trivial offence in front of members of my peer group while still at school.
When a pick-pocket robbed me of my money (K20) while I was buying bathing soap.
A children's film in which I played a clown, with spotlights, cameras and the director who demanded jumps and guffaws.
When I came to know that my grandmother had died. She was very close to me.
My father died 4 years ago, 18 months after my mother died. I feld my sister was responsible for his death, in that she "hadn't loved him". I felt ashamed for myself, and for my family.
I heard a broadcasting programme about parapsychology. The people in this programme used very difficult words which I couldn't understand. They acted exaggerated without showing any feeling.
When I learnt that I had failed an exam, This not only influenced my emotions but also other important tasks, it also made my record imperfect.
When we were playing, I hurt my little sister, but towards my mother I did not admit that it was my fault.
When I found out that someone close to me was flirting around.
When a person whom I loved and admired a lot died. I felt empty, lonely, helpless, without support, not knowing what to do.
When I study my butt off for a midterm and still get an average grade.
My brother gave me a beating because he could not beat me verbally.
When during Winter the water pipes froze and we did not have any water for two days.
Leaving home when my mother thought I had no reason to go and felt that I was rejecting her. She is a constantly depressed person (a bit of a worry-wort) and I felt guilty about having given her this additonal problem.
One of my first boyfriends got mad at me because a lot of my close friends were guys and he didn't want me to see them anymore because he was jealous.
When I had insulted my father two years back, at that time I was very angry due to some reasons.
At primary school I was accused by some boys of being in love with a certain girl in their class so they had to shout and beat the girl and the matter was reported to the headmaster.
I was to meet a girl in a discotheque. She was very pretty and I was very happy. But she did not turn up. Thank God, there were some other friends there and I was able to have a more or less good time.
A man tried to have sexual intercourse with me, though I had communicated my unwillingness. Later on, I felt disgust at that person as well as myself because I had partly submitted.
When I promise to do something but I don't fulfill it.
When I was going to take the practical exams.
Having a good trip on a boat with good friends.
At night, I walk home past a forest. Once, somebody got stabbed in the forest. I imagine someone attacking me and I hurry up.
I was looking for an object when I came across a rotten corpse of a rat.
Overeating a traditional type of food - blood pudding.
When my grandfather died, with whom I had a very close relationship.
When I was told that a boy did not want to be my friend without any apparent reason.
Running away from a fire.
When people would tell me that my ex-girlfriend was playing around on me.
I read about a monk who had been murdered and put into a barrel which was filled with blood of pigs.
When I beat up my son for having beaten up his sister.
I was sexually assaulted one night by a stranger.
I saw a report on T.V news on apartheid in South Africa.
While intoxicated I damaged my sister's car in a minor way and someone elses in a minor way.
At a gathering I found myself involuntarily sitting next to two people who expressed opinions that I considered very low and discriminating.
I saw a sort of black worm being attacked by many ants.
Fearing the use of power or reprimands when I belong to the minority.
In class I had to say something aloud and people reacted by laughing.
One day I lent my tennis I just had washed to my sister because she asked it. I asked her not to soil it as I had just washed it. Next day I looked at the tennis, and it was dirty with wax. She could not have soiled it. It was lack of consideration. I felt very angry.
Going out for dinner, or during one ice-cream and four spoons.
After buying a ticket, I lost it before I reached my destination and the bus Inspector dropped me at a place I didn't know.
When I got low marks in the final year B.Sc exams, I felt guilty as I had not worked hard because I had been roaming around with my friends.
The sports fishermen who catch gulls instead of fish with their hooks.  It is often a mistake but it makes me angry.
Reported neighbour to police for taking to my daughter with baseball ball - her counsellor rang me and after long talk convinced me the woman was o.k. I felt guilty for ringing the police then guilty for feeling guilty about it.
I had borrowed some money and I exceeded the time-limit.
My brother is a soldier. He promised to come home in a furlough but in the last moment he phoned and said that he could not come.
When the person that I was very fond of, returned to me.
When I heard that I was not to be provided with another pair of medical uniform.
At a party, on New Year's Eve, I met on old friend whom I had not seen for some time
My sister came back home and reproached me for not having tidied up the house, although I had been working all morning and she had done nothing.
I was enjoying the company of bird life while I was eating lunch in a park when a group of people began throwing sticks at some of the birds - for no reason other than the satisfaction of seeing them being scared away.
I do not help out enough at home.
Promising to do a task for a friend and just forgetting about it.
When planning to marry.
A member of a religious sect tried to convert me, using really evil tricks to persuade me. After he had left, I was anxious and angry for a long time. After the event, I was alone.
The outrageous conduct of a relative towards me and those close to me.(blaming us and lying)
I won a car in a prize-competition. The moment I was informed about it, I felt joy.
When I was doing my last year at Secondary School I was robbed of my clothes, wristwatch and my pair of shoes. After investigations it was found that all the things were stolen by one of the boys in our hostel.
I had an intimate relation with my boyfriend, but unfortunately we had sexual problems; therefore I deceived him, but I was ashamed when I told my friend about it.
Begining the week-end with my girlfriend : cozyness, beer and wine.
Father lost his temper at home because he was mistreated at work.
My dog had been run over and died near the house. We had to pick him up, cold and glassy eyed, to get rid of the corpse.
My first public appearance in front of a rathe big audience.
When I was rude to my mother and got angry with her.
I gave a wrong answer at school.
When my family and I heard of the death of my grandfather. We had seen him a few weeks earlier and it seemed that he had just been waiting to see us.
I once torn the inner tube of a bike, that was not mine. Then I saw it was a brand new one. I felt very guilty then.
While skiing in Squaw Valley, I was riding up a chair lift and right when the chair was above a sheer cliff of rocks, the chair lift stopped and all the chairs sagged and everything seemed to creak loudly.
I spied on my fiancT and was terribly jealous. Later I saw that there was no reason for that.
I felt angry when repeated pleas to the ticket collector and the co-passengers in order to make a queue fell on deaf ears. I have this feeling whenever someone is not disciplined and methodic in doing his duty.
I was ashamed of the way I deceived that I could not help a friend, although it was absolutely possible for me. Nothing was revealed but I haven't called up this person since then.
When I got home from my job, I found a letter from the university telling me that I had been admitted to begin my studies.
When it was discovered that I had done the assignment at my work place, this caused a lot of embarrassment for me.
A friend had promised me to give me a lift to Graz. To be sure I called her before we went. She told me that she had just promised another person to give him a lift.
Cueing for bath for a long time.
When I was selected to study here at UNZA.
On a boat trip to Denmark, 14 of us had a lot of fun and we spent SEK 10 each on one armed bandits and against all odds we won the jackpot of SEK 1000.
I was supposed to go out with my girlfriend one Saturday night, but I got really drunk with some friends earlier that afternoon and evening. So, I totally forgot about going out with my girlfriend. She showed up the next day, and that was when I remembered.
When I was the first to arrive at the scene after an accident, and found that a close school friend had been killed.
My mother wrote me and said that I would not writ enough letters home.
When I was an evening school teacher it was my job to make the coffee but I was not able to get the coffee ready on time and I thus arrived half an hour late to the class. On top of this the coffee was undrinkable.
The parents of a friend of mine surprised us and another couple sleeping in thier place.
When I decided to take a week s holiday without consulting the family first.
When I got the positive result of my examination to achieve the Bachelor Degree in Plychology.
When my uncle comes (3 times a year) for the traditional Christmas dinner with my grandparents and other relatives and is very drunk.
Got through first semester University.
When fired unjustly from a job as casual bar-person. Charged with giving away free drinks. Not done so and had witnesses to prove it - both patrons and bar staff. Other staff were supportive.
One fears many things, for example one fears going to the dentist. but as far as I am concerned this feeling is connected with the examination session.
I was in grade 7. We had an inter-house volley-ball competition. In Luapula I was the youngest member of the team and I scored the winning goal using my head. I jumped up with joy and fell down.
I had a good relationship with two friends. Once without reason, they clearly showed that they thought I was naive, dull and unable to take care for myself, while I expostulated that I could manage things.
I feared that I was pregnant. It was not planned and I would have been compelled to have an abortion, which I would not have liked at all. Fortunately, after a week's anxiety, I got to know that I was not pregnant.
When my brother ran away from home and I thought it was because of my continously scolding him.
When my exboyfriend threw me around the dorms because I was talking on the phone to another guy of whom he was jealous, after we had an argument in which I thought we broke up.
Death of a pet rabbit. We had to give it away because my brother became allergic to it. We gave it to a man who kept animals and lots of other animals for children to watch. We went to visit our rabbit. It was badly beaten by the other rabbits and eventually died.
While at school I had to write an essay for doing something wrong that I didn't do. I wrote the essay about how I was mistreated and got Saturday morning detention along with a few other kids, but they didn't show up.
When I was admitted to a Language school. On the day when I was informed by a message and my parents congratulated me.
When I was told that my friend's wife had cancer.
While preparing my master's thesis, I was scared that I would not accomplish anything as the subject was rather difficult.
When my boyfriend and I experience something nice or when we have made a nice walk together.
We had to finish the life of our 8 year-old dog.
When I met an elephant in the bush.
Old man in hospital, hollow-cheeked, only one half of his nose and glass-eye, rattling breath.
A friend of mine got encouragement and I did not, as the supervisor did not like me.
Meeting a loved man.
When I was with someone I love.
First time in anatomy.
I was watching a movie alone - it was a horror movie. The music was a deep pulsing type - not really music. And a light flashed on and off. It was in the complete darkness of a movie theatre that was almost empty.
I had stayed for months without seeing mother because our holidays were short and my home is far. Some times, mother came to see me at school, I was very joyful, and I didn't want her to go.
When I was admitted to a certain school as a student.
When I got a bad result for one of my assignments.
When my dress was stolen.
A neighbour's girl had disappeared and many people were looking for her. Someone had gone to notify the police. Something had certainly happened to her.
A gigantic spider climbed over my face and what is more - in my own flat.
After a weekend at a seminar I saw my husband again. I hurried home hoping he would be there. We embraced - I enjoyed feeling his body.
When a good friend of mine behaved in a very cool manner to me for a very long time.
Soiled my short trousers with faeces.
One of my best friends was hurt by a girl he loves.
Saw someone who picked up a cigarette from the floor and smoked it.
I went out with my sister, her boyfriend and his friend. I did not like this young man. But suddenly he overcame me and kissed me. He was very strong so that I could not defend myself.
Too many people in TV room, I was not able to get a seat to watch TV.
When our religion teacher presented shocking sectarian thoughts and doom's day as official teaching.
When my mother got a terrible beating from my father. It was so bad that she fainted and it was only then that my dad realized how bad it was.
Winning a close volleyball game. (I'm on the intercollegiate team at CAL)
Whenever I am late, I feel ashamed of myself even though no one tells me anything.
The death of my grandmother.
Never really had the experience just yet - N/A.
When we got lost in Florence and the coach did not turn up until midnight. I had no place to go to and there were strange reports at the police station.
I always feel ashamed when I do not succeed in accomplishing something in which I had put in all my efforts.
I was afraid before I went to the doctor's.
I feel disgusted when people do not understand me in the right way, i.e they misunderstand me.
When I saw the pictures of the draught in Etiopia.
I came home from a party rather drunk. I said things I would never have said normally. Next morning I was terribly ashamed about what I had said.
A few days ago I saw two dandy girls of my age. I disliked their clothes and their way of doing.
When I fell in love.
At the begining of a new course one is afraid of encountering problems one can not manage. Thoughts revolve around failing the subject and the consequences it would have for the future.
When a friend told me a story and I stayed dumb because I had no story to tell.
When I got to know that the friend I am closest to got engaged, and she was going away. I was overjoyed for her, but also felt frightened as I was very emotionally dependent on her. I did not know what I would do without her.
When my friend was involved in a car accident.
When I don't fulfill my obligations.
I learned that a class-mate had given a list, of peolpe who help each other in exams, to the professor.
Hearing Fran Wilde introduce the Bill.
Walking home in the dark from college.
When I was bluffing in front of my mother to get more money.
I didn't attend lectures.
When we took out an 84 year old woman for the evening and had hamburgers. She described the evening out as her happiest night out in 20 years.
When I was a Sr. in HS. one of the class counselors died of hepatitis. She was very sensitive. She knew my shyness and drew me out to improve myself image. I missed her funeral - so I could not publically grieve. My parents didn't understand.
When I made up with a girl-friend of mine after having been on unfriendly terms with her (my fault). I cried with joy that evening.
When another person's mother died.
When I received my TE Score and my acceptance from University - it had been a goal since I left the bank a year earlier.
My last genetices midterm - a decent grade.
At the age of 16 I had gone to see a film in a nearby village, about 8 kms from my home. I started walking as there was no bus. I had to cross hills and as it was dark I could not identify the path. Half way through it started raining and as there was no shelter I ran four kms to reach home.
It was at a comsomol(??) meeting, the last one because we were to graduate. The way one of my fellow-students behaved made me feel disgusted.
Had a letter from my father (usually he does not write to me).
I was scared of water when I was a child.
I am filled with gloom and sadness at the death of a person. More specifically, I felt sad after hearing the news of a death of a person who was hale and hearty and full of life, withá
vigour and plans for the next day but had no next day to cherish it.
I was sitting in a restaurant with friends. They asked me something which they thought I should know. Actually I know it, but at that time I was not able to remember it.
When employer made a pass at me whilst I was at work.
Every time I was around this one person I would stick my foot in my mouth by being nasty. One time I accidently said something fairly cruel that was totally inappropriate.
When I do not put in the needed amount of hours of work or study for the day, I feel guilty and try to make up for the lost time.
Disappointed by a friend.
Went to a lecture about Chinese history and hear about the Opium War.
I am the secretary of an association, and during the last meeting I forgot to take the minutes.
When I talk to my friends.
After yelling at my girlfriend, I felt bad because she was ? crying and upset.
When I told my boy-friend, who loved me very much, that I wanted to put an end to our relationship. a long time before I told him that and also a long time after that I felt guilty, because I had hurt him so much.
So as to be closer to the university I have left home and moved into Auckland. It now seems as if I have left home - especially my family - forever.
One night,when I was in primary 5 or 6, I felt thirsty so I fetched the thermos to pour a cup of water for myself. Then I saw my brother lowering his head and I, jokingly, poured the    water on his head.
The behaviour of people spitting everywhere.
This monday I took a Math 1BS test and flunked for the second time.
When I learned I was admitted to study what I wanted most - floriculture (this is a narrow specialization from the general one).
I had found out that I was pregnant. I talked it over with my boyfriend and he was unsupportive - yet encouraged an abortion - I did.
When I am at home alone.
When I was stopped by plain clothes policemen because the car I was driving had overturned on the Avenue. I had been driving too fast, and I was afraid when I was stopped, questionned and then toild to go. The situation ended happily since there were no consequences.
A person close to me mistook my good intentions for bad, and therefore associated unpleasant traits to me.
When my gradmother died. I felt very sad then ... The feeling started to be worse after a while.
When I swindled money out of someone.
When I was a child, I had a medical check-up. I had to undress myself and was examined by several doctors.
When I see that some people remain cold and egoistic with regard to close friends, even in situations that those friends need them.
When I was ten I got shut in the school with a friend. I had to jump out of a window and cross a beam 10 metres high.
A man in a car was following me when I went running early one morning in a fairly secluded area.
My life-partner, who was drinking more and more, spoke about kicking the cat. He had never done anything of the kind, but I knew that he would do so one day, without thinking about it.
Having unwanted attention paid to me in my place of work - harrassment (and sexual harrassment) by another worker - disgusted by his implications.
I had prepared a special meal for my boyfriend but when my brother came home he ate it all. I was really disgusted about it.
Viewing the results of senseless vandalism to a local primary school.
My boyfriend promised to take me to see a game of tennis and rang saying he was going to the pub with some of his friends instead.
It was when I read a newspaper article on the future and they foresaw that we would be eating frog-burgers by the year 2000. An illustration showed a frog between two pieces of bread.
The death of my father, even though we had not been very close to each other.
I felt ashamed of my body in spite of knowing that it is more or less beautiful and also knowing that my boyfriend considers me beautiful, but this was only in the beginning.
When I was betrayed by a friend, and decided to stay apart form her.
A young man was insulting and humiliating a drunken man.
We were at secondary school and I was making a lot of noise. The teacher came to ask us as to who was making all the noise. I did not own up so the whole class was punished.
When someone chased me from his house.
I felt guilty after I battered to death a classmate of mine.
When at very short notice I agreed to work in place of a friend who was sick, and owner of the restaurant refused to allow me a drink later in the evening (which is usually always available for workers), did not thank me, and was generally indifferent towards me - I felt I did not deserve this.
An hour before receiving the certificate results I was very frightened. When I saw others crying I felt very tense and as time went by my fear grew.
When it was found that I had gone out of the school premises without permisssion and at the wrong time.
An acquaintance of mine revealed himself in a light unexpected to me.
I was caught stealing a box of matches in the supermarket and had to plead guilty.
I used to play with a group of classmates and I found out later that they were cheap in thought, behaviour and conduct - they would smoke, fight and speak foul language. I thought that they destroyed the image of college students.
Damaged the tap in the residental Hall.
The loss of a person I loved very much.
Some noisy guests arrived at the hotel. I had been slightly irritated earlier. At night when I was trying to sleep they were having a party so I went and yelled at them. I wanted to sleep as I had to get up early the next day.
After blowing up and saying all the wrong things, I realized what I had done and hurt that person and myself.
A friend of mine had the sleeves of a leather coat stolen from his car. It was me who had left them there for everyone to see.
When my grandparents moved to another part of the town.
When we forced a friend to chew a poisonous herb in primary school. His tongue was swollen and he told his mother about it. The mother reported it to the headmaster who threatened to expel us.
When high level results were declared, I found my candidature number. I was very happy as I had not expected it. As I had been injured before the examination and I had performed poorly.
I was living in rooms in a very lonely, quiet neigbourhood. During the night it was very silent and this frightened me. The fact of being alone in that house frightened me.
My flatmate and close friend living and sleeping with another close friend of mine.
When the girl I loved turned me down.
Watching a TV documentary on seal clubbing.
Once I spoke without thinking very much - it was quite a nonsense.
I sensed a strong feeling of joy when in the plant, at my working place, I got a message that I was admitted as full time student at the Higher Agricultural Institute.
I was at home alone and my mother had asked me to heat the house. I put too much fuel into the stove. It began to glow and there was a noise in the whole house as if it was going to explode.
I added a little  ?  to a yield in an experiment to get more of a yield.
A mother who shouts at her child for nothing.
We had made an appointment to complete together a piece of work. It appeared that I was the only one who hadn't prepared anything.
When I am dishonest to a friend to whom I am very close. I feel guilty because I know that he gives a different version of the truth and I have not corrected these mistakes, and he is aware that I know that they are wrong.
I was indignant at the unimpartiality shown by the referees at the football match between Bulgaria and France.
When I was accepted as a student.
When summer is over and I have to leave the town where I spend my holidays.
We were driving at night and I realized that a car was following us.
I saw a bag on the street and just then a stranger passed by. I picked up the bag immediately and gave it to the stranger as I thought that it belonged to him. But it was not his bag and I felt ashamed.
3 years ago I served in the army. Once a collegue denounced me because of a delict, which is usually committed. I was arrested for 3 days. I still detest this man.
When I was chased by a big dog near my house.
A friend had promised to get me a book which was very important for my work, but she forgot it.
I had an exam and I had it well prepared. I did the first part very well but did not know the second part.
Now that the 49ers are winners, the fans are coming out of the woodwork and jumping on the bandwagon and that disgusts me.
I had been forced to get together with strange and disgusting classmates. The things they talked about disgusted me and made me feel ill at ease. I knew that I would feel unhappy if I stayed there but I was defeated by the social norms.
My friend did not do well in the examn because I did not help him.
When people without my permission pry in my belongings and take things out of it.
I was to be given an audition to get a role. I had a competitress and I wasn't well prepared because I was ill.
There was a family fight in my house some time back. My uncle had given me a watch as a present and I lost it. During the fight he accused me of having sold the watch. I was disgusted at his false accusations.
My 21st birthday celebration, when I cut the cake and received the presents.
One day, when I was sitting on the bus, there was an old woman standing beside me. I was very tired and sleepy and did not think of giving her my seat. A 50 year old woman who was sitting beside me got up and gave her seat to the old woman and said, " Old woman, please take my seat, the youngstters these days are not used to giving their seats to others." When I heard these words I was very ashamed of myself and wanted to get off the bus at once.
When my room-mate locked up the keys of my room in our room after I had told her that I was only in the bathroom having a shower. She left and I had to do without supper.
Being sexually assaulted (not rape, but passionate kissing) by a friend's father - he stopped when he was driving me home. I hadn't wanted the lift, had refused 3 times, and then felt it'd be rude to refuse again. Was really afraid of what he might do.
When my grandfather was in a nursing home when I was young I never wanted to go and sometimes didn't have to and later I felt guilty.
Inter-national sports events won by my favourite national team or player brings me joy, e.g when India won the World cup cricket match.
It was about midnight and I wanted to go to the countryside (I was in town) to watch the stars in the sky. My mother did not like this, in spite of it I went out for a while. My mother got angry.
When money was stolen from my pocket.
When I knew that they would not give me a transfer from one university to another. I began to insult the educatioon authorities and the government, I ended up at the door.
When my affairs with the girl I love settled positively.
Each time the professor asks me a question in class.
I was ashamed of being laughed at by my colleagues when I failed to answer a question in the classroom.
My good friend misunderstood me.
Sometime back I came across a certain man who was badly beaten by some people because he was found raping the wife of the village headman.
Fooling around with this guy I did not know.
When I see children on T.V from areas devastated by drought and war.
When I walked to church with my roommate, a bum told us to call the police and he started following us.
When biking and I felt very bad (problems with heart and respiration).
My mother had sent me to buy a few things. The change I brought back was not right as I had given away some money to a friend thinking that she would not notice it. However, my mother told me that the change was not correct.
I did not deliver a message on time.
When junior doctors returned to work after bunking them.
The first time that I had to go up on the stage to give a speech.
Last year I had a friend visiting me for several days. The only thing he did was sleeping, drinking, taking pills and thinking only about himself.
Some classmates said I did not do enough social work. Therefore I was not elected as a "Tree Good" student.
When I was told to attend an operation in theatre.
We were at a party, this guy I liked and me. I really loved him and gathered enough courage to ask him to kiss me. He did not do it but instead asked me what I would like for my birthday. I told him that I would like a kiss more than anything else but he excused himself and said that it was impossible. I really felt embarassed.
I broke off with my partner as I wanted him as a friend and not as a lover. He reacted very violently and I felt guilty as I had made him so desperately unhappy.
When I broke my leg I felt fear.
Exaggerating certain circumstances, wrong attitude and evaluation of these circumstances.
At the death of my friend's father and especially as this happened ten days before her wedding.
Not doing well in an examn which was easy.
After I said something that my boyfriend disagreed with, he walked away from me without discussing what bothered him. I became very angry with him for treating me this way. Yesterday, November 14.
When the week for Exams came. I got afraid as to how I would tackle the questions.
Losing a boyfriend for the second time to my friend. He fell in love with her. The same thing happened a few months earlier with another boyfriend.
I got into an argument with a photographer for whom I had to pose twelve times, over a period of four weeks, before I could get a snap of mine. Every time the film was processed my snap did not come out although the others did.
When my brother had an epileptic attack and I was scared as to what would happen to him.
Getting separated from my family for a week caused me a sense of sadness.
Losing close people and animals. So far, I've felt most when losing our dog in a traffic accident.
In 1977, my grandfather, to whom I had a very close relationship, died.
I was dancing in a theatre. I was not sure whether some frieends of mine had come to see me. I was very scared of doing things wrong.
A few years back I had proposed love to a girl who later turned out to be related to me. Though we were in love with each other, we both felt ashamed and withdrew from each other.
When I did not concentrate on my studies despite my mother's help and cooperation.
When my mother was very sick and almost died.
When I learnt of the death of a friend.
When somebody suddenly said something (about me) at a wrong moment and I didn't agree (at that exact moment I was needing an extremely positive word).
I felt this when I was copying homework for one of my classes.
Uncleaniness at my work place. The place is generally not very clean, but when it reaches a point, I get angry at the person who is supposed to clean the place and the people who are supposed to supervise him.
I was told I shouldn't visit my sister because the holiday was short.
On Christmas day a drunk man came to our house without a shirt on, he dansed, spoke nonsense and behaved stupidly.
When I made acquaintance with the parents of my boyfriend for the first time. They spoke Limburgian (a dutch dialect) and one of my first remarks was that I disliked Limburgian dialect.
When I lost my father in a car accident.
When my cousin passed away during the holidays at home. He fell ill at night and the next day he died in the evening.
Getting drunk and creating a lot of trouble at a place I respect - my friend's home.
People impolite with me because I did not get a good report.
When I have sometimes been unfair to my parents, when I have happened to deceive them over some trifling things.
I went home all alone from a restaurant. It was dark, I went very fast. Behind me, there were some drunk men who shouted at me. By chance, I met some friends who accompanied me.
When I tried to steal a book from the bookshop and was caught.
An officer at the Dean of students office had promised me to give me a room the next day, but he failed to keep his promise.
My parents do not like my friend and told me to stay away from him.
When I tried to explain to a plumber, face to face, that the toilet was broken and he did not believe it (it had been mended ten times).
I met intoxicated people with dubious intentions in a back alley one Wednesday night.
I came across a woman in town who was very drunk. She was swearing at everyone and carried on drinking even though she could hardly stand.
I get angry when people disbelieve me or misunderstand me.
I left my home in Melbourne to come to Q'land to study and before I hopped in the car I hugged my mother and shook hands with my father. Sensing immediately my father's sadness, I also had a flood of the same emotion.
I share my small flat with my friend. On her birthday we could not see each other until evening because we had to stay at the University all day. In the evening I left a lecture before it finished to be able to buy flowers for her. When I was at home she called me to tell me that she would stay the night with her boyfriend.
When my friend got very low marks in field work even though he had worked throughout the year, I had this feeling.
When I saw a big spider from very close.
My friend was badly hurt.
I stormed into the room, hoping to cool myself with some soft music from my three band radio cassette. There was only young Kaley there and he explained, " Your aunt has sold it as she wanted to buy clothes."
At my wedding - standing with the man I love and acknowledging that fact to members of family and friends.
My brother wanted me to buy a flute with him but I didn't accept afterwards I regretted it because he became sad.
Being driven by friend who suddenly swerved and skidded a little. It was night and on a long trip. We ended up on side of road.
One day when I came back home, I found my favourite dish broken. I blamed the servant for it, later I found out that it was not the servant but my daughter who had broken it.
Had fear of losing husband.
When I dreamed that I was being attacked by a friend.
I came across a blind man sitting in one of the corridors and asking for money, though I had some money I did not give him anything.
While watching a religious film, I got very excited and made a number of comments which were reproached to me by an elderly person who respected me.
I broke my Uncle's Radio player accidentally and so I feared that he was going to cut me off from going to his house as well as playing it again.
After a disagreement between my parents, when I was alone with my father and my sister, the aggression continued, when my father tried to put me and my sister against my mother revealing facts that had happened in the past like a talk between my father and his mother in law where she told him that my mother was not quite save.
The same event described under "shame".
My schoolmates were teasing a pupil who was not able to defend himself very well; I should have taken his part.
Receiving a letter from a boy I care.
I had not eaten anything for 2 days to be able to pay the fine for my fiancT. But he stayed in another town and spent one thousand shillings in the restaurant during the same time.
When my father made my mother go through really terrible situations, I felt furious, impotent, nervous, upset, ........
My parents appreciate very much me and my boyfriend coming and have dinner with them at Christmas. However we decided to visit his parents. My mother was rather disappointed.
When I read the diary of the girl with whom I was living, it was about another boy with whom she had been going around some time back.
Two guys were fighting murderously and I feared that one of them would be killed.
My guilty behaviour was found out by others.
When my mother entered surgery for a quadruple heart bypass. I felt intense fear at the time she was actually wheeled away.
I feel joy usually after each taken exam, the last one was in February.
When my brother was born.
When I do or say something inappropriate which hurts people close to me.
When I get into the tube or the train without paying for the ticket.
I was almost caught in the girls hostel by the security men, I would have been expelled from school had I been caught.
When I was caught sneaking back into the house at night after having gone to a disco without permission.
I remember the day my father died. I was 11 years old and my sadness was so great that until today I remember everything about that day, from the clothes I was wearing to the reactions of people, the despair of my mother and brother. It marked me a lot and was the greatest sadness I felt.
When I realised that I had rejected a boy, who was fallen in love with me, rather bluntly four times.
In a lift a drunken, fat and untidy man tried to make advances at me.
My grandmother died over the summer. I knew her very well, she baked great biscuits. She was in the hospital but expected to improve and go home soon. She died in her sleep.
My boyfriend is a soldier. He was on a leave. I felt sad when we had to get separated again.
When I went to town in a double dekker bus. The bus was about to fall on the way when the driver controlled it. It had almost fallen.
When I was six years old, my favourite cat died.
When I had not been accepted to a college which I dreamed of going to. I felt that I had let myself and my parents down.
When my room-mates were watching video-tapes and prevented me from watching the news. The first feeling I had was that I was being treated unfairly and then came the feeling of anger.
When a "friend" dropped a frog down my neck, and I didn't know what it was.
I was going away, leaving a dear person behind.
A friend of mine played a joke on another friend over the telephone. This friend, crying, called me and I got very angry and made the other person apologize.
When somebody I knew greeted me and started to talk with me and I didn't know, I couldn't remember who he was.
When I was at school, no one thought I could pass my MCE so at the end of the year my name was announced on the radio that I had passed. I was the happiest person.
A boy who shot dead a squirrel.
When the guy I was in love with told me that he had met someone else and that we would not meet again for a year. Although we did not have a steady relatioship, we were having an affair.
I learnt from the newspaper that I had been accepted at the Chinese university of H.K. It was 7 o'clock in the morning. Later I told my family and relatives about it and had tea with them very joyfully.
One day I took a packet of sweets from a certain Grocery at Nathenje. Then later on I started to feel guilty and realised that I had done a wrong thing to him.
It was the first time that I gave a birthday present to my friend.  She wrote me a letter as she is my girlfriend. The content of the letter was so sweet that it made me feel very happy.á
At a school dance when my supposed "best friend" kept walking away from me whenever I came near her.
When I think that I have been too stict or narrow minded towards my students.
I was walking alone in the street late at night (2.30 am). It was very quiet. Then a man approached me and said "Hello".
In a tram, the ticket seller was commanding, taking the role of a leader, trying to emphasize her non-existent authority with undue strictness towards a good-humoured drunk who could not find his ticket at once.
At a certain person's lack of cleanliness, at home and personally.
When I made an excuse to get out of participating in an important family occasion that I should not have missed.
When my father did not get back from Chipata on time, he was thus holding back progress as everything depended on him. I felt angry over his actions.
About two years ago my girlfriend suggested that we separate. This really gave me a shock as I had never thought that she would say such things. The reason she gave me was that we were not suited for each other.
Once while walking along a hill; I fell down out of carelessness and I broke my left arm.
Friend's fiancT left her for me.
I partly colored my hair black. My mother didn't like it and reproached me to be a "subversive element". Later on she stated that this was due to my friends. As I see it, this all resulted from colouring my hair.
When my father took away my cherised diaries to burn them (I was also very sad) "Oh, how I hated him".
When my roommate's moped was stolen I was very angry.
When we had swimming instruction, we had to take a header from the springboard. I usually refused to do that, but at least I was forced to.
In my penultimate job I was responsible of a sections with several employers, after several years of dedication I was dismissed by a new chef, saying that I was incompetent.
I was once chatting with friends. Then some boys came and joined us. These boys took all my 3 friends away and I was left alone in shame without knowing where to go from there.
Someone called me a disgusting nickname.
Riding through a bush fire on an island of Australia - on a pushbike as a little boy - all alone, lost and surrounded by smouldering wood and flame.
Receiving a very personal letter from a lady that I like, which revealed that she was more enthusiastic about me than I had thought possible.
Once I had some homework to do and I did not do it.
I felt guilty one day when I stole a slice of bread in a cafeteria.
I was afraid when my boyfriend came home because my parents disapproved him of his coming home. I thought they would chase me out of the house.
After the loss of a close relative.
I felt disgusted when somebody told me that my previous boyfriend was her boyfriend.
I had a quarrel with near persons. I said many ill-considered things and I regretted it when it was to late.
I choked on a cold drink in front of girls who were strangers.
Being chosen to do your experiment with aphasia.
I drink wine too often.
My mother died of cancer after a 4 year illness - I think the most pregnant moment of sadness was the next morning, just as the sun rose.
I feel guilty when I should have done something at any rate but I haven't done it.
One night I had to bike home all alone after a party. Then I found out that I was pursued by a man in a car.
Some months ago my wife gave birth to twin sisters. She had no idea of looking after babies and she felt quite oppressed. The fact that I couldn't help her caused grief to me.
English papers are due on Friday. They are returned on Tuesday. This Tuesday I was afraid to go to class and get my paper because I knew it was bad.
When I was first exposed to the dead bodies, for dissecting    purposes at the school of medicine.
Haven't felt shame for ages.
I read about a murderer who brutalized his victims by cutting open their stomaches and taking out their bowels.
In a film there was a scene in which a rat was sliding on a bed, leaving a trace of blood behind, finally it entered the mouth of one of the actors.
My son drank four pills of diazepam every two hours instead of amidophen.
When I got drunk at a party and made a fool of myself by vomitting all over the place and insulting the people who were there with me.
I do not seem to feel emotion such as shame, guilt or fear - far out !
Being together with my best friend.
A good friend of mine died. During the funeral I felt an intense feeling of sadness.
At a Sm÷rgasbord table, a man mixed differnet kinds of picked herrings with fruit salad.
Girlfriend arriving back from overseas and picking her up from airport. When she finally appeared from customs and we came in contact again.
My girlfriend disliked it when I played majong (a game of gambling). I expressed my regrets and when I went to see her she neglected my existance. I was very angry and left in displeasure.
I won a sport contest.
Day time robbery of our house.
Moving to an unknown place, away from the familiar surroundings and into a situation of loneliness.
I could not take care of my mother when she was admitted to a hospital for surgery, I continued my studies as I could not get leave.
The day I got married was the happiest day of my life. Both of us felt that we were right for each other in every way and we had no doubts about our compatibility right from the day we got engaged.
I felt it when I received a letter telling that I had been classified in a national concourse of p... I felt happy and vanity about it.
I imagined I heard footsteps up the hall while sleeping in bed one night by myself in the house.
I didn't tell my parents exacly what had made me so late in getting home one night. I left out some details and somehow, I felt I had lied to them.
Borrowed someone else's towel without asking.
A neighbour complained about smoke from my backyard incinerator entering his house after a change of wind direction. I lit the fire after originally checking that the wind would not blow the smoke in that direction.
When I happen to witness some sadistic acts.
When my father passed away in 1978. I was left alone with my mother who was very sick so I had to go and live with my aunt, who is very short tempered, till my mother was discharged from the hospital.
When I passed my form three exams.
Seeing a close friend who had just returned from twelve months overseas.
In a flat in Sydney - rough area at home on my own - the flat had been burgled the night before and no way of locking the door.
I was filled with joy when I heard that I had passed my Secondary school leaving certificate exam.
When I was complimented and called "delightful".
Held under water by a large wave and thought I was drowning.
When my uncle died whom I had loved very much. I was very sad and I felt totally helpless.
Upon returning from a journey of about two weeks duration, I found that a collection of pornographic literature had been removed from my room I had previously thought that no one was aware of the existence of this material.
When I used an adjective for a person without knowing what it meant.  When I got to know the meaning, I felt guilty as it was a clear and unfair insult.
During the Xmas holiday, I and my best friend at Secondary School had planned to meet at a Cultural afternoon at the Mt. Soche Hotel after missing each other for such a long time. When I asked my mother for permission, she told me not to go for no good reason. I felt very angry with her.
My father had a complicated operation. A long time before and also a long time after that, we did not know how he would get over it. During all that time I felt very sad.
When stupid people push me during rush time in the city.
There is a person whom I disgust. Evrey time I see her I get this terrible feeling I disgust her whole appearance.
When my father bought me a suit.
When the others did not do their bit of work on a group assignment task, and I had to do all the work.
When the morning newspaper has not arrived.
I felt disgust with a person whose behaviour was out of the elementary human norms.
It was when my friend had stolen my money (K10) and had disappeared.
When I impregnated a certain girl, I thought that I would be forced to marry her or go to court.
I took my grandmother's money without telling her and when asked if it was me who had taken the money, I denied it.
On the way home one Friday night in the heavy rain the car acquaplanned. I lost contact with the road surface for a few seconds.
When I was selected to start Form I at Chilumba Secondary School out of the 100 pupils I was among the 4 who were successful. Family History showed that I had done better than all my brothers who had passed after repeating for several times.
During my holidays I had a boyfriend who turned away from me outwardly. Therefore I danced with another man and raised certain hopes in him. After a while I had to explain to him the circumstances
As the time to get the results drew near I became more and more anxious. My friend called me and said, " You have passed." My heart was full of joy.
The murder of two girls on a school trip to Berlin (and sexual crimes generally) a couple of years ago.
I could not meet my love, after having waited for a month, due to illness.
When I slept for the first time all alone in the house where I live now. A man phoned me at 2.00 am. He wanted something from me. I was afraid.
When my first child was born.
When my wife gave birth to a baby boy - my only son to date.
I had a very horrible dream one night, I dreamt that I had fallen off a very crowded train.
Being chased in the dark by someone I did not know.
A tailor ran away with my skirt.
I took Pharmacology books from my friend's desk without permission and I was found guilty.
I failed to complete a working task within the agreed time.
When I talk to silly, petty-minded and unmanageable people.
My father recently having a heart attack - spending a few months in hospital.
Traveling as the only female in a railway carriage in the middle of the night in Italy.
I was all of the sudden sad when I heard that my cousin who usually paid school fees had passed away after a very short illness.
In a playground I was playing at the seesaw with a little niece. I wanted to stop but nobody came to help me. When I got off, all alone the seesaw fell down with a big smash. My niece got hurt above her eye. Now there is a scar.
I cried for 3 hours because I felt very miserable. Then I called my boyfriend and he said lovely things to me. After this feeling disappeared I felt ashamed.
I have an adopted Aboriginal sister I felt disgust due to the racism she has been subjected to.
A man was yelling outside my window at 3.00 am, yelling threats, though not to me.
When for the first time I rode on a motorcycle with my brother. He was going so fast that I felt that I would fall off without my brother realizing it.
After one year of searching, my friend and I have found a flat we are able to pay for.
When I left my part-time job.
When in the initial interview for the recruiting, I don't know why, I accepted to do the test for army.
I wrote a bad letter to someone concerning our relationship which we created ourselves.
I studied medicine for several semesters and at that time I developed a great fear of examinations. I was most afraid of my examination of anatomy. While other students were examined, I was dissecting. I was able to hear everything and was waiting with fear until it was my turn.
I found some worms in the food and I had obviously eaten some.
When I woke up at night to find a fire spreading towards the bed -rooms. I was very frightened as I realized that I faced death.
Quite recently I realized that I had had some erroneous views about life. For instance, I had always lived for other people, had forgotten my own person and suppressed my own feelings. I was ashamed because I had not been concious of that until I had a conversation about it with a person.
I felt this feeling during the exam in higher mathematics.
Winning a game after a long time of losing.
When I found my girl in bed with another man.
When I heard about the treatment of a friend in jail. Really inhuman. I never realised that such things also happen in the Netherlands.
Felt it after I spoke terribly (got mad at) the person who is the most important in my life.
A shop-assistant behaved rather roughly with me though she hadn't the slightest grounds for it.
Misunderstood deliberately by a close friend.
Being on view in a meat-factory. Pigs being cut open, pigs being suspended from nods, blood everywhere, decompsition.
I felt guilt because on account of my ambitions I nearly turned my sister out of my parents home.
While quarreling with my brother I broke the glass door of the cupboard and a china doll. We were scolded by my father for breaking the door but we did not tell him about the door.
I felt happy when I saw my brother at the bus depot after 3 months without seing each other.
When a kid dropped my father's radio cassette player, which he had just repaired.
I witnessed a scene in which two women were abusing each other.
On own reading book. Recall came to mind of slight sexual exploitation of a female (years ago) i.e. had her on even for sexual motives.
When my boyfriend and I made up.
Like guilt - the most ashamed I have ever felt was when I began to feel guilty about having sex with my boyfriend when it was only "the thing to do", and not really an act of love.
Last Summer in Italy I was attacked by a dog.It was terrible to feel that untidy dirty dog against my naked skin.
When I heard that there is teasing and bulling at Secondary School.
When I was dancing with a dame at a social, one of my friends who was interested in her came and took her away from me. I was really angry with him then.
I am disgusted with my sister's husband. On an early Sunday morning after having knocked at my door, he suddenly rushed in and finching me still in bed he began quarrelling about something. I could not understand. I heard his last words: "Don't stare at me so because I'll beat you in your bed" I got up terrified and a thrashing followed.
We were discussing a subject ( I knew very little about it) and I was holding my ground. They showed me that I was wrong.
I was not chosen for the All English class.
Not included on questionnaire.
I had joined a youth group that observed the affairs of our community and so I had many opportunities to contact the government and the committee members of the district board (a local executive structure). We always tried to consult and discuss with them, but we found that such people did not understand community affairs and they even dampened our enthusiasm in local affairs. I did not understand why they had decided to work as community leaders.
When I failed the M.S.C exam.
Finding out that China is still backward in science.
I felt guilty when I once went out with another boy and made love with him while I had a close boyfriend.
Somebody was blaming me of a story which was not real and not true.
In an exam I answered the questions rather carelessly and afterwards I thought that the exam would have been better had I answered more carefully.
Was accused of having hidden intentions in a situation when I believed I was acting honestly and fairly.
When, for the first time I realized the meaning of death.
I was seven years old and swimming outside the flags at the Gold Coast. I was caught in a rip and taken out about 100 m. I couldn't swim too well, but an older friend (17) swam out and saved me.
My brother wanted money but I refused to give it to him, two days later he stole it from my father.
Doing well in the examn.
I went to practice in Sweden during summer, and I was afraid that I would not do well.
I was once nominated as an Officer Cadet in the Armed Forces and my name was cancelled on the list of nominees of those who were sent to Kenya for Training.
I was alone and someone tried to break in from our back door.
When I contacted a sexually transmitted disease and the lecturer came to know about it as it was he who treated me for it.
My friend and I were to attend a very important meeting and he had promised to come and pick me up. But he did not turn up and I felt very angry at him.
Death of my grnadfather after having been in hospital for so long with cancer of the Oesophagus.
I found I was pregnant and unmarried.
My illness a few years back. I was sevely down with malaria and asthma, I had lost my health, charm and cheerfulness completely.
I was jerking me off in my bedroom, when suddenly, my mother came in. She looked at me and immediately left the room.
When my middle child became very difficult to handle after the birth of his baby brother and I did not have any patience with him.
Did very, very well on a Physics midterm.
I had gone to see one of our professors about a book, and I did not attend the class she took a few minutes later.á
It was on St. Claus Day when I was five years old. St. Claus and his Devil Servant came to see me. St. Claus' Devil Servant rattled with his chain and bowled terribly. I was so frightened that my parents had to ask him to leave.
I was not prepared for the exam but I wanted to sleep the night before the exam.
A young visitor to the house stole money from an elderly visitor's purse. It wasn't noticed for some hours.
This was when one of the Clinical officers scolded us in the hospital on how to make beds but we did not deserve to be scolded.
I was very sad when I was shouted at by Uncle and was told that I was not to be given school fees because I didn't go to work in the garden since I had gone to escort my sister to the bus depot.
When my friend who is close to me got engaged and did not invite me.
A friend of mine lent me his apartment for holidays and besides this he was a fine person. Months later I knew that he died tragically in a moto accident. He was very young, and I felt sad and couldn't believe it (until today).
Our association had Polish visitors and when they were going back by boat I did not go to see them off (I am the chairman of the association).
When I learnt that my best friend had failed the exams.
Misunderstood by a close friend for the wrong reason.
Railway station good-bye.
My 2 year old daughter disappeared in a moment of inattention; I was responsible for her.
I have chosen to put my son in a private school were the examination marks are low. Every time that he gives me his term results I am left with a sense of guilt.
My father won't be so pleased with me as if I was elected "Three Good".
Once while playing tennis with my classmate I lost a few tennis balls. I found one near the tennis court and took it to be mine despite thinking that it might belong to the student in the next court. I felt guilty. Later someone came to me to claim the ball and I gave it back to him.
When I was 6 or 7 years old, I pulled down the trousers of a friend because I wanted to know what she looked like. My mother watched that and (as a punishment) sent me into the house. We never spoke about that; I think it was as embarassing for her as it was for me.
Felt ashamed when in a group conversation and could not understand words or comprehend the topic of discussion.
When I passed the B.A exams with 1st class. I was the first in the family to have got a 1st class, so all the family members were very happy and they gave me the opportunity to study further.
In a restaurant, I made the acquaintance of a boy who always told the same things in a very loud voice. I laughed and said to him that he always repeated the same things. Some time later I heard that he had undergone a complicated brain operation.
I do not study enough as I do not understand it properly.
I was scared in the dark when I was a little boy.
My son's mother told me that she wanted to move to Vienna and take the child with her. This means a rather long distance for me. My whole family was sad and dumbfounded so that my own feelings were intensified.
I tried my level best to care for my client, I took an appointment with a doctor and before meeting the doctor he expired - a poor small boy from Uttar Pradesh.
When I got through the examination for my driver licence, and when I finished I knew I had passed it.
When I was 9 years old, I got a cat, but after 3 days he died. I was very sad, because I had nursed him and taken him to the veterinary's - but in vain. Although I had had him only for a short time I had liked him very much.
I got to know that I had been accepted at university.
Forgot to do some shopping that I had promised to do.
My father got a slight heart attack after a telephone call of mine.
A night spent with a group of friends.
I was wearing slippery shoes and I tumbled down in a place where there were many people walking by.
A friend breaking up with her boyfriend.
I had to call somebody between 12 and 12:30. As I had no possibility to call him at this time, I did not do it until 3 p.m.
A friend of mine shot himself through the head after having told me and others that he would do so.
A drunk walked out in front of a car at night. Both lower legs were broken. His shoe was thrown about 50 yards after the accident.
When a girl I knew aborted and threw the seven month foetus in a man-hole.
When my boyfriend revealed that he knew that I had discovered things of an important nature about him, I felt ashamed as I had not mentioned it earlier.
I slept with a man purely because I found him physically attractive and was under the influence of alcohol.
The death of my father made me feel quite guilty, because my attitude towards him had been cold and indifferent.
The day when my son said for the first time "mummy".
Finding out my grades at the end of my Sophomore year.
When I finished my C.S. Project I was overjoyed. I felt relieved because it was due the next day and I was tired of looking at it.
It happened in a tram: some older people started to grumble about the young people just because I had not immediately left my seat to them.
When I was told by the doctor, after many months of coughing, that I had tuberculosis.
My cousin knocked on the door, looking for me to get her watch back. I had given it to my girlfriend, Lizzy, as a present.
One of my fellow students used questionable and unfair means to advance her studies faster than others. I detested her.
When I heard of the death of my mother.
When I found one of my new pullovers wrinkled inside the wardrobe. My brother had done it.
When my friend failed an exam by just one mark. During this exam she had asked me to show her my answer sheet and I had not done it. When the results came out, I thought that had I shown her my answer sheet she would have passed the exam. I felt guilty as I had failed her.
A four year girl ran away from her father straight in front of my car. I was forced to use the emergency brakes.
I was angry about several drivers who showed an aggressive and dangerous driving habit.
Scuffle in a carriage of the underground in Vienna, three drunk men thrashed a man in a wheel chair - I watched the scene from another carriage.
When my father found me in bed with a girl, we were deep in actioon when he entered the room.
In the 12/83 my boyfriend asked me to forget him, as it would be easy.
When my first boyfriend left me. I tried not to let him understand I felt miserable.
My wrong behaviour made my loved one feel sad and uneasy.
Shifted from Melbourne to Brisbane. All my old school friends gave me a party and I had to say good-bye to them all.
One evening when my sisters, brothers and I were watching T.V my kid brother took a big mirror and reflected light on the french windows. I thought that these lights that we could see were coming from torches annd that it meant that there were thieves outside.
It was my birthday and all the members of the group made me a surprise in a public place at 10 p.m. giving me flowers and suvenirs.
Whenever I am alone in a dark room, walk alone on the street, sleep alone in the room at night or see something which is only partly visible. This emotion was very strong when as an 8 year  old child I saw something horrible.
I experience feelings of guilt because I do not study enough.
When my best friend promised to come at my house and I had to prepare so many expensive things for her but only to learn at last that she would not turn up.
Once while studying for my exam I found so many complicated words that it disgusted me.
When I broke the window pane of my next door neighbour's house.
When I was told that my uncle had passed away.
I was reading in the paper the feature on Henry Lucas who claims to have killed 380 people. He was a recreational killer and a necrophiliac and zoophiliac. He has raped and beaten many women and killed men too.
When once again I drank too much and felt very rotten the morning after.
My inability to assert myself positively in a group.
When I came across an old friend whom I had not seen for a very long time.
When I shouted and quarrelled and for no reason I had been rude to my mother and when my behaviour had been influenced by other outward factors.
Leaving University in 1982 following exclusion and lying to parents/friends about reasons for leaving, i.e. lying about the fact of having been excluded.
When one learns through the mass media all the wars and killing going on in the world.
My fiancT's family was adopting a 5 years old boy. I felt myself close to him as I never felt before. After some time his mother demanded the care of the kid and we were obliged to send him back.
When I saw my younger sister being bothered by a boy she did not know.
A girl dropped some stuff from her bag and when I tried to help her I realized that she had used me and I was made to look like a fool.
We where in a bar and my friend had a fight with some guys who were in the table aside.
I had a discussion with my wife about an over-weight acquaintance of our's, about her eating habits and the scars caused by her pregnancy.
While I was waiting for them to give me the marks of the most difficult subject this year.
I had promised my friend to take her to an important appontment but I was late. So she missed the opportunity to get a wellpayed holiday job.
Disgusted with boyfriend's mother - her overpowering, over-protecting and selfish attitudes.
Saw a snake unexpectedly.
I had just seen my pseudo-girlfriend and our conversation angered me greatly.
I had a date with a friend to see a movie and my friend was late. I waited for a long hour and was very angry.
When I found out I got accepted to Berkeley.
I felt guilty when I was robbed of a friend's radio at Lilongwe bus depot after promising that I would keep it safe.
Saw a beggar on the street (China still so poor).
When I saw an accident, a woman was run over and she died on the spot.
I got angry with a stranger in a train who behaved impertinently and immorally
When I was going home for my holiday, I almost drowned in the Zambezi river.
When I got separated from the man I loved so much.
When I was getting so fat.
I was said to be responsible for my mother getting ill and growing thin. I did not realize that it really was my fault until several weeks later.
I went to the shopping centre to buy something and saw packets of Kapenta with maggots in them. Oh !
When I saw my family after a separation of one year.
When I caused problems for somebody because he could not keep the appointed time and this led to various consequences.
When my nephew was taken to hospital with meningitis and we did not know what would happen.
Felt sad about some street kids in QUEII square, Aotea square. Because they had been sniffing glue and some were very young. I went into the role of a performing clown.
When I saw a scene on T.V where a castration was shown.
My brother accused me undeservedly before my parents. I was not guilty. He was misled by his wife.
When my child was born.
When I had a psychical crisis, I met a girl, who told me that she had had almost the same problems and how she had finally overcome them.
A friend had a quarrel with the mother of her boyfriend because she and her friend decided to go and live together. She needed money for removal, then she made a great effort to reconcile.
After completing high-school, I wanted to go abroad for a holiday. I had never been abroad before and neither had I taken a holiday for a long time. When finally my parents agreed and we got the airplane tickets I was over joyed.
A girl I was with went off with another guy.
I was crossing the street together with some colleagues of mine when I suddenly found myself almost under the wheels of a truck.
When one of my relatives went out at night leaving me and my friend alone, I cheated my parents that she didn't go out, after they had heard that she was out, I was afraid that she might have beaten me.
When the N.Z. rugby union announced that they would proceed with a rugby tour of South Africa.
When the relationship with my first girlfriend broke up and I realized it too late.
A child, 9 years old, died in a stupid way. He fell from a place which was 1 metre high.
Argument with roommate over a lock he had put on kitchen cupboard without telling anyone.
At our Senior dinner - separated from school friends, nothing will ever be the same again.
My admittance to the University.
I am ashamed when I am not ready for my seminar in internal diseases, simply because the assistant professor is a person who deserves high respect.
When I received a letter from a woman I thought had not ever cared for me. This was when I needed her and I was overjoyed to learn that it was me who was delaying things.
When I had gone to a school picnic and was left behind in the forest.
When I got engaged to a boy of my choice.
When I got admission in M.Sc (I) Organic Chemistry, I was very happy.
A female friend was violently ill on the return journey from a wedding reception we attended. Getting her out of the car when home took quite a while.
When my elder brother died.
When the whole family gets together for a one week holiday. Everybody feels free and the trip is well planned. It works out well and we enjoy ourselves.
When I got a wedding ring of diamond from the boy I loved.
Before a hospital visit prior to a D&C under anasthesia for an expected miscarriage.
One of my relatives became seriously ill. I felt sad because I didn't know if she will ever be the same again.
I slammed my little brother into a wall because he was bothering me.
Inventing a fictitious series of events, as a result of which I ended up in a conflict with my two closest friends.
When I went to a job interview, I met a person who was very nice, and his attitude made me glad.
When a colleague asked me for help at work, despite the fact that he had more time to do it than I had.
When my family allowed me to do higher studies.
Earlier, I was afraid of speaking in front of a crowd of people.
Not finishing homework in time.
When an untidy and heavyly drunk person made endeavours to approach me.
I was selected to do a rest for a foreign ballet but I did not have the money to do it.
I don't know why suddenly I thought that what I was feeling for my boyfriend was not really love. After almost three years being together, this matter of fact shaked me and I felt a great sorrow that I can call sadness.
I gave my mom a gift she wanted for years. I raflected her joy.
When my brother died.
One day I heard from a friend that the boy I loved had gone out with her and not with me.
At school I was bad in mathematics. Although my teacher had admonished me to do my homework, one day I had forgotten to do it. When my teacher noticed it, I blushed and was ashamed to be rebuked in front of the other pupils.á
The first day that I was close to a dead body, in my third year at UNZA, school of medicine.
My main disgust is against codfish because I detest even the smell of it.
I was disgusted when I was told to dress a big rotten stinky wound which, coming closer, made me feel like vomitting.
When I got the midterm exam results, the results were below average and were near the lowest. I was scared of the final exam.
When you are far away from relatives and friends. I feel sad for my early years, for the freedom and the carefree years of childhood.
Salo, a movie film by Pasolini. People were misused and tortured for the fun of a few elder Italian authorities, during World War II.
I made a comment and it was interpreted completely differently from what I had meant. When I said it I realized how my mother had understood it.
Death of grandmother.
I saw a neighbour, from the same appartment block as me, lying  on the road. He could have been injured or ill. I kept 20 metres away and did not go to help him.
When I had crossed Lilongwe forest I heard that there was a rabid hyena just near the path in the forest.
When I knew almost the same day about two great friends of mine that had serious existential crisis, and mainly when I notice that I'm in the same situation that they are, but I didn't realize it.
Having suffered a not very pretty sight, I reacted by uttering some very cruel and sharp words.
I suffer form a disease of my muscles. However, I cannot talk about it and my feelings, the consequence with my parents. They try to repress it.
This feeling comes frequently when I go out at night and tell my mother that I shall come back early. But then I get home a 5 or 6 a.m.
Some of my friends had an argument. I had earlier phoned one of them and that may have influenced him to argue.
Insulted by other people in the shop.
I was in the dark room, it's insecure and has holes covered with wooden sheets in the roof the establishment had already been assaulted and could be assaulted again.
Slept in a chapel and in the middle of the night I realized that there was someeone else in the chapel. I never discovered who it was and why he was there.
We always made a lot of noise during a certain lecture. This may have been because we did not respect the lecturer. Finaly, the lecturer could not tolerate it and he scolded us angrily and pointed out our misbehaviour.
I was skiing alone and the mountain became covered with mist and I thought I was lost and was going to panic.
A few days ago, I hitch-hiked to Arnhems with a friend. Everything went well: they picked us up very quickly, the sun was shining, I was feeling free and, for the first time after long time, happy. I really had the feeling that I was living at full speed.
The same fact about the girl (22 years, married - guilt - disgust), the fear was the main factor in our relationship.
Christmas Eve: there was a tension between my parents, they did not even try to restore a harmonic atmosphere. Mother stayed in her room almost the whole day. I felt alone and was very sad.
When I beat up my brother so badly, for not having gone to school, that we had to take him to hospital.
When I left my boyfriend. I found another girl at his home but he did nothing to relieve the situation.
In adolescence I had a very violent fight with my sister I hold her stong in her neck, she had a throat surgery what make me feel guilty about the future reactions she might had injuring the surgery.
When my last relation broke up.
When I was about to be bitten by my friend's dog, later on it bit me.
Falling off a cliff in the mountains.
My best friend was not chosen for the English lectures.
When an acquaintance of mine beat up another person for no just reason, and thus showed off his power.
This situation happened when I was found kissing a girl who was my friend's girlfriend.
When my parents separated temporarily and I was left behind with my father. As I loved my mother I wanted to go with her.
I received an assignment back, and got an A+ grading.
I had a small argument with a relative and some other people got implicated. It resulted in a proper row.
Flirting with other girls while I already had a very good relationship. When there are problems in my relationship, the flirting increases as does the feeling of guilt.
My mother always evokes feelings of guilt in me. For instance when I miss the last bus I know she will be concerned for me and stay awake till I arrive.
I was at the cinema with my sister and her boyfriend. A man sitting beside me started to stroke my leg for a while, he left in the middle of the film.
I felt the greatest burst of joy when after being heavily ill for a long period, my father came back home.
One night a friend found out that I dumped one girl for another and he proceded to lecture me.
A friend of mine promised to come with me to the cinema but he didn't come.
I felt this emotion when my name was announced on the radio that I had been selected to come to Lilongwe School for Health Sciences to take a training course as a Medical Assistat.
The day after the night I drank too much at a party.
When we received our academic result I learnt that my results were bad as I had not done my best. The results of my accquaintances were good and when they asked me about my results I really did not want to answer.
When my mother had a nervous illness.
I was saying bad things about a man I had never seen. I was with a friend and did not know that she was related to this man. My friend did not tell me about it and I discovered this myself.
Finding my glasses again after having lost them in town.
When I felt the smell of industries that pollute.
When I was accepted at UNZA.
I received money from my father at a time when I was completely broken.
The day my boyfriend saw and touched my breasts when I was without my shirt, only with my pants.
I did badly in one of the vital exams, despite getting proper guidance from my parents. I felt guilty of improper use of the chances provided to me.
One night I was called and told that the father of a close friend died. When I visited my friend at home and when attending the funeral I felt very sad.
I had promised to call a girl but I did not do it.
Due to laziness, I failed the term studies completely at University. I also wanted, to some extent, to protest against my parents' expectations.
The night before my wife had given birth to our twins. I felt fear in the hospital yard, I feared if everything was going to be in order.
Before an oral examination - which I did not take eventually.
When I entered a brothel and saw two sailors with a young prostitute who was not older than 18.
My sister in law was about to have a child, and there were some problems. They had to do a Caesarean. After a while, everything was all right.
Receiving personal criticisms early in the morning.
I detested my father who was a drunkard. He would rave, threaten and blame my mother and me. He finally drove us away from home.
A friend of mine gave birth to a child. Very dangerous delivery. I was afraid for her and for the baby.
When the coach of our team degraded me to the second team.
A brother from one of the Christian fellowship often phoned me and talked to me for half an hour or more. However there was nothing important in the conversation and I found the person very disgusting.
When I entered at the University.
I wrote a letter to my father to ventilate my bottled up feelings. Afterwards I thought it was too negative.
Fear of the turn that the examination paper would take as I lacked confidence.
When I was young my mother told the neighbour that I had wet the bed. I felt ashamed thinking that the neighbour's children would get to know about it.
At end of school - function to "celebrate" ? Leaving friends who I'd known for up to 12 years.
The last time I was face to face with with the monstrous dog which lives in my street.
I feel afraid of the way a great friend looks at me, and also a little afraid of the directions that it's going.
When a girl in my class (on the secondary school) appeased the teacher, resulting in getting a higher grade. This occurred often with her.
I was sad to hear that my brother had a motorbike accident.
When I worked at the life-saving sevice and saw the first exitus.
A girl in our class was nicknamed "fatsy". Later, I heard that she suffered from diabetes mellitus.
At secondary school, one of my classmates lost her locker key. During a class I saw two other classmates holding a key and talking secretly. I do not know why I suspected them, also another classmate supported me. He remembers that these people had only one key in the key-ring, this had seemed strange to him. Besides another classmate said that he had seen them selling books at a book-shop and they should not have had such books. I told the teacher and the person was caught. He had sold the books and was forced to quit school. I found that I had not helped him as he stole later on also. I felt guilty
I caught a close relative with the servant of the house.
Someone told me he was chosen for the English lectures because he was a good friend of the class leader.
Forced to fill in a questionnaire.
I got up late and I could not go to my lessons on time. When I entered the class room the stare of the teacher and my classmates made me feel guilty.
Doing well in an examn.
When I accused unjustly a person of robbery, who proved me the contrary, almost caused a public fight.
In 1983 a sadist provoked my sister in my presence. He tried to force my sister into accompanying him to his place, but my sister did not agree and so she was kicked and she fell down. There was a fight.
When I was a kid, I always opened the door to greet my father when he came back from work. One day it so happened that his hair was scattered due to over-crowding in the train, and when I opened the door as usual I saw something else. I was so scared that I could not talk.
I joked with an unfamiliar friend in an obstinate tone. I was afraid of his misunderstanding me and being hurt and angry at me. I felt sorry over my conduct and thought that I had to find an opportunity to apologize.
When I took a small boy's share of choclale. He was our guest and so had been given a larger share of the sweets.
A classmate damaged ma iron and tried to hide the damage.
When I saw a horror film.
I saw a magazine with photographs of dead and maimed people whose limbs were separated from their body like a head on one side and the leg on the other.
At my grandmother's detestable and selfish conduct towards my elder sister, although her behavior was due to senility and lack of understanding.
I read in the newspaper that the Student Lodging Fund was going to build new appartments for refugees (in my opinion this is the state's affair). This is when only a fractoin of the students can find an appartment.
When my mother kept me in leading-strings.
While cycling in the country, I came across a large herd of cows.
When I told a person something that had happened to my friend, and this person went and told my friend.
This situation happened when my friend John ate my banana which I kept in the cupboard.
A few weeks back my daughter had very high fever and I was scared that it might lead to brain damage or convulsions.
Criticizing my mother when she refused to drive with the radio on. I told her that I thought she wasn't intelligent enough to cope with the radio.
I promised a friend that I would return a book to it's owner for him , but I forgot to do it.
When I wasn't well prepared for a terminal exam and the teacher tried to give me a three by asking me some very easy questions. I burned with shame then.
A holiday at a whitesand deserted beach. A cool evening near the end of summer and we had a fire in the sand - toasted marshmellows, cuddled and drank champagne.
Few years ago my father was very ill. He stayed at a hospital for a long time. Then I experienced that terrible feeling that I might lose him.
On my way to a concert I went with a man who tried to molest me. At that moment I did not care much but now the impression fills me with disgust.
I was walking one day and I met a man who wanted to ask me about my brother but I didn't stop to hear what he was saying. I was ashamed when I found him at home and he told my brother what had happened.
Someone frightened me in the dark.
My boyfriend returned after a long absence.
I was ashamed at myself when I saw that the other boys and girls  of my age earn a lot of money by doing very good and hard work.
When I saw all the very drunk kids (13-14 years old) in town on Walpurgis night.
When I was refused a transfer from my school to another, simply because it was far away from my house.
I was in a hopeless situation in a dirty place. No study, no work, only loneliness.
I helped someone to do something and was found out.
I was dishonest to my boyfriend concerning something that is important to our relationship.
When I recently thought about the hard work it takes to study, and how one wants to try something else. When I read a theoretical book in English that I did not understand.
When I was hitch-hiking and I went with a man who drived like a madman.
One night, when I got out from the University I saw two strange people near my car. When I got near, they moved away, and then came close again. I had a feeling that they were assaulters. After I left I discovered that the windshield was broken.
When I lied to my mum, who later came to know that what I had been teling her was false.
Guilty when I hadn't walked my dog for quite a few days and had given her no attention.
My friend had organized a birthday party for me secretly, I was very happy not so much for the presents but because they seemed to care for me.
I had to give up my love, because it did not work out well.
When I was a school girl and I copied at a class work.
I arrived late at a seminar concerning my major subject at university, although I had been appointed to formally oppose the paper which was being presented.
When I heard of the assassination of the Indian prime-minister, Indira Gandhi.
I came across a girl at the school bus-stop, I had seen her several friends as she was a friend's friend. However my friend had never introduced me to her and when she got off the bus I smiled at her but she did not respond pretending not to have seen me. Her arrogant behaviour made me sick and angry.
I received a letter which was too strong for me. It said I had done something which I really didn't do.
Once a friend had pushed me and I had fallen on to a window which then broke. I was taken to tthe principal's office and he accused me of having broken the window.
My friend told me in a fairly loud voice the blunders she committed last night.
When I was just to be divorced.
Prolonged "niggling" of friend on a single theme which I considered of no consequence.
I was approaching my exam time and my books got stolen. I was in a panic as I thought that I would not do well enough to be considered for the economics quota. I cried a lot but that did not help and as the exam day came near a strange fear gripped me.
The day I encountered a queer mamba face to face in a chunk of leaves behind our house.
I was sitting in the bus and a man with a very unpleasant smell came and sat next to me, to top it all he smoked continously.
When I began school at UC. The pre-enrollment the classes, and the question of success really scared me.
When a boy put a handful of cooked potatoes down my dress and there was no water to clean up.
Being disloyal with persons I loved.
Sitting alone in a quiet room, concetrating on things happening around you. Thoughts come into my mind which make me afraid.
A friend prepared a soup with chicken heads and invited me to eat it. I saw the eyes staring at me and the tongues hanging out of the bills. I was so disgusted that I felt nausea and had to leave the room.
When I did not buy what I had promised to.
I saw a physically handicapped young man whose spittle ran out of his mouth while speaking.
I had worked very hard during my vacations to raise some money for a few major items (e.g a radio). but when I arrived at the inter-city bus terminal, my hard earned money had been stolen from me.
I ran a race for the CAL track team and I did terribly and then the coach said that I should sit out for the season. I felt really sad because I wasn't going to be able to run. It was something I always had done and now I couldn't do it anymore.
My parents didn't allow me to go to a social function that all my friends were attending.
I was looking at a one-man show on television. He told very disgusting things so that I started to be disgusted with it. (Later on it proved that this was his intention).
Deliberately provoked by someone close. Angered by the deliberation not the provocation.
The breakup of a relationship. After the event I was upset/sad then angry maybe 2/3 weeks later.
One Saturday afternoon, I deliberately dressed up nicely (I had been in a bad mood of late). I hoped to go for a walk in the soft sunlight to try and uplift my spirits. When I was having lunch in the canteen, two of my male classmates asked me as to why I was dressed so nicely (they had seldom joked with me before). One of them said that he had a lounge suit and we would look very nice if we wore them together.
I work at a day care centre, and one day when the children were outdoors a four-year old boy disappeared from the yard. I was not looking after them then, but as the manager it was me who was responsible.
When I was a child, my beloved cat gave birth to four beautiful little kittens. Before she had them, she came up to me and I followed her out, then witnessed them being born.
I was looking after a dying patient at work one night, a young woman, my colleague was talking to her relatives and .... to offer them any support emotionally, physically and then sent them down to the coffee shop to have a dinner rather than offering the facilities available for their use cause it involved her having to do some work. Seeing them again I felt disgusted at her attitude.
When one has neglected or been unjust to a good friend.
One night during dinner my nephew was naughty, so I quarrelled with my parents.  I regreted this as my nephew was only two years old and I had to tolerate him ! The quarrel made my father think that his children may not take care of him in the future (it was a slip of the tongue and this made me realize that my father keeps his thoughts to himself). I was still very angry so I dropped my bowl and chopsticks and went to the kitchen to drink tea and then ran to the other side of the house.
I went to the apartment of my boyfriend and saw some people before his door. I thought that something had happened.
When I offend somebody unfairly.
After a pleasant evening with friends in my flat, one of them did not want to leave, because he wanted to sleep with me. He said that he had fallen in love with me, that he felt alone and so on.
When I cheated my father and told him that the school administration wanted K80 for the purchase of a mini-bus. Two months later the school authorities wrote back to my father for the money. I could not go back and ask him for the money again as he had already given it to me once.
Can't remember any such feelings now.
One of my fellow students had bunked field work and in my attempt to cover up for him I myself was exposed, though not directly. We were to meet our field work suprevisor and we were afraid of the consequences.
Not noticing my roommates quietness or a sign of discomfort.
I told my friend about how I had calculated my salary by cheating a little. When my friend remarked about it, I understood that it was wrong to do so, and I felt ashamed.
When my mother returned from a holiday, I told her a lie i.e my father had brought another woman home while she was away.
When I took blood from a patient for alcohol estimation and urine for some other examination, he told me that something bad would happen to me as he would play magic on me.
Students on campus were unnecessarily creating trouble just to heckle the authorities - not to achieve something concrete, but to further their own interest.
My friend started to misunderstand and hurt me.
Once I was stopped by the police in Spain, when I had some "grass" in my tobacco.
Movement in bush late at night while camping.
Classes were over and I wanted to go home. A friend of mine asked me to wait for half an hour to take him back home. I said no.
Receiving close friends form abroad, whom I hadn't seen for years.
I fear before each exam.
I was the compere at a party and all my efforts to get the show rolling were thwarted by the immobile, non co-operative guests. I felt frustation - bordering on anger.
My friends promised me that they would definitely call me to tell me if they were visiting me or not.
Dad had just married his second wife (my step-mother) and I did not like her so I went to the wardrobe and set fire to her dresses. Eveyone suspected my brother and he had to bear the consequences. Nobody ever got to know that it was me who had done it.
I was very fat, and was ashamed of my body.
I was on my way home when suddenly Gule Wamkulu came from the bush and blocked the road. I was in fear and didn't know what to do.
When I saw a lot of rubbish and animal waste on the floor.
A friend started to insult another person without reason and I felt ashamed of her behavior.
When a friend of mine told me a horror story.
When my mother scolded me and I argued with her.
I wanted to clear up a misunderstanding with a friend that I had caused. A third person meddled in our conversation, turned my efforts to ridicule so that I did not succeed in what I had intended.
I ignored and offended my parents on the eve of the New Year.
One year, when I went to a camp, I was chased by a dog. I tried hard and finally managed to escape from it. My torch suddenly went off and we talked about ghost stories and I thought that there were ghosts.
My best friend chosen for your English lectures.
When I heard that I had been selected fot the first year at the university of Zambia. This was after my form five at Chikola secondary school.
This feeling was quite deep when my friend (girl) died in a car accident.
Talking about a person's unattractiveness, not realizing that the person was listening.
First time going out with a boy and other people laughed at us.
As a child, when I was at home alone, I felt in an indefinate manner afraid of the death of my father and mother.
A woman picked her nose and spit right next to me.
My ex-boyfriend began to date my best friend. After they had been seeing each other, I found out that he had been sleeping with another girl, without my friend knowing, I told my friend what he had been doing behind her back.
A person I really like left for overseas for a few months, I had hoped to go out with her soon.
I was accused of having done something, which I hadn't and got very angry.
Found money on the road and returned it to the owner through police.
Renewed contact with an earlier friend.
When grandfather died.
I noticed that Meryl Streep and I had similar cheekbones and jaw structure.
I am one of four directors of a company. We inherited land held by our family - ours is the 5th generation. A "democratic" decision was made to stap-bank an area of mangroves.
Once I was alone at home. I suddenly felt unwell and there was no one to help me and call First Aid.
Alone I am coming back home in the night after the serial "explanation".
When I am with friends and I do what pleases me this often happenes.
When the student union leaders were expelled from the university and we continued to study.
Winning Queensland Chess Championship.
I can't remember being truly angry. Usually it's just disappointment that I feel. One situation would be with my brother. He and I used to be close but now he seems to be avoiding me.
When my cousin passed away.
Thinking of the unknown, what happens at the moment of death, etc.
I have cut loose from my father a few years ago. I know he is very sad about this.
When a colleague failed to contact me at the arranged time.
As a child - accidentally stepping on a pet guinea-pig - it dying.
I saw the gare of a prison. This gare and the building were in deplorable condition and were full of rubbish.
I trusted a friend of mine, but she lied to me about something and this disgusted me.
I had the unexpected possibility to see a friend I like very much.
Unjust accusations directed at me and my way of acting, by someone close to me.
I wrote a difficult Exam at one time while in my Secodary School. When the results were announced on the radio, I came second out of 80 students hence I felt joy.
When I had an anticipatory honey-moon with my fiancTe.
When I got a stereo walkman from my father when he had finacial difficulties. I thought that although he promised to give me that present, he was not obliged to do so.
I have done the teachers training course (B.Ed). During our training I was asked to handle the ninth standard class in a boys school. I was scared to face the class the first day.
When I hit my young sister without a valid reason.
When I was taking my girlfriend out, she seemed to have taken her time.
When my first sexual intercourse turned out to be a flop. I was in a panic and ended up without an erection.
When I finally got a job after days of wondering whether I would be hired or not and counting on the money that it would bring.
When the neighbour of a friend of mine was stabbed to death by thieves in Kabwe. They stole his van.
When a man rang the doorbell and wanted to enter the house with violence. I was alone at home that moment.
I received the message that I'd been accepted at the school where I really wanted to go.
My boy-friend told me that he would take me to the training of the life-saving dogs.
I felt disgust with the alcohol, after I happened to see a young man, who was dead to the world and who wallowed on the pavement. This "sight" I watched from the bus.
When my partner was attacked and lost three teeth.
The time I lost a badminton match, that I should have won at the Zambia closed badminton championships.
When I feigned sick leave from work.
Having passed the exam required to be an authorized Radio/TV dealer.
Hear a very nice joke made by a friend.
It was when I failed standard 8 exams while all my friends passed and went to secondary school. In class I was always getting more marks than they did.
I did not like it when a little girl was crying for her dead mother and was calling her by her name. I was sad.
I gave tutorial to a student and I found that he was lazy, he did not pay attention to what I taught. He did some easy questions wrong deliberately.
When I passed my driving test, as it was the fifth time that I had taken this test.
When a girl said in my back that we were in love, and she had actually refused me. When I confronted her she started insulting me.
My son was registered to get admission in grade one of the     primary school. The chances of him getting a place there was 1/10. Two weeks later I was informed that he had been enrolled.
When they threw my holder down on the floor, with all my notes for an exam inside it and they got all mixed up.
I was informed by my flatmate that, when we'd moved into our flat, she'd expected us to buy our food separetely - this event actually happened some 5 months after our sharing began. Prior to this, she had said nothing.
I misunderstood a girl and thought that she loved me. One day when I was talking to her, her boyfriend appeared and I felt ashamed.
I felt this situation when a certain woman from a close village shouted at my mother because she didn't get what she wanted, she wanted some salt to put in her relish.
When the Real Madrid football team lost against the inter in the U.E.F.A cup.
When I watched the T.V programme called "The living planet" and saw the far reaching environmental destruction caused by man.
A dark night when I had to go to the outdoor lavatory.
A few monthe ago, when my brother's wife told me that I had bad manners. To make matters worse she did not let me use their telephone as she only allowed people of her own tribe.
My dog died of a cerebral tumor.
Right now I volunteer at a hospital. Yesterday, Halloween, I dressed up as a doctor and went to work. The volunteer coordinator told me after my shift that it was dangerous to have done what I did.
Hit a dog with my car, and didn't stop.
After I had cheated my parents that I had lost my textbooks so they had to send me money.
When I was in P3 I was always punished as I would forget to do my homework. The first time that I was punished and not allowed to leave school, I slipped out of school.
When I was late for work and told my boss that it was due to transport problem, whereas the truth was that I had woken up late. I thus cheated my boss.
About a dozen girls laughed at me and I was sure that there was nothing wrong with me.
Not getting on with someone of my classmates in high school.
When I found out that my sister had been playing with my confidential things which she had taken from my hand-bag.
When I broke off with my boyfriend after three years. It was quite unexpected for him and there was no particular reason for the break up, such as someone else.
When my mother and father separated (it was a brief separation and they are together now).
When I almost fell down from some rocks because I had been acting foolishly and playing dangerously.
When I had to assume a position which I didn't expect.
I wanted to borrow lecture notes from a friend and he did not lend me them.
There is a certain person, whom I only have seen. He makes me cringe, feel disgust.
At an unworthy behaviour of a man, pettiness, stupidity and mostly at a philistinism.
Some time ago a girl tried to make me up without any action of my part. She used all possible means. Although I behaved refusingly she did not give up for a longer time.
I experienced shame when I failed to keep a promise to meet my friend at the bus depot. He later came and asked me why I had not turned up.
Shame I feel when I am not properly dressed.
I was made a very sharp remark at a rehearsal.
When I was 12 years old I was caught by the Ticket Collector when travelling without a ticket.
I felt guilty one day when I was accused of running away from classes and I was caught.
When my sister died, she was only sixteen when she was put to rest.
This feeling I sensed quite recently. It was arisen by the terrific thought that I might lose the man I loved !
When I learnt that my offer to study at the university had been withdrawn and so I would not get hostel accomodation at UNZA, even though I registered as a student later.
I work at a commercial house from 7 to 10 a.m. On a very cold day in winter I was late - and let a fellow worker stand in the cold for half an hour.
When my aunt passed away in early 1982.
Success in university entrance examination.
Our basketball team is undefeated in league play (4-0) currently.
One summer when I was camping with friends they devised and elaborate plan to scare me by having our camp attecked by a wild animal (one of them) and then convincing the campground was the home of a satanic organization.
When I was a young teenager (14) my brother-in-law to be had made heavy advances to me. I did not understand very well what it was all about but I reacted strongly and the feelings are still there.
When someone accuses me without reason and is not willing to listen to me.
When I did not speak the truth.
When I discovered that my girlfriend was going around with another boy.
After lot of explanation, to fail in my work.
A meeting with the family and the friends I felt dear and loved, sharing the gladness of being together at a birthday.
When a teacher tells a story which isn't true. It only reflects his way of interpreting reality.
I got a very good grade on one of my midterms a few weeks ago.
When my wife died in hospital, she was pregnant and had undergone an operation.
I like someone who does not like me and was rude to me.
A friend and I were going to have a study session together in which we quiz ourselves in biology material. Because I believed I didn't study enough. I feared I would fail.
Mugged while on holiday in the U.S.A.
I once saw a programme on TV describing how certain wild life films were made and was disgusted by the treatment of certain animals in this particular programme of the polar bear.
I had an appointment with a good friend. He came 3 hours later than we agreed upon. During the last hour of waiting I was afraid something might had happened, because usally he is in time.
I took my math midterm and got it back the following Wednesday in class. It was a totally low grade.
Yesterday my boyfriend and I wanted to play billiards. However there were boys playing (5 times). My boyfriend then is fed up and chagrined. In such case I think it is my fault.
When I didn't meet an appointment I had made. The person phoned me but I thought of something (I told I was ill) so that I didn't have to go.
I saw a lot of starving people in a T.V news report.
Once our school class went skiing. On a steep slope a boy standing behind me lost his balance, fell down and drew me with him. I slided down the whole slope. At about 1 m distance from a tree I could stop.
I had gone for a medical check-up at the U.T.H and failed to make it back on time for the C119 practical sessions at 1400 hours last academic year.
Talking to a pensioned and bitter "street order" policeman.
When the train taking me to my military service left the station, on the platform remained relatives, projects and goodtimes. I had a hard year ahead.
Leaving high school.
When Kanishka was blown up, I really felt disgusted at people killing each other.
Once, my friend and I went to the Tai 60 to cycle. My mother had told me not to go. Unfortunately I broke my pectoral girdle and had to go to hospital. When my mother came to see me I felt guilty as I had not listened to her and I had to soon sit for a public examination.
The girl I was seeing didn't want to have a serious relationship.
I received a letter form home telling me that my sister was very sick.
I felt disgusted on seeing my boyfriend after our separation. One day he was begging at the mass transit railway station and at that moment I hated him.
When I think of death - not my own but that of my parents, brothers and sisters.
Finding out that a boy I do not like is in love with me.
My brother had bowel obstruction, having heard that he was going for surgery, I was afraid he might not come back to life after hearing of the General Anaesthesia.
On a trip to Santander we wanted to stop at a curve because a friend was sick, and the car skidded of the gravel.
When my boyfriend almost had a relationship with a close friend of mine.
When my brother hit his head and lost consciousness at the sports practice. For some time he could not remember what had happened but he recovered later.
I promised to join a meeting but did not turn up as I did not want to do the work.
During the lesson the teacher called me and asked me if I had reported that I was late. I pretended that I had but looking at her eyes I knew that she knew that I was lying. I thought that it was really bad luck that she had examined the list of the students who were late.
Last semester when I dated a girl whom I've known for almost a year. However one night she said she wanted us to be "just friends". I confided this to a friend Jim I was really suffering. A month or two later he broke up with his old girlfriend and they started going out regularly. I have no girlfriend nor have I had a romantic relationship of any significance. I feel some anger but we are friends again.
When in grade 3, late home from school every day for weeks because of harassment from a grade 7 boy I lied to mother about why I was home late.
I was alone at home, in bed reading a womens' magazine in which there were storiees of paranormal experiences. My leg was itching and I stretched my hand to scratch and I felt another strange hand. (later I realized that it was the corner of the blanket)
I got a job right after school was over.
I was eating in a very nice restaurant, when the servant asked whether I liked the food I told him that I liked it but that there was one thing which wasn't so good. The servant than worked very hard to make it good.
When I confessed to my girl-friend (now my wife) that I had betrayed her with another woman.
Finding out about some girls who have been nice to the class leader in order to go to the neuropsychology lectures (English ones).
When I was an auxiliary nurse at the hospital and I had to change the nappies, for the first time, of a very old and sick woman.
My favourite horse died. We had tried our best to save him, but it was hopeless, he had to be shot.
Not being accepted by classmates in university.
When I see someone vomitting.
A close friend of mine had not contacted me for a long time.
I ran over my dog with a bicycle when I was carrying him tied to the handle bar.
I felt fear when one night my aunt and Uncle left me alone at their house to look after the baby when they went to a party.
I had to call someone and make an appointment for a conversation. I was very afraid to fail.
A certain colleague of mine sent me to buy a bag of flour for him, he gave me K20. Unfortunately I lost it.
A friend misunderstood me.
When my niece was 3 years old she was in the living room while we were fixing the table for a birthday party and, as every child, she couldn't stay calm. She burst a balloon. When I told her to be quiet her father pinched her. I believe if I hadn't said anything this wouldn't have happened.
In the real sense of the word I experienced fear in my first months in the army. During my first night of duty. The cause for all this was a bear. I became panic sticken (may be for the first time) and even forgot that I had a gun.
I blew up at someone for being confused and because of his irresponsibility and afterwards I felt guilty and that I had no right.
When I got into a bus I found that my wallet had been stolen. It was not a great loss from the monetary point of view but I lost some documents - identity papers. As a result I had to spend several days in order to get a new one. I will always remember all the work I had to do and the bad treatment I suffered because of the bureaucratic behaviour of the civil servant. I had already had bad luck and they treated me like a criminal.  At one point of time I really wanted to quarrel with them.
The inflammation of the ear of my child got cured and the doctor said that the ear was completely all right.
When I found a bristle in the liver paste tube.
During the first year in university I had bad results in both the terms, especially the first term. I was afraid that I would not be promoted to the next year and that the others would go ahead of me.
When I thought the house was on fire at night.
When thieves broke into my house at night and held my wife and me on gun-point for at least ten minutes and took away a lot of property.
When my elder brother, who had gone abroad to study for six years, came back home safe and in good health.
I was amongst a group of people talking about how the Maori people were stirrers and causing trouble in our country. I felt shame to be a pakeha when other pakehas had such narrow conservative views.
Brother took my money to use for his own purposes.
When I saw a good friend again after not having seen her for a long time.
My girlfriend gave me some feed-back and I understood that it meant that our relationship was about to turn even closer.
I was drinking coffee in a cafe and I found a piece of scrubber in my cup.
I failed a subject despite the fact that I had studied quite a lot for it.
In a play (secret friend) during the time of the high school I had to give a present to a boy and I was very ridiculous because of this.
I found a big, black spider near a bag of food.
When I was insulted by a man.
When I felt alone and without love.
When I realized that we are living on borrowed time, and that the nuclear holocaust appears to come closer every day.
Walking through campus at night a squirrel jumped in front of me.
When my husband stays late at a meeting and I have to be alone.
When some people, including me, are treated in a way which equates them to an animal or a thing.
When a boy, who was drunk, insulted me in front of a crowd. I was stopped from punching him for it.
I was swimming in the sea and a wave took the top part of my bikini away.
When I saw a documentary film about World War II (about Hitler and his adepts).
When I am alone and listen to a song which I like very much and which I had listened before together with friends.
I made an appointment with a friend to drink coffee togehter. However, for the third time in that week she arrived an hour too late.
Thinking about other things in a lecture.
When I passed the B.A exams with first class results.
A good friend of mine told me in comfidence that once he had tried to commit suicide. To meet him you wouldn't think so. I told another friend of mine about this when she was feeling depressed about her twin brother's suicide. I broke a bond of confidentiality.
I was sad when my MCE grades were out. I had gone for a football match a mile away from home. The mail found me there. I was disappointed and didn't play the other half of the match.
Promising someone to do their job and then not being able to do it due to transport troubles.
When I had to eat scraps from a dust-bin, because of a bet.
When I saw a film in which the man suffered from an illness and  his skin came peeling off.
I was less than 10 years old when our neighbour's dog chased me to the roof of a small shed and there seemed to be no hope of getting away from there.
Seeing persons spending money in a shopping center with completely indifference to the misery reigning in our country.
A group of youngsters dressed in fads talked foul language on a bus. They also insulted the pedestrians on the road and were impolite to the passengers of the bus.
I met again a very good friend after a year and realized that there had grown a certain distance between us.
Once as a child I dreamed of a fire. Since that time I hadn't wanted to sleep in that bed and had feared the night darkness (and so it is now).
When a patient in the ward died (one who had been under my care). I felt as if I didn't give the appropriate care to the patient.
When my father phoned me to come home from my vacation, since he no longer had the time to look after my garden and animals.
Eating too much I felt guilty afterwards because I knew I shouldn't have overeaten as I'm putting on too much weight.
Once, during a performance I did not sing the way I had to.
China winning the Asian Olympic games.
A certain friend tried to push me off a seat in a very violent way for no apparent reason. It may be that he was excited about something.
I was the last among the list of failures in my class of Biology.
When we were young, a friend of mine tried to dissect a frog while we were playing near his home.
I had stolen a bottle of rum from a person who knows me well. He threatened to call the police if I did not pay 500 Shillings.
My mother and my grandmother were talking about one of my grandmother's friends whom I hardly know. I gave some deprecatory comments on him whereupon my grandmother told me that the man had died recently.
Some students talking when other people are having a nap.
Parents finding out I smoked.
When I tried to explain to my child as to why there were magazines wiith naked girls on them at the kiosk.
I refused to lend my homework to a friend.
When I realized that the person I was courting hadn't been really by my side for a long time already. He had deceived me and I let him deceive me.
Realizing that a friend had been talked into signing a certain contract.
When I came to know that a girl I was fond of already had a boyfriend.
I am usually angry at myself. This happens often. For instace when I want to pet without falling in love and it soon proves that I have fallen in love with him.
When I saw a lady putting on a pair of trousers, I felt it was a disguise according to Malawi culture.
Staying alone in the biology building after the dark.
After a serie of facts that occurred between a colleague and me I started to feel a certain necessity to get apart and I didn't want to see her anymore.
When some seniors tried to scold and insult some juniors on account of what the juniors were supposed to have said at secondary school.
I got an A in anatomy - the first one I have ever gotten in a science class here.
The day I heard that I passed the high school exam.
In Sweden, a friend and I lived in an appartment owned by a Finn. One day, this man came back to the appartment heavily drunk (hashish and alcohol). He was quite dizzy and he broke down, and I could not foretell his reactions. However, nothing happened.
I was in a very small class and the professor said something about me that made everyone look at me at the same time.
When opened a box of biscuits and found worms inside.
One night I and my friends went to the cemetery. We stopped the car in front of the wall and suddenly the grave digger appeared over the wall looking like a ghost. I was already afraid and almost died.
When my sister lost my favourite jumper at a party and failed to tell me for several days after it happened.
Every time I imagine that someone I love or I could contact a serious illness, even death.
When I was bringing in the shopping and nearly stood on a snake.
When I was a child, one day while playing, I fell up to my waist in mud.
When I found out some family friends were embezzelling the company they worked for - using company petrol and food supplies and claiming furniture and crockery.
Because I am the Captain of a basketball team I usually organise a roster system so that everyone in the team can have a turn at doing either a duty or a ref. A lot of the time the girls can't be bothered or just forget - I usually have to fill in.
It was necessary to organise a competition in connection with a celebration. Everyone was to be present at that event. It turned out that there was no audience at all because everyone had pretended to be very intelligent and no one had come. I got furious.
Made a mistake at work.
When I heard of the death of a friend who had just finished her training I felt very sad for she was young.
I thought of myself as being clumsy when I made love for the first time with a girl.
When I caused much pain and sorrow to my boyfriend by finishing our relationship.
When I took the B.A exams,I was expecting a 1st class even though I had not done very well. When the results came out I felt sad as I had missed the 1st class by 12 marks.
Waking up from a bad dream in a dark night with noone else around.
Again, a quarrel had come up in our difficult relationship. My life-partner threw all the books off the shelf. I am sure that it disturbed our neighbours since this happened late in the night.
When my brother-in-law's brother stole my clothes when my brother-in-law and I had gone to cut wood for the fire.
When I look at people around and know that people who are stupid look stupid.
The day the results of the university entrance exam was published, I found my canditate number and I was very excited.
It was only once that I really felt sad: at my grandfather's funeral (after a long time of suffering he had died of cancer).
I had reacted angrily at a friend for no fault of his. I had raised my voice and had not cared for his opinion.
As a passenger in a vehicle travelling from the steep side of Arthur's Pass in the middle of a sleet-storm, icy roads, sheer chasms to one side, sheer face to the other.
Disappointed love. The girl made an end to our relationship while I thought she was in love with me.
One evening, while going to meet a friend of mine, I had to cross a meadow by a dark road. There were bushes on the other side of the road. The weather was damp and a bit foggy. I heard steps behind me and kept speeding up my steps all the time.
The fear about my future : work, making ends meet and health. Coping.
When I was at a party I met an old friend from an adult education course. We had not met for 2 years but had both thought a lot about each other. A wonderful experience.á
I counterfeited a mark in the school register during the lesson in gymnastics. I felt this feeling two days later when I stood face to face with my teacher, whom I highly appreciated and respected.
About a month ago the Regional Council refused to pay my wife the due maternity benefit, because of bureaucratic reasons.
The sadistinc exacution of a student in the USA.
A quarrel with my mother because I thought she said very unreasonable things about me, that hit me strongly.
Some people were unfairly treated, because of their nationality/colour.
I felt anger when I saw that I was being misleaded by my boyfriend, he went out with other girls. I felt anger for his falsity.
Being criticized by teacher in public.
When I was taken to the place where my uncle had defecated in his pants after having drunk beer.
I felt guilty when the truth was known about my impregnating the girl we were staying with.
A conflict with a pupil.
Last year when I worked during the Summer holidays and studied at the same time for an examination I had to repeat; my boyfriend went to Greece for a holiday for a month.
I am not good enough for your experiment I am doing.
When I met my girlfriend again in another town after a long separation.
A letter from my boyfriend began in such a way that I thought he was going to end our relationship. I was afraid of reading the rest.
Found out that I am not good at football.
When I got low marks in B.Sc final.
Unable to help my mother to cook.
When I came very late one night (or morning !) and my parents were waiting, not so much angrgy as disappointed.
Estrangement from my best woman friend. We have been going different ways for quite some time now, but the break was total when she got married as her husband is unreasonably jealous of me.
During the English lesson we were required to do a play. A few days after doing it the teacher asked us to do it again at a meeting and I forgot my part.
Yesterday while playing volley ball, there was one person extra  and somebody had to out. A mess worker and I were the last ones to arrive and we had arrived at the same time. Rightfully one of us had to opt out of the game, as I was delaying leaving the mess worker opted out saying that I should play. I felt ashamed of myself.
When one lets friends down
I went to the ballet lessons with a little friend in the dark. On a very quiet place a boy approached us from behind and asked at what time the lesson would be finished. I gave him an avoiding answer, he took me up and wanted to run away with me.
I recently became sexually involved with my sister's lover. I care for him very much, but I am ashamed of the hurt I may cause her.
I was disgusted with the behaviour of one of my fellow students during my Secondary School life. He was a habitual noise-maker and caused great conflicts with the teachers.
When I hurt my sisters for no reason at all.
In a certain occasion I saw a dog in the street eating something so strange gooey that I wasn't able to eat lunch because I remembered the scene all the time.
Flicking through a magazine showing pictures of homosexual men committing various acts.
I was disgusted at the behavior of these boys I work with in the scouting program. They showed a lack of interest, unrest, and at times just plain rude behavior.
When I was caught stealing money from my father.
I was escorting a relative on a bike, we passed by a dark road with bushas on each side. Half way down this road, suddenly, we  saw a white dog appear from one side. Before we could do anything, it had vanished and moreover it did not seem to have any legs.
When I flew from Athens to Copenhagen after a holiday. The plane was caught in a storm and it began to shake and I thouhght that we were going to crash.
I had a car accident.
When the girl with whom I am in love smiles at me.
I felt dusgust with a self-iterested person who ruined the life of another by means of utterly unfair methods.
When I was hungry, I tried to take the money that my mother had saved up for something else.
When I let my girlfriend use my essay to help her to write hers and the tutor found them alike.
I read a story in the newspaper about butchers treating their animals very badly. They disgusted me.
When I did poorly on a test and I knew that there wasn't an excuse for not doing better. Made mistakes I could not believe I made.
My friend took me to Civo Stadium to watch and listen to the music of the International singer Sam Mangwana. I had no hope of going there since I had no money so he gave me the money for admission.
One of my pupils escaped from school to the street.
When I beat up my brother in order to control him and make him obey my parents orders.
I felt vvery happy when I was accepted at UNZA for my studies. I had not expected this as I had been ill during the exams.
Listening to long speech of the party leaders wasting my time.
When I beat up a stupid boy who was fond of cracking jokes on me.
When I read about or think about environmental pollution, the armor race, starvation, etc. Then one realizes that mankind is bad, most important is power and money, at the cost of nature and mankind.
I felt sad when my first boyfriend and I left each other. It was neither his fault nor mine.
The only guilt I considered reasonable was my reproval at the end of the semester at the University.
When my parents got divorced.
Meeting best friend at the airport (boyfriend) who I had missed terribly.
As a child - being sent to the shop by mother - buying some chocolate - getting caught by mother.
I was hunting, and was lost in the fog in the mountains.
Finding out I am not good looking.
I experienced this feeling when the doctors found a nodule in one of my mother's breasts. It turned out to be an occlusion resulting from continious sucking but for a few days I was not in my reason.
Loneliness, being uncertain of myself in the Autumn.
When my friend (girl) went abroad for two years.
My 80 year old grandfather underwent three successive operations during a single year. The third operation was risky and I was scared that he would die and feared that my grandmother would be very sad.
When I failed an exam I thought I could pass easily.
Every time, in the last few days, when my girlfriend told me that she loves me.
The loss of my mother.
When I insulted an elderly person for no reason.
Finding out that my health condition may be against my attending university lectures.
I was on a farm with a few friends and during the talk I discovered that a friend of mine, was being betrayed by her boyfriend and a 3rd friend of ours.
I had to go to the dentist's. When he touched my tooth with his drill, I was terribly aftaid of the pain I would feel any moment.
It was in a tramway-carriage: A stranger insulted a girl just because she blew her nose. I detested his behaviour.
When during a social evening with my father, brother, sister, close friend and my father's 2nd wife - I had an argument with my father, who abused my friend who was sticking up for me.
When my father had a cerebral hemorrhage.
When a girl did not answer a question, concerning my love for her, put forward to her.
For a medical check-up, we - boys and girls - had to take off our clothes with the exception of our underwear. Then we had to go into another classroom where older pupils were sitting and staring at us.
I felt disgusted when my appointment to meet the E.N.T. specialist had been turned down. The specialist came from U.K. and went the same day and we do not have one.
I was supposed to do something and didn't. The person was really dependiong on me.
An argument among several friends because of the irrational behavior of one of them who fell out with us for no reason and said that we were to blame.
I felt very guilty when a student, sitting in front of me in the exam, asked me a few questions and I did not show him the answers, though I knew them.á
When my room-mate was making noise deliberately, by playing a flute early in the morning while I was trying to study.
When I bought new clothes and put them on.
When my parents quarelled over something I had done and which was wrong.
A man was unfair to a girlfriend of mine.
When I had stayed abroad for a long time and I had remembered about my friends and relatives. I felt sad and I wanted to see them as soon as possible.
Promised to do something for other people and did not do it.
An utterance, which I had intended to be a joke, was taken as an offence. In my opinion, this was stupid, and I got angry.
I experienced it when I was accepted at the Medical Higher Institute.
When I was in the puberty I smashed the favourite toy of my little brother because of a fit of rage.
On May 20th I got a summon to appear in court on May 28th 1985 on the subject of impregnanting a school girl. I really feared of standing in the court in a few days time after this notice. I was also embarassed due to formal approach that was expected of me to the Principal.
I rejected a person whom I had always thought to be a friend. I told him so and he reacted angrily. I felt guilty at not having realized it before and at having hurt him.
Not acting on my promise.
After listening to ghost stories with my classmates I had to back alone to the hostel at night. I had to walk through a long and quiet road and I was scared of meeting a ghost.
I had a little cat which was very sick. As I liked it very much I went to a veterinary with it. He told me how to tend it and it really recovered its health. Everybody said that I had saved its life.
I had been watching a TV-program on paranormal phenomena. At night I could not fall off to sleep as I feared that humanoids were on the move.
When I lied last week. I lied to someone to get info. for a paper I was writing. I told her that the info. was for a newspaper article. I was afraid if I told the truth she wouldn't help me.
When I was ten years old a classmate laughed at me because I had told him that my father had retired.
Could not help a student who needs help.
Made mistakes in exam.
One night I had a sexual intercourse with another man. My sexual desire and my curiosity had made me jump into bed with him. I am ashamed of myself now.
Sadness - this is an emotion which I have felt very often recently. I can't remember a concrete example. I will describe my general impression from severl situations which evoked this feeling in me.
I felt very sad when I left home because I could not stand it any longer. I do not regret it, but I missed my little sister very much (and she missed me). These feelings wear off over time.
When I was a child, one day, I was going home late at night and I did not notice an uncovered man hole and fell in it. I was in there for several minutes.
One night I was lying in my bed awake but I had my eyes closed. I saw figures with terrible faces and black frocks bending over me and touching me. I opened my eyes but I could still see them. I had the feeling that somebody was in the room. It was terrible. Only when I turned on the light I was able to go to sleep.
Having passed an exam.
When I heard the news that my grandfather had died.
A chief was unjustly punished on an autumn brigade and the one who was really guilty kept silent. I stepped in front and told the truth. The guilty chief called me in after the roll-call and threatened me.
I cheated my boyfriend.
Two-timing - going out with person other than guy I was in relationship with.
At the police centre a man between 40-50 was brought in. He was very drunk and in all likelihood had not slept indoors for a long time and had relieved himself in his trousers.
When I succeeded in achieving a scholarship for which I had strived hard during a period of financial, personal and physical stress.
When a close friend of mine collapsed and passed away and the illness was not known.
I was angered by a classmate who poured soup on to my clothes. He was trying to use a short-cut method in getting his supper. Coming behind my back, he wasn't noticed by me and as I was retreating from a hungry congested people I knocked his plate with my head. He didn't accept being wrong but blamed me for pouring his soup.
Some boys not cueing in the dining hall.
Due to some reasons my boyfriend and I decided to separate.
Sometime ago I felt very angry when my mother wrote me telling me that my elder sister was messing up things at home by her internalised aggressive attitude towards parents and her husband.
Years ago, on my way to school by the forest path I came across an exhibitionist.
Close relative is dying of cancer - found out last week.
A drunk man had fallen in the street and he was shouting obscene words.
Listening to the opening bars of Tchaikovsdy's symphony No.2 fourth movement at my sister's wedding.
My sister was impolite to my father when the family was having lunch together at a restaurant. She thought that our parents had been prejudiced against her, this was an extreme thought.
When I slapped a nephew who did something that I considered wrong, and I was reprehended for this.
When I copy someone else's problem set.
I get disgusted with the inherent racist attitudes of my brother-in-law in putting down various ethnic groups and also my unwillingness to challenge him about these attitudes in order to keep the peace.
I was to inform the neighbour on my left that a robber had been spotted the same evening near the house of the neighbour in front. I did not do it and the same day the thieves broke into this neighbour's house.
We lived with 3 persons in the loft of a house. It often occurred that other persons again and again climbed the stairs with much noise. When I was studying I couldn't concentrate and got angry.
When I deeply felt that I could lose the person I love best because of my foolishness.
Doing anatomy alone for the first time.
I felt guilty when I thought that I was still not standing on my own feet.
My trouser's zipper was open when I was at a public wedding.
When I was accepted into the medical school. Medicine is a profession that I have desired ever since my childhood.
I got angry when I learned how short a time we had to prepare for the term examinations.
Before my final examination.
Going out alone in the dark.
Finding out I am chosen to collect norms for Chinese aphasia (I will contribute to China's catching up with the West in neuropsychology).
My friend misunderstood me.
I lived alone in a repulsive area in the city of Rotterdam. I was annoyed, heard a lot of Burglary and assaults. Especially in the evening and the night I frequently felt anxious.
When I saw the movie "Poltergist".
A dear friend was removed from the division whre I work.
One day I was angry with my friend who went into my drawer and took a piece of paper on which I wanted to write a letter and used it for her business without my knowledge.
I feel shame when sometimes, (unconsciously) I behave unethically and without understanding the problems of the man I love.
When on a car journey a fellow student crossed our way with his own car and we had to bump into a roadside trunk.
When burglars with guns forced themselves into my house and ordered me to give them money or face death.
When the time came for me to see dead bodies and to operate on them.
After several days delay in my girlfriend's menstration I was very glad to see that the pregnancy test was negative.
When I passed and qualified for the university.
Two days after the above incident, I was thinking about my morally shameful act and I felt sorry for that incident, but it was too late, however I did realize this.
When my friend was punished for something that I had done.
I was walking along a subway when I saw a group of louts. I was rather afraid because I was alone.
When my parents-in-law scolded me, without any reason, in front of the other members of my family for the first time. They had called me from my room where I had been studying for my exams.
In the traffic with a car, I nearly got crushed between a bus and a tram. The attention of other drivers saved me at the last moment.
When a person saw that I was accused of something I had not done and did not do anything to defend me.
We were writing Primary school leaving Examinations when I had fallen at the steps going into the Exam room.
I'm very disgusted when I see people abusing their body with drugs and alcohol. They take advantage of these things usually for an excuse for the fantasies which they like and so they do things stupidly and unjustly.
A similar feeling I felt quite recently while travelling in a taxi. The driver treated me roughly and dishonestly - he chose the longest route, he overdrawed almost one lev more and he tried to be intimate with me.
I saw a program on T.V where they had to saw a skull for an    operation.
This feeling occurred to me when my colleague entered in G.V. (University) and I didn't.
Someone talking about me at my back.
Unknown person knocking repeatedly on backdoor when no one else was at home.
When I first heard "I like you !" from my boyfriend.
I was disgusted with the hypocrisy of my colleagues from the group.
When I failed to secure employment after my form 5 in Lusaka despite my excellent certificate.
I was totally unprepared for a seminar conducted by an assistant professor whom I highly respect.
When I couldn't go for a trip with my friends in a holiday.
My sister and brother in law returned from Sri Lanka where they adopted a child. I went to pick them up at the airport.
Staying in the room alone at night.
When a professor caught me absent-minded and not paying attention to what he was saying.
When I was informed that a short story I had written had been accepted for publication.
When my mother threatened me with thrushing me of the stairs, when I once more should make a comment.
When a friend of mine keeps telling me morbid things that happened to his dog.
After joining my M.A in Social Sciences, I appeared for the first semester exam. I failed one of the exams, and when I looked at my results I felt disgusted and then I got angry.
In 1977 when my friend was caught by a crocodile. We were swimming in a river on whose banks our primary school was situated. When my friend was caught, he was on the banks of the river and some of us were still in the middle of the river. I was very frightened.
When I still went to primary-school, I went on a ski-trip with my family. After skiing we went to a restaurant for lunch. Suddenly my father said that he had forgotten something in the car. He gave me the key and asked me to go and get it. I had difficulties with the key which was already bent. I asked my mother to help me. When she tried to turn the key it broke. We had no second key. My mother was blamed for all that and I did not say a word.
When I got a letter offering me the Summer job that I had applied for.
Motorcyclistic accident where for some minutes I didn't know if I was alive or dead, I remained "cold levered" during the situation but felt great fear.
A daughter in court for staff pilfering, she was dressed like a "street walker" - I had a friend form overseas with me and was falsely trying to impress with my family.
When I heard that someone who is very close to me did very well in the exams despite having fooled around a lot.
I had enough time to do my assignment, and I did not do it well. When the lecturer scolded me, I had this feeling.
Arriving home from work after a long and tiring day to find no dinner prepared as I had expected.
I hit my cousin badly after she threw away my dresses in a pit-latrine that the little girl fainted.
When my grandmother died. I had lived with her for ten years.
While watching a film of an experimental operation on a cat's brain in which the cat had metal pieces protruding from its eyes, mouth etc. to keep the head stable while being cut open.
Not helping other people to do their homework.
I crashed my father's car.
The first time I went away with my boyfriend and lied about where we were staying.
I found a problem in homework which would not get solved although I tried my best.
Recently my younger brother disappeared for two days without leaving a trace. Usually he tells me when he wants to do something like that, therefore I was afraid that something had happened to him.
One day I found an incontinent man in the ward. This patient had a guardian who couldn't give him a bath. So I just left him like that but felt guilty until I went back to give him a bath.
Our tutorial group was soon to be divided, and we got a list of names of freshmen, out of which five were to be in my group. We read the names and then each group went its own way to a seminar room. I wondered how I would cope with the new situation and if I would succeed as a group leader.
When my grandmother died. She stayed with us until I had the age of 10. When she died I was 13 and I remember the moment after the funeral: I sat on the table and cried.
Someone acting stupid in public.
I experience this emotion quite often but the day I was most angry was the day I got pulled up for something I had not done. It happened during my school days, I had not spoken a word in class but the monitor had written my name on the board. So I had a remark in my callender which I had to get signed by my parents. This remark resulted in me being spanked.
I was playing with friends then I decided to splash some sand into a car which was moving nearby. The driver got angry and came to report to my parents.
Lost my purse, the money in the purse belonged to my parents.
Heated discussion with spouse concerning new house.
Once a female classmate told me that the clothes I wore seemed to be a child's clothes. On hearing this I felt a little ashamed and I criticized her clothes though there was nothing wrong with them.
When my grandfather died.
When the class leader read out the names of those chosen for the English lecture and I was not on the list.
There was a time when I did not get on well with my sister. I always grumbled at her and said bad things about her to my mother. So my mother always scolded her.
Receiving a postcard form my sweetheart who was abroad on vacation, not being at all sure if he would write me or not.
When I got associated with a boy one year ago, I neglected my best friend. When the relation with this boy finished she behaved very easy-going towards me. I felt guilty then.
A friend of mine got pregnant anf failed the first year at university. The boyfriend refused his responsibility and they ended up in court.
Before going to the dentist.
Being slandered by friends.
When I am travelling by car and have to meet an oncoming car while overtaking.
We had arranged a beach party with 20 people. There my father got drunk I felt very ashamed.
When I was attending an authorized demonstrationand the police rushed brutally at the demonstrators, without any warning.
When the teacher asked me a question, I did not know the answer and I just stood still for about a few minutes without saying a word.
When I was a child I had to recite a poem in a show at the end of the term.
When armed robbers broke into our house at night.
Before giving a seminar to a rather large audience.
I felt so afraid when dad fell ill, he had never suffered from that disease since and I had never seen him as he was.
I think that the only time I really felt shame was when I was very young and I had to defecate on the street. I was very worried in case someone should see me.
The time I knocked a deer down - the sight of the animal's injuries and helplessness. The realization that the animal was so badly hurt that it had to be put down, and when the animal screamed at the moment of death.
I was alone walking in a deserted part of the city and I had some fear that some men would attack me and rob me.
During a meeting I said something wrong and the others laughed at me.
I felt guilty of revealing a secret to my in-law. I told her that my brother and I had gone to disconight which is a thing my brother didn't want to let her know. Later my brother was accused of spending a night out.
When I won a position on the track-team for the trans-tasman games when I was eleven.
I felt angry when my only pair of trousers was stolen and could not be able to find out who the thief was or anyone who knew about the story.
I was ashamed when my classmates discovered that I fell in love with an uneducated girl.
I didn't keep a promise I had made to a man, and in this way I lost his esteem and confidence in me. I caused him a lot of trouble.
The day that my boyfriend appeared at home with a pair of rings for our wedding.
Finding out in your lecture that a doctor can make misdiagnoses because of ignorance in neuropsychology.
A close friend died.
Once, late at night, I was biking home and overtook a man. He said to me "Hello darling" I was terrified and imagined the wildest scenes.
I am a Christian but I cannot find any meaning in life . It seems that I am deceiving myself but I cannot find the way out.
When I was young, I stole some money from my mother's purse. It wasn't very much, but I can remember when she found it gone I felt very guilty.
I called my little sister to make her pick up her toy from the floor. When she still refused after I had asked her for the fourth time, we began to quarrel. At last the whole family was involved in this quarrel and trouble was brewing.
This is an event I will never forget. I am considered a good mimic. This particular day we were waiting for a professor to take her class. This professor had a peculiar accent and a very horrible way of lecturing and to top it all we had this class at the fag end of the day. So this particular day I got into my element and started imitating the professor, and the professor entered the class right in the middle of it . I was unaware of her presence, some of my friends tried to warn me but it was of no avail as I was too engrossed in mimicing. Then I suddenly noticed the silence and turned around to see her entering the class. I do not know till today if she actually saw what I had been doing or she had completely ignored it. Through out that lecture I died of shame. All the more shameful was the fact that she gave me a character certificate.
A close friend first said he accepted an agreement, but later used that agreement as a reason for attacking me.
I had wasted some time instead of doing something I needed to do to give to a friend. (Also in the time I wasted I had done some things I did not consider morally right).
I was emotionally happy when I was in love with the girl I had longed for.
A friend of mine that is abroad undertook recently an axam to enter on University in Dallas, and was approved.
Stealing money from a milk token jar from a close friend of the family when visiting.
When I get home late my father scolds me and this makes me angry.
When we decided, my boyfriend and I, that we would separate, I realized that he would have wanted to continue our relationship and the coming separation hurt him.
Insulted by the class leader.
I was ashamed to tell my mother that I fell down with a bicycle.
Every time I went home with my school report.
Finding out the great difference between China and the West in science.
I was wearing a short skirt one day and someone told me my underwear was showing.
Six months ago when I got acquaintanced with a person whom I trusted infinitely and from whom I expected help and friendly feelings. With him I found much in common - in our views and in our fate.
When my father passed away.
Iqam chosen for your lecture and my best friend is not. Now he is angry with me and I cannot help him.
When I passed the TOEFEL with very good marks.
The teacher of one course gave me 10 questions with sub-questions going from a to e for each question. She asked me to do all this in one and a half hours. It involved a lot of describing and explaining and even though I knew all the answers, I could not finish the work.
One evening my father told me to go into the cellar and get him a beer. I was terribly frightened at the idea of a man sitting in the cellar and assaulting me. For my defence I took an empty bottle with me.
In the past I used to think that my mother was a very nagging person. When I started living at the hostel we had little time to meet each other. Whenever I went home she would take care of me. I gradually realized that what she had done was for my own good. So very time I saw her I felt guilty.
When the thing that made my friends and relatives sad happened to them.
Motor failure on a boat outside Gottenburg when we were in heavy seas and the wind was strong. As we could not steer the boat we drifted towards the rocks. We did not succeed in attracting the attention of any passerby until 4 hours had elapsed.
When not fulfilling any of my obligations to a person whom I respect.
When I accepted a lunch invitation from a past male friend.
A couple of years ago during the summer holiday, I was fishing at a lake with my husband. Suddenly it started raining while the sun was still shining. I experienced a feeling of joy, happiness and fulfillment. the whole nature was full of music.
Every time I meet a certain dog that has once bitten me.
I experienced this emotion when my grandfather passed away.
I was waiting to receive the participation on the profits and did not receive it.
Spots on the seat covers of my husband's car.
Anger I felt when my boyfriend told me he didn't mind breaking it off with me, i.e. each of us to take his own road. Because until that moment, he deliberately restricted our dates. The motives were brought to my knowledge later.
When I was afraid to tell my sports teacher at secondary school that I had not participated in the sports activities the previous day.
When I told a girl that I could not take her out that night as I was entertaining my mother who had come from home. However, I later met this girl with another girlfriend at a hostel where I had taken out another girlfriend of mine.
I felt angry at one time when I was chatting with friends and suddenly another friend joined us and started opposing any comment I added to our chatting.
When I lied to my wife and told her that I was going to the Copperbelt on a buisness trip, she later found me in a hotel with a girlfriend.
When parents of a certain girl refused to let me marry their daughter because I was not fit to do so yet the girl accepted everything and later she followed what her parents insisted and she told me never to talk to her again.
It was when we were beaten or lost the football match by 5-1 and then I scored the third goal to my own side.
When I read about Reagan's tactical decision concerning the South African boycott.
Yesterday I broke my sister's raio. She hears it always when she has school examinations and now she has examinations.
I was on a trip to Phillipines during Summer and I was staying in a hotel. The room I was staying in was very silent and had very dim lights. The last night I felt frightened and lay awake - I could hear some sounds around me and dared not open my eyes - I waited for dawn.
I was examined by a teacher I greatly respected. I was well prepared on the subjects but he put some side-issues to me and I couldn't answer.
When going out in the weekend I have to bike 5 kilometers through lonely and dark polders, then I always have terrifying fantasies.
About Sweden's arms exports.
When I was taking the 11th standard exam, my friend who was sitting behind me asked me for some answers. The teacher looked at us just then and scolded both of us. Everyone started looking at us and I felt very guilty.
I "picked up" a girl and I thought that I had misused my position and authority over her as there did not seem to be any realistic possibility of continuing the relationship.
I felt guilty at not having practised the piano. I waste my teacher's time and guidance.
When India first won the world cup cricket tournament.
I was visiting my parents in law when the house was invaded by three strange men, and they committed an armed assault.
I was overwhelmed with joy when I received the acceptance letter to UNZA. This happened again when I passed all my first year courses.
When my brother promised me money but he failed to fulfill the promise.
I was on this amusement park ride at Marriots Great America. It went way up in the air and then around and around. Heights are not my favorite spots in life.
I saw a friend's husband with another woman.
When I passsed the M.S.C board exams with first class, which I had not expected.
Sometime back, my boyfriend and I were having a walk nearby my parent's house. Suddenly we met my grandfather and I was afraid that he would report to my parents.
When one is unjustly accused of something one has not done.
When I was 12 years old I frequently was pursued by others and got sound thrashes.
After going through much shame, I became a Christian and something new happened in my heart. Joy that overflows was manifest in me.
When I committed a sin mentioned in ANGER. A sin of sexual immorality.
When I found out that a set task (i.e. 2 essays and a test), the thought of which had oppressed me, were not on the date I had thought.
People who came to our home - and requested "Put out your smoke". That we should not smoke in our house... and asked not even politely. It disgusted me because I think people need to adapt to the situation.
My joy was the joy of meeting again. My husband came home after having been away for weeks (for work). I was on the railway station to meet him.
Emptied a bucket of water in a hospital.
When an employer of my younger sister (17 yrs) made a "pass" at her.
When a friend left me and went back home for good.
Not doing well in an examn.
A truck (big one) nearly mowed me off the road (I was driving a small Lazer).
I had been guilty of gossiping and blaming others, and one of my superiors at the workplace made a formal reprimand.
To buy a car and didn't like the business and the car.
I had a very good friend (boy) and I thought I could rely on him but he behaved badly with a girl who used to trust us completely.
Being alone in Europe and having to catch a train and bus to the airport, then board the plane alone.
If I don't go to lectures, I often feel ashamed.
I prayed unfaithfully.
When I was going downhill on skis, and fell down twice the first time.
When my father banned me from going to his sister's home due to some misunderstanding between the two.
When my friend, as usual, forgot the tickets at home for a performance. We missed it.
Somebody who knows me very well discovered that I had told him a lie.
The passing away of my mum.
When my girlfriend was afraid and anxious the day before taking her exam.
I made my boyfriend so unhappy and depressed that I feel guilty.
We had friends to dinner and one of them threw a beer bottle in the air, and it bounced on an expensive table and damaged the table .The person did not apologise.
When I am walking on the streets and see a gang of thugs.
I was camping in an old broken hut which had no lights. I had brought along a lamp which was not working very well. The door made strange sounds and I was sure that strange things were happening. The most terrifying bit was that there were many wardrobes in the hut and everytime that I looked in the glass of the wardrobe I felt that there were "objects" behind me.  The whole night was spent in fear and restlessness.
When I heard that there had been some women raped at uni, just near where I usually park my car and walk by myself at night. Although I wasn't in danger it unnerved me for days and I was fearful whenever walking through the area.
I am happpy when I get good results in the field of academics or athletics.
On the train a drunk person touched my baby and I reacted very disapprovingly. I felt ashamed later as the person had not been aggressive though he could have been.
When I was dismissed unjustly from the firm where I worked, because there where persons that didn't have problems, and wouldn't miss in the jobs they occupied if they were dismissed.
Getting terrible meals, but paying heaps for them.
During the PY 102 film session on Tuesday, one of the films shown was of an experiment on a live cat involving strapping it into a machine for possibly days, and doing things to its brain.
When my ex-girlfriend and I discovered that there was a certain risk of her being pregnant.
Once I lied to my parents and this made me feel very guilty.
When I think about my parents getting old.
When my grandmother died. I had a very deep relation to her (I lived with her for several years).
Can't remember having had this feeling.
My friends and I were sitting at a restaurant. We were talking and a few of them said awful things about women. I became disgusted by their narrow-mindedness.
I should have given a test lesson to get a job. I had no courage. I didn't make the test.
When I don't succeed to fulfill a promise.
When I see the acts and deeds of a blind drunk man.
Finding out my grades at the end of my freshman year.
Gave the wrong meal tickets to other people (my classmate).
My child passed away after a short illness when he was just eleven months old. I was only told about his death without knowing that he had been ill.
Attitude to some manners of dealing and some "sanctioned" relations.
A rich man expressing disgust towards an alcoholic.
When I was eight years old my father was run over by a car. When I saw his body I was sad beyond words.
I travelled on a bus and I forgot to punch the ticket. A ticket collector came in and I had to pay the fine. I did it with a feeling of shame.
My grandfather's funeral.
I met a friend in a discotheque. he was with a girl and he told me that she was not his girlfriend. I, to say something, commented that she must be a viscious woman. He then told me that she was his girl.
I got a letter from my best friend, whom I had not heard from for a long time (a good letter).
Finding out my best friend cannot go to the English lectures.
Practicing wind-surf my body was caught under the sail. On trying to get out my leg was caught in the lashing. I was afraid of dying by asphixia.
When my sister had the still born child, she was emotionally very deep down, and it took her a long time to recover.
Someone had stolen an article from a library journal.
I was misbehaving in the agency.
When my family heard that my Mother's cousin who lives in England wrote us to tell that he had cancer of the lymph glands.
When I read a newspaper article on a young girl who had been raped and assaulted one night by several men when she was unconscious.
As an evening class teacher I got positive feedback. When the atmosphere is good and a kind of relaxed understanding exists.
When I got the scholarship letter from Australia.
When I got 1 mark in an Abnormal Psychology exam.
I had a friend who was very kind to me. I tried my best to like him and understand him but when I was with him I could not help rejecting, criticizing and blaming him. I wanted to get away from him as soon as possible.
I was sitting on the bus coming back from school. A man from nearly forty years sat beside me. After a while I looked at him and saw that he was looking at me with opened throusers and holding his penis.
I was working at a certain place and everyday after work dad would come to pick me up. One day he did not come, it started getting very dark and I had no money on me and my home was very, very far away.
When my mum's brother passed away after having been involved in a car accident.  He was bringing me a present as I had passed my form five exams with flying colours.
Once at a camp a classmate criticized me in front of others. Now I find that this classmate is very disgusting.
Not finishing homework.
Talking to my close friend.
When I was reprimanded by the manager of the hotel where I worked during Autumn 1984.
Realizing one's desire, an experienced feeling of satisfaction from the realization of one's desires and aims.
I was doing an experiment and was not getting the appropriate result despite the fact that I had repeated the procedure 4-5 times. Then finally I got it right by a stroke of luck.
During my birthday party a friend drank too much alcohol. So much that he had to throw up. Worst of all was that he couldn't leave my friend alone and that he was molesting her.
Not doing my share of the work for the house job.
The housing council asked the city to cut 40 linden trees so that the inhabitants of the lower floors would have a view to the sea.
I was travelling, we were 15 person, one of them I met at the travel and didn't like her. One night I was asleep while she and her friends were talking too loud in the kitchen. I got up to ask for silence and since that day I felt constant disgust for her.
When I had to move away from home to study, and I knew that I would not be coming back home for a long time.
The event which got me angry got also an aversion in me.
In broad daylight I saw an untidy old man pissing and playing with his penis in the middle of the town.
Once after falling in love, I imagined that particular girl to be perfect and completely overshadowing my girlfriend. Afterwards I realized that this image was not objective. I felt guilty against both girls.
Talking to a close friend.
Finding out that some students are getting good reports they do not deserve.
I am chosen for the English lectures instead of my good friend and people told me that girls are more likely to be chosen.
I won the first prize at the science fair, the first of the kind at school and I was only in form II then.
I was most angry when India lost the Triangular Cricket trophy held in Australia. I was so angry that I fought (orally) with my friend.
When I could neither measure up to the expectations of the teacher nor to my own expectations in one of the assignments.
When I met a friend whom I had not seen for a long time and heard all about her troubles, I thought that I should have got in touch with her earlier.
I thought that I would be scolded for a comment I had made, which I should not have made.
Not collecting letters for my friend al I promised.
Occurs frequently. A recent experience: when going out with many friends, nice music, after the examinations, I felt so happy I could have embraced everybody.
My sisters asked me to fetch them at a discotheque which is 5 km off. There was a thick fog and snowfall. There was not enough room in the car for all of them and they asked me to go there once again. When I did not do that they had a way to make me feel guilty.
When I used to tell Mum I was going somewhere else than where I was (going).
The thought of having to read a boring book of 400 pages in English.
I do not have the time for other people's problems. My mother-in-law is sometimes depressed and I do not have the time, the desire or the strength to help.
When my husband quarrelled with me for no reason at all.
A friend told me that a boy wanted to get to know me. At that time I felt disgusted and thought that it was a nonsense thing.
I had not studied very much for my final examination at school, so I had to take an additional examination in French. The oral examination was not very hard for me - the more I was glad when I heard that I had passed it.
I was angry when my boyfriend did not turn up as promised.
When I was in F4 I played a basket-ball match against another school's team. One of their team members kicked a team-mate of mine so I kicked him back and we had a fight with each other.
When I came for the lesson, it was cancelled and I had to fill in a questionnaire instead.
After I had given the wrong answer to my students they pointed it out to me and I had to correct myself.
My older sister used to pick on my brothers and sisters all of whom were younger than her. On one occasion my brother did something my sister didn't like. A full-scale battle began.
When the lady who is now my wife accepted my proposal to be my lover and future wife.
When my first love was not successful.
When I offended my parents without wanting it.
When I was locked out of my room by my room-mate's friend.
Losing a pet chick. Our family had just put the chick outside a few days before and then one morning it was gone.
That day I was alone at home after coming home from school. I did not know where everyone else had gone, I kept waiting for them to come back and nobody came. It was getting very late and I was terrified.
The end of a relationship (after 4 years) by doing this I hurt the other person very much.
I applied for a job of GALSO counselor and I made the strongest possible application but was denied an interview. I felt disgusted at the system which by promoting the cause of minorities makes employing whites lowest priority.
When I met a friend that I hadn't seen for some time.
I experienced this when one of my friends reported to the Headmaster that I had gone out for beer, whilst the information was not true at all. So I had to fight the friend before the Headmaster.
When I could not reason my friend, it angered me.
When I learned that my dad had cancer. I knew he was going to the hospital for some tests. My mom told me when she picked me up one weekend from CAL to take me home.
My cousin and I were at the farm and at night we drunk like fools and made a lot of noise. We had drunk two much of wine.
When going out I am threatened regularly by two punk-girls.
I felt fear when I fell down and broke my leg into pieces and I could not feel it at all.
I got a present from a great friend (a dog).
During a dance someone slashed my tires and dumped paint on my car. I had four other friends with me that I drove and furthermore it was raining.
My academic result was poor and I had to repeat the second year. I felt sad about the coming several years.
When someone made me a compliment after an examination just at the moment I needed it. It was amicable, hearty and sincere.
At an unjust insult or injure.
I confronted a bigger person than I and almost got into a fight.
When I forgot the lyrics during a song contest.
Once I did not have enough money to pay for a coffee.
I ate very fattening food in front of my boyfriend who would like me to lose weight. I am supposedly pursuing a modelling career but first I must lose weight. I had been trying to diet.
When a certain drunk man slapped my buttocks when I was quietly standing waiting for a bus.
For a few days I felt very miserable, distressed and listless, with crying fits. When this was over I felt very happy, although there was no special reason.
When I went to my room-mate's drawer to see if she had an iron which I could use, she came in. I felt guilty as she may have thought that I had been stealing.
Failing in an examn because of lazyness.
When I received the results from my final examination - Higher School Certificate - and received a mark that was beyond my wildest expectations.
My mother and father had forbidden me to ride my scooter on the road, and I had transgressed (together with the "wild" kids from across the street) by riding my scooter down a steep hill near our house. My mother sent the boy next door to collect me, and I was severely scolded.
At primary school the teacher caught me cheating during a dictation.
When I was a student at the Institute doing my M.Phil degree, one of my professors called me before the convocation and told me "You have got the gold-medal (first rank) in the university and tomorrow you will be on T.V".
When my mother died.
In 1982, I was annoyed at an uncle who was drunk and was beating up his old father. He claimed that the father was responsible for his guardian's failure.
A situation where we were the center of attention, and things happened without my control on them, that showed our disagreement, and ignorance.
When I wished secretly and lied to a friend of mine because I didn't want her to stay in my house on the beach (as she always does), and wouldn't stick on me.
When my grandfather died I was extremely sad. However my family members did not have any special feelings, they said that he was already 80 years old.
When one of my lovers told me that I was a flirt.
When I was insulted by a fellow student.
When I passed the driving test already on the first try, although I felt more and more uncertain as the day came near.
When my 6 month old son is happy and well.
Put down by my father - at a family outing at mutual family friends dinner. Told "Not to Speak". The attitude by him was negative/I was in mid 20s, I had done many things - a wide range of experiences. Probably greater than he.
Not being able to argue against class leaders.
Some time ago we had a tournament in our tennis-club. For tactical reasons I was chosen to play against a much weaker player than I am. Although it would have been enough simply to win the game, I defeated him extremely. This would not have been necessary.
When I met a good friend after a long time. We had had a quarrel but after two weeks I was really glad to see him again.
When my grandfather whom I had met only once for 3 weeks, died after several months. I was really sad because he was a lovely person and I did not have the means for his company.
When I entered the operation theatre and underwent a difficult operation.
I made an appointment to pick up someone. However I arrived too late and she had to wait a quarter of an hour.
I was accused of having drunk a bottle of liquor and then refilling with water.
One day, I was alone on duty when a patient choked while eating. I ran to her and tried to make her breath, but it was too late.
I had a dream : I had a very close friend who had several stone houses in the New Territories (villages) but they did not have much furniture. He took me to see his fields (I had never seen them before) and there were several inches of clear water on which the sunshine was reflected. I wanted to sit among the short green plants in the fields but was afraid of treading the plants to death. My friend said "They will not die" and I sat down happily and my trousers did not get wet.
When I heard that I had been selected for the university.
When my girlfriend told me that she wanted to leave me.
A friend of mine told other people that I was a slattern (because of an occurence that had happened some time ago). When I heard about that I was very angry.
Breaking an implicit promise.
When I saw a drunk man urinate upon himsellf and he seemed to be thoroughly content with it.
When I knew that a person that I liked very much didn't react the way I would like to, even that I knew about his feelings for me.
When I heard that my father had passed away.
Saw someone spitting in public.
For the girl who halped me go on living and made me happy - when I don't see her even for two or three days.
When one has been unjust, stupid towards someone else.
I had this feeling when I met a girl, not that she was dirty but she was to "fresh", dump and childish.
When I discovered my mother had been having an affair with my father's best friend, and then ran away with him without even speaking to me about what she was doing letting me come home from school simply to find her gone. I was filled with disgust and contempt.
My mother had not come home at midnight. She had forgotten to tell me about it. I was very young and all alone at home.
At an examination I got a bad mark just because of a small mistake. When I went to the lector and wanted to talk about that, he did not listen to me but sent me away.
I remember about an unpleasant event in relation to my mother. I felt guilty before her.
When I was driving my motorbike I went into a bend incautiously and fell down. I was slightly hurt, the motorbike was slightly damaged.
Not being able to do well to be chosen for the English lecture.
When I had to give a speech about some historical event, to an audiece of about 200 people my own age whom I did not know.
I spend the night with my boyfriend, while there was also a friend of his. We all lay on the floor to sleep. When my boyfriend was fallen asleep the other boy and I started petting. After 15 minutes I felt miserable and awoke my boyfriend to tell him that.
After being told that an ex-boyfriend had been hurt by my wearing something he had given me when I was with another guy. I was unaware of my actions really, as I had not considered the fact that he had given it to me, and might see me. I still respected his opinions of me.
When I passed successive exams to enter the school of medicine.
When I realized that I avoided two good friends with whom I always shared toys and sorrows. I made up idle stories to avoid telling them what happened to me.
During the period of falling in love, each time that we met and especially when we had not met for a long time.
Always when I meet the person I love.
Heard some postgraduate students talking about girls being unsiutable to do medicine.
When I received the mark well above requirements for the course I wanted to enter, yet I was not accepted - anger at the injustice of it, because I didn't receive early release of H.S.C. marks.
Being involved in a car accident and having my thumb caught in the glove compartment. My sister and I had a Fear of finally telling my parents, since my sister was the driver.
One day when I was sitting in a not very crowded bus, a middle aged woman was standing beside me. The person sitting next to me got up to get off and this woman pushed me and occupied the seat. Then she took off her shoes and put her feet on the seat.
It was not long ago when I and two of friends of mine got quite drunk and one of them began to rave under the influence of the alcohol. I felt fear of what could have happened.
Achievement of a task by a friend who had begun a new job. She wasn't confident of handling the situation so was thinking of leaving the job only after 2 days employment.
I was in a camp and went out for a walk at night on my own. I lost my way and spent several hours looking for the camp.
I went to study in a public library but I didn't know it well. I got a book and wanted to study hearing music. Then I went to a place were I could do it, but when I passed by a door a bell rang and a man came saying that I couldn't leave with the book.
When I got in jungle where there was a great number of snakes.
When I was mistreated by my step-mother.
In some special circumstances l lied to my parents, then felt guilty so I told them the truth and felt free.
Caused fault in V.C.R. by not following instructions carefully.
Forgetting an important appointment.
During my holiday I met again a friend who had tried to commit suicide. She had just left hospital, her lips were trembling, she looked miserable.
This happened when I went to visit my friend in Chelston and found him screwing my girlfriend.
Once my friend and I got into into a hot discussion on a very controversial topic. At one point of the argument I disagreed with her totally and I took what she was saying as an insult. So I couter-argued and unknowingly hurt her emotionally, I felt very sad about this.
A wurm dropped on my head.
When I saw all the starving people in Ethiopia on T.V. It felt awful to see such suffering.
When I realized that I had three more examinations to take.
When I was teaching a student started making silly remarks in class.
I felt disgusted when we (family) avoided a problem which could be solved readily.
I was driving very fast on a small road and I met an oncoming car in a right handed bend. The other driver was on his own side of the road and I had to skid out of it to avoid a collision. It was dark.
After each successfully passed exam I am happy.
When my sister (really my niece) died of cancer at the age of 2 yrs after I took her to the doctor at the age of 1 and he diagnosed it.
When my younger sister visited me during the school holidays and told me that she would not go back to school because she was pregnant.
Forgot to give a present to my little nephew.
When I went home on holidays I found that my niece and nephew had passed away I was very sad for the children were not even sick before death but suddenly died.
When one meets new people with whom one is forced to collaborate with.
Last year, when I took the college entrance examinations I failed the FUVEST. It was for me the most frustrating situation because I had studied all year long, and only thought about this.
When I crashed by bike into an old lady crossing a road and knocked her down.
Whenever I spoke to a female classmate I felt disgusted. She said meaningless things and seemed to indicate something to me but I did not love/like her.
When I saw a friend of mine, whom I had not seen for a long time and I had lost his address and telephone number.
When I was sitting in a car next to a man who was masturbating.
I never failed my examinations since Standard 1 but I experienced sad moments when I sat for Standard 8 Examination and I was not selected for Secondary School education in 1978.
A fear from the loss of a close friend as a result of his behavior.
Physical violence. A friend wouldn't listen to me I repeatedly tried to warn him, to no avail. Result: eight people were "pissed off".
I was walking in the countryside alone when I came across two dogs who began barking at me. I did not know whether they were tied up or loose, but I was afraid of them approaching me.
I destroyed my step-brother's bedsheets by mistake, they were the only ones he had.
When I was faced with writing an essay and I didn't want to do it I was angry that I had to write an essay and angry at myself for not having the time to write a good essay.
When I talked to another student about the notes she got last semester, not knowing that she got a lot of bad grades.
After a party in which I made love with a boy in public. Later on I heard that others were talking about me and called me a slut.
It was the time when I was in no position to secure a Ist class in the M.Sc exam and this was likely to affect my career.
I felt disgust of dirty.
I shared a secret with a friend and it later turned out that he had revealed it to another person with whom I didn't get along very well.
I felt sad when I was despised by another person.
Missing lectures and avoiding university work for no reason when it had to be done.
When I quarelled with my parents.
After a long time (of no communication with him, physical illness and worry) my lover came to see me, when I least expected to see him.
I was ashamed at myself for having shouted at my daughter because of my marital break-up and the unfair way I was treated.
Meeting generally dominating persons in social occasions.
I took some money from my parent's house without asking them for it, and I was caught red handed.
I was ashamed with my biology lecturer when he asked me a question and I could not answer it.
Cannot recall the emotion with any force.
When I was an exploration with my friends and almost got lost in an unfamiliar environment. It was getting dark and we did not know how to get back home.
One day my colleague misbehaved with me. I felt disgusted and thought to myself that he could only do this because I was a woman.
Fear came towards the end of May when the P.T.S. results were out after hearing the failure of my fellow three friends.
When I forced a close friend of mine to ask a girl things about herself.
About not helping my sister when she asked me to help her on her chemistry class. I pretended to be busy.
When I finished a love affair where I was responsible of the sad end.
I was disgusted from a quarrel between two married people, in which the children were involved as accusers of one of the parents.
When I passed the last exam, which I had doudts about.
When I found out that I had passed the last two exams by a margin of three marks.
Criticized by a teacher in public.
Not beeing able to stay with my mother for the National Day holiday.
When my boss enrolled in a course to satisfy his own ends - to trample on his associates. I have the misfortune to have one of my superiors in my course.
I had a very pleasant conversation with one of my friends.
Unofficially I was informed about my results of the final examination of the secondary school. A teacher wrote them up for me. When I went outside, I started crying with joy.
At the weekend I wanted to be absent from school because of a sports event, but my teacher refused to give me the day off because he didn't like me.
I took a psych. experiment with a totally unappealing gay man as the experimentor, some homosexuals are funny or cute, but this guy was disgusting. Plus the experiment was about gays too.
I did not attend a social studies observation class for 1 whole week (I am a student trainee teacher). Anyway the other teachers thought this was okay because the teacher I was supposed to observe was not well liked. The teacher was in fact really nice to me - but I wanted to get out of teaching a hard topic he had given me.
I was subject to false accusations, and got very angry.
When I was able to buy my new car, after lots of problems.
When they found out that I was absent from school, I had gone to the girl's secondary school.
Once I had to go home on foot at 5 a.m. I had to pass through a forest and I was going alone.
When my uncle gave me my first year's results. I opened the envelope and my eyes ran into two "B+" - in EC110 and M160, this meant that I had qualified for a major in economics.
Being told that I have not got a personality.
When my bosom friend tried to lie to me.
I had not done my assignment seriously. I only pretended to finish the work as the work did not have any meaning for me. The whole thing made me feel guilty.
When I was working, I got treated in a way which I felt was not democratic.
When my sister's boyfriend accused her of having been sleeping around.
When my grandmother died of cancer.
When I applied for a false travelling claim allowance and later I thought that I would be found out.
Breaking up with a girl.
I lost my way on a trip in the mountains.
I had known the girl for a few months when I proposed to her and this put an end to our friendship, as from then on we started withdrawing from each other. I liked her very much.
Did well in an examn just before my father's birthday: the best present I can give to my father.
When I achieved my first 6 at University after a long string of 3's, 4's and 5's (7 is the highest mark awarded, 3 is a conceded pass).
When I began to date, the first gestures of affection made me feel ashamed.
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Ever since I have been a child, the sight of any kind of wound.
One of my very good friends came to me for advice as her boyfriend had been hitting her and beating her quite harmfully.
When I do not succeed in making myself clear to other people. When they do not understand what I say.
I stroke a person undeservedly.
When I went to a disco with a friend I started behaving badly embarrassing him without reason.
Getting a friend an open container ticket because I got caught speeding.
At an anti-pornography meeting, when samples from films and magazines were shown.
When I failed Psychology examination when most of the students passed.
When, for example, my grandfather fell seriously ill. It was necessary for him to be operated and I felt great fear of losing him because he is so dear to me.
Treatment to become pregnant with a negative result.
Getting sent on a company expense trip to another state to work for a week at that plan.
When a close friend died.
I was called racial slurs behind my back.
Being invited out by a person I wished to get closer to. He telephoned and invited me to go out with him the next night.
I feel disgust at my neighbour, because she comes to our house with her child, who spoils our furniture.
When I made the acquaintance of a certain person.
Upon moving away from home for the first time to a different city, I felt no longer "under the wing" of my parents even though they would always be there to help me. I felt a sense of loss, I was now all alone in the world, responsible for my own actions.
Once I promised to do something but I didn't do it.
I promised to fulfill an errand. Later I understood it was impracticable. The explanation I gave was accompanied by a sense of guilt.
My roommate got married and invited me to share a flat with them. But with a young couple there should not be a third person. I am to blame for not following the advise of the others, but it is not late still.
The exam was drawing near and I wanted to prepare for it. But I had a lot of other things to do so I did not have much time to prepare for the exams. Whenever I sat down to study I was scared that I would not be able to finish it.
I wanted to go to a friend of mine who had a party; at the moment I wanted to leave, my father said I couldn't go because he needed me for some work in the afternoon.
Your prejudice against psychology students and education students (not allowing us to go to the medical university lectures).
When I passed the first year and so I could come back for my second year.
I was very sad when I heard that my uncle had passed away untimely at home.
When I lost my study grant without having attended any exam in the career I had started, and it was too late to cancel my registration.
In a cottage in a large forest, I was alone for a while in the dark.
Korean judges cheating.
I felt ashamed when in a certain occasion I had to read a text and didn't stop stuttering.
A few days back, I walked on a heap of faeces while walking on the road. I got goose flesh because of this.
After having told an authority figure a very large lie I was told she believed me, because she believed I had never lied to her.
When I left a carnaval ball at 4 o'clock a.m. I was alone in a foreign city and I had to go back home, when a guy appeared and tried to "catch me".
When my roommate came home at 10 in the morning after sleeping with a guy she did not know because she got drunk. (Se has a boyfriend too).
Someone played a trick on me.
When I fell crazily in love with a beautiful girl and she returned my love.
When I was leaving home I decided to leave without saying good-bye to my young brother. My brother saw me and said,    " Will you not say good-bye to me?" He is only 31/2 years old.
The smell of garlic in rush-hour bus.
Doing a group assignment and being left to do all the work and take the blame for any mistakes.
When I realized that not all my friends like the comments that I pass in their presence.
I felt ashamed to be Brazilian and to live under a military dictatorship that despoiled the people, when during my military service.
I was angry the other day because the teacher told me to sweep some orange peels. It was my friends who were supposed to sweep, but the teacher told me to do it.
The day I left my first girlfriend.
This came in when at one time I met a girl who I didn't expect to fall in love with me. Fortunately I tried my luck and she accepted my proposal. At the same time she was giving me a lot of money which was just like a miracle to me.
I met my friend and he gave me a wonderful present as it was my birthday. I enjoyed having that present.
My intimate girlfriend told me that her father was opposed to our relationship and had insulted my integrity.
I had to take care of my little brother. When I met a friend I did not pay attention to him for a certain time and he was hurt while he was playing.
Last Summer I went camping with some C.U students. As I was working then, I had to leave the second night (some of them had joined us the first night). Next morning, 6 o'clock, a female classmate knocked on our door and tried to wake us up. I was not fully conscious and I said something which I should not have. I realized the trouble I had made and wanted to hide. Later I said sorry to her and the matter came to an end.
Selling the appartment after my divorce.
One day I got on the bus without any money or season ticket and the driver threw me out.
When I thought for an instant that a very good relationship with a person had finished.
I fell on the ground while crossing the street. My cap covered my eyes and I felt quite "difficult".
I was with my boyfriend forgetting that I had left the house unlocked. Unfortunatly a thief came and stole all the kitchen utensils. Thereafter I was afraid of the consequences.
Some time ago I took the driving test. I did answer the theoretical questions very well, but I failed the practical driving test. It was my fault because I had not enough practice.
I feel shy to show all my worth when I work for the first time with a conductor or a producer unfamiliar to me.
When my fiancee travelled 2000 Km to visit me, and I hadn't seen her for 4 months.
I felt afraid just before receiving the question paper of the part II exam.
I was camping with a friend of mine and we spent the night in the forest. I could not fall off to sleep and could clearly hear noises from outside (steps ?) approaching our tent.
When my boyfriend told me that it would be difficult for him to marry me.
When I think now about the way my father behaved when filing a divorce.
A young, close relative of mine died, leaving behind a baby a few months old.
I saw part of a Prince video with him crawling out of a bath tub.
When one's studies seem hopelessly difficult and uninteresting.
Arriving in New Zealand as a teenager - first overseas trip - something "exhilarating" about the change of scenery etc.
When as a child I stole, from a friend of mine, the ring she had got in an easter egg.
I wore a dirty dress a certain day I was going to town I met an old friend who made a comment about my dress so I felt ashamed.
The curriculum of the year !  The English course was very heavy. I had not prepared and the teacher asked several questions during class. The students were not ready to answer the questions and the teacher was frustated.
The acts of brutal violence in generally disgusts me. Fights, phisical aggrssion, etc.
I feel shame mixed with anger with the behavior of some incultivated people because my fiancT is a foreigner.
When my parents insisted that I take up a teaching career.
As a young girl in form I, I wet my bed one day at the boarding school and many girls came to see the person who had done it as I had to take my mattress out that day.
One night I did not come home without telling my parents and I did not want to speak about it afterwards. My mother cried. I had a bad conscience and felt guilty.
One of my friends kept criticizing me about everything I did. I thought she was kidding, but later I found out that she was serious.
In a course I thought that I deserved good marks but I only got ordinary marks with no justification as to why I was given these marks.
When my father was imprisoned for burning the house of his younger brother.
I was very angry when my friend lost my practical's journal, which I needed to study for the exams.
In college, I started a discussion with the teacher referring to a question I posed. I felt very unsure and I was afraid to fail.
I was diving below the ice, in a cave, at a depth of 26 metres. Visibility was almost zero and the oxygen level decreased threateningly. There were three of us divers on one safety rope.
When the grandmother of my friend died in a hospital. My friend was crying and I was sad, too.
Getting my accentance letter from CAL.
I was disgusted with my girlfriend's behaviour. She was going out with other boys who were also my friends.
When my B.A results had not come.
This happened when I could not get into the school I had initially wanted, and ended up doing something I had never thought I would do.
When I broke a tea saucer. I felt ashamed. This was during the birthday of my girlfriend.
Ignoring my parents'wishes.
When I did not do well in the PG310 test I, I got only 4 marks above the pass marks despite my effort. I felt bad because quite a number of friends did better.
Adultery with a friend's girlfriend.
The mother of a friend of mine passed by me and saw me sitting on a boy's lap. I tried to greet her but could not help blushing.
I felt very guilty when I tried to teach swimming to my younger brother, as I myself could not swim very well and my brother had started sinking to the bottom, however my elder brother saved him.
When I was in grade one, one day I felt like going to the toilet during class but I was very scared of the teacher so I urinated in the class.
Being bored in school, not being able to marry and have children.
Reading a nice book and talking about it to my friend.
Because of a conflict with my parents there was a possibility to interrupt my studies.
When I answered to my mother with rudeness.
After an exam which I failed.
I had a very close friend who went to Canada after her F.B, his departure was unavoidable. When he came back during the Summer holidays I was very happy as nothing had changed between us.
When I was giving private tutorials to my student; he would not concentrate and was lazy. He had not done the home work that I had assigned and his academic level was very low. It was a nuisance.
They wanted something to happen but I didn't.
A whole crowd of us went to a folklore festival. The instructor of the cast where my boyfriend played was traveling with us. We decided to catch the train that leaved early in the morning because we had business on the following day. The instructor tried to get the upper hand and made us catch the train in spite of everything, all the time he made me angry.
In my opinion guilt is a feeling which goes together with shame. Here then I refer to the situation of guilt.
When I had to act alone a character for a public (40 people).
When I was doing my homework at home, some relatives came and advised me to help my mother do the house-work.
My child, unexpectedly started acting in a restless and disturbing way at school. In addition his performance at school weakened.
I went to the prayer meeting at night and unfortunately the car broke down, so my other sister said I had to walk alone from Ndirande to Chirimba at around midnight. So we reached home at 1 am. I was afraid of robbers and dardness.
While paddling in the river during a storm. I feared drowning.
I was embarassed at the exam in microbiology. I was ashamed with myself - how little I knew and how good was the examinor. I rarely become ashamed.
In the morning just before going to the dentist.
Hearing about developments of sience in the West a lot better than China.
After a terrible quarrel with my family, I withdrew in my room. I felt guilty because I had caused this scene by my aggressive behavior.
I felt disgusted at the environment while getting back to my student lodging. I did not see anything in the suburb which had been planned by taking people's comfort into account.
Someone spread rumours about me.
I was disgusted when my brother was arrested because of stealing money.
I didn't do very well on a midterm and I'm disgusted with myself because I was prepared and thought I did well.
South Korea winning more gold medals in the Asian Olympic (more than China).
When a person the same age as me insisted that I call him "Mister". I refused to succumb, but he persisted and I got angry as he had belittled me.
I was admitted to the University and a niece was born to me.
When some friends of mine asked me to go camping with them for a fortnight.
When a car is overtaking another and I am forced to drive off the road.
My aunt phoned me to ask me why I had refused the her invitation to dinner at her home on the New Year's Eve.
I lied, to be precise I cancelled a meeting with a good friend.
During a football game I made an offence towards an acquaintance. Later on this acquaintance also tackeled me and the game became very rude.
When I finished a test type of exam and did not dare to answer any question, I doubted whether I would pass the exam or not.
When, to my surprise, I got to know about having got "very good" high school graduation marks.
We were in a disco and the evening was not at all pleasant. Despite my not knowing why, I was angry with my companion. I let him feel my bad humour as I cannot hide my feelings.
When I obtained good marks in a subject I had failed before.
When my grandmother came to stay with us permanently as she is a very difficult person to stay with and when she started telling false stories about us to other people.
When I was a kid I stole toys from other kids.
I work at a petrol station. When there is a foreigner who wants petrol my collegues treat him very impolite.
I was in the cafeteria at the university and a class-mate told me that a friend of hers had had all her teeth taken out because of an infection caused by her eating a rat's nail in her hamburger.
When I argue with my mother about the way she treats her two children differently.
When I am discussing something with a person and I realize that the other person is thinking over her own argumentations instead of listening, I become angry.
When my son returned from mountaineering - healthy in body and soul.
Whenever my father smokes the smell makes me feel very uncomfortable. He never listens to my complaints and I curse him furiously in my mind. I cannot solve this problem by violence because of traditional moral values.
At the end of my senior yr. in high school I found out that a friend of mine I knew had cancer had been diagnosed as terminally ill.
With a woman who had walked into my place of employment and urinated on the floor in front of everyone.
Not chosen for all English classes.
I was present when they found a shop-keeper dead in his shop. He had been shot with a shotgun at close range.
Because I had not studied.
When I received a letter of acceptance to CAL.
The weekend after I argued with my parents I went home again and they couldn't have been nicer. As soon as I walked in, Mum kissed me, then Dad, and thanked me for the birthday presents I'd left for him, including a very sentimental birthday card.
Late one night I was pursued by gipsies who had no good intentions.
When as a 7 year old, I stole money from my mother.
Being alone at night.
Reading a horror story alone.
One day mother slaughtered a chicken for a brother who had come back for holiday. In everybody's absence I opened the foodstore and ate all internal organs of the chicken. When mother discovered, we were all called and I was found with hands stained with soup. I was ashamed being the eldest of all in the family.
I got a fairly large amount of my taxes back.
On a trip to Santander a child sitting beside me fell ill and started to vomit, seeing this made me feel very bad.
When I got home from a pleasant trip abroad, I got to know that I had been accepted at university.
You ignored the fact that we could not hear you at the back.
When my brother came back home after staying in hospital. He had undergone an operation which had been a matter of life or death. When he came home I could see him smile for the first time after may weeks.
When I betrayed my lover, she told me something in confidence, I felt at the time I had to relay the information back to the person concerned, as I felt the situation volitile, did this without telling my lover, she felt like piggy in the middle, as she was not directly concerned. Maybe you could call it gossip I felt different after I had slept on it. If I had waited, thought, NOW I would not have done it.
I saw in a movie a block on which affluence and poverty existed. I saw that the rich made no attempts to help the poor.
When I discovered that the girl I was courting was a relative of mine.
Having been unjustly punished, I feel disgust towards the person responsible.
I bet that I would jump down from a window. I was sure that I would jump but before I did it I rather felt fear.
When I was admitted to the Chinese universiity.
Watching suffering in Third World country.
When I had sufficient amount of money, I brought more clothes for myself than for the children - I felt bad about it.
Whenever I read or think about the way people treat animals and nature.
When a very close friend of mine went into hospital for a major operation and I couldn't see her for a while as I was not a relative she had no relatives in N.Z.
I worked in a harbour and emptied latrine containers from the back of the lorries.
When I was making music together with my friend. It sounded very good and we were very satisfied.
When I could not hold my bladder while making a telephone call and ended up wetting myself.
I was really shameful when my mother beat me in the presence of my friends because I didn't cook lunch up until 2 o'clock.
A friend's brother died.
When I scored the third goal to my own side at a football match against William Murray Secondary School and we were badly defeated.
An argument that grew out of an ordinary conversation with a person very close to me, when we should have been having a good time together.
When a drunkard barged into a room where my friend and I had run in order to get away from him. We were all alone and all I could see was this hand coming towards me.
When a friend of me came for an unexpected visit.
One night I saw a man being knocked down by two other men. The victim was kicked against his head.
Not being able to help my friend.
When my father was involved in an accident.
It happens sometimes in connection with certain persons with whom I have frequent relationships but nothing special.
I felt the emotion when I fought somebody who was drunk and tried to disturb us while we were having meals.
When a few girls were talking rubbish about me.
When an unpleasant person tried to make friends with me. A subtle, small, insignificant, grey being whose helplessness and neutrality evoked the feeling of disgust in me.
I had just masterbated with another boy.
I was afraid when I met my Uncle because this time I was with my boyfriend I thought I was not going to be given pocket money.
I was not sure whether I should help an old woman going down a flight of stairs. I just watched her and saw how difficult it was for her to do it.
Told by some people the class leader only choose his friends (not true).
A student who lives in the same house where I live is an alcoholic. He tries to manipulate other people with his money when he has drunk too much.
When I heard that my father had found a letter from my boyfriend and he was calling me to talk about it.
When I saw a few people beating a man who seemed to be a stranger.
One day I was busy day dreaming along the road and suddenly I heard the sound of jamming car braked behind me. I woke up from my dreams and it was about to crash me.
Observing someone in the cafeteria noisily gulping in his food, having extremely bad manners.
One Saturday morning I had got ready to go out swimming with my friends. Unfortunately the weather did not permit it, so we stayed indoors.
China cannot give your lectures bigger place and sound system.
I feel disgust with my first boyfriend who made fun of our love in an abominable way.
At times I have been attracted to conducts which are socially degraded due to their ill consequences, and then I feel guilty.
A gang of screaming and drunk youths "captured" a tram.
A ex-boyfriend tried to prejudice me before my fiancT and his family saying things about me that let his family worried. We had to postpone our wedding and we were already using our wedding rings. To be honest I didn't feel just anger, I felt hate.
My guinea-pig had been ill for a couple of days. One evening, when I came home I enquired as to how it was doing. My mother's expression told me that it had died. My knees refused to support me and I began to weep convulsively.
When the teacher asked me to read my composition that was the homework I stood up and invented one because I hadn't done it. A colleague saw that in my copy book there was nothing written and he accused me and so I was called in the director's room.
Getting a low grade on my physics midterm.
There was a time when my room looked terribly untidy; just at that time my aunt came to see me; fortunately I could prevent her from entering the room.
When a friend of mine discussed with me, I felt fear of losing her. This occurred because we had a missunderstanding between mutual colleagues.
When I was 4, we spent our holidays at the seaside. My sister and her friend wanted to go to a bay on an undangerous way. I wanted to arrive before them and went on a shorter, but more dangerous way. When I arrived, I found nobody there. I waited for a long time, but nobody came. On my way back I met my mother who had been searching for me desperatly. She did not scold me, but I saw how much she had worried (herself).
I had lied to a person because I had thought that I could not tell him the truth. When he found out he was not angry but understanding. We talked the whole thing over.
Seeing relations from overseas after a few years.
I insulted two of my friends because I thought that had been gossiping about me right under my nose, however I later found out that they were not doing so.
Returning home in the late afternoon I saw an indecent act made by a man with the purpose that I saw it.
A quarrel was followed by the decision of leaving a person close to me. Several days later my regret was great. I was beside myself. Quite unexpectedly he came and the conflict was calmly solved. I was glad at the possibility to be with him.
When my husband and I spent a night by ourselves in a house which was in an area on the outskirts of a large town with which we were not familiar. We heard strange noises outside the house and the house had glass walls so the whole thing was even more frightening.
When my uncle found me having sexual intercourse with a distant relative of mine in the sitting room, on the couch. I failed to stop and get up, I carried on.
It was my turn to cook dinner. I forgot a dish (the favourite of the family) in the oven and it got burnt and was uneatable.
During military service a superior reproached me unjustly. This led to friction in a lot of situations.
Can't remember any episode of disgust.
I told a friend that I was going to a party and he would not enjoy himself if he came along. He understood that he would not have fitted in and there was something in that.
When I damaged my wristwatch which I liked very much.
As I was taking venous blood from another patient I introduced air into the place of puncturing and there was a swelling which is dangerous to the patient hence I became afraid.
I angered a close friend and he was injured.
Having a fight with a class mate.
I have a fobic anxiety for elevators. This anxiety is worst at the moment when the doors have to open. I have it often in the elevator at our university.
People having a football match outside the window during the lecture.
When I attended school, our class visited an institution for mentally and physically handicapped persons. Although I tried to control my feelings, I was disgusted.
One day my elder brother badly scolded my father. This was the first time that I heard such abusive language from my brother. I requested him humbly not to use this kind of language but he did not care for what I was saying. Finally I picked up an axe to use against him, in the meanwhile people intervened.
I had quarelled with a friend of mine and I later realized that it was also my fault.
When talking with my sister, she often ventilates prejudices, which my father also adheres.
The disqualification of two of my mates in the military service.
A boy phoned me at night and wanted to talk to me for 30 minutes outside. I thought that he would reveal what he felt and would question me on our relationship. I treated him as a friend and did not want any misunderstandings. Therefore I refused to meet him and told him that I would see him the coming day. I was very unhappy as I feared having hurt him and got him into trouble.
Someone knocked on the door when I was alone at home (though there was a door bell). I looked through the peep hole but it had been covered. I called my sister but she could not help me as she was hundreds of kilometres away.
Just arrived in the university, not knowing anybody.
When I saw that I had passed an exam. It was the last chance and there was a lot at stake.
The loss of my father as he died of a massive and sudden heart attack.
I was annoyed when a person higher up asked me why a particular job was not done, it was not my job to do it.
The girl with whom I was going around had been forbidden to be alone with me in the house. We paid no attention to this prohibition but one day her parents appeared and I jumped out of the window. They saw me.
When I worked as an "au-pair-girl" in London, I received a call from a good friend who told me that she was in London too and wanted to see me. I was very glad - after that call and especially when I saw her.
Being catched when stealing.
When I won a tennis match.
When my sister left to go home, in Sweden, after the Christmas Holidays.
When I failed the ninth standard exam in school.
My brother came to tell me about some problems we had in the family. I felt sad because I thought that if my mother had not gone away when this brother was younger, things would have been different.
My father had bought too many goods for his shop, there was not enough space to store them.
When I finished my exams after 12th Grade, I was worried about getting a T.E. Score high enough for Physiotherapy. When I found that I had been accepted I was ecstatic, or more appropriately, could jump for joy.
Cannot remember such a situation.
To see damaged lettuce (with worms) in the icebox.
A person with whom I had been on bad terms, gave me a present. We became reconciled.
I saw a skid-row (chronical) alcoholic and I was ashamed of the people with a high standard of living.
The day I finished my military service.
Saw a real party leader.
Two boys whom I know were telling me, in an indecent manner, how they had teased a young and shy girl I know. They had despised her conviction, scorned and touched her. I got very angry and did not try to conceal it and gave it back to them.
Sleeping through crew practice one Monday morning.
I was inside the car with my husband and we were assaulted with a gun at 10 o'clock in the evening.
A) A documentary in which baby fur seals were being clubbed/spiked to death by Canadian seal-hunters. Brutally graphic.
B) Description of a disfigured orphaned child in Hiroshima calling for her mother.
When my cat vomited and a worm came out which was still alive. I was forced to wipe it up.
During the last academic year i.e 1983/1984 just before the closure, we were surrounded and threatened by the paramilitary forces.
As I was not paying attention, my little brother fell off the table.
On meeting an old friend of mine.
At a moment of affect I offended a person very close to me. He had given me ground for that but it was a trifling in comparison with the way I insulted him. A moment later I felt a sense of guilt.
Our only elder sister got married and started having pains in her abdomen and she was told that she could not have children. To our suprise she had a baby 2 months back.
I was very glad when I learned I was a student already. I heard about it over the phone, I didn't believe it at first.
Yesterday when I received a B on a history midterm. I felt overjoyed after having received C's previously.
At the hypocrisy of some of my friends.
I lost my temper at my mother while she was teaching me. I felt ashamed and sorry at having hurt my loving mother.
In a dark street at 4 o'clock in the night and there was complete silence.
Being insulted in public.
When I was deputy manager during the Summer, certain deputies took liberties, more than what was normal.
When I decided to separate from my husband.
During a discussion I said something rather stupid and unnecessary.
My P.T. instructor also works as a masseur. He wanted to massage me, therefore I had to undress. For the first few times this was not easy for me; I got gradually used to it.
When a professor of this faculty laughed at, and was suspicious of a composition written by a class-mate and me.
When my grandmother after staying with us for awhile went back home.
I was with a friend in a stationed car when, suddenly a man appeared on my side and an other with a gun on his side the hold-up lasted a few minutes but it was terrible. I had never seen a gun so close.
I saw a drunk man tottering behind his wife and insulting her awfully.
I felt sad when my dear friend was needed from training school due to his failure in a number of subjects and simply didn't know what he had to do.
I feel fear when I only imagine I could lose confidence in my own abilities and powers. A similar feeling I feel sometimes before an exam.
Several years ago my mother died. She had been ill for a long time, but nevertheless her death came unexpectedly. I did not and I still do not want to believe that it is true.
When one is alone and knows that all the others are celebrating.
I was supposed to fetch some friends at the bus stop, but I did not do it because my father was in a bad mood and I was afraid that he would grumble.
When I saw an insect going up my arm.
I stopped my car in front of a pedestrian crossing as a child was crossing the street. The car driving in the next lane did not stop and the child got hurt. Had I not stopped ...
I was insulted without a reason by a drunk man.
When we got a young dog.
The time when someone let the air out of the tyres of my cycle.
The day my fiancee told me that it was bad that I could not write my mother tongue.
While watching an entertainment program in which there was a clever and amusing sketch.
One night I had a very good conversation with two friends. I then realized how worthy they were for me and how happy I was to have them as friends.
When I read racist slogans on the walls.
When I was working in Delhi, I had gone alone to see the hostel where I would be residing.
I came across a group of people with the same basic ideas/beliefs who were all fighting and going against what they would say was good.
When a girl left me.
During the short period of my unemployment about six years back.
Hearing a strange noise in the biology building.
At one occasion I was ashamed of being refused after a proposal for a friendship with a certain girl. I was ashamed because she refused publically in the presence of my fellow friends.
Meddlesomeness of my mother about the way I live. She thinks I am to free in my behavior for instance when a boyfriend stays the night.
Heard some ghost-like noise at night.
A friend asked for help and I was not able to help.
The day I was happiest was the day when I received a phone call from Eve's Weekly to inform me that I had won the first prize of the All India Essay competition. I had won this prize when I was an under-graduate when even post graduates had participated. I had been judged by eminent judges and political scientists.
I was caught sneaking sweets.
I borrowed a friend's books and forgot I had them, she asked for them back and I told her I didn't have them. I duly found and returned them.
The time I shouted at most of my friends at a party. It was as if all my friends had done something wrong, or may be it was the influence of the beer.
A friend of mine travelled very far. I miss her but feel joy too because fer life is taking the right direction as she wants. So I feel joy for her mainly.
When there was a possibility of getting on better in professional life. I valorized very much this aspect. People showed me this possibility, not the real fact (even because until now ...)
When I robbed a loop in supermarket.
When I was going home alone one night in Paris and a man came up behind me and asked me if I was not afraid to be out alone so late at night.
When I was a child I had a grass-parakeet I liked very much. His legs were crippled so that he could not move very fast. Once I came into the room, did not notice him and stepped on him. A few days later he died.
The day I went to eat dinner in the dinning hall and found a dead fly in my gravy.
When I am alone in a room with no contact with anyone - loneliness drains me.
When my husband told me about his pre-marital affairs.
A friend of mine has not very much money. Therefore, once I stayed with him and his girlfriend, I bought some meat, but nobody wanted to go and prepare it for dinner. My friend said "I thought you wanted to invite us for dinner". "Of course", I said, but I thought by myself that it must have been enough that I had bought it.
When they tried to rob me.
When I passed my B.A exams.
When I knew the feelings of a beloved person.
Discovering a good friend had lied to me, resulting in a detrimental relationship with another person.
I was travelling back home by boat with two friends of mine after a lovely holiday trip. The night and the sea were dark, and the wind was blowing. I feared that death was there on the boat, I somehow felt sure about it. I feared being left alone.
I was 4-5 years old when I hid the bicycle keys of a not very good friend. After a few hours I pretended that I had found it.
When somebody despised a friend of mine.
I took an exam which I failed terribly as I had not studied.
I felt a great joy when I knew that my father was going to sell the apartment from GUARUSA, because in some way we were helded by it, that means that we didn't go to any other place, because we had the apartment.
When I heard the news of my grandfather's sudden death.
When I found that my coldness had hurt somebody's sincerity.
When I saw my father coming out of the bathroom. He thought that he was alone at home and came out without his clothes.
I had studied for almost one week for my physics-examination. With difficulty I passed the examn. I was angry about the teacher and also about myself because I had not remembered enough during the examn and because the time that I spent studying was wasted.
When my parents did not let me go on a study tour.
When I come home in the evening, the first thing I do is to sit down and smoke a cigarette. One day I found the flat in a totally desolate state. My girl-friend had wanted to tidy up but had not finished.
One dark night with no street lights, a car was obviously following me.
We were camping in the mountains, and a friend and I went for a walk. It was getting darker and darker and we were not sure of the right way back.
Nearby the end of the year my wife and I were having a car ride, when it appears another vehicle, driven by a drunk driver and provokes an accident.
When I saw a man who hadn't the lower .... in a car exhibition. He was passing a handkerchief from inside to outside of his mouth.
I was supposed to meet my girlfriend at a pre-arranged place but it took me an hour to find her.
When I saw someone eating live worms.
Fear from the unknown. I felt fear when I sat for the entrance examinations.
I met three drunk boys, almost children, they didn't look like normal people.
I was ashamed one day when we were found stealing and roasting maize cobs from Agricultural experimental projects.
My parents failed to visit me as they promised.
I went shopping with my parents - my father payed everything for me, I was very glad.
I phoned two friends and was not able to arrange a meeting with either of them, so I had to change my plans.
When students in our working group showed no responsibility or interest in our work.
I am a "cantor" - I sing psalms in church. Several weeks ago I had to sing too, but the organist did not tell me in time. As I did not know the psalm, I was afraid and said that I could not sing.
Seeing a pornographic movie in which animals were used.
When people are eating unsavoury (smacking, belching, speaking with food in their mouth, etc.).
When I was 17, I told Mum I came in at midnight, when really it was 3.30.
After having left the company of someone who gave me a lot of support and made me laugh, found myself alone for days on end.
When diving deep into the sea to reach the floor I felt breathless. I was cautious but I doubted I should be able to come to the surface and inhale.
I caught a huge eel on a fishing line which I had pulled into the boat. I cut the line and threw the whole lot back into the water. Later that day and about ten miles away I went swimming and someone made the comment wondering how far eels could swim, I abruptly ended swimming for fear at an unseen eel for a few days until we had left the district.
When I was misleaded by a person who assured that something would not occur, that I had no reason to prepccupy myself, and suddenly I saw myself implicated by the fact, because of the incompetence, and irresponsibility of that person.
I had a quarrel with my parents; I was convinced to be right.
I was learning judo and my instructor wanted me to assist him in teaching girls judo at a suburban college. I was just a beginer, and he made me a green belt so that I would be able to command respect. This was against my principles, and yet I allowed myself to listen to him. I gave it up soon after, however I felt very ashamed at not sticking to my principles and at not having put my foot down earlier.
My boy-friend had promised me to come an 10 a.m. - he was 3 hours late.
After sitting for the Standard 8 Exams for the second time in 1979, I had great joy when I heard that I was successful in the Examination when the results were out.
One day I went to town to get my grocery. On my way back, I took a mini bus which was full of drunk students. I felt very disgusted.
When I was a little girl about eight years old I broke the bey from a closed. Mother asked who did it. I said that it wasn't me, as I almost never lied, and my brother did it more frequently in spite my brother denieing it my mother gave him a few slaps.
I went to visit Montrose home for crippled children to interview a handicapped child. I interviewed two boys and it went really well. I promised I would visit them, but never got the time. Now I hope they've forgotten me, but I feel ashamed of letting them down.
The first time I left home.
In a bus I fell sick and vomitted in a bag. The entire situation was disgusting in itself.
Hear people talking at my back.
When I was young I had gone to an old lift and played with the antique lift. The guy discovered me and warned me, I was very frightened.
Before an accident, my aunt offered me the front seat of the car, next to the driver. I declined, she took that seat and was killed there when the car crashed.
When I was studying and someone disturbed me.
I had to undergo an operation in Summer and so my family had to stay at home during the holidays. I felt guilty, above all because of my brothers.
Sort of awkward. I'd introduced (a lover) but introduced as a friend to some members of my family, and my niece Yavanna who's six was home from school and at Mum's and Dad's and was really silly and at first it was ok, but it went on and on - yukky pooh! You eat your snot, etc. and I felt cross she wouldn't stop. But she had an audience and was in one of those moods. Once I'd accepted it was something everyone does at time I felt better - it was partly having my friend there.
When I met my mother after not having seen her for three years.
I typed up a letter for this physician at work. She didn't care for my style, even though she was not using correct English. I told her it was her letter and we would do it her way.
I was walking home from a place on southside and I live on Northside and I was followed. I headed my most direct route.
The behaviour of a colleague of mine, which doesn't correspond to my norms of behaviour.
China cannot let you give more lectures because you are needed in the specialist clinics. We are so backward in medicine.
When I first came to the UNZA I did not know the kind of people I would find here and the kind of behaviour they would have towards me.
I had gone home for a week-end and when I came back I found that my clothes and my bedding had been stolen.
I had called a boy who had dated me, and told him that I was ill, while, actually, I didn't want to go out with him, later on, he asked me if I was feeling better, then I felt ashamed.
When I realized that I belonged to a country which is amongst the poorest in the world and that inspite of having the resources we do not utilize them. I was ashamed at myself and my country, shame at the lack of parity between the lifestyles of the citizens.
When I heard a lion roar for the first time.
My mother, my sister and I were sitting in the sitting room and watching a film on TV. My father came home drunk and told us to turn off. When we did not do that he switched off the fuse and started shouting. We were sitting in the dark and I was afraid that he would do us a harm.
We were driving on a very dusty road at night and the driver tried to overtake a very big truck only to find another big truck parked right in front.
When people manipulate others through appearing better than what they really are.
A workmate and I had been antagonistic with each other for some weeks - he had reacted violently to my criticisms of his work standards.
I was looking after my father's sheen in the forest. One day while playing with friends from neighbouring villages the flock escaped me and went into a far place. It became dark and I was afraid of father. I went home and hid myself.
When I saw hundreds of snakes twisting over one another in a movie.
Death of General Ye Jianying.
This happened when I was selected to go to Secondary school to start Form I in October 1980.
When the doctor told me that there was something wrong with my eye and I had to undergo an operation.
Waiting for a bus not coming for a long time, and the bus drivers were having a long lunch.
I had climbed on a cherry tree alone and there was a thick caterpillar beside my fingers. I feel disgusted by caterpillars and snakes. I was terribly afraid of the caterpillar crawling on my fingers. Out of the fear I was almost unable to climb down.
I had asked the Salvation Army to take away a piece of furniture of mine, but I forgot to cancel the agreement (a friend of mine took it) and I thereby caused the Salvation Army people some unnecessary work.
I was very ashamed when I failed a test in Standard 7. The teacher told the other students to shout and laugh at me.
When I passed the grade 7 exam.
Some days ago I had a car accident. It was quite slight but through my fault. I felt strong shame because I had the spirits of a good driver.
I remember when I was a child of a storm that made me terribly afraid. I thought that the house was coming down and that in the next day I would be dead. Everybody was awake and I stayed all night in bed without falling asleep.
When I won some coins in a small competion.
A woman I know is slowly dying from cancer. Observing this process makes me sad.
A time when, as part of my work, I was sent out actually sort of volunteered to run an errand for someone who had no authority to send me out and the address was very far especially on foot and turned out to be incorrect too. The whole trip was a waste.
Tripped on a busy street.
When I was very young, one day, I kicked my grandmother and caused her an injury which took a long time to heal.
One rainy day when the streets were wet, and as I was walking down a slope, I fell down out of my carelessness. There were many people and they saw me, so I felt ashamesd. Moreover I hurt my ankle and it was painful.
After the first of May, I detested my fiance's friends, who had piled on to our party and spoilt it completely.
When my mum learnt that I had beaten up someone in a fight.
A friend of mine was telling jokes which I felt to be very disgusting, especially because I was eating.
I feel it when I see that somebody is traying to made a stupid of me.
The second time I went to the entrance exam to V.S.P. and didn't get approved.
When I missed the tram after having run for it.
An uncle of mine who just retired, having worked hard all his life, got a cerebral hemorrhage.
My grandmother died.
When I was a child I often quarrelled with my younger sister. Once I became so angry that I slapped her in the face. She cried and shouted so that my mother came in and scolded me.
When a woman who I respected very much was made pregnant, unexpectedly by a man of a caliber I never expected.
A new gas connection was to be installed and the mechanic who came to do it was very rude to my mother and me. I rushed to thhe dealer with my mother and had a fight with the dealer as he seemed to be unreasonable and was taking the mechanic's side. Ultimately the matter was resolved after my father went and spoke to him. The mechanic was asked to apologize.
When I first came to the campus.
When you are satisfied with something, when you achieve something you have striven to.
When I won an unexpected sum of money.
A striking act of ingratitude at a public vehicle.
I heard somebody talk about studies in a highly enthusiastic "student-like" way.
When I "passed out" a female friend of mine for no apparent reason. I was under the influence of drugs and when I am like that I get mad at anyone, however small the provocation.
The day I got a letter from the U.G.C informing me that I had been awarded the junior research fellowship.
After an event in which I felt that I had acted unfairly.
Being sexually assulted in public.
I felt fear when I was young and left in my big house all alone.
I was disgusted at the way the bus conductor threw out an old woman oiut of the mini-bus simply because she could not pay the fare for her luggage.
I lent a text-book to a person I did not know very well, they lost the text-book and gave me no compensation.
The landlord had selected a new lodger on her own, while we used to do that it was not what she had done, but how she did it that made me angry.
I met a girlfriend again after not seeing her for several months. I saw her in a discotheque. We do not like discotheques but we went there because we knew we would meet there.
Caught cheating on a diet.
A fellow student who seemed very nice later on proved to be a slimy fellow towards a professor.
When I patronized a certain tavern which had prostitutes, it was almost a brothel.
I was terribly upset when my kitten got hit by a car. He didn't die, but for several weeks we thought he might have to be put down.
I was driving on to a busy freeway during rush hour and it was slightly raining. A diesel truck was coming very close behind me and I was close behind a pick-up. I changed lanes and barely hit the truck and ran a Honda of the road. I was scared to death to go back and see if I caused him to crash.
I slapped my sister's daughter and after several hours, she had a high temperature and she ended up being admitted in hospital.
When I saw my brother in Church, and publically accept Jesus Christ as his saviour and Lord.
When I was treated improperly by someone.
In a fight with my girlfriend in a luncheonette where everybody stared at me in such a way that I had to leave it.
I was spending the week-end with some friends. We were waiting for another friend and we went to the meet him at the bus stop, a woman we met there told us that the coach had already left. I was afraid that I would not see my friend, but at last we found him.
When I pass an examination which I did not think I did well.
I felt disgust toward meat when I felt sick with the steak after a week only on meat.
I was working as a secretary. My boss was to go to give a lecture, and wanted me to give him the exact address of the place.
I felt guilty after stealing a cookery book from my colleagues.
Eating biscuits and drinking Milo (Chocolate energy drink made with milk and usually drunk warm) with my friend at College. We get on really well, don't withold any feelings about each other's friends and are pretty good at cheering each other up when we are homesick.
When I was walking on the street, I slipped on the dung of a dog. I did not fall down, but I felt disgusted by the bad smell on my sole.
Finding out about people can go mad for social reasons.
I passed on some gossip that was untrue and cause two friends to have a fight who were already experiencing difficulties with each other.
Said something I should not have said in public.
When I attended my cousin's 31st birthday.
After receiving the grade on the paper mentioned in FEAR.
During the oral part of my final examination I made a mistake in speaking so that all the teachers laughed at me.
A friend's mother died.
During military service I heard the story of someone who tried to commit suicide and as a result of this got a week custody.
Together with a little brother I biked on a lonely road in the Polder. Then we were annoyed by a boy on a motorbike: he took over, stopped, took over, etc. Then we saw he had something in his hand, we turned until we came across a man, who accompanied us.
A younger brother of a good friend of mine died (asthma).
When my dad caught me with a honey (girlfriend) in my bedroom.
The sight of a man who ran amok (fighting) at a dance.
The same as in "shame".
I was told that I had passed the statistics exam. I had not expected this so I was very happy.
The day some friends of mine and I decided to go to Galicia on holiday.
When I saw that my bed at the hostel was a mess I guessed that someone else had used my daily necessities. I felt that my personal sanity had been affected.
When my parents fight lots of time, when I'm the reason of the fight, I feel guilty.
I was at home and I heard a loud sound of spitting outside the door. I thought that one of my family members would step on the spit and bring the germs in the house.
It made me very sad to hear that some construction company was going to build houses on the beautiful hills by my house.
A friend told me how he managed to win the sympathy of as many people as possible. He said he first listened to what they said and then he tried to only say things they would like to hear. He would never express his own opinion. I felt really disgusted when he told that.
When I was selected for the university.
When I pulled a chair from under someone at kindergarten and he hit his head.
My brother and I were driving to Brisbane when he drove back onto the road, perhaps cutting off another car but not noticeable - this driver did his best to drive us off the road for about 1/2 an hour.
One day my mother went to visit her friends. When she came back she scolded me for not having kept the house in order, so I decided not to talk to her.
I was dancing Malipenga (traditional dance). I exaggerated the steps I was supposed to make in the negative way. This happened in front of spectators. It was bad for our Boma (group) because I was on the front line where ability is displayed and it is this ability that counts when choosing the winning side.
My husband and I were invited at the house of our nieghbours then we got an invitation on the part of my parents which we had to refuse. A a result they called me by words that provoked my anger.
At a restaurant I observed how the gypsies tried to get money by cheating the foreigners i.e non Swedish speaking. My anger had nothing to do with hatred against foreigners, but it was an expression of the anger I feel when I see people being used .
When I failed my Primary school leaving Examinations. I never thought I would fail. When I heard I had failed I really felt ashamed of myself.
When my brother had to spend all evening repairing a gear-lever that I had broken.
When I noticed that I do many things to the pregiudice of myself.
I was at the corner shop, which I patronise regularly I had only a $ 50 note and I purchased about $ 3 worth of goods that I really needed - the keeper made sarcastic remarks to others about people using him to cash notes.
Getting the top price in the football pools.
And she said absurd things, false things that filled my ears and inflated my head which seemed to be caught in a carcass where the heart wanted to explode and where the arm wanted to knock down the world.
When I started a relation with a girl, with whom I have fallen in love already some time ago.
I was afraid that I would fail an examination.
When I deliberately engineered a situation to cause tension between friends so as to bolster the impression one of them had of me !
I invited two friends. We should go out together. Those two girls kept talking about boys, chatting up etc. I bacame sick of it.
When someone I trusted very much, disappointed me.
When I was young I felt guilty because I thought that I had commited a grave sin.
A colleague and I were sitting on a bench next to an old man in a shopping centre. the old man coughed and spluttered somewhat, then with his fingers removed the resultant phlegm and mucous from his mouth, and transferred it onto the armrest of the bench.
During a holiday in East-Germany I got aquainted with a boy who lived there. We started writing, but I only wrote once. I felt ashamed because I probably was one of his sparse contacts with western Europe.
My mother left my father for his best friend, and he moved to Papua New Guinea. Despite the fact that I am closer to my father than to anyone else in my family, I had to move in with my mother, and say good-bye to my father, not knowing when I would see him again.
As a child - having a dog - it getting a disease and dying.
A customer at the shop where I worked came in and asked if the goods that he had ordered had arrived. I had totally forgotten about this order and I tried to offer weak excuses.
I lost my self-control and raised my voice at a child.
Joy at meeting a woman I love very much.
I had an accident in which I hurt my eye. I was afraid of having injured it badly.
When I went home alone early in the morning, I had to go through a wood.
The last time I had to phone the Registry, after having called them so many times in the last few days.
I had a very heavy work load and two colleagues, whom I have nothing against, disturbed me by "terror ringing", i.e continously interrupting me by telephoning.
My mother had just been teaching me how to crochet, which is thought highly improper for a boy in a town. Just when we finished, a neighbour walked in.
I felt shame when I found that I was almost last in the exam.
When I met my boyfriend with another girl.
When I demand too much from my friends.
When I got my first unknown compound while doing my M.Sc research, I was very happy. This is because my research was based on this type of reactions and compounds.
When I was scolded by my dad for bad behaviour.
One day I shouted at my brother who didn't do any wrong to me only that I had a disappointment from a friend and projected it on to him. He cried and I felt guilty after sometime.
Not being able to be selected for the dancing team.
In a disco, there was a dirty little chap who punched my bottom.
One evening, in the tramway, I was afraid of two drunk men molesting my girlfriend and me.
Following an argument with my brother, he broke my golf clubs.
My partner left me after we had been together for a long time.
Some colleagues decided to go out on a Saturday not inviting me to decide either the place nor the time.
One of my best friends accused me of giving up to early on problems. It was only a casual remark on her side, but I was angry and hurt.
Felt joy a few years ago when I was away on holiday. And sat very close to my best friend looking straight into the eyes.
When I passed the driving test (on the second try).
When I travelled all the way to my former school to collect my certificate, only to be told that I owed them some money, I knew nothing about this.
I studied medicine for several semesters. I was always disgusted when we had the dissecting-course. I cannot understand why some persons like this course.
My old boyfriend - yes the same one - asked me out. We had a good time. Then he asked me out the following week. He actually took interest.
I had a test in the class and I had not adequately prepared myself. I didn't fare so well on the exam and I felt bad about it.
My bed sheet (present of my parents) damaged by roommate.
When I made a mistake at work and when questioned about it pretended I had nothing to do with the problem.
When last year in college I received the award "Best Student of the Year",  I felt very happy as I got what I had wanted and my wish had been fulfilled.á
When the parents of my girlfriend gave permission to spend our holiday together.
A terrible fight that I provoked with my friend.
Made a misjudgement in a football match.
My friend had many female friends and I thought that they were his lovers. I would scold him but he did not accept my advice. Later I learnt from his girlfriends that this was not true. I felt ashamed at having misunderstood him.
When I drove to Stockholm for the first time and drove off the Stora Hissingen road at the wrong exit.
The week before I entered to army, when we were being selected. During 5 days I had to pass 10 hours a day waiting for the answer, which at last was the worst. The fear of being convoked, of hearing the fated phrase, was constant.
I went on a picnic to the country side park. The beautiful scenary made me feel relaxed and every worry disappeared , thus the picnic was worthwhile.
I watched a football match with my old friend. The performance of the team was very good and the team members were full of spirit. The match was excellent and every time a goal was scored I felt excited.
When I was very young, one day, I was in the street with my father and brother.  While my father was talking to some friends, I saw a dog and began to pat it. My father told me sharply to stop doing it because the dog had mange. Then my brother told me that I would die and I could not stop crying after this.
I remember when I was a little boy I broke a Swiss dinner set quite involuntarily.
When I received my S.Y.J.C results which did not allow me to get  admission in engineering.
When we were able to afford a new sofa - a leather one which cost SEK 20000. I had waited for it for 2-3 years.
When I talked with a teacher yesterday who, to say the least, was rude and unwise and had irrelevant opinions about a friend.
I was driving my parents' car into a carpark in front of a shop we own, and scraped the corner of the front panel on the back corner of my father's utility. I didn't tell anyone, I lied about the bump (later I had to confess).
Failing university entrance examn.
I was admited to the Chinese university of Hong Kong. The day the results were announced I looked in the newspaper and saw my candidature number.
I phoned a friend of mine to ask her for news about the marks in an exam. She told me that I had passed.
When riding in a very fastly-driven car on a lose metal road at a very late hour - no other cars on road, and driver was taking corners very sharply. I felt afraid - because if an accident happened, the area was very isolated. Also, I feared for driver, after I was dropped off - would he make it home safely.
Finding out that China does not have enough foreign currency to buy books.
About my girlfriend's sister who is a viper as I discovered some time ago.
Staying alone in the room after midnight and reading horror stories.
A friend of mine, who had repeated a year at school once before, did not pass the final examination and had to take it again half a year later.
One camping night, I listened to the ghost stories told by my classmates.
Participating in a theft several years ago.
I am left-handed. When I attended the first form, we learned to write with pens. I smeared everything I had written. All my friends had written well and wanted to know why the teacher was looking at my note-book. I was ashamed.
When I wanted to talk to someone I liked and whom I have been told likes me (by his brother and even by himself) however he avoids any confrontation, and is vague.
I am afraid if I'll finish the term.
When going for my driver's licence for the third time, because everything, it seemed, hinged on getting it. I was really nervous, and the testing Officer made me a little afraid as well. There were lots of things to worry about. I passed however.
Saw in the TV South Korea cheating in the Asian Olympic games.
I received a letter from my grandmother. She has obviusly suffered a lot from my grandfather's suffering health. She mentioned things she had gotten him and he would never use.
A horse which I had liked very much was taken away.
Passing my pharmacy exams which meant my tertiary education for pharmacy completed.
Without the employer's knowledge and even without any communication their bank accounts were changed and their personal accounts closed.
I borrowed $ 20.00 from a friend and paid him back much later than I had originally intended.
When I entered the dissection room for the first time and was exposed to preserved dead human bodies.
The editor changed the heading of an article that I had written. He considered the heading to be derogatory towards the person I had written about.
An accident happened to my little cousin because I had not taken enough care of her. She fell on the floor and her hands were hurt.
Saw some young people fighting for seats on a bus.
I suffer from a disease of my muscles. Therefore, I am only able to attend lectures for half a day. So, sometimes I miss obligatory lectures. However, the teachers do not take into account my disease, and punish me with detention work, resulting in an overload.
Hearing Norman Jones get hysterical in Parliament about law reform (on the radio - listening with 2 others).
When I forgot about a meeting at work.
Could not find my way out in the college building at night.
When my girlfriend told me that she was no longer interested in me.
When my mother was angry with me over my friends and boyfriend.
Going to CAL not knowing anyone.
Doing this pointless questionnaire.
A few weeks back I received a Christmas card from a friend in England. She had not written to me in a very long time but it   showed that she still remembered me.
My living and working conditions at home were unbearable. We used to live in a three room flat together with two more families. The discords caused a change - one of the families moved out. The other family stayed with us but I drifted away from my fiancT. In fact we were two families in the flat. Then I found myself alone in the struggle for this life because my fiancT did not stay next to me my grief and sorrow took on large proportions. I wanted to commit suicide but instead I threw myself against the cause of the irritation.
As a ten-year-old I was at the funeral of my grand-father. It was more the ceremonies held in the church and not really the death of my grand-father which made me sad.
I feel shame every time I think of very dear friends of mine abroad who were family to me for a year, and now 2 years later, I have attempted, but have not actually gone through with corresponding with them, to express my feelings and gratitude.
When I wet my bed at boarding school.
When I was about 17 years old and I stole some pens from a stationery store because I didn't have enough money.
In our flat the bath-tub is in the kitchen. At the beginning I had very intensive feelings of shame when I had a bath and people were in the kitchen.
I was terrified during an axcursion in Italy. I was lost and left alone in this unfamiliar country.
Each time I am confronted with reports about repression and torture.
When I was 15 my mother discovered various items in my room which 15 year olds aren't usually expected to have - mainly alcohol, marijuana and contraceptives !
When my mother asked me to do a job for her which does not require much effort on my part, yet I refused for selfish reasons and saw her have to do it.
Always, and this happens often when I do not keep my word.
I felt very happy when I won the football pools.
Anger with boyfriend's best friend for alienating me and blaming me for personality changes in my boyfriend and changes in my boyfriend's attitude to him and his obvious egoistical attitude himself in doing so. I also lost one of my best friends - his girlfriend.
When I passed standard 8 exams I jumped, rolled over the ground.
I was swimming in the river and I lost the top of my bikini. I did not notice it and came out of water. There was a disagreeable classmate watching the scene.
When I think that I will probably never have a genuine contact with my parents.
When I talked maliciously about a colleague at work to someone else. Immediately afterwards I felt ashamed.
As a kid my mother caught me stealing sugar and giving it to a neighbour.
I was teaching someone to drive and when we were about to crash I was scared.
When I passed an exam.
My uncle died in the Vietnam War.
Climbing a mountain, I got stuck and realized I could get neither up nor down.
When I was subjected to a very nasty joke by a group of friends.
I saw a dead child which was not covered, it had been knocked down by a car.
I acted in an English play in college and got the Best Actress award, while our play got the first place.
Finding out that I am not ill (not seriously).
When I passed the first examination that I had to repeat.
Sometime back I was coming from the wards and lice were all over my uniform since patient's blankets have a lot of lice. It happened that my boyfriend picked some lice from my white uniform. I was so ashamed.
Someone I know and respect sexually assulted a girl.
I felt guilty after hearing that my girlfriend with whom I had spent most of my time was pregnant.
A person whom I had not seen for a long time called me and invited me for a party.
Some students whose English is worse than mine can go to your lectures (English lectures).
Immediately after the New Year holidays I happened to visit a party where there was a lot of alcohol and I became drunk. On the next day I felt sort of ashamed when I remembered what I had said and done on the night before.
When I was younger I was very good in apparatus gymnastics. I always won in competitions, but once I was only at the fourth place.
I got lost in a foreign town. I did not know the language of that country and it took me hours to meet my friends again.
A friend told me that he had suffered in love and in academics. I shared his sadness.
During my first week in Graz I met a girl who I had got to know in the train from Amsterdam to Graz. Although I had considered her very sympathetic, we had seperated without changing our adresses.
I felt guilt towards my mother when I went to live on rooms in Nijmegen where I study.
It was at Malawi Army, Dormer Squadron, when some of my workmates got promoted to Seargents (sgts); we were having similar Ranks.
When after a storm in the country, I left my shelter and saw a big, fat, slimy green toad by my side.
This is an incident that many of us witness in our everyday life in a city like Bombay. One day I was travelling by bus, three men dragged two fellows out of the bus. Once outside they were beaten into pulp. These two fellows, who got beaten, were pick-pockets and they were being beaten by all and sundry. I thought to myself -"what is life?". It is one hell of a place where everyone is after someone else. One waits to cut the throat of the other one just for a living, (money). When I think about such things - the purpose of life, etc, I feel very disgusted and dejected.
When I learned that two of my friends had had a serious car accident.
The hero was chased by a terrible vampire in a suspense and horror film shown on T.V.
When the result of the certificate exam was announced. I was surprised and happy as the result was better than I had expected.
I was annoyed this particular day as it seemad that the odds were not in my favour. My grandfather added fuel to the fire, when I had an important appointment so I unleashed my anger on him.
Recently, my sister-in-law's horse was poisoned by a plant and died. The horse was very obedient and exceptional with children.
Hurt someone's feelings unintentionally.
Angry when our team (small boys) lost the county championship football final.
This I experienced when going around with more than one girl.
Saw people quarreling in a bus.
Walking at friday night through Nijmegen, going to a pub or a disco.
A friend of mine told me that my boyfriend had been with another girl this Summer. We had been going out together for four years and we had not done so for the last three months. I could not believe it.
When my father failed to send me transport money after the closure of the school.
At a carneval-party I smooched with a man - some days later I was rather ashamed for that.
Saw on TV China winning the gold medals.
Getting a part-time job.
After my boyfriend and I had separated.
My girlfriend wrote to me telling me that she was four months pregnant and that I was responsible for the "damages". This made me happy as I longed to have a child to call mine.
When boyfriend lied to me.
I was very drunk at a certain wedding party and I got involved in a fight.
(1) My father died. (2) My natural father contacted me a year after my father died and this angered me more as I thought he should be dead and not my father.
One day I went to the cinema to see a film in which I was interested. On arriving there I saw a long queue (which I had not expected) and went back home without seeing the film.
When two female classmates and I were having lunch, we chatted and cracked jokes, I was very happy. However, I felt that I may have said something inappropriate which might cause them to have a bad impression of me.
I was watching a sunset after my latest boyfriend left me and I realized that we would never watch sunsets again, probaly never see eachother again and none of it mattered.
I had promised to do a task for someone that was close to me, and from the outset I knew it was important that I do it, but when it came to it, I let them down.
I was taking place in an anti nuclear protest and was shouting protest loudly to some American sailors of the U.S. Texas submarine. A guy came up to me and said that's your brother screaming at, I felt shame and I realized screaming at another person isn't good protesting. Now I'm a silent protester.
A film were a woman was attacked and raped. One did not see the worst but it had the desired effect - very strong.
When I was to sit for my first entrance exam. I had fear of a possible failure.
I ate 12 biscuits one night after tea while watching TV - I don't know why.
I wanted to be pregnant and did not succeed, so I was depressed  at every menstruation.
I wanted to get rid of a bad habit and it seemed that I had succeeded. However a year later I got the bad habit again. I felt useless as I always found excuses to explain my behaviour. As a result I felt guilty.
An argument among friends in which my opinions on the way to spend spare time were disapproved.
When I had achieved a goal indirectly. I work for CAL Football and our 2nd win of the season was very gratifying and brought our joy because of the hard work involved and the fact that no one expected we would win.
Last week I had planned to play tennis and had booked a tennis court.  However when I arrived at the university gym the clerk told me that the court was being used for lessons.
When my grandfather died. When I heard about his death, I had a bad feeling in my stomach and I felt as if I had lost something very precious.
Once I spent a night with a friend at the secondary school. We told each other horror stories and suddenly we heard uncanny noises. I was terribly frightened.
During a football match, the other team was rude and they hurt my team members and me. The coach was prejudiced against us and punished us unreasonably. Later we fought with each other and the match had to be cut short.
Being away from a very close friend, I was away from Finland for a year as an exchange student.
I read a book about the sexual phantasies of women; I read about a woman having sexual intercourse with a dog.
When my neighbour's life was threatened by someone who was trying to break into his house.
When I stole money from my mother and she asked me later if I was responsible. I never admitted it.
It was quite recently, at the football match between the national teams of Bulgaria and France. I felt strong anger with the Scottish referee who ran the match quite partially.
My boat running into another boat.
On December the 28th I was filled with Joy when I was told by my bosses that I had been selected to attend a course at the Lilongwe School for Health Scienced in Lilongwe.
When I could not remember what to say about a presentation task at an accounts meeting.
Political and military trnsgressions around the world, generally speaking. This cannot be described through this questionaire.
I was afraid when my first boyfriend threatened to make an end to our relationship because he didn't love me enough while I loved him very much.
I was afraid to walk through the forest one day when I dropped off the bus around 6.30 pm.
I said nasty things which I did not mean to a friend.
I felt fear some months ago of losing the person whom I loved when she said to me that she didn't love me.
When my children were born.
Lost my girl-friend.
A close friend decided to stop with his study and to go back home.
When I was watching a movie with many violent episodes. They accurately showed the cutting of corpses, etc...
When I was studying in the library a pair of lovers were sitting next to me talking in an intense and soft voice. They were disturbing others.
When I heard about the death of Frantois Truffaut, the French motion picture director, on the radio. I had planned to go and see his last film.
I saw a movie called "The Thing", the film directed by John Carpenter. The monster in the film made me feel disgusted.
I am ashamed of the horrible way I used to treat my little sister.
After seeing a terror movie at the cinema, I was so scared that I couldn't even drive the car into the garage. I often thought about the film afterwards, hoping such things couldn't exist in the "real world".
When I met my new girlfriend with another man in the street.
One night, I was alone at home. My fear was caused by some strange noises which put my imagination to work.
One of my best friends was found lying flat on the road because he was drunk and was taken by the police and put in a cell. I went to see him the following morning, the place was really a mess and was smelling badly. I didn't like it.
A close relative of mine underwent a difficult operation, and everything turned out fine.
A friend of mine could not make it back to Unza after having failed the exams.
When I was accused of having refused to do some hostel work while I was at school. Actually I had not been allocated any work.
Getting my kitten, found at work several years ago, taking him home in a box on my motorbike, showing it to my defacto.
When I got very drunk and really misbehaved at Christmas.
That afternoon I received two messages informing me, one that my brother was in a coma in the U.T.H suffering (kidney disease) and two, that my uncle met with an accident on his way to the hospital to see my brother.
Many years back I quarrelled with my younger brother for a small reason. I used a pole to beat him and nearly broke his arm. He recovered after a treatment which lasted several months. After this our relationship was worse and he would not listen to me.
Some students have been calling lecturers nicknames and I was not able to find out who they were to stop them.
A break-up with someone I really liked.
When I went to the library three weeks after it had opened and found that everyone was busy.
When I lose on my bets on anything - baseball, football, basketball, track, craps, poker, or arcade - whether its 5 dollars or 200 I feel that I should never have done it in the first place.
When my elder sister had a baby girl. She was the first girl in the family after 19 years of baby boys.
When I didn't bring my girlfriend home one night. Later she told me that a cardriver solicited her.
I came out of the house at 7:20 am Monday morning getting ready t go to school and fight for a parking when I saw my car had a flat tire.
I worked together with another student on a computer-assignment. She didn't do her best and didn't prepare herself for it. She expected me to explain it to her.
When I caused needless anxiety to a person close to me because of my lack of self-insight.
When I received the best actor award at the inter-college drama competition. It gave me tremendous joy and satisfaction which lasted for several days.
When I was a child, I heard the floor cracking and I thought there was a burglar in our house; I hid under the blanket and trembled.
I felt angry when I was told that I had not been selected to go to the University.
When I understood I was admitted to the Sofia University.
Some days ago I fell down at a public place, I came into notice but thank God I was not mocked at. Though it hurt badly, at the first moment I felt shame, not ache.
When I saw a dog which had been knocked down by a car.
When I heard the examination results and when I recovered after having been sick for a week.
Every time I see a spider or a snake.
A man treated his dog very badly - he insulted and beated him until the dog kept lying on the floor with his tail drawn in.
When I was told that I had no right to control my lover.
I felt ashamed when my parents found out that I had deceived them.
I loved a person and he went away. It wasn't necessary that he left me to reach his goals.
Seeing my sister after about 2 years of not seeing her. Only spent 1 hour or so before she was off overseas with her husband for 3 months.
When I was caught stealing mangoes in a certain compound.
The holidays come to an end, and the next day we had to go back to University and to the exams.
When I got lost in New York city a late friday night with a friend of mine.
When my brothers had passed all of their exams and were able to graduate from their courses.
When I heard my grandfather's wife had leukemia I was very sad.
On a sailing boat at night, under a full moon, listening to Pink Floyd, drinking good wine, with good company, the boat being steered by autopilot, and a full eclipse of the moon.
A tiresome person held me up all day long. I was very busy then (I can not remember what the problem was). He continously tried to make me talk to him and disturbed me.
I have once been very sad and lonely. This was when I was trying to organize a play as a student (15 years). Instead of materializing, it fizzled out. The worst thing was that the play fell apart completely and I found myself weeping uncontrollably. Now when I think of it, I laugh it off; but at that time it was intense.
I arranged with a friend to go skating the next day. He asked me to wake him up by telephone at twelve o'clock because we had come home late in the morning. Next day I called him - he was not at home. As something like that had happened to me several times before, I came to the conclusion that one cannot rely on anybody and I felt very sad.
When my ex-boyfriend and I separated.
I received a letter from some friends, who do not live in Madrid, telling me that they would not come on holiday. I had arranged everythiing for them.
The time I went to see one of my girlfriends at Area 18 I found that she was not there but in the room she was sleeping, in the same room there were some women visitors with children so the room was smelling very badly with some faeces and urine in it so I didn't stay any longer.
When I could not do anything because of a bad back.
Housesitting and hearing the alarm go off. I knew someone had to be breaking in. I called the police and was panicking while on the phone. It was awful. It turns out that I stepped on the hidden alarm without prior knowledge of its existance.
Listening and watching a tape of someone with AIDS being prejudiced against at a counselling course on AIDS with 20 others.
Telling my parents that I did not well in an examn.
I had a quarrel with a friend who lived with me in the same flat. He moved out. Before he went he invited me and some friends for a drink. At last he was totally drunk and smelled disgusting. Besides, he told lies about us and behaved as if he was to be pitied.
After my marriage I received the B.Sc results by post, I was very happy to learn that I had got very good marks - first class.
When I heard what mark I had got at the entrance examination and I realized my admittance to the University was almost certain.
When my grandmother was about 80 years old, she lived with us for several years. I saw her illness. I did not even want to breath the air that smelled of her presence.
My boyfriend breaking up with me about 7 months after I had an abortion. Just the fact that he was ignoring me and continued to do so.
Finding out that I made a stupid mistake in the examn.
When I have seen people very drunk and making fools of themselves.
I met a certain lady at the bus depot who was using a bad language but was a very smart looking lady.
Falling in love although she is my friend (angry with myself).
A teacher at my former secondary school forced my darling to marry him. The girl tried to refuse but her parents would not leave her alone.
Being sexually assulted and told my friends about it (we cried together).
A friend of mine often had difficulties with her parents. Once she had a child she had a better relationship with them.
Going to see a good film with my best friend.
This is a kind of confession - my mum found me stealing meat from the pot.
When I succeed in writing something I felt and doing it I felt well and very happy for being able to express to myself something that was suffocating me.
Yesterday I read in the newspaper that a 30 year old woman had abused her 2 month old son and had caused his death. I was very angry after reading this as this is not a human act and to abuse so fragile a life is not a forgivable sin.
When I saw a car run over a child, out of carelessness.
When I noticed obvious marks of old age (in a negative sense) on a close relative of mine.
I received a phone call from a high school friend whose younger sister studied with me at the University and gave me a lift every moning. She was going to get married to a guy whom I knew too and who had died when he fell from a building, I was afraid to lose somebody since I had already lost a brother in an accident.
A Maori language oral test, yeaterday - Although I had studied intensely - once in the examiners room "I blew it" - I was so nervous I couldn't reply easily - It was very important, but I got only blankness.
I felt disgusted about a teacher who had rejected all that was human in her. She refused to accept the flowers we gave her for the eighth of March and asked for a foreign parfume instead.
When my parents complimented me very nicely on something.
When I heard that I had passed my final examination at school (with success).
The final marks were to be given in the morning. I wanted to get there late because I was very afraid. When I arrived there, everybody was very happy and I had also passed. We had a wonderful time all day long.
When my daughter had problems with her friends and I could see her predicament from the window. She was given a the cold shoulder.
I had an accident with damage to the car body.
To go through the underground way at suburb station of LAPA. Poor people and the ambulants badly dressed up in a passage badly kept.
When a close relative of mine passed away, it was the first time that someone so close to me had died.
Death of a relative.
I was walking down a road and suddenly a few dogs appeared at a fence and started barking angrily. They were jumping and it seemed that they would come for me any time.
There is a boy who I love very much. I asked him to have dinner with me, but he refused I don't know why he didn't go with me, but I felt very lonely.
When I learned that several people had died in the street due to the cold weather.
I am not especially good at English, and after the high school graduation exam in English I tensely waited for the result the whole day. In the evening, when I heard that I had done excellently, I became very happy and the anxiety vanished. My family was at home.
I was walking outside the union refec after rain when I tripped and fell.
My sister was in coma for 3 months (due to a train accident). Now her brainfunctions are disturbed. She will never be able to walk and she can hardly talk.
Caused a family disturbance.
I felt sad after having had an argument with my boyfriend. I felt that he did not understand me and that there was no point in carrying on with the relationship.
When I was 10/11 years old my father travelled very much for his work (he passed three months away from home).
When I saw a TV program on the North American military plan called "The startwar".
For about one year I had a rather bad relation with my father. Last Christmas Eve he invited me to stay withhim and I was very glad about it. It was a fine evening.
When I inadvertantly entered the ladies room and met some girls on my way out.
When I saw a film in which there was a scene where women were cut to pieces. Above all, it was the blood and the confusion which impressed me most.
When I was about seven or eight I was caught having stolen a doll's dress from my next-door neighbour.
Once I saw some children hunting a cat to death.
Having a car accident.
Found out that me and my best friend are both chosen for the English lectures.
When other people refuse to do their house jobs and give the work to someone else.
When I promised to visit my boyfriend and I didn't fulfil the promise.
When I see pornographic films.
I had the window open and the door was shut so that the kitten would not go out. My partner came in and started talking about something and I forgot about the window and suddenly I saw the kitten hanging from the window frame. I was rigid with fright till I got hold of her.
When an unknown person provoked me verbaly and physically.
My father insulted by other people.
A few months back I had gone to my friend's place and they offered me tea and coffee. I do not have the habit of drinking tea or coffee and so they offered me a glass of milk instead, so I felt ashamed.
At the moment when I heard the result of an examination and it proved that I succeeded the second year of my study.
I went to go get a bike innertube fixed. I fixed it and I was supposed to pay previously but I didn't. I said I would after I fixed the tire. After fixing the tire, the salesperson who helped me was gone so I walked out of the store without paying. I felt guilty so I went inside and paid for the tire.
When I promised to help a friend over a weekend and did not keep the promise.
When I was not in a position to control myself. I had said too much and had been cruel with no other than my mother.
Two little children (5/6 years old) begging for money, and noone gave them money.
Finding out I am not chosen for the English lectures.
When I came to know that my feelings for someone were not reciprocated.
By mistake I took a book from the library which was not supposed to be loaned out.
Hearing of a filthy situation over the phone.
I had to unscrew something on my car. I didn't succeed after two afternoons of trying. A feeling of anger built up itself.
When someone is accused or punished instead of me.
A kitten had wandered into our office, and I was told to take it back across the street. When I crossed back, the kitten followed me and was run over and killed by a car.
When I went out with my dog in a forest late at night when we were on a camping.
We are several friends but our characters are very different and we inevitably split in the two extremes. It is sad that I myself don't know what to do, I try not to hurt either of the "parties" because there are conflicts to which one I should belong.
When someone close to me is travelling by car and is delayed.
Someone signed up for a workshift at the co-op where I live and she did not want to work the switchboard. I became very angry. She had mentioned earlier that she wanted and needed the workshift to me so I did not sign up.
I wanted to go to Bhopal for relief work (gas tragedy). My boss simply refused to let me go, I was so angry that the only thought that came to my mind was to quit the job.
When there was a fight at home and my father threatened to throw a chair on my brother.
When I was about to write my Junior Certificate Exams, I received sad news telling me that my elder sister had passed away.
When having a relationship, I made love with another girl.
I received a letter and a Christmas present from a person I had not seen for two years.
When I told a lie to a friend of my sister on April fool's day. She later came to see me and told me that it was a very foolish thing to do.
Having told a certain lie.
I was disgusted with my brother's behaviour when he kept throwing things away because of his anger, after mum had shouted at him.
When my grandmother died very suddenly without warning.
When I hooked a girl in Kitwe. She was very beautiful for my standards, a rare bird of this kind accepted me as a boyfriend.
When I was involved in a traffic accident.
When a man, a stranger to me, personally insulted a close woman friend of mine in public.
I had a quarrel with my fiancT. When he admitted his fault, everything was allright. It was then for the first time that he surprised me with coffee and cake and a bunch of flowers.
About the girl (22 years, married) I felt guilty of the relationship.
One of my best friends'fiancT broke off the relationship because his feelings for me were stronger than for her. I felt the same for him, but did not really encourage him to leave her or stay with her - still felt shame.
When coming up for trial because of shop lifting.
When my husband discovered I was having an affair with another man.
When my son was born.
My father promised me a bicycle for my birthday. Just before my birthday he forgot he promised this to me.
One day a fierce looking man came to our house and said that my father should apologize to him, however I was alone at home.
When I qualified for form I. I was one of the three pupils who qualified for form I that year.
When my husband got picked up in our new car for drunken driving. We had made a pact the other would not drink and so therefore would be the driver for the evening etc. I was not present at the time.
That afternoon I rushed home to look at the result slip of the higher level as fast as possible. I opened the envelope very carefully and found that my results were much better than I had expected and thus I could enter the Chinese university. My diligence had paid and I was very happy.
I peeped into Maurine's bedroom and saw two people - Maurine anbd my step-dad. I thought, " Why did she break her promises ? Why had she invited me ? Why do old men go for young girls ? "
I quarreled with my boy-friend. He said it was unfair that I always started crying so that he had to give in.
When an earlier friend was spreading negative rumours about me.
A close friend of mine was leaving for graduate school out of state. I had arranged to gather some people together the day before he left to be with him and have a good time, but I didn't pay as much attention to him as I should have.
My grandfather died, I went to the mortuary and saw the corpse.
When my lover and I felt like we had gone full circle. And our relationship was new, fresh, vital etc. once again.
When I got my B.A degree with first class.
In our class we had a test on Nursing, so a friend from the Army was caught peeping, by using a paper which had already answers which was written by him. So all of us from the Army got ashamed.
I was talking with an aunt of mine that I adore and I found courage to say "I love you" and just after that came the shame.
When I went for the first time in my life to a nudist-beach.
When my relatives troubled me so that I would help them financially.
After the fact that made me ashamed I felt sadness.
Finding out that China is poor, so we cannot have good reference books.
I had a discussion with my mother concerning my sister's divorce, we disagreed strongly.
A good friend deceived me. Because of that little quarrel our relationship finished, mainly because she was not honest. I was very angry about that.
My mother read a letter that a friend of mine had written to me telling me how she had got drunk the last time.
When an event took place in another's life and which I thought I could have avoided.
When I was transferred from Chichiri Secondary School to St. Mary's Sec. School. I was happy at Chichiri as a day scholer and had made a lot of friends. I was going to a boarding and that meant parting with my friends as well as my boyfriend for the first time.
I had a very good friend in secondary school. The year after our graduation I prepared to celebrate her birthday and I called off all my appointments. I got together the other friends and we were ready to give the entire day to her. However this friend disappeared on her birthday. When I phoned another friend I didcovered thay she was busy, I did not call her anymore.
I felt sad with the two situations I described before. The cat and the school. Sadness was intermingled with the other feelings.
When I decided to leave my steady, secure employment to come to university. Because I didn't know if I could cope with all the requirements of study and also being older I didn't know if I would enjoy mixing with younger people, also financial insecurity.
When my cousin's wife refused him sex and claimed that she was my girllfriend. I think that there is something wrong with the woman as I have never even thought of having sex with her.
When I was 10, I got busted for stealing a candy-bar.
I saw a dog who was eating excrements.
The transport to pick us up for lunch was always late and the driver made the same excuse every day.
I felt guilty when I skipped a two hour practical class I knew I would miss out on more information which I did not know, but I couldn't cope with going.
When my mother was seriously ill and had to be admitted to the hospital.
When I saw my name in the newspaper and I knew that I entered at the University.
Someone didn't show up at a meeting in spite of having agreed to come.
I felt fear once, when the car in which I travelled directed towards the precipice along the road.
It happened when I still went to school: I got closer to a girl but I considered it only as an "affair". Only much later I realized how painful this must have been for the girl.
When a good friend of me told me one evening that she didn't want to live anymore.
Finding out that life span in China is shorter than in the West.
We hitch hiked our way back from a town rather drunk. We were dropped in another town which was unknown to us. I needed to urinate, so I did it on a wall which turned out to belong to the military headquarters. They arrested me and made me pay a fine of 500 pts. We had to go home on foot (6 km) since it was too late for anyone to give us a lift.
When a student of mine (at music) performed and played remarkably well.
When I was young I was told to to the shop to buy a dozen eggs. I went and asked for one egg and the people in the shop laughed at me and so did my family when I told them what had happened.
I received a wedding invitation from an ex-flatmate, enclosed was a small note that overcame a lot of the differences that had arisen between us due to the circumstances in which she left the flat.
When my mother was tremendous on the phone and we talked for hours. She was in a good mood.
Did not read reference when other people read them.
Sometimes, when I'm alone I am seized by this feeling. But it always helps me to come round and at the same time to judge if it is worth. Very often this feeling is caused to me by people - friends who I love and respect.
When I got very low marks in one of the assignments.
When I told my girlfriend a joke openly and frankly.
After the term exams I happened to meet a person that I respect and of whom I think very highly. It was nice that although we see each other rarely he had not forgotten me.
I had been searching for housing for Fall at UCB and I was finally offered a place - then an ordeal followed, first I accepted then refused - related to my parents judgment (they're paying for me). Turns out that I was so upset at what my Dad said to me that I hung up on him. He called back and threatened to cut me off financially and emotionally.
Saw something stupid and ignorant happening in the countryside.
Getting separated from my girlfriend.
When my application for studying the masters degree was accepted.
I finished my homework; an important task.
After I had made my debut at Ullevi against IFK, Gottenburg and got a good write up in the paper.
I am troubled by hair growing in my neck. I was troubled by this for a long time and was much ashamed when someone brought his/her hands close to my face.
When I was in the sauna bath.
When a friend and me played a joke on our boyfriends. Her boyfriend came up and accused me of having planned the whole thing and said that I did not deserve my boyfriend. He embarassed me in front of a crowd.
I felt guilty when I lied to my parents.
When I saw the film "Johnny got his gun" which deals with the consequences of the Vietnam war.
When my father revealed inconsistent morals.
When I see dead dogs on the road.
A truth expressed unthinkingly at a coffee party. I realized later that I had been inconsiderate, at a wrong moment and the wrong place.
I am disgusted with the fact that bad singers play at the opera (and not only there) only because they are protegTs or lovers of an important felow while at the same time some young and able singers work in a quite different field of life.
Waiting for the results of the High level examination. I was afraid of not being accepted.
At the age of 12 years I always had to take care of my little brother and sister I never could sleep then. I always imagined creepy men sneaking into our house.
When it became clear that a man had used many people sexually and psychologically, despite the fact that many people looked up to him. I understood that one could not trust him and I was forced to hide this for a while.
Failed to keep an appointment.
I was angry when I heard that my only girl was going about with another man. So I decided to drop her but later the story came to be untrue.
Climbing a mountain where the rocks were very loose. When we realized the danger, we were very high up, but still had a long climb ahead.
Someone asked me to do something and I made up an excuse and said no. I then went and didn't the same thing with someone else and hoped the first person never found out.
When I won a trip to Greece in a competition.
I was nailed. I lied in connection with a book which I took from the library, because I had to keep it for a longer time.
When I do something unworthy.
A close person lied to me.
My parents came to visit me.
When I felt lack of aid from close friends.
My sweatheart were away on a trip, and then she got problems.
When I boarded Yanu Yanu bus I sat near a man who was smoking tobacco.
When I failed one of the tests because I had not worked hard enough.
One day I came across a certain boy who was intruding my friendship as lovers with my girlfriend and I was very sad because I didn't expect that girl to disappoint me I regarded her as being very faithful.
The sight of vomit on the street.
When I got the loan for my studies.
Was caught stealing apples in a neighbor's garden.
I failed an exam which I thought I would certainly pass.
This occurred when my girlfriend and I have to finish our relationship due to some circumstances between her and her family. I was really sad, hurt and couldn't really find any reason why am I still living. Is this life is all about ? This was one of few question which crept up vividly every time I thought about what had happened.
When my dad gives priority to my kid brother's band and his other activities. We both play in different bands and rehearse in my parents garage.
When I was watching a movie in which there was a pit full of dangers and there was only a small safe place on which a man was standing; he had to catch the lady who was thrown in or else ! The pit was 20 feet deep.
I was very happy when I got the message that I had been accepted as a student in medicine.
One day I was supposed to go to a movie with my boyfriend. In the morning I went to see my Auntie and I didn't come back up to evening.
My father suddenly fell ill. He stayed for 3 months in the hospital: the last month on intensive care of the Academic Hospital, then he died.
New Year's Eve party in the country, I hardly knew a person; my partner spent most of the time at the bar. I had little opportunity to get to know people because our table was separated and my boyfriend's parents were present.
I had a date with a boy, but I didn't feel liked, and didn't go, I wasn't home purposely at the time we arranged.
When I sit for examinations.
My sister had a daughter. I saw the baby for the first time through a pane of glass and she looked at me.
Crossing a street of several ways the cars began to move and I thought that I was going to be trampled.
I was at home alone when I realized that a young roe approached our house. I hid because I did not want to frighten it. It limped. Some time later, when I thought that it had already run away, I saw it lying on our terrace. I came nearer and saw that it was terribly wounded. I informed the ranger who said that the roe must have been attacked by dogs. He had to shoot it.
I had taken the responsibility to do something and I had prepared for it. However I failed because of my timidity. After three attempts I still could not adapt to the atmosphere and failed as before. I felt imcompetent and felt that the others would think that I had not prepared for it.
When I began to read a thick book, which I had a limited time to read. Also when I have a lot of work to do and I cannot keep up.
A friend wanted to give me a surprise into my room and I thought she was stealing from the room.
Thinking about death when walking alone at night.
I felt angry when my friend told me that I had stolen her money.
When my father (physically handicapped) asks me to do something and I raise several objections. Often I can fix it in few moments.
I bought an aquarium which made me much pleasure. I was watching the fish when my father came in and asked me how much I had payed for it. He said he would not pay for the current that it would require.
My brother lost his temper and started smashing things in the house. I was quite scared, that something terrible might happen, till the situation was brought under control.
Tonight in bed when I realised how bad my relationship with my friend was.
There was joy in me when I heard that I was to take a course as a Medical Assistant.
My father told me in the letter that my mother is ill.
When a patient had died soon after I had told the guardian to wait outside the ward.
My roommate's sister committed suicide.
When I got the first compound through column.
I was so sick that my relatives thought that I was bewitched. I felt like dying.
When I had to dissect a live mouse at school.
When I got caught in the pouring rain last Thursday and did not have a raincoat on me.
I feel ashamed when I am praised.
When my former boyfriend and I reconciled and he decided that I was very important to him. I had always wanted us to get back together again, but had doubted the likelihood of this, so I was very happy when my small amount of faith was vindicated.
I couldn't sleep, and began to remind of my childhood. We are many sisters and at that time we were spanked a lot and I don't know why I started to remind of the spanks they and I had had, their shouts when this happened.
Boyfriend doing cleaning in situation where it was my job to do it. Later snapped at him over trivial thing. He looked downcast. I felt guilty - "he's just done all that work for me".
When I married my wife and took her home for the first time.
Being a spokesman for the union, I got into a quarrel with a colleague who had been acting disloyally over a sustained period of time.
I had an appointment downtown, and the person in question was half an hour late.
When I had my first boyfriend.
When I realized that I was directing the feelings of discontent with myself at my partner and this way was trying to put the blame on him instead of sorting out my own feeliings.
When people harrass me I feel oppressed by their behavior.
Some time ago I was disgusted with the "cleanness" of the refectory of our institute.
I was really disgusted when I saw one of my friends soiling on his clothes. I thought he was mad.
That was what I felt when I was finally accepted in the Bulgarian Conservatorie after I had applied a couple of years.
My father was away from home and he did not come back when he was expected, he came back several hours later than expected.
A meeting and a conversation with a woman (somewhat elder than me) who considers me as her child (she also has one child of her own). Last two years I lived with her (no relationship).
I had left a student newspaper of the Chinese university on the table of the library. It had disappeared when I came back.
The sense of guilt came over me too, when I interrupted my studies. Why ? Because I felt guilty before my parents ! They believed in me though this event did not make them disbelieve me.
Accidentally seeing a friend in a compromising situation with a stranger.
Due to a misunderstanding on my part, two of my best friends quarelled.
When I overate at lunch.
When I received a letter from my girlfriend telling me that she was engaged to an another man.
I did not go to help a friend of mine, though she probably needed me.
I lied to someone and some time later this person found out that I had not told him the truth.
I was studying in class at night. I was in Form II by then. There were rumours about an earthquake. That night dogs were chasing one another and passed through the window outside the classroom. Those who saw the dogs thought it was a lion and were terrified. Trying to run away the desks were dragged and there was a shaking movement. I thought it was an earthquake and jumped out of the window.
When my brother was very late in arriving home from work.
People who discriminate other people disgust me.
I had been drinking with a pal and I later (1 o' clock) had a date with my fiancee. We were going to a Spanish lesson and I was afraid that she would smell that I had been drinking.
When a close friend wilfully cheated me.
I was beaten up at a private New Year's party once, through no fault of mine.
Joy of giving birth, and of sharing that joy with my husband. Moments of complete happiness and feelings of so much love.
I met my best friend's husband with a prostitute.
My father left us for another woman.
I had an argument with my boyfriend. It was my fault but my pride would not let me admit it.
One day I went to see a rather disagreeable film (X).
Facing the possibility of having a child when it wasn't either desired or permitted.
When I was accused of something I had not done.
The loss of a very good friend.
When I was a child I was playing on the upper deck of the bed with my brother. My parents slept on the lower deck. My father felt disgusted and beat me up. I felt very sad as my father had never beaten me or scolded me before.
When you betray the trust you have been given. This is connected with copying at a class-work at school.
I felt fear when once I was asleep and dreamed that I was dying asfixiated by a cardiac attack, I was afraid and woke up desperate. Altough I wasn't afraid of death I was afraid.
When I left after the examination to enter the University, and even though I had studied the whole year I made a bad exam.
A very close friend of mine was refused entrance to the medical school. Her grades were very good and she should not have been left out. Biased judgment !
When my mother told things to my sister, which I told my mother in confindence.
Mentioning a book to the person who borrowed it.
A child told me she had been sexually abused by her step-father. I only knew the child and had not come into contact with either parent. I tried to do what was best for the child. The event and the stepfather disgusted me.
A very, very close friend of mine used to come to my room to   see me and I naver bothered to pay him a visit. One day he asked me the reason behind this and I gave him a shirt.
The death of Jaya Prakash Narayan caused a great deal of sadness as I believed that he was the only true democrat and a ray of hope on the Indian horizon.
I was very happy when I passed the B.A with first class marks.
A friend of mine had sex with someone of a different race on a Winnebago trip down to USC in front of everyone (all my friends embarrassed my sorority house name).
My father was very angry with me, and I locked me up in the shower. Then my father knocked his fist through the door, I was scared to death.
In the past I experienced this feeling almost all the time - wherever I went, in different sutuations. I was small and I had to be taken to kindergarten, but me the fool didn't dare to tell exactly where, finally as a result I was late.
I felt joy when I entered at the University.
In the begining of teenage, on the matters of sex - speaking about sex.
At one point in a relationship, my boyfriend was seeing an old flame more than me. At our confrontation tears were shed.
Social situation - at the pub - a close friend of 2 years told the group around us of advances I had made.
Getting to know that my uncle in America had a brain tumor.
A close friend travelled to another country. When I knew that he would only come back after many years, I felt very sad.
When I was dismissed from a job after having been accused of theft.
The same as in SHAME.
Managed to run 30 Km on skis fairly simply.
I was walking in the wood at night with my boyfriend. Very romantic. Suddenly I heard a car driving very slowly with the lights out, it looked as if they were looking for something.
A boy I had been admiring so much asked me to go out with him.
When I realized that I did not have the basic things needed by a student like me.
In summer when I was sailing with friends in Greece I felt joy.
The first time that I caressed a girl, I was about thirteen and she was eighteen. I noticed that it did not affect her at all.
I live by myself and a few weeks ago was woke by a man on the end of my bed coming up my bed at me. I was really angry, told him to get out. He was surprised, hesitated; I started to move towards him and he backed off - kept telling him - loudly, but firmly to go. Because I'd got the initiative, I succeeded. A very powerful message.
Loss of close relative.
My girlfriend wanted to breakup for an indefinite amt. of time. She said that she couldn't commit herself fully to the relationship without going out with other people. I was her first boyfriend.
We were just about to go into the Exam room and I didn't see all my writing materials plus the identification card from the place where I left them.
I threw away an object, which belonged to a friend, because I did not know what to do with it. My friend was very sad about that and I felt guilty.
Anger towards my lover for being late.
I do not recall being scared in the near past.
Car accident. I let a 16-year old, incompetent parson take the wheel and I feel very guilty about what happened even though I suffered the worst injuries.
With the N.Z. Rugby Union wanting to send the All Blacks to South Africa.
When I came back to my hostel, my bed was full of newspapers and dirty clothes. My room-mate asked me to wash the clothes for him as he had no time (this was his responsibility). The food we shared had been eaten up by him (I ate little).
After an exhausting day I came home and wanted to take a bath to relax. My father wanted to take a bath first and when he had finished after an hour, there was no hot water left for me.
Ctiticized by teachers in public.
I felt anger when at the end of a telephone call, a good friend told me that she would go to travel next year with another good friend. We couldn't talk this out.
In the dark an unreal figure formed by a shadow.
When I received my U.E. accredited as I was totally unexpecting it and I was so happy.
My examination results were not satisfactory even though I had tried my best. Then I started wondering about my abilities for the major subject. However I did not know how to choose my major subject if I were to change it.
Passing (by car) over a bridge where only one car could pass. There was a precipice on both sides, no protection grilles, and the bridge was completely muddled.
I had intercourse with someone and then I realized that what I had done was wrong and it disgusted me.
I felt disgusted while studying for my applied psychology and mental testing papers in B.A.
With a Manager who insists on making crude innuendos pertaining to sex.
It was when my Instructor awoke me late at night to get prepared for the training at Military college when he was coming back from his personal social activities.
It was during the beginning of the term. I had K100 and kept it in my handbag. I left the handbag in the wardrobe but didn't lock it. Next time I found that K30 were stolen.
After I saw my family and good friends back after staying one year in a foreign country.
A late Saturday night I found myself locked in the central underground station of Stockholm with a group of 50 hard rockers who were drunk and equipped with various kinds of chains, etc.
I was coming home from an exam and I supposed that I had passed it so I ran to a restaurant for a beer.
When I was admitted to the Institute. I had problems with many people about my applying for this institute and I decided to prove that one can pass excellently without visiting any preparatory couse. That is - I proved what I could do on my own.
Day I received my T.E. score and acceptance into my chosen course.
I did not do my homework and went to see a film.
Had an argument with my classmate for borrowed books.
In a sociology class I felt very angry towards some members of society for exploiting the Polynesian people, dawn raids by Police (Martin Luther King, Blacks in S.A.). But this was just a reflection of my own shortcomings.
At the end of my holiday job I got less money than was due to me and nobody mentioned anything about that.
My friend came to the concert for my sake as it was me who had organized it and the concert was unsuccessful.
When I knew that there were, at last, no problems in making a journey that I had been wanting to make for a long time.
After the accident which I described in SHAME. I came to myself and saw how terrible everything looked like. I disgusted myself and everything I saw.
One day I had an appointment with my boyfriend which I had objected to in the begining, however he visited me and convinced me to come. The day of the appointment; I had to wait for him for over an hour.
Several years ago my brother died in an accident. When I heard about it, I was very sad. It took years until I resigned myself to it.
When I was cycling to school, I nearly got knocked down by a car which (overtook me too closely) did not give me any swerving space.
During the Christmas holidays, I went to see my parents and stayed with them for two weeks. After two or three days, we had the same conflicts we had had ten years before when I had lived with them. They were glad when I left.
After having watched a crime show on the TV, I was about to take the dog for a walk. Then, suddenly, there was a man on the porch... (We live some distance away from other people).
When I was walking on a fairly out-of-the-way street.
When the relationship with my girlfriend broke up.
Afraid of getting alone without friends, without anybody.
I had some sort of a stomach virus last week and I vomited in college in the morning, then in the cake shop, three times during the trip home and again when I got home.
When ditched - divorced by husband.
Saw a selfish person doing a selfish thing.
A father of 4 children killed in an accident.
Watching a horror movie with friends.
Saw poverty in the countryside.
I was in a dark cellar and saw a glowing red point. I thought that it was a person with a cigarette - but it was only the red switch.
When a girl that I liked didn't accept my curting.
When I was on holiday someone vomited in front of me.
I remember that once, a friend did not co-operate with me due to some unavoidable reasons. Unaware of this I treated her unjustly till I realized everything, and then I felt ashamad of my deeds.
One day, when riding on a bicycle path, a car coming from the opposite direction forced me to get off my bike although I had the priority.
My partner without discussing with me the situation decided it was time for us to have a break and went ahead and arranged his own life for the next 6-12 months, then told me the day before it was about to happen having been tolerant and friendly for the preceding week.
My cousins were playing at home and one of them broke a decorative object which was very precious to me.
Talking to friends about how old you are and we cannot be as successful as you at your age.
This was when the girl I was in love with accepted my proposal and everything went smoothly, just as I had wanted it to. It was contrary to my previous feelings of uncertainty about her response.
The day before the university results came out I was both excited and scared. If I failed I did not know what I would do as I did not want to work, my family was ambivalent.
At a party my best girlfriend got really drunk and went off with a guy she knows I really like.
Staying in a relative's house which was broken in before.
I was walking down a little village at night. There was nobody in the steet. A dog began to bark, I felt that it was following me. Then I began to run, the other dogs started barking too. At last I arrived home.
I bought a new bed for my apt. and it squeaks when you move on it. I tried to fix it but could not.
After my shoulder operation, I woke up in the hospital room alone. I was in pain and was still under heavy medications. I could not find my parents.
My dog, whom I had had for eleven years, died. I watched his soporification.
After a one year's stay abroad, I returned home. I was even more glad to see how much my family was pleased to see me.
My parents do not like my friend and told me not to go out with him.
When I saw a spider.
When I failed an exam I thought I would pass.
While having an argument with my daughter, I got angry and over-excited and said angry words.
I felt guilty because I had not accomplished a thing as well as I had wanted to.
When I as a child of 9 or 10 I was playing doctor with the neighbours boys their mother caught us.
After mischieviously ringing on the chemist's trade-entrance doorbell and getting caught by him.
Punished by a leader.
A fall during a climb, with almost with no previous experience.
I felt very happy when I heard I had passed the examination to move up to the second year course.
I experience that feeling when I am unsulted without deserving it or when someone deceives me.
At my Summer job a new caretaker had been employed who was my age but I preferred going out for lunch with the accounts personnel rather than with him.
I felt very sad when my son died after a short illness.
I felt ashamed when I was confronted by a teaching assistant that a close friend and I were accused of cheating on a math exam.
When I went to the pub with a large group of friends, we drank and danced.
At the seaside, when a wave suddenly came and took off my bikini.
When I failed my first biochemistry test.
When I did not give back a text book to a friend in time.
I was disappointed by a girlfriend when I visited her at her home in Woodlands.
A friend of mine came to see me when he was quite drunk.
I was very happy when I got an attractive Summer job.
My employer took too many aspirins for a bad back and also drank an enormous amount of spirit. This was dangerous and he did not understand that he had done anything wrong.
In a school parting we agreed to go to a restaurant. We met at school and we separated us in several cars. My car broke and we arrived late. All those who already had arrived stand up and applauded us when we entered two hours late. All the restaurant attention was turned on us.
When they told me that I had got a study grant.
I was very sad when I had to leave persons with whom I had a very intense relationship I also had to leave the environment which was part of this.
After my girl and I talked things over our relationship changed and became positive. A diificult time turned into pleasant one.
When I acted in a negative way at a certain moment by laziness to concede a moment of the time I thought to be my own.
Reading about executions and massacres which happened during World War II, I felt disgust towards those who did it.
When I got a message that I was employed as a nurse at a kindergarten.
Noisy people in the library.
When I got permission to study at a place which was far away from my home.
I was disgusted at myself when I dropped a vital catch, while playing a cricket match, and we lost the match; though the catch was difficult.
When my grandmother died - I wasn't sad so much that she'd died because she was old, but because she lived in the last few years in an old people's home and had nothing very much that was hers - no chair, or private space, and when I went to visit she would be sitting in the "lliving" room the TV room. It was hopeless. And I felt awkward so I didn't go and I was sad 'cos how I couldn't.
I was attacked by a man at a bus stop at night.
With self at losing an important game that I should have won.
I felt joy when I came to know Christ. That is when I became a Christian.
The time I was threatened with expulsion from secondary school (form four).
Observation of people lost in the profit motive - i.e. business managers to their actions esp.
I was working in I. when a friend of mine borrowed his car so I could get bach there, I had to come to S.Paulo and his car was here. He said :"When you get the car tell my mother that you are only taking the car bacause I asked, for she doesn't like me to borrow it". Next day he borrowed me it again for I had to come back again. When I was coming back I crashed the car quite a lot. One of the first person I met at the accident was his mother, that said to me "You weren't to take the car only yesterday ?" (before I saw her I was already ashamed).
My first girlfriend. I had the feeling that she was going out with me only because of my defect.
When I was not selected to go to the University of Malawi I felt very sad.
My sister was in a hospital, later in the evening we received the information that she had died.
My mother and I had an argument over buying some clothes for me. She did not accept the fact that I did not like the same things as her, and we ended up shouting at each other.
Not handing in homeworks in time.
Being hooted at when I was learning to drive.
I met some nice people during my holdidays. When they left I knew that I would never see them again.
When my aunt scolded me for something I was not responsible for. A boy had come to our gate asking for me, my aunt went out to see him. I had neither met nor known the boy.
I said something especially stupid which I did not mean at all.
The negative feelings towards me displayed by my "parents-in-law".
A certain man went to my parents and told them that I was married here, when I am here at school. When I went home for holidays my parents asked me about it and I was angry with that man.
When my father was very drunk and raging at home.
When my mother treats me as a 10-year old boy.
A day when I was getting out of the shower I covered only the front part of my body with a towel (I was 7 years old), and I didn't see that my cousin was in the room.
When my boyfriend asked me to go out with him and I refused because I wanted to go out with another guy. I did go out and my boyfriend found out.
My brother and I were at home watching a TV program when I started to tease him and in this joke I hurt him without knowing the seriousness of it I went on. He got angry and gave it back to me. At this moment I felt anger at him but knowing that it was my fault.
During one year my mother almost had a nervous breakdown and my father had a serious operation. I was afraid that our family (4 kids, I'm the oldest) wouldn't hold together. Everything turned out fine.
Going to a friend's wedding and seeing many of my old friends whom I had known before I moved to a new district five years previously.
When I found our my mother didn't have cancer.
When a crawling child got burnt because of my negligence to keep the child away from the fire.
A person died (not really a friend).
They wanted me to pay for a ticket twice because they said that the one I had was out of date.
A close acquaintance of the family died of lung cancer. Although it was expected, I still felt depressed.
A friend of mine ridiculed me, telling me that I would never accomplish anything. I felt that he had interfered with my life.
Our boarder burping after meals !
Being insulted in front of my parents, and they believed other people (those insulting me).
I felt disgusted when I was in a helpless position at the loss of my fiancee.
When my girlfriend decided to finish our relation.
Cueing for a bus and the drivers having long dinner.
When I first suffered from syphilis.
Not attending school, when am not sick - but in need of mental rest. Staff on your return query your "sickness" - it is easier in N.Z. to be sick, rather than confide other personal reasons etc.
When I received my promotion letter.
I was given the task to learn a page of music text for a small part. But I had forgotten all about it and I felt quite awkward when I had to show what I had prepared.
My grades. When my parents say, "How are you doing at school, getting good grades ?" I say, "Great, just fine !" Actually, I feel ashamed about myself.
I had promised to send something to a friend and it completely slipped my mind. I felt guilty for having forgotten.
When an uncle of mine, who was close to me, passed away after having had a stroke, before his first daughter could be named.
My husband falls ill and does not follow the doctor's advice on the treatment or the diet control.
I felt shame when I saw someone I knew and pretended not to see her. Later she saw me and said hi.
I was studying in the library and a class-mate told me that she had obtained a grant to work in the library.
Last Summer I achieved someting that I had been wanting for a long time.
Once at midnight, I was working alone at office and the phone suddenly rang.
During the Christmas holdidays I wanted to invite my brother, his girlfriend and their child for dinner. When I said to my brother's girlfriend that I would like them to come at my place for dinner, she refused and never mentioned it again as if I had never asked her.
Someone told me that I was chosen for English lectures because the class leader is going out with me (not true).
I was with my family and we found some abandoned puppies. I wanted to help them but everyone said no. We then left.
When I heard that I had passed my MCE Exam, I spent the whole day dancing and eating sugarcanes from our garden.
The carterer refused to give me sugar to add to my tea saying that there was no sugar whilst it was there, so I left the cafe disgusted without taking the tea.
When we rearranged furniture in our flat and got stuck in a chair.
When they told me that I had been admitted to the faculty of medicine.
An old lady slipped and nobody helped her.
Before the department meeting my friend ate a dish that I had prepared for this meeting.
I had parked in a corner, and when I was going out I didn't watch if another car was coming and went out. The car that was coming was obliged to stop suddenly. It didn't crash but for a little.
I was angry at my brother over an argument we had together. We do have a few fights from time to time, and also at times I take out my anger on him.
I felt it today when the bus driver shouted rather indecent words at a man without any reason whatsoever.
Most recently when the chairman at the New Zeeland Rugby Union announced that the All Blacks' would accept the invitation of South Africa to play rugby in that country.
I lied to one of my best friends.
I woke up at the house of someone I knew, not remembering very much about what had been said or done during the party on the previous night.
When we were in high school a few guys sometimes provoked a friend of mine. They called her a pig and then grunted. This irritated most of the girls. Once, one of the girls got angry at my friend and said something nasty and this made me terribly angry.
My young brother took my wristwatch in my abscence and sold it to his friend at a cheaper price.
I went to a doctor with a complaint. The doctor told me that I was completely healthy.
A friend of mine felt bad because of something I had done to something that belonged to him.
A friend came to visit me and I was not there.
When I broke up my relationship with my former girlfriend as she would ask me irrelevant quetions about my past.
Finding out that I was deceived by my friend.
Being rude to someone I do not like.
A class-mate urged me to carry out a particular protest along with him, and when the time came this fellow drew back while I had to face the situation.
After a quarrel with my mother in which matters were "inflated" enormously.
I was sleeping in my room but woke in the middle of the night to think I could hear noises and see shadows moving. I felt that someone was in the house.
While I was away for the weekend some friends went into my room and played my very expensive stereo without asking me or my roommate.
My roommate messing up our room.
I was watching T.V with my parents and some pornographic scenes came on, I felt uncomfortable and tried to distract my parents attention by talking to them.
When ,due to hunger and tiredness, I became generally irritated with my fiancee and made cutting remarks which really hurt him. Later I realized that my unfounded irritation had hurt the person I love most on earth.
I was disgusted at the university wanting some of us to travel from our homes to the lectures here every day. The way the whole thing was handled disgusted me.
I felt guilty of having suspected my room-mate of stealing the money last term.
When my red-cheeked, content child runs to meet me in the yard of the kindergarten and gives me a moist kiss on my cheek.
I felt joy when I passed my Malawi School Certificate of Education.
When my relatives and I were in a car going slowly on a frozen road.
On embarking on University life. I came from a different city and did not know anybody at the Uni. I was frightened because my well known and loved friends, also all my security had been taken away.
My friend came to see me after she had stayed abroad. I waited at the station.
Easter holiday - I had been working weekends and had just left.
Sometimes I experience sadness for the Sports High School and for my unrealized dreams in the sport. Anyway there I spent six years of my life.
I was very sad when I heard that my brother had failed the standard 8 exams for the third time.
I asked someone to go out and she accepted right away.
Joining in a research group studying consumer's behaviour and helping the people in the shop with the sales.
Some weeks ago I experienced a day that everything went wrong I broke several things I felt very ashamed for I am not a sloven.
I felt angry when I saw on T.V the last slaughter of negroes in South Africa.
I got separated from the man I loved.
That was what I felt with a teacher who put down quite unreal marks.
I had made an appointment with a girl to go to the movies, but actually I had no mind when we arrived at the cinema, it was a full house. I then went back and she went to the movie alone.
When I was weeding the garden I found a lizard in my hand.
A friend of mine had a bicycle-accident because I pulled at his handlebar.
I was walking to my car at night and thought that I was being followed.
I was with my girlfriend when some guys that I don't like made fuss at my girl.
When I failed my first exam at the Higher Institute.
While walking on the street with a good friend of mine, we met an acquaintance of hers. My friend started showing off and telling false stories about herself and praising herself.
After waiting impatiently for the results of the form 5 examinations for almost a year, at last I received a letter of acceptance from the Senate of the university of Zambia telling me that I had made it to the first year course at UNZA.
Watching Muldoon act as my P.M.
I was disgusted to see a person vomitting and I was told to clean the place where the vomit was.
Not handing in homework in time.
Departure of a very close friend - for a long stay overseas, sharing in the sorrow of her parents who were left behind.
When I missed my train this morning, I felt sad for some time.
The high school entrance exam.
When I received the higher level exam results, I mistook the grade E in mathematics for a grade F and I was shocked.
When a friend, who has been with me at school, failed to make it to UNZA.
My mother was ill and my father was not at home.
At night when I was alone at home (all the family members usually get together at that time) someone knocked vigorously on the door.
Before an examination: I had the fealing that I had not learned enough.
Disgust with oneself after being intoxicated enough to go to bed with a stranger.
The moment I got the news that I had been selected for the U.G.C junior national research fellowship. It was a dream come true.
Finding that a subordinate at work was still not willing to cooperate after discussions to try and resolve an attitude problem.
Felt I had not appreciated my parents enough. Regretted the problems I'd caused.
Good news about a sick relative.
At a prolonged separation with my family.
I spread abroad an intimate secret.
I felt the emotion when I entered a certain ward in the hospital to visit my relative who was sick.
My friend will find out that I am in love with her.
This emotion happened when I passed my primary school examination and was selected for Secondary School.
At a cross-country race I wanted to take a short-cut (which is not allowed). I was caught and disqualified. All my friends had observed that.
That I would do bad in a class and not get into Bus school.
I was at the table at a French friend's house. They served me a big dish with roast cauliflower and sauce. I had to eat it.
I caught a glimpse of a black-beetle.
When I had a good result in the certificate examination.
One evening, I was with a group of friends having a talk. There was a very trustful and joyful atmosphere.
I was forced to stay in the canteen and eat the food that I had not asked for but got it anyway.
When an uncle of mine who is very ill started to cough wich sounded very dirty. (He can't help it of course).
In Punjab, when in the name of religion people killed each other during the agitation.
When a boy had continued to use foul language and swearing in front of a group of my friends.
When I stayed in the house of friends, I washed my face and wanted to dry it with a towel. This towel seemed to have been used over a long time already. It smelled indefinably awful.
A person walking his dog allowed it to defecate on the footpath outside my house. Although it had happened before, this was the first time I had witnessed it. All the skills I had learnt from PY 263 were thrown out the window when his indifference to my protestation was obvious to me.
When I was accused of having planned my friend's outing at secondary school (boarding) as we were not allowed to go out.
I broke up with my boyfriend of seven months, but it was a very "indepth" relationship and so after feelings of grief and loss were over I felt an immense sadness.
When I passed my Primary school leaving certificate and selected to go to a Boarding secondary school.
When I was in the fifth class the rating was done in our mark-books. I hadn't been examined yet but I had heard from my classmates about the scolding they had got at home. My first mark was in geography - good 4. I judged I had known for more than that and I put down "very good" for fear of being scolded. Naturally my parents guessed all about it. They rebuked me for what I had done.
I felt sadness when my grandfather died.
While working as a domestic helper, one day I had not cleaned up very well and they made a remark about it.
The day that there was a black-out in the city, and I was in an exposition, I felt fear that something more serious was happening, like a revolution for example.
When my girlfriend left me.
I was unfaithful to my partner once when he was working abroad for a long period.
It was a shameful moment when I heard that I had failed my Primary School leaving Certificate Exam in 1978. My girlfriend was there when the news was released.
At a concert an old man arrived and began to danse, sing and do silly things.
I slandered a person behind his back and he got to know about it.
I had to leave my girlfriend for 4 weeks because of my studies. This happens frequently. The last 24 hours before my departure are always very depressing.
My husband suddenly fell ill seriously and during the medical examinations we did not know what would follow.
My parents told me that they do not like my friend.
Found out that the girl I love loves me, too.
When thieves broke into our house, I was disgusted by their behaviour. They did not find anything so they broke things like the windows, glasses etc.
When I feel helpless after having tried to help someone without any result.
Walking out from the biology building.
I felt disgust with a lady teacher who used to nag, to mock, to interrupt everyone of my fellow students each time we had a class with her in our first year.
When I was about six years old, I mistook a cat for a leopard   when it entered my room at night.
I was at the seaside and my brother disappeared for a couple of hours.
I was at a friend's place for lunch and she fell ill and vomited.
Comments from other children on my alcoholic father
A too eager approach by a dirty drunken person in a bus.
My best friend betrayed me and told other people my secrets.
We owned a shop and I used to serve in it occasionally. We sometimes took lollies out of the stand and Dad caught me one day.
When I noticed two spiders running on the floor in different directions.
When caught shoplifting and the police were called in parents also informed.
When I got my results - I had passed the form III exams. I had not expected to do so well.
The same event described under FEAR - in the bus a man sat beside me, with his trousers open and holding his penis.
When my dog died. I had reared it for nearly three years. It had been ill for several days and had not eaten anything. One morning I found it dead.
Not thanking relatives for a favor done.
I once stole a shirt from the Department Store in which I work. I have been promoted to work in a very privileged section of the store. Their belief in my integrity makes me feel even guiltier.
When I got grade "C" in M160 at the end of my first year at UNZA. I had expected a "C+" or a "B" as M160 is easy, going by my capacity in mathematics.
News was spread that I had been found doing sexual intercourse with a small girl. At first this annoyed me but later on I became ashamed because many people seemed to believe it.
When I lied at home.  I told them that I was going to a Christian meeting and I went to see my boyfriend instead.
A friend was going to come stay the weekend with me, but something came up and I cancelled out on him.
I had a date with my girlfriend, the time and place had not been fixed. I asked her to phone me an hour later as it was midnight and I did not want to disturb her family. I waited several hours for her call, she did not call me that night.
The assistant professor saw me cheat at the preliminary examination.
I missed an opportunity to go abroad because of some silly mistakes for which I had to suffer a lot.
When a friend wouldn't speak to me and wouldn't tell me why.
When I made an end on a relationship after three years.
I had a friend who I didn't see for a long time. We had a relationship from much union and interaction. It was more that one year that I didn't see her. She appeared in my home and we talked.
One day in a crossroad somebody crashed my car. I got out and this person laughed at me. I felt such a great anger that I got in my car and went away.
In the army, my result at the shooting exercises got me a three day furlough.
I felt glad when I took the rather difficult organic chemistry examination.
My brother caught a spider and let his frog eat it.
My sister borrowed some LP records for a party. She had left them in the car on curatao. Due to the heat they were crooked, so I couldn't play them again.
When people remember us and shows interest about what we do.
I had to change a baby's clothes for the first time.
My little cat which I had raised all by myself, hanged itself when playing in the garden.
When I learnt that my cousin sister was pregnant.
During an informal discussion I contributed a lot even though I had not spent much time studying. Whenever someone said that someone was not paying attention, or that he had too many other things to do, or that the persoon was not trying his best, I would feel ashamed.
I saw a terrible accident happen and I laughed a lot of the fright and because I was nervous.
When my room-mate made a mess of the room after having drunk the whole night at a graduation party ceremony.
Riding home from school after completing two midterms in two days, and feeling I did well on them.
When I watched TV and saw a performance of "Prince" (a popidol). Disgusting he'd better be a stallion.
I felt very ashamed at having got a book by force from a girl.
A friend told me about his cousin who is my girlfriend. He said she had treated him in a mean and nasty way. I was surprised because in front of other people she had always treated him in a friendly way. I am very sad about it.
When one of my parents verbally, personally abused the other.
When a cousin of mine was discharged from the hospital after    a long illness. I had thought that this illness would never end.
While shopping, a person close to us created an uncomfortable situation for those who were with her.
Arguing with my younger cousin. She is rather a nuisance but I felt sorry.
I wanted to take something from under my bed. While doing this I felt a dead bird laying under my bed.
On the way down a ski slope which was difficult and steep.
The surname of my brother was different from ours. He often grinned at home and provoked others for the pleasure of it. This made me angry.
Talking about snakes.
When I was little I lost control of my bike and started to go into a buay intersection but my neighbor stopped me just in time.
I had had a farewell party at the place where I had been working for a year. That night I could not fall off to sleep. I was sad thinking that I would not see my nice fellow workers again.
We had a birthday party with 5 friends. One of us frequently used hard drugs. On the party I discovered that the other 3 friends also used them. While we agreed we would help the big user to stop using it.
When passing the final examinations for social worker.
After attending a song contest proposed by a band called "Chyne" we (6 of us) waited for the members of the band to greet us in front of the stage. We went out after a few minutes as it was time to close the hall. We had been waiting at the entrance hall for ten minutes when three of the band members came out. They were very excited to see us, one of them was so excited that he had tears in his eyes. We felt very warm and close to each other. They took us back into the hall and we talked freely. We were together for about an hour and during this time we felt that they were very sincere.
On my way through lonely streets I met with a huge stray dog. It stopped at some distance and looked at me. I tried to ignore it but I was very frightened.
As we were going to Area 10 a dog chased me. I was afraid it might bite me.
When my brother did not send me the transport money to resume   my studies in time at UNZA.
When the paramilitary was sent to the UNZA and it started using tear gas and started intimidating the students without any provocation.
Finding a hair in the soup.
I experienced joy at a friend's 22nd birthday party. We had good food, good liquid, good company, good music, and an overall warm atmosphere. The birthday girl and I communicate incredibly well. I felt very content, warm and inspired just talking with her giving her a neck massage.
We had a day off from school. Instead of helping my mother with her job, I stayed in bed all day.
I and my cousin went to a filmshow at night. We went without making it known to my mother. While we were there at interval, I came across my mother just close to where we sat.
At the crowded conditions of living. I always quarrel with my elder brother as he puts the T.V volume at a deafening level and I can not practise my piano lessons. Thus I feel that my home is disgusting.
On my way home in the middle of the night I saw a drunk man and a woman who were quarreling, beating each other, shouting and so on. I felt disgusted especially because they treated each other in such a degrading way.
I live with my sister now and sometimes she angers me especially when she thinks I don't keep the apt. clean enough.
When I met another person I began to go out with him, and my boyfriend (with marriage accorded) met us together he did a great scandal, he broke the engagement and I began to go out with the other, and it didn't work because my mind was all mixed up.
When I could not fulfill my expectations.
When I learnt that I had been accepted at UNZA.
When they put the blame on me when I scored the third goal at the match.
With the girl whom I may be loved truly. When she refused to come with me to an occasion (she was from another town).
I was very sad when I got the XIIth standard results, when I got low marks as compared to my friend and I could not get admission to courses like medicine.
When one finds out that someone you know is not at all like one had thought, for instance friends who steal and things like that, quite unwarranted.
When my honest intentions were marred by another's jealousy.
While watching TV (a war movie), I felt a strong fear of death, threat and fear of loosing people close to me.
I stayed alone in the dark at night in the mountain, waiting for my uncle. I remember that I took a big stone and it calmed me.
I scolded my sister without waiting for her explanation.
I had been watching a triller a dark night in the country and I had to go the outside toilet on my own.
My old friend visited me in the university.
During my last exam.
When some of my close friends and colleagues talk about me and my work and say that I am the brightest student of the college.
Getting University Entrance accredited and arriving home from boarding school on accrediting leave.
When I crashed my car and it had to be scrapped then. It was my fault and I feel depressed as I miss the car.
My friend half-teasingly called me a bad nickname. I felt insulted and kicked his hip in anger. I was stable later and did not feel angry at him. In fact I was afraid that the other friends who were with us would think that I was an intolerant person. However I could not apologize, so I pretended that nothing had happened and smiled when I left. My friend did not say anything but just watched me leave.
I felt disgusted at my teams poor perfomance prior to league play.
Once I had to clean a lavatory which was obstructed. It was in a friend's country house and there was nobody there to help me.
I finished the relationship with my boyfriend, after having felt myself very unhappy for a long time.
When they denied a job to a person that I propsed giving political reasons that has nothing to do directly with the professional level.
Some people whom I do not like at all, and one of the reasons is their physical appearance.
Being caught in changing the truth (lying).
At a cash desk where I had gone to buy 16 rolls of kitchen paper at a reduced price. After queuing with screaming children; it turned out that I had taken two 8 roll packets instead of the one 16 roll packet to which the rebate applied. The assistant said "You will have to get it another time."
When my kid brother broke my reading spectacles.
After having quarelled unnecessarily and without any reason, and having been stupidly cross in every way.
When a skunk invaded camp.
Feeling guilt after greed, buying chocolate and pigging out to the point of feeling sick, especially as I am fat.
I always get angry when somebody deceives me, or tries to conceal his lie skilfully and this offends me even more.
A good friend, the wife of the vicar of my church came up to me from the pews (I am in the choir) and shook my hand during the time for an informal "greeting" in the church service. She said a few words.
Often I forget to give my immediate family birthday presents.
My fiancee and I were at my parent's place watching TV. There were only two TV-chairs and we were sitting on them when my drunken brother came in and rudely chased my fiancee off the chair she was sitting on.
While intoxicated I invaded someone's (a girl's) personal space to a large extent.
When I made a fool at an examination.
I pointed a failure of a friend of mine.
Car accident, hurt three of my closest family.
While playing a ball game, I was just about to make a goal when I was thrown off my feet, and I failed to score the goal.
Not giving up something for Lent.
When my grandmother died after a long illness.
I experienced joy when I got the results - I had made it to the second year.
We were in the country and I walked away from the others one night. Suddenly something moved sharply in front of me and I was not able to see what it was.
I hadn't been at my parent's place for a long time. When I went to visit them I had high expectations, but when I was there it was very different from what I expected.
I was at the University dining room, alone, and at a table next to mine thre were several professors. One of them asked me to join them. I refused but she insisted. All the others started looking at me and I had to move to their table.
When I did not succeed in finding a job after having finished a nonacademic degree.
I was on a visit to friends who have a baby. The baby was crying in another room, but soon it became quieter and it seemed that it would fall asleep. I went into the room where the baby was lying - and it started crying again.
When a close friend drowned in the American River.
It was when I injured a friend accidentally with a stone. It made a cut on the cheeks which resulted in suturing.
My father stayed abroad for one year. He does not like to write letters because he makes ortographic mistakes. I never had a good relation to him. He wrote me a letter in which he said that he loved me.
I came home from a discotheque at half past four in the morning, although I had promised my parents to come home at midnight. From 3 a.m. I felt guilty towards my parents.
I was eating in the dinning hall and some women joined me. I could not eat with them so I left the dinning hall.
I got caught shoplifting a package of gummy bears.
A very close friend from Victoria visited me over the holidays. Having enjoyed his company immensely over 10 short days, I was overwhelmed by sadness when he left to return to Victoria.á
Once, before I had learnt to swim, I stepped on a slippery slope where there was a lot of moss and I slipped into the water. The water was very deep and I could not stand on my feet. I sank and had to use a lot of energy.
An invitation to spend 5 days at the seaside with all expenses paid.
One day, I discussed a very important question with A. A suddenly declared that he would not accept my position and thought that he himself was right. Moreover, he attacked strongly, not my opinion but me personally.
I felt something akin to shame after a heavy night of drinking, along with waking up with a woman I had just met whose husband was an epileptic. I was later to know that she knew my mother.
I thought I had taken a decision but I hesitated.
I went to spend a night with a relative of mine and there I found that the bed had been wet the previous night.
Meeting with two of my friends I had not seen for 15 years. They were special people to me.
Meeting an old friend from high school.
When I heard that a woman of my community had aborted and got rid of the foetus by throwing it in the drain.